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exwdwlvr
08-26-2008, 01:01 PM
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LuvOrlando
08-26-2008, 03:04 PM
This is sad. A breakup is always heart-wrenching. I think mostly because we would never give our hearts away if we thought we'd have them handed back badly broken. Its good that you are giving yourself permission to grieve and are aware that you need to move forward. As for Disney being a reminder, it may be so for a while. The trick of getting over reminders is to throw yourself into whatever it is that is disturbing you, lay new memories on top and before you know it the old stuff just isn't as painful as it once was.

I thought I was in love with 2 people before I started dating my DH. Each breakup was more crushing then the last and I bet I cried a million tears over each one. But, thinking back I am grateful for those experiences for 2 big reasons. Reason #1, I would never ever have been able to appreciate the rarity of my DH's devotion without having been betrayed. Reason #2, those other people taught me a great deal about myself, about my priorities and what my deal-breakers were so that when I was ready to get married I knew myself well enough to choose wisely. So far so good, we will be married 15 years in a few months and he is still my favorite person on this earth. I really believe I have those other people who broke my heart to thank for it.

Stay strong :grouphug:

exwdwlvr
08-26-2008, 03:37 PM
Thanks LO. This is a yet another learning experience and I realize that. Everyone ends up saying the same things about their "other half", I won't do that here. She's an incredible, loving, affectionate, gentle, caring, and generous person. I wish I'd met her 15-20 years ago, really. Her happiness has always been a priority for me, and it is now. Hopefully things will work out for the best and, hopefully, we'll be able to see the magic again one day.

Thanks again.

kimis
08-26-2008, 04:28 PM
There are lots of other princesses in the "world" with those same characteristics. Maybe the right on for you is just around the castle.

mommasita
08-26-2008, 07:17 PM
I am sorry you are going through this. :hug: It is rough that is for sure.

alizesmom
08-26-2008, 08:12 PM
Your hurt is as real as anyone else's. I'm sorry for your pain. Sending you hugs. Karen

Mackey Mouse
08-27-2008, 07:16 AM
Sorry to hear about your recent break-up....what is it they say time heals all wounds...not comforting words right now as the hurt is so fresh.

I feel bad when I hear people write about their relationships ending and how said relationship is around Disney memories. It will take time but you will be able to go to your favorite place again. For now, I would stay away until you can handle visiting the places you made those memories.

Take care of yourself.

exwdwlvr
08-28-2008, 06:55 PM
I want to thank everyone for their words. Time does heal, I realize, I wish it went quicker. I do love her with all my heart and in all the reasons someone should. Well, I hope things work out someone in the end, positively. Time will tell.

Thanks again.

leanan
08-31-2008, 03:45 PM
I know what you are going through is super painful. Just be thankful you did not marry and have kids together. It is even worse then. I am going through a nasty divorce with an even nastier custody battle. Some days I just want to lay down and give up. It is so frustrating.

earthelves
08-31-2008, 04:17 PM
Just Sending You Some:goodvibes :goodvibes From "Bonnie Scotland"

Take Care of You