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mamaloya
08-13-2008, 09:17 PM
OK, guys, I am not normally on this side of the board, but I really need a pick me up.

I am missing my hubby a lot. It will still be 6 more months before he gets back. I should not have taken my trip to WDW and FW so soon in his deployment. I could really use the break right now. I don't think planning the trip for his return is helping much either. It is actually getting me down that it is so far away. It really hurt cancelling the Oct ressies today. That is when he was going to come home for R&R, but it got switched to June. Since I won't go to WDW in the summer, we did Hot Springs instead. We had fun, but it was not FW.

It seems like he has been gone forever.

Looking at the pics of the fort help a little, but also make me homesick. Did I mention that my kids were given the choice of staying in a 2-3 bedroom condo with a tv in each room this next trip or a tent at FW and they picked a tent because they won't stay anywhere else. We really love FW. We chose tenting to save the money on gas, which is still outrageous. If it goes down, we will bring the camper.

I homeschool, so that keeps me busy during the day, can't imagine them being gone and leaving me all alone. Of course, right now they are fighting over whos pillow is whos, so I could use a little alone time. :confused3 This is when he would step in.

Oooooo, he just IMd me!!!!! Let me go chit chat.

VACAMPER
08-13-2008, 09:21 PM
Hang in there. You can do it. Thank your husband for us and thanks to you and other spouses holding down the fort while your loved ones are gone. You guys make us all proud. Now go have yourself a good cry and drink yourself to sleep and you'll be all better in the morning. Except for a slight headache.

RvUsa
08-13-2008, 09:22 PM
I'm a guy, so I have no idea what to say to you to make you feel better, but if you need to talk, you know we are all here for ya!!

BRDof3
08-13-2008, 09:26 PM
:goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes

:dance3:

:flower3: :flower3: :flower3:

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

The best I can do, I'm afraid. We'll keep thinking warm thoughts from this end. With a brother in the USAF I know what deployments can be like.

(Go take the pillows all to yourself for a while. At least it will get quiet for a few minutes while they search for something else to argue about)

Shannone1
08-13-2008, 09:29 PM
OK, guys, I am not normally on this side of the board, but I really need a pick me up.

I am missing my hubby a lot. It will still be 6 more months before he gets back. I should not have taken my trip to WDW and FW so soon in his deployment. I could really use the break right now. I don't think planning the trip for his return is helping much either. It is actually getting me down that it is so far away. It really hurt cancelling the Oct ressies today. That is when he was going to come home for R&R, but it got switched to June. Since I won't go to WDW in the summer, we did Hot Springs instead. We had fun, but it was not FW.



Sandra,

I can imagine how you must be feeling. We are all thankful for unselfish families like yours. I hope you enjoyed your IM :hug:

Gatordad
08-13-2008, 09:31 PM
I'm with John. I don't know what to say, but a good stiff drink never hurt, although you are married to the Chaplain, so maybe you don't drink. Well, if that isn't allowed or doesn't work, there's always ice cream. Ice cream makes the heart grow cooler, and the stomach. I guess it's like he knew that you were lonely, that's why he im'd you when he did, almost like karma, but good karma, like karma chameleon. It's cool that the kids are into the fort, that makes them great kids, why not see about planning a camping trip closer to home in october to make the time go by. you could take a picture of mickey, and mail me a check for a few hundred dollars, this way it'd be like you spent the money to go to the fort. you could go to golden corrall, it'd be like the trails end. If all that doesn't work, try eating pork, it's done wonders for Ami. If all else fails, make fun of stacktester, that's what we usually do, and he's a good sport and doesn't get mad.

VACAMPER
08-13-2008, 10:15 PM
:lmao: I'm glad she's not paying you for thearpy. Unless she takes the picture of mickey and mails you a check. Then i guess she sorta is.

Gatordad
08-13-2008, 10:21 PM
hey, i was giving the fort experience to her.

mamaloya
08-13-2008, 10:28 PM
Well, I don't drink, but I do have a few good prescription drugs. :rotfl2:

I actually feel better now. Thanks guys. I had a good cry and then dh made me feel better by saying he would quit the army and get a job playing mickey mouse at WDW and we could live at FW. Sounds good to me. ;)

It is nice to know you guys are here. I live on post, but the last thing the other wives need is for the chaplain's wife to break down. The lean on me. I am the one telling them it will be OK. There is another round of guys leaving soon. Many we are close to. Some wives have left to move close to family.

DH did tell me that he is putting in for a tour in Korea. We could go with him and that would be 3 years no deployment. Far away from FW, but will have hubbby home and can hit Tokyo and Hong Kong disneyland. LOL

Thanks ladies for understanding and thanks guys for trying. It really means a lot to me your kind words. I am glad to know I can come here to vent when I need to. These next 6 months I may be here a lot.

Well, I am hoping the drugs will kick in soon, so I will wish you all good night and thanks again for listening. You just can't understand how much it means. Hopefully I can make it to a fort meet sometime soon and thank each of you personally.

Oh, and stacktester, gatordad said I could make fun of you if I needed to, so give me something to work with.

Thanks guys.

mamaloya
08-13-2008, 10:36 PM
Hey VACAMPER, gatordad is actually good for the soul. He told me I looked too young to be a grandma. He can't be all bad then. That is the best therapy ever. And we do bring mickey camping with us. (won't be mailing you a check though, already sending money to FW for our trip when dh returns) We have disney blankets for the kids. Mickey checkers. A FW magnet on the oven. Did you guys know the fridges in campers are not magnetic? The magnet won't stick there???? No FW magnet on my fridge. I also keep a peacock in the back window of my camper. A kid in my neighborhood asked me if I knew I had a zoo pals plate stuck in my window. I told him it was my peacock and he just walked away stumped. We have mickey tiki kingdom plates in the cabinet and I am sure there is more. Someone stole my FW magnet from the back of my van, 2nd time. I am gluing the next one on. LOL

Well, good night. Check in on the tom foolery here tomorrow.

BigDaddyRog
08-13-2008, 10:40 PM
Pete...that little rant was priceless!!!! Good stuff....Im serious about that radio show...we should think about that.

Sandra...we always think to thank the soldiers for their bravery and selflessness....but so many of us never really think of the family they have to leave at home. You guys have to live everyday hoping for the best, knowing the worst is a daily possibility, and even when you get get news...you are still alone and waiting.....man, thats really gotta be rough. Ive never really given it much thought before,.....my heart goes out to you. I hope theirs something that you can find comfort in until the day your hero comes home to you. Best wishes to you and the kids, and of coarse the husband.

VACAMPER
08-13-2008, 10:41 PM
I always lose my magnets in the carwash. Forget about them everytime.

stacktester
08-13-2008, 10:42 PM
Oh, and stacktester, gatordad said I could make fun of you if I needed to, so give me something to work with.

Thanks guys.

Wait til after the LDGG lol. I'm sure something will happen.

Gatordad
08-13-2008, 10:42 PM
keep your chin up..... you can still send that check, it's the fort thing to do..... and to make fun of donnie, it just comes easy.... especially now that his girl is named donna, donna and donnie, just like paul and paula. i plan on serenading them Labor day...

ok, follow me

[Donnie:]
Hey, hey Donna, I wanna marry you
Hey, hey Donna, no one else will ever do
I've waited so long for school to be through
Donna, I can't wait no more for you
My love, my love

[Donna:]
Hey Donnie, I've been waiting for you
Hey, hey, hey Donnie, I want to marry you too
If you love me true, if you love me still
Our love will always be real
My love, my love

[Both:]
True love means planning a life for two
Being together the whole day through
True love means waiting and hoping that soon
Wishes we've made will come true
My love, my love

VACAMPER
08-13-2008, 10:44 PM
See you said something nice about him and his head has swollen to the point he thinks he can sing.

Gatordad
08-13-2008, 10:48 PM
there's a lot of things I think i can do, after a few beers i actually may try them out.

mamaloya
08-13-2008, 10:57 PM
Exactly why I don't drink.

Gatordad
08-13-2008, 11:03 PM
well i've got no tattoos nore piercings, so so far so good.

BigDaddyRog
08-13-2008, 11:11 PM
:lmao:

RvUsa
08-14-2008, 07:45 AM
:sad2:

PolynesianPixie
08-14-2008, 08:09 AM
This is from 50's Prime Time cafe:

Peanut Butter and Jelly Milkshake

Yield: 3 3/4 cups

Ingredients



1/4 cup creamy peanut butter
3 tablespoons grape jelly
1/4 cup milk
3 cups vanilla ice cream, softened

Method:

1. Combine peanut butter and jelly in a small bowl, mixing well.

2. Combine milk, ice cream, and peanut butter mixture in container of an electric blender.

3. Process mixture until smooth, stopping once to scrape down sides.




~~~~~~~
I really do feel for you. I can't imagine your situation! Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for you. You are one tough cookie!

XOXO

3gr8kids
08-14-2008, 08:18 AM
Thank you to your DH and lots of :hug: to you and your family. Although easier said than done, try not to think about it too much and he'll be home before you know it! :flower3:

Just Beachy
08-14-2008, 08:57 AM
Mamaloya, THANK YOU! Your husband, you, and your family make it possible for the rest of us to enjoy the lives that we have. It is an enormous gift that you give the rest of us every single day. I wish there was something that we could give back to you (besides Gatordad giving you therapy :lmao: ). Please know that we appreciate everything that your family has given up for the rest of the country. :grouphug: I live near a military base and every time I have the pleasure of meeting a soldier (retired included ;) ) , I always try to thank him/her for their service. I hope the next 6 months go by quickly for you. Have a good cry whenever you need one. Oh, and ice cream really CAN make you feel a little better! :flower3:

auntie
08-14-2008, 09:08 AM
I think he must have been drunk (no offense..I mean enjoying a cocktail or two)...that doesn't sound like Pete...(posting a song?:confused3 )..more like something Debbie would have posted. :) Something is "off".:confused:

Us3
08-14-2008, 09:37 AM
Hi Sandra. I'm just now finding your post and I hope today is a better day for you! :goodvibes I hope you're able to find some comfort and share a few chuckles from this board.

To get under Gatordad's skin you can use this smiley --> :goodvibes (hehe) And for a good laugh at poor Donnie's expense (he's a good sport)...ask to see pics of his camper from the last grand gathering at the Fort! ;)

ntsammy5
08-14-2008, 09:42 AM
Sandra,

I can tell you that it's much harder on the families left behind than on the people actually deployed. Hang in there.

Never been to Korea, but it sounds good. I didn't even know it was an accompanied tour now -


OH - I forgot to add that the otters and I will have a couple of beers for you - Molson because I like their new labels! :lmao:

Gatordad
08-14-2008, 10:21 AM
Hi Sandra. I'm just now finding your post and I hope today is a better day for you! :goodvibes I hope you're able to find some comfort and share a few chuckles from this board.

To get under Gatordad's skin you can use this smiley --> :goodvibes (hehe) And for a good laugh at poor Donnie's expense (he's a good sport)...ask to see pics of his camper from the last grand gathering at the Fort! ;)

ahhhhhhhhhh i'm a pillar of salt.

Gatordad
08-14-2008, 10:23 AM
I think he must have been drunk (no offense..I mean enjoying a cocktail or two)...that doesn't sound like Pete...(posting a song?:confused3 )..more like something Debbie would have posted. :) Something is "off".:confused:


no, no drinking for me last night, although we almost went to Las Vallartas, which means $3.50 32oz beers........ Maybe I'm a repressed song and dance man.

http://i173.photobucket.com/albums/w66/n880ep/funny-pictures-dancing-wb-cat.jpg

mamaloya
08-14-2008, 10:37 AM
well i've got no tattoos nore piercings, so so far so good.

Wish I could say the same. :eek:

This is from 50's Prime Time cafe:

Peanut Butter and Jelly Milkshake

XOXO

I will have to try that recipe. Sounds good.

To get under Gatordad's skin you can use this smiley --> :goodvibes (hehe) And for a good laugh at poor Donnie's expense (he's a good sport)...ask to see pics of his camper from the last grand gathering at the Fort! ;)

:goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes :goodvibes

Just kidding gatordad, you really made me laugh. I appreciate it.
And, Donnie, where are those pics????

Sandra,

I can tell you that it's much harder on the families left behind than on the people actually deployed. Hang in there.

Never been to Korea, but it sounds good. I didn't even know it was an accompanied tour now -


OH - I forgot to add that the otters and I will have a couple of beers for you - Molson because I like their new labels! :lmao:

Not all positions are accompanied. There are some 1 yr positions that are TDY. The position that he would be in would be accompanied and 3 years.

I may have to find an otter to add to my peacock in the back window of my camper.

To all those offering thanks to my dh and family, thank you for your support.

Auntie, I think he is just trying to be silly to make me laugh. It worked, of cours, that doesn't mean he wasn't drunk. :rotfl:

The drugs worked and I slept great. Woke up a little groggy though. School started a little late for us today. :teacher: As long as we do it though right. :rolleyes1

I really am feeling better today, thank you so much guys.

Now, back to the silliness and no more mushy stuff.

g8trmom1
08-14-2008, 10:59 AM
I think he must have been drunk (no offense..I mean enjoying a cocktail or two)...that doesn't sound like Pete...(posting a song?:confused3 )..more like something Debbie would have posted. :) Something is "off".:confused:

Nope he was quite sober...I think he is sleep deprived. He's been up till 2 everynite studying for finals.....

VACAMPER
08-14-2008, 11:22 AM
studying for finals or playing on the dis?

PolynesianPixie
08-14-2008, 11:25 AM
studying for finals or playing on the dis?

Let's not get petey boy in trouble, now! :lmao:

ntsammy5
08-14-2008, 11:54 AM
Nope he was quite sober...I think he is sleep deprived. He's been up till 2 everynite studying for finals.....

He won't get anywhere staying sober - he should do what I did when I was working on my MBA -- CHEAT!

ftwildernessguy
08-14-2008, 11:55 AM
Sandra:

I was just wondering yesterday about your husband. I knew he had been deployed but couldn't remember how long it had been.

Deployments stink, but at least the Signal guys get the satellites set up pretty quick and allow computer access now. That helps, but is not the same as being home. It helps him to know you are holding things down at home. On my deployments, I always told my wife - it's harder to come home than to leave. The transition back to home life will be difficult for him, so help him transition back into his family life.

Chaplains have a tough job, and I always admired them. In addition to their own issues with deployment, they have to help the other soldiers through their individual problems.

So stay focused, take care of the kids and the pets and the household. That will help him and you. And keep an eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. When you're in Korea, buy sneakers and don't eat the food.

ntsammy5
08-14-2008, 11:59 AM
Chaplains have a tough job, and I always admired them.

I had a good friend who was a chaplain and he always complained that everyone was too independent and never came to him for anything until it was almost too late! Tough, tough job. He was a catholic priest though and didn't have a wife or family (that I knew about anyways). :cool1:

He moved out west and I haven't seen him in years.

ftwildernessguy
08-14-2008, 12:04 PM
Tell you what, they helped a few of my guys out a couple times. When these guys started spilling their guts to me about what was going on at home or their personal issues, the chaplain was the first guy I called.

Gatordad
08-14-2008, 12:37 PM
[QUOTE=mamaloya;26913276]Wish I could say the same. :eek:



QUOTE]

The chaplain's wife has tattoos and her belly button pierced? What's going on here.

mamaloya
08-14-2008, 04:26 PM
[QUOTE=mamaloya;26913276]Wish I could say the same. :eek:



QUOTE]

The chaplain's wife has tattoos and her belly button pierced? What's going on here.

I wasn't always a chaplain's wife. ;) Boy could I tell you some stories.

BigDaddyRog
08-14-2008, 04:27 PM
Tell you what, they helped a few of my guys out a couple times. When these guys started spilling their guts to me about what was going on at home or their personal issues, the chaplain was the first guy I called.

Not bad advice for civilian life either!!!

mamaloya
08-14-2008, 04:41 PM
Sandra:

I was just wondering yesterday about your husband. I knew he had been deployed but couldn't remember how long it had been.

Deployments stink, but at least the Signal guys get the satellites set up pretty quick and allow computer access now. That helps, but is not the same as being home. It helps him to know you are holding things down at home. On my deployments, I always told my wife - it's harder to come home than to leave. The transition back to home life will be difficult for him, so help him transition back into his family life.

Chaplains have a tough job, and I always admired them. In addition to their own issues with deployment, they have to help the other soldiers through their individual problems.

So stay focused, take care of the kids and the pets and the household. That will help him and you. And keep an eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. When you're in Korea, buy sneakers and don't eat the food.

Thanks Jim. When dh got home for R&R in June he had a tough time with dd12. When he left she was a little girl, dressed like a tomboy and we had to fight her just to take a bath and brush her teeth. When he came for the 18 days, she had "mammaries" (as gatordad sig refers to them), she had "started", was wearing makeup and he had to fight to get her OUT of the shower. Takes longer than I do to get ready. She also started to find boys interesting. When we were out front with our neighbors one day she ran across the street to talk to one of the boys, I thought his veins were going to bust through his forehead. Later he walked into the house and there was a bunch of kids, mixed company, sitting in the living room. He walked in and the boy she was sitting next to jumped up like a snake had bit him. dh just sat and stared. Needless to say they all left. I told him I would rather them hangout in our living room than where I can't see them. :eek: He was in culture shock I guess. She is a totally different child than the one he left.

I have tried to not make changes in the household while he is gone. I also try to keep him in the loop, which is hard because when a decision needs to be made I can't just call and discuss it with him. I can go days w/o hearing from him.

As for internet, he has internet and phone in his room. How is it that he has internet in his room in the middle of the dessert and FW is just now getting cable and internet to each site. :confused3 Even though he has it in his room, he is hardly there. He is the head chaplain, which means he is quite busy. Every other chaplain comes to him with all their needs. He is there for every convoy that comes in or out. He is also at the hospital all the time for those guys. Then, there are communication black outs frequently.

Up until last night I did not let him know how much I missed him. I didn't want him to worry. Turns out he was sad thinking I didn't miss him. :cutie:

As for taking care of the dogs, the big one, Gibson, is taking care of me. He chased an intruder out one night. He also lets me know when a kid goes out unattended. dd12 stayed the night at a neighbors house a couple of weeks ago and her and her friend went out about 10pm and he woke me up and ratted her out. She was not happy. One night she went out to put something in the trash and he barked until I came down to acknowledge that it was OK for her to be out there. I told dh that I pity the boy that ever tries to sneak in her window. He may not make it back out with all of his appendages in tact. :lmao: dh feels better knowing that Gibson has him covered in his absense.

Any tips on helping ease him back into the house on his return?

mamaloya
08-14-2008, 04:48 PM
I had a good friend who was a chaplain and he always complained that everyone was too independent and never came to him for anything until it was almost too late! Tough, tough job. He was a catholic priest though and didn't have a wife or family (that I knew about anyways). :cool1:

He moved out west and I haven't seen him in years.

That is exactly why my dh doesn't wait for them to come to him. While in the "sandbox", he visits with each of the companies regularly. He is there when they come in and out on each convoy. He walks the halls. He works out at the gym with them. He plays ball with them. He eats with them. He is always among them.

When not "over there", he goes to PT with them. He walks the halls, visits, and has weekly meetings with the entire company. It surprised a lot of the guys because most of them did not even know who their last chaplain was. My dh loves his job and is good at it.

Well, enough bragging on my dh.

You guys are awesome as well.

ftwildernessguy
08-14-2008, 05:19 PM
I was a MOB officer for many years before I became a commander. I used to counsel the families and soldiers about the similarities between deployment and a death. Not to be morbid, but when the spouse goes away for 18 months, the family situation is very similar to the spouse dying. The normal activities handled by the soldier have been assumed by the other family members - taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, paying the bills, walking the dog - whatever. When the families look at it from this perspective, it makes the transition home smoother. They make a conscious attempt at turning those responsibilities back to the returned soldier. From my own perspective, there is a definite culture shock when you return. It's a lot different dealing with kids than dealing with soldiers. One of the guys from my unit who returned home at Thanksgiving time went into the kitchen and asked his wife if the ****ing turkey was done yet. While that was perfectly acceptable in Iraq, it wasn't what his wife wanted to hear at home with their 3 young daughters. It's hard to transition into not worrying if a poisonous snake is crawling into bed with you to get warm, or if the kid who is running toward you in the street is going to kill you. It takes a while for some of these guys to adjust, and it sure is helpful if the family understands and remains patient.

ntsammy5
08-14-2008, 05:30 PM
Sandra,

I don't know what advice I could offer - it's hard, very, very hard. I know that I was manic - couldn't shut up for a long time - then just the opposite.

I think your husband might be well served to talk to his peers - other chaplains - and talk stuff out with them. I'm sure that hearing everyone else's problems wears a little thin. He'll be OK though - he's got you and the kids to help him. That counts for a lot!

mamaloya
08-14-2008, 08:21 PM
Jim, have no doubt that I will have NO problem turning his chores back over to him. I have to admit that I thought him going would be no big deal. One less person for me to take care of, no more picking up his clothes from the floor. No more tripping over his combat boots (dd7 broke her collar bone tripping over them right before we moved).

Well, let me tell you. That man did a lot more than I give him credit for. It may not have been much, but it was enough that it should have been appreciated. He would run the vacuum for me. He did the pots in the evening. He ran interference with the kids so I could take a bubble bath w/o the constant "MOM!!". Boy do I miss those bubble baths.

Ladies, let you hubbies know that what they do is appreciated. This has been a learning experience for the both of us.

Al, he does talk to the other chaplains. I asked him long before he left not to talk to me about certain things. "Ignorance is bliss" has been my motto. There was a recent event that he felt compelled to talk to me about because it was so hard on him. I listened (well, we were IMing) and then proceded to purge all of the info out of my brain. I keep telling him that as far as I am concerned he is at a desk in Omaha. :hippie:

There was one scary moment for me a few months back. I was standing outside with some other wives and the kids. A government vehicle with a few soldiers in class As pulled up and stopped right in front of my duplex. My neighbor's husband is in the same unit as my husband. My heart stopped and I started to panic. The fear that hit was enormous. You don't want it to be your husband, but you also don't want to wish it on someone else. Another neighbor's husband stepped out. He had been to an official thingy and was being dropped off. Boy did I let him have it. I told him to NEVER do that again.

It is hard being the chaplain's wife because I am the one that others look to. I am not comfortable talking to the other chaplain wives either. I have always been independent and hate being seen as weak. (Hence my refusal to fully accept a wheelchair.) I guess that it why this deployment is easier on me than most wives. I just had a few bad days there. I hope I am over it now.

And Gatordad, believe it or not, even chaplain wives can get a little crazy sometimes. Myself and another chaplain wife on our street are known for our "shenanigans". When we walk in to a block party together, the neighbors say "oh Oh, it's the chaplain's wives". We like to cut loose sometimes too. I just don't happen to need alcohol to do stupid stuff, unfornately, I am fully capable of doing stupid things stone cold sober." The chaplain next door actually rides a Harley, complete with the jacket. I guess when the weight of the world is on your shoulders, you NEED to be able to get a little crazy.

Oh, maybe I should not be telling you guys this stuff. Let you guys all think that I am some nun up for sainthood. Then when someone else's camper gets "fiendified" no one will ever guess it is me. :rotfl: :rolleyes1

RvUsa
08-14-2008, 08:35 PM
First off, I am very glad you are feeling better.

Second I want to say thank you to you, your husband and your family. This country owes you much more than could ever be paid.

Third, I got you saying thingy too..... LOL

and Fourth, the Nun around here is Ami, just to keep you up to date.... :lmao:

loveDmouse
08-14-2008, 08:43 PM
OK, guys, I am not normally on this side of the board, but I really need a pick me up.

I am missing my hubby a lot. It will still be 6 more months before he gets back. I should not have taken my trip to WDW and FW so soon in his deployment. I could really use the break right now. I don't think planning the trip for his return is helping much either. It is actually getting me down that it is so far away. It really hurt cancelling the Oct ressies today. That is when he was going to come home for R&R, but it got switched to June. Since I won't go to WDW in the summer, we did Hot Springs instead. We had fun, but it was not FW.

It seems like he has been gone forever.

Looking at the pics of the fort help a little, but also make me homesick. Did I mention that my kids were given the choice of staying in a 2-3 bedroom condo with a tv in each room this next trip or a tent at FW and they picked a tent because they won't stay anywhere else. We really love FW. We chose tenting to save the money on gas, which is still outrageous. If it goes down, we will bring the camper.

I homeschool, so that keeps me busy during the day, can't imagine them being gone and leaving me all alone. Of course, right now they are fighting over whos pillow is whos, so I could use a little alone time. :confused3 This is when he would step in.

Oooooo, he just IMd me!!!!! Let me go chit chat.

Hang in there! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
Thank you to your husband, you and your family and all the families of service men and women for the sacrifices you make. God bless you all!

AuburnJen92
08-14-2008, 09:01 PM
Wait til after the LDGG lol. I'm sure something will happen.

I am sure you will drop something!:lmao:

Sandra, reading your thread wanted me to stay home from work and just give you a call to cheer you up. I do hope your spirits are better. They seem to be. We are all here for you. Hopefully I can keep the people out of my office long enough to get online during the day. It hasn't work the past two days, but I am trying! Keep your chin up, we are all thinkin' 'bout ya!

2goofycampers
08-14-2008, 09:46 PM
Glad you're feeling better, I couldn't begin to imagine what you're feeling. I do believe tho that Gibson should be cloned and given to all parents to help keep the kids in line.

Gatordad
08-15-2008, 12:04 AM
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I wasn't always a chaplain's wife. ;) Boy could I tell you some stories.

bwooop bwoop, when did you become the chaplains wife. you are a grandma at 30, yet you claim a sordid past.

PolynesianPixie
08-15-2008, 07:17 AM
[QUOTE=mamaloya;26921136]

bwooop bwoop, when did you become the chaplains wife. you are a grandma at 30, yet you claim a sordid past.

That year she was 11~~~~Whoooweeee! You should have seen her! That is....if you could've caught her! :stir: :moped: :cool2:

auntie
08-15-2008, 08:26 AM
Jim, have no doubt that I will have NO problem turning his chores back over to him. I have to admit that I thought him going would be no big deal. One less person for me to take care of, no more picking up his clothes from the floor. No more tripping over his combat boots (dd7 broke her collar bone tripping over them right before we moved).

Well, let me tell you. That man did a lot more than I give him credit for. It may not have been much, but it was enough that it should have been appreciated. He would run the vacuum for me. He did the pots in the evening. He ran interference with the kids so I could take a bubble bath w/o the constant "MOM!!". Boy do I miss those bubble baths.

Ladies, let you hubbies know that what they do is appreciated. This has been a learning experience for the both of us.

Al, he does talk to the other chaplains. I asked him long before he left not to talk to me about certain things. "Ignorance is bliss" has been my motto. There was a recent event that he felt compelled to talk to me about because it was so hard on him. I listened (well, we were IMing) and then proceded to purge all of the info out of my brain. I keep telling him that as far as I am concerned he is at a desk in Omaha. :hippie:

There was one scary moment for me a few months back. I was standing outside with some other wives and the kids. A government vehicle with a few soldiers in class As pulled up and stopped right in front of my duplex. My neighbor's husband is in the same unit as my husband. My heart stopped and I started to panic. The fear that hit was enormous. You don't want it to be your husband, but you also don't want to wish it on someone else. Another neighbor's husband stepped out. He had been to an official thingy and was being dropped off. Boy did I let him have it. I told him to NEVER do that again.

It is hard being the chaplain's wife because I am the one that others look to. I am not comfortable talking to the other chaplain wives either. I have always been independent and hate being seen as weak. (Hence my refusal to fully accept a wheelchair.) I guess that it why this deployment is easier on me than most wives. I just had a few bad days there. I hope I am over it now.

And Gatordad, believe it or not, even chaplain wives can get a little crazy sometimes. Myself and another chaplain wife on our street are known for our "shenanigans". When we walk in to a block party together, the neighbors say "oh Oh, it's the chaplain's wives". We like to cut loose sometimes too. I just don't happen to need alcohol to do stupid stuff, unfornately, I am fully capable of doing stupid things stone cold sober." The chaplain next door actually rides a Harley, complete with the jacket. I guess when the weight of the world is on your shoulders, you NEED to be able to get a little crazy.

Oh, maybe I should not be telling you guys this stuff. Let you guys all think that I am some nun up for sainthood. Then when someone else's camper gets "fiendified" no one will ever guess it is me. :rotfl: :rolleyes1

Okay.....I'm teary eyed reading this. I was away from my husband for one week, and I missed him like crazy. My kids were tired of hearing me start every sentence with "Dad, would like this". I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. Sounds like you've gotten some very good advise and insights from those who have lived your situation. Plus..you've got Pete breaking into song. I call that support! :thumbsup2 We're here for ya...a crazy bunch..but we do care. I can't offer you the insight that that some of the others have, but I do offer you a grateful heart, and shoulder when you need it. :hug:



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mamaloya
08-15-2008, 11:10 AM
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bwooop bwoop, when did you become the chaplains wife. you are a grandma at 30, yet you claim a sordid past.

I wish I was 30. I still feel like that country songs says "I'm too young to feel this dang old." and "I'm not as young as I once was". And since you guys are just dying to know how young I started.... I was 16 when I had my oldest. :eek: Hope ya'll still love me. :cutie: People find that fact quite shocking.

[QUOTE=Gatordad;26929583]

That year she was 11~~~~Whoooweeee! You should have seen her! That is....if you could've caught her! :stir: :moped: :cool2:

And, by golly, when I was 12, ooooh boooyyyy!!!!!

Glad you're feeling better, I couldn't begin to imagine what you're feeling. I do believe tho that Gibson should be cloned and given to all parents to help keep the kids in line.

He is a good dog, but also drives me crazy a I am not a dog person. If he would stop chewing things up, we would get along just fine.

Auntie, it was weeks before I stopped cooking for him. My neighbor's husband is using my dh's van while dh is gone and for the longest time whenever he came home from work my kids would run out screaming "DADDY!!!" It was so sad. Of course, soldiers here are used to all kinds of kids calling them daddy since, when they are in uniform, they all look alike. Especially since most kids only see them at knee level. :rotfl: I have a hard time picking my dh out of the crowd sometimes. Lucky for me, they wear name tags. :lmao:

2goofycampers
08-15-2008, 12:22 PM
[QUOTE=mamaloya;26936880 I have a hard time picking my dh out of the crowd sometimes. [/QUOTE]

They have some hats at WDW that help with that.That would be funny, all these guys in uniforms and DH out there with a Goofy hat on.
He might get kicked out of the military tho. :rotfl2:

mamaloya
08-15-2008, 12:25 PM
When he goes to the shower over there he is in his mickey crocs. He swears he only likes them because they are more comfortable than the plain ones. ;) He does have a stuffed mickey mouse in his room there as well. We have sent him many things to mickify his room. Maybe I should send several pairs of mickey ears over there and see if he can get all the chaplains to pose in uniform with the ears on. Hmmm, sounds like a plan.

2goofycampers
08-15-2008, 12:27 PM
Maybe I should send several pairs of mickey ears over there and see if he can get all the chaplains to pose in uniform with the ears on. Hmmm, sounds like a plan.

I'd like to see that on the news.