Soldiers wife having a bad day

[Little Flower]

today is a bad day!!

My husband had been in Afghanistan for 2 weeks now (he's in the airforce) and i am sick of the empty house, sick of not knowing when he is going to call, just generally fed up of everything.

I'm just so worried and lonely

[annie1995]

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Prayers for your DH's safety while he is deployed.

[safetymom]

Hugs for you. I will keep you both in my prayers. Remember it is ok to take life minute by minute sometimes. Be good to yourself, pamper yourself.

Keep posting your feelings. It really helps to get them out.

Thank you both for your service to our country.

[lyeag]

Hang in there. My dh is in training right now and will be deploying in a few weeks. It is so hard when you can't hear their voice and know they are okay. I have been an army wife for 12 years and I know it is tough. Feel free to pm me anytime.:grouphug:

I know it sounds like a long time, but a couple of months will fly by. My dh will be gone for a year.

[frdeb1999]

DW of a retired AF man here. And I know all too well what your going through. Hang in there though. I know it's easier said then done, but we're all here for you if you need to talk. :)

[Little Flower]

I'm having a bit of a better day today! Still on shaky ground but better.

I went out for a few drinks with DH's shift which was nice. It cheered me up a bit!

Thanks for all your support. If you guys don't mind, i would like to keep posting on here, keep my spirits up:grouphug:

[donaldduck352]

Everyone else,including myself wants you to keep us informed..

We love the ones that sacrifice there life and family to do what there country ask them to do:grouphug:

Keep us informed:thumbsup2 We are here for you!!!

[kjetjl]

I am not a military wife and I hate when DH travels for work so I cannot imagine what you are going through. Thank you both for the sacrifices you are making for all of us.
My prayers will be with both of you.

[Piglet4Ever]

I know how you feel. Dh is in the Navy and has been deployed since March. He should get home around Sept 23 so I am really looking forward to that. It's been tough but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it's fast approaching now. Good luck to you and your husband! Hugs all around:grouphug:

[kimis]

I am praying for you. I pray for our soldiers everyday. Thank him for serviing our Country.

My nephew.just got back from Afghanistan after a year. Our family and his girlfriend had web cams. Do you have that? If not you might want to get each of you one. It does help to be able to see them often.

Any time you need to talk just know that we are here for you. Love and prayers.

[Little Flower]

Hang in there. My dh is in training right now and will be deploying in a few weeks. It is so hard when you can't hear their voice and know they are okay. I have been an army wife for 12 years and I know it is tough. Feel free to pm me anytime.:grouphug:

I know it sounds like a long time, but a couple of months will fly by. My dh will be gone for a year.

I'm so sorry to hear how long your DH will be gone - it's such a long time!!

You are right though, it does go quickly! We're on 3 weeks already!

[Little Flower]

Today is definately a good day. I spoke to DH for 45 minutes on Saturday!!!!

[hollybearsmom]

Another AF wife here..
Stay busy on a regular daily schedule. Turn off the news. Talk. lots.
Hugs & prayers!:grouphug:

[lovemygoofy]

Don't just stay home waiting on his phone call or twiddling around the house. Get out and do things. Learn something new like cake decorating or knitting or make up a new social group for you and others to get together during the week or even a dinner club where you take turns having dinner at your house.

The first two weeks or so is difficult but then you will get into a routine and before you know your husband will be home to mess it up;) Every morning get up and mark another day off your calendar because you are one more day closer to him coming home.

Do you have a goal for your deployment? Anything in particular you are saving towards or planning for such as home improvements, new furniture, or a vacation. Do something that you both can work towards if possible.

In the end all you can do though is just get through it. You have good days and you have bad days but you need to make sure your good ones outnumber the bad.

Also, if you see you are having more bad days than good ones, I really recommend you getting some medical help. There is no shame in needing something to help you through your deployment. It makes your life more manageable.

If all else fails, do what I do. Anything and everything that can and will go wrong is your husband's fault because he is away.:rotfl: Skewed logic but it works for me:laughing:

[lyeag]

Don't just stay home waiting on his phone call or twiddling around the house. Get out and do things. Learn something new like cake decorating or knitting or make up a new social group for you and others to get together during the week or even a dinner club where you take turns having dinner at your house.

The first two weeks or so is difficult but then you will get into a routine and before you know your husband will be home to mess it up;) Every morning get up and mark another day off your calendar because you are one more day closer to him coming home.

Do you have a goal for your deployment? Anything in particular you are saving towards or planning for such as home improvements, new furniture, or a vacation. Do something that you both can work towards if possible.

In the end all you can do though is just get through it. You have good days and you have bad days but you need to make sure your good ones outnumber the bad.

Also, if you see you are having more bad days than good ones, I really recommend you getting some medical help. There is no shame in needing something to help you through your deployment. It makes your life more manageable.

If all else fails, do what I do. Anything and everything that can and will go wrong is your husband's fault because he is away.:rotfl: Skewed logic but it works for me:laughing:

Tina, these are absolute truths in my life!!!:rotfl:

[drlee]

Amen Tina! I have been a Navy wife for 22 years and I don't think one thing that has gone wrong has been my fault. Of course it is my husbands!!!

Hang in there Little Flower!! It does pass with a lot of prayers and Chocolate!!

[hollybearsmom]

Amen! And something always goes wrong while they are deployed.....like the heating element in the oven going out the night before Thanksgiving. That one is definately a history maker in our family album!

[Little Flower]

Don't just stay home waiting on his phone call or twiddling around the house. Get out and do things. Learn something new like cake decorating or knitting or make up a new social group for you and others to get together during the week or even a dinner club where you take turns having dinner at your house.

The first two weeks or so is difficult but then you will get into a routine and before you know your husband will be home to mess it up;) Every morning get up and mark another day off your calendar because you are one more day closer to him coming home.

Do you have a goal for your deployment? Anything in particular you are saving towards or planning for such as home improvements, new furniture, or a vacation. Do something that you both can work towards if possible.

In the end all you can do though is just get through it. You have good days and you have bad days but you need to make sure your good ones outnumber the bad.

Also, if you see you are having more bad days than good ones, I really recommend you getting some medical help. There is no shame in needing something to help you through your deployment. It makes your life more manageable.

If all else fails, do what I do. Anything and everything that can and will go wrong is your husband's fault because he is away.:rotfl: Skewed logic but it works for me:laughing:


At the moment i am working towards my WDW holiday this Dec. DH gets back about three weeks before we go away - i'll quite happily dwell on that all day.

It's definately better when i am at work as i am busy so i have set myself a little project at home. I Cross stich so i have given myself 3.5 months to finish a really large complicated project!!! argh!!

You are right about everything breaking down when he is away though. So far i have had the mechanic to my car twice, i need a new fridge and a new washing machine!!! i am laughing about it as these things are inevitable really and beyond my control but it is just typical!! it's all his fault!!!:lmao:

[kimis]

Hi little flower. I hope you are having a good day today.
I have a thought...... Do you scrapebook? Disney is the best way to scrapebook. It is sooooo fun and addicting. If you have taken past trips than you might think about seperating all your pictures into the different trips and start a disney scrapbook to help keep all those memories. Just a thought.

[Little Flower]

Hi little flower. I hope you are having a good day today.
I have a thought...... Do you scrapebook? Disney is the best way to scrapebook. It is sooooo fun and addicting. If you have taken past trips than you might think about seperating all your pictures into the different trips and start a disney scrapbook to help keep all those memories. Just a thought.


I had thought about it but i have never done it before. I'm sure i'd know where to start. I like the idea though - any tips?

[kimis]

You can go to Michaels or JoAnns. They have disney items and scrapbooking ideas. Also you can check the disboards. I will warn you scrapbooking is as addicting as being on this board. LOL

[Little Flower]

OK!! Who fancies cheering me up today. i am feeling really blue today. For no reason really

i spoke to my DH the other night and he's moving to a different camp which is worrying. I hate the thought of him travelling as that puts him in more danger.

i wish November would hurry up

[drlee]

Hi Little Flower!! Wish I had the words to make you fill better. I remember those long days with my husband so far away and wondering if the time would ever pass. It does and when he is home with you it's as if he was never gone. Hang in there, pamper yourself and remember you are not alone.

[TinkerCarol]

I am not a military wife, but my prayers and thoughts go out to you and the rest of the families who have someone serving for our country. We think and talk so much about our dear ones who have been deployed. And God knows they need our thoughts and prayers. But I think we tend to forget what all of you wives and loved ones are going through. I am so glad that other military wives are posting for you. I think they can understand to a much greater degree then any of the rest of us. I know it has "only" been a short time apart, but I think that the adjustment must be awful. I pray as days go by that you begin to pull yourself up (slow or quickly - at the pace you can handle) and start to enjoy pieces of daily life again. It will happen, but will take time. There will always be a part of life missing until his return, so things will be different. But sometimes different can bring amazing Blessings if we are open to them. Keep posting and Gods Blessings on both of you!

[kimis]

Hi littleflower! I am just checking in on you to see how you are doing. Also to let you know you are still in my prayers.
kimis

[Little Flower]

Hi littleflower! I am just checking in on you to see how you are doing. Also to let you know you are still in my prayers.
kimis


Hi Kimis, I'm doing much better today. I spoke to my DH last night and he might be coming home for a week in September!!! That has cheered me up no end!! I think i'm finally getting into a routine now - it's been a month already!!

thank you for thinking of me - it really helps to have the support:lovestruc

[TiggerTails57]

Hi Kimis, I'm doing much better today. I spoke to my DH last night and he might be coming home for a week in September!!! That has cheered me up no end!! I think i'm finally getting into a routine now - it's been a month already!!

thank you for thinking of me - it really helps to have the support:lovestruc

Great news! hope it works out :grouphug:

My DH did 22 years in the Air Force......our son is deployed right now. I'm planning a trip to WDW when he gets back in Oct.

[disney54us]

Hi, :grouphug: and prayers. I am not a Military wife, but my DN is. Her DH is in Iraq for his 3rd tour (15 mnths 1st tour, 15 months 2nd tour, and 12-15 this tour) and she gave birth to there first child in March. His R&R was two weeks after she had there child.
So I do understand, through her how hard it is and lonely. Try to stay positive and I do agree don't watch the news, DN stays away from that. Planning your Disney trip for the two of you should keep you busy and with time it does get a little easier. You will have good days and bad, but I think the worst is when they first leave. There's lots of craft ideas on the creative board that you may want to make for the trip:goodvibes
Thank you both for your sacrifices.

[Mickeyistheman]

I am a sister of a Marine. He will be deployed in Sept for about 7 months.

I am very scared for him, I know he is strong and is getting the training that he needs but it is very difficult for me.

He is my only brother and I just want him to come home safe, I don't want to be negative but I have to face reality to where he is going and that can change at anytime.........

SO

I decided to join a gym and when I said good bye to him I told him that when we see each other again in May I will be a skinny minnie!! He laughed and I laughed (through our tears) but I go EVERYDAY, I don't watch the news and in the evenings now our family watches the Olympics and it really helps us through those tough times.

He is still in Cali right now but once September comes I know it will get even more difficult so if I start now then come September I will be okay.

Its great that he might be coming home for a bit too!

My hugs and prayers are with you. Keep the faith

[Little Flower]

i thought i would post a little update!!

Things are going really well at the moment. After 3 months i am finally getting used to DH not being here

It looks like DH will have to travel to another base in afghanistan in the next couple of weeks so that is making me very nervous! but i know he will be fine.

I sent him over a big parcel of goodies last week - books, DVD's (i picked up Teen Wolf in the supermarket for £3!!!) Sweets. I even bought some silly halloween decorations so that they could brighten up their room for the holiday.

Just counting down the days till November 7th when he will be home:goodvibes