Could use a little pixie dust right about now...

[joanjett1976]

Or Dixie Butt as Bob Varley would have said :)

DGF and I are going through a 'trial separation' after 6 years of common-law. She moved her clothes and work station out this morning and I am trying really hard to imagine myself going up that final climb on Splash Mountain (hey, it's everyone's Laughing Place, isn't it?) but finding it very hard to do so....

[ChrizJen]

Pixie Dust to you, and hugs. :hug:

I hope the two of you can work it out. I obviously don't know the whole story, but "trial separation" sounds like you may be able to work on things if you're both interested. :hug:

Just hang in there, whatever happens. My thoughts will be with you. :hug:

[Saxton]

I'm so sorry. I really hope you two can work things out. In the meantime take care of yourself right now, spend time focusing on just you. And hang around here for support and some laughs. :hug:

[jlewisinsyr]

I'm not going to be all positive...trial seperations are often just a jumping ground to make it seem easier for a full seperation. We don't know the whole story of why, but in the end it is what it is.

Just remember who you are and focus on yourself.

[Disney_Villain]

As many people will things like "it wasn't meant to be" or "hope you two can resolve your issues", I won't.

Stick close to the other people in your life that matter to you - and don't be afraid of making new friends.

Many warm wishes from another Canadian!

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I'm sorry. :hug:

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

Sorry to hear that. :hug: Been there, done that, moved on and found out that life had something way better waiting for me just a couple of years down the line.

[DVC~OKW~96]

I'm sorry. {{{hugs}}} That's a lot of years to have invested.

Focus on yourself. Spend time doing what you want to do, that maybe you haven't been able to do for a long time. Do things you've never done before. Try them out. Try them on.

Determine who you will be without your partner, and then be that person.

Breathe. Deep. Picture Splash Mountain and any other visual that helps you step through the initial days.

Then, focus on the newness of it, maybe even the wonder of it, eh?

Take care and know that you have a board full of friends here to visit any time you please. {{{hugs}}}

[ConcKahuna]

:grouphug:

[Mackey Mouse]

I do not know the particulars, but I did like this comment by one of the previous posters:

"Just remember who you are and focus on yourself."

I know you tried to work on it and you are probably emotionally exhausted right now, but you will get through this. Just keep focused on you and your well being and keep friends and family close to help you through.

I am sorry.

[PghLybrt]

I am sorry too, I know it is hard now. But I am with the others, do for you now. Maybe go out and do something you always wanted to and never had the opportunity. :hug:

[TuckandStuiesMom]

:grouphug: Hugs for you in this difficult time :grouphug:

[joanjett1976]

Thanks for all the words everyone.

It is very hard and can't imagine how I will resume a normal life through this trial.

DGF feels she needs this space to deal with some family-related personal issues that polluted our relationship and simultaneously embark on some sort of couples counseling to try to get past some long festering issues that were bothering her but could never bring up. It's all very reasonable and no cruelties were exchanged and she said this hurts her as much as it probably hurts me and i do believe her because she was a hot mess. I know there is still a lot, a lot of love there and hopefully we can find some tools to bring our relationship back to where it was. We are in contact and we did agree to some dates and established this was not a time where we would see other people. It just requires a lot of faith and trust in the unknown, i suppose.

A friend is actually looking into a quickie WDW weekend in early July. Tower of Terror as therapy?

[ConcKahuna]

Tower of Terror as therapy?

Always a great option! :thumbsup2

[minicoopercraig]

Tower of Terror as therapy?

First off...you don't want regular ole pixie dust, you want the gayest pixie dust you can find. I just so happen to keep some in my Cher Cookie Jar (Don't ask where I got the jar. Oh, and don't ask about the "CheBettCelinJudEarthBabs Pixie Dust *copyright*.) :goodvibes:

Secondly, if you're making a weekend pilgrimage, I'm going to have to say that Expedition Everest will certainly help with the erasing recent bad thoughts from your mind issue. But it will keep other memories in line. Although, I did come down with a case of "School-Girl-Like Giggles" after the ride. Could be contagious (sp).
:hippie: :hippie:

[joanjett1976]

First off...you don't want regular ole pixie dust, you want the gayest pixie dust you can find. I just so happen to keep some in my Cher Cookie Jar (Don't ask where I got the jar. Oh, and don't ask about the "CheBettCelinJudEarthBabs Pixie Dust *copyright*.) :goodvibes:


It will be our little secret ;)

[minicoopercraig]

Okay, let's keep it that way. LOL.

[hematite153]

Sounds rough, but, good.

A commitment to counselling, working through rough stuff and taking leaps of faith is challenging, but, can be rewarding. Being true to yourself (as others have advised) fits well within that since counselling is useless unless you fully show up.

:pixiedust:

[joanjett1976]

Sounds rough, but, good.

A commitment to counselling, working through rough stuff and taking leaps of faith is challenging, but, can be rewarding. Being true to yourself (as others have advised) fits well within that since counselling is useless unless you fully show up.

:pixiedust:

Yes, rough indeed. Thank you for the good advice. I think she is in a dark place right now and basically needs to let go of all her anger and be away from 'us'. (She has never allowed herself to be angry in five years so there's lots of pent up frustration there) Pushing for a speedy resolution will only hurt the process, I now understand.

[Tigger&Belle]

I'm so sorry. :hug: I hope that she works through what she needs to work through and that the counseling helps. Hopefully everything will turn out wonderful between you two and you'll be all the stronger for going through this challenge.

And I'm a firm believer in Tower of Terror therapy. :thumbsup2

[tomboy_m]

I am sorry. I would suggest that you take this time to figure out exactly who you are and what you want and need. A trial separation is just what it is... could go either way. If you end up together or apart... any time you take to build yourself up will be well spent. Do the things you love to do.. including disney... take a friend on that walk up splash mountain and ride it as if it were the first time you have ever been on it. And, rember that sometimes life is easier without the day to day stress and work of a relationship.

Good luck.. sending a ton of pixie dust your way.

[quietgirll]

:grouphug:

good luck....i hope everything works out for the best, one way or the other..

[NikkiPants]

:hug: That's a rough situation. I hope things work out for you both.