Rob and Scott's Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding-TR Pg 92; Photo Update pg 133

[rpmdfw]

Several people here on the Gay & Lesbian Forum have expressed an interest in what it's like to have a Disney Fairy Tale Wedding . . . er . . . Commitment Ceremony.

Well, we had our planning session and menu tasting with Disney yesterday, and thought I'd let you all know how it went.

For those of you who don't know how the process with DFTW works: You book your venues either a year or eight months in advance (depends on which locations you want), you put down a deposit and sign the contract. At that point, you're assigned a wedding planner. At the six-month mark, you set up a planning session with your wedding planner and sit down with the Disney folks and plan out all the details (Or as many as possible). The planning session can be done in person or over the phone. If you are able to do the planning session, it takes place in Franck's Wedding Studio and you get to do a cake tasting and a menu tasting.

That's what we did yesterday. The planning session and tastings.

Things went VERY well with our planning session yesterday. I'll go into detail and include pictures (food porn) in the next post.

[rpmdfw]

Okay, first off I have to say that I'm terribly impressed with how well Disney handles this process. They make it VERY easy, and as low-stress as it can possibly be. It helped that our wedding planner was a blast to deal with. She made it fun, and comfortable.

As for the fact that we're two gay men, you'd think that they deal with commitment ceremonies every day, all day long. They all acted like they were genuinely happy for us and honored to be a part of our big day. This goes a LONG way toward justifying the cost in our book.

We arrived (accompanied by my mom) at the wedding studio at a bit before our 9 am start time, and wandered around the room a little bit (along with other people there for planning sessions. I gotta say, one of those girls was SCARY tacky, but I digress).

They schedule 4 hours for the planning session. We were done in two. Apparently most people don't walk in with everything in lists and spreadsheets the way I did, because they were very impressed with our level of organization.

We walked through our vision for "our day" from beginning to end in as great of detail as we could. Where are we staying, where are we getting ready, are we going to see each other before the ceremony? How are we getting there? How are the guests getting there? How is everyone getting to the reception? What order do things happen at the reception? Details about photography, etc. It was a lot of fun, and having done our research ahead of time really paid off. We breezed through the questions with answers to most of the questions.

Once that was done they brought out the "cake tray" with eight cake flavors and 10 filling flavors for us to try. Can I just say I want someone to bring me a "cake tray" every day. It was yummy! And mixing and matching the flavors was very fun. Here's what it looks like.

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Next, the floral event planner who works with DFTW arrived, just as we were deciding on cakes. She was a real hoot, and I was kind of bummed that we really won't be working with her that much. We're just doing 6 boutonnieres and 3 corsages. The centerpieces we're using are non-floral and do double duty as centerpiece and wedding favor, so we didn't need any flowers for the tables. We're not getting flowers on the cake because we thought it looked too girly, and the Atlantic Dance Hall (where the reception is) doesn't need any additional decorations.

Up next: We're done early, how do we kill three hours before our menu tasting at the Boardwalk?

[rpmdfw]

Okay, so we were done with the planning session shortly after 11am. Our tasting at the Boardwalk was at 2:30. What to do, what to do?

We went home and took a nap, of course!

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[wallyb]

I have been thinking you needed to be "Committed."
I didn't know they served cake for that in Fla. :lmao:
Save me a piece will ya?

Best of luck with all the - stuff. ;)

FYI - I'm a chocolate and Raspberry fan. :goodvibes

[rpmdfw]

Feeling refreshed by a nap. We made our way the the Boardwalk resort for the menu tasting. After a bit of confusion on our part of where to meet our wedding planner, we were ushered into the kitchen of the Boardwalk convention center, where a banquet table was set for with three place settings and multiple napkins (so we could pick which napkin fold we wanted for the recepton.) We were introduced to the two young gentlemen who would be conducting our tasting. Their names were Jason and Damon, and I'm guessing that they're sous chefs at the Boardwalk, but I'm not sure if that's the case or not. It doesn't matter, they were very professional and extremely helpful throughout the tasting. (and kind of cute, to boot). We also met the Catering manager for the Boardwalk and were attended by Jan, who is one of the banquet servers. Truly, it was service fit for a king, or in our case, a couple of queens.

The first thing we tasted were the appetizers we'd chosen: A Maryland Style Crabcake with remolade sauce and a carmelized onion tartlet. They were both delicious, and I licked my fingers. I did manage to keep from licking the plate, however. I do have SOME manners. (And my mother was sitting next to me.)

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Next we tried the salad of mixed greens with three different dressings: Lowfat Zinfandel Vinaigrette, Bacon Ranch, and Garlic Caesar. I'm going to have a really difficult time chosing one when we eat at our reception. Once again I was licking my fingers. No pictures of the dressings I'm afraid, but here's the salad:

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Up next was the second salad: a tomato, cucumber, and red onion salad in an herb vinaigrette. It was also very tasty, but I'm running out of adjectives to describe how wonderful the food was. :rotfl:

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Up next the entree selections, and I drool some more . . .

[rpmdfw]

I have been thinking you needed to be "Committed."


Hello, Kettle, this is the pot . . .


Save me a piece will ya?

Best of luck with all the - stuff.

FYI - I'm a chocolate and Raspberry fan.


Scott and my mom both raved about the raspberry mousse. But, since I'm allergic to raspberries, we're not having it anywhere near our cake. (or anything else for that matter) :sick:

But thanks for the well wishes! :thumbsup2

[OrlandoMike]

Geesh, All of a sudden I'm hungry! popcorn::

Get to the meat and potatoes would ya!

[zulemara]

Truly, it was service fit for a king, or in our case, a couple of queens.
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :lmao: :lmao:

you just cracked me up on that one! Make sure you cover what they arrange for DJ services at the reception. I'm a mobile DJ and have thought about trying to get into their wedding DJ area when I move down there

[rpmdfw]

And now the main course.

We're having a buffet at the reception (that's all they do at the Atlantic Dance Hall), so we'd tried to create a menu that would appeal to a lot of people. We knew that we wanted a roast beef carving station with rolls, horsradish, herbed mayo, fancy mustard, etc. We also decided on tri-color cheese torellini, parmesan crusted chicken with a tomato sauce on either the pasta or the chicken, depending on how they tasted, and an alfredo or cream sauce on one as well. We figured that way we'd have a balance of flavors. One tomato sauce, and one cream sauce. Nice contrast. We'd make that decision at the tasting. Well at the tasting the chefs threw us a curve ball. Instead of having tortellini with one of two sauces, they offered us a pasta action station with the torellini in alfredo and penne in tomato sauce. For no additional cost. Score! We loved this idea. :woohoo: :worship:

Once we had both of the sauces allocated for pasta, though; we needed to figure out what kind of sauce we wanted for the chicken. (A chicken breast that was so delicious that it could be served without a sauce in my opinion. And very moist despite having spent time in the "hot box" in the kitchen) So they had us taste a mushroom cream sauce and a marinara sauce. In addition to that though, they spoke to us and offered to whip up a Limoncello Buer Blanc sauce. We said we'd give that a try. OH. MY. GOD. That sauce was amazing!

So here's what we tried. Peppercorn Beef Tenderloin Medallions (will be carved on the buffet), Parmesan Crusted Chicken Breast shown here with the mushroom cream sauce and the marinara sauce, green beans sauteed with shallots and red peppers, and two different potatoes. The steamed new potatoes were good, but the roasted yukon gold tossed with olive oil and rosemary were delicious, so that's the one we chose.

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Yeah. We chose the limoncello sauce. Sweet, light, and rich. We'll have it served on the side, so the chicken doesn't get soggy, but I may ask for a bowl of it and eat it like soup.

For dessert, we decided on a fresh fruit display to supplement the very tasty wedding cake.

And that was it. We'd had a great day, loads of fun, tasted lots of tasty food, and we planned "Our Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding"!

And now we're REALLY excited for September!

[rpmdfw]

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :lmao: :lmao:

you just cracked me up on that one! Make sure you cover what they arrange for DJ services at the reception. I'm a mobile DJ and have thought about trying to get into their wedding DJ area when I move down there

Glad to have made you laugh.

What we found out about the DJ is that Disney will assign one of their DJs to us and he'll contact us about 30 days before our reception to get our list of songs,etc.

I'll try to remember to include that when the time comes.

[OrlandoMike]

Did you bring anything home for Tolliver?

[wallyb]

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :lmao: :lmao:

you just cracked me up on that one! Make sure you cover what they arrange for DJ services at the reception. I'm a mobile DJ and have thought about trying to get into their wedding DJ area when I move down there

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Play, come on
Play that song
Play it all night long
Just turn it up and turn me on
Play, come on dj
Play that song
You that it turns me on
Just turn it up and turn me on

[rpmdfw]

Did you bring anything home for Tolliver?

Um . . . a hug. :rotfl:

We don't typically let him eat "people food" so we don't bring leftovers home to him. Though that rule does tend to go out the window when Grandma and Papa are in town because my parents are determined to spoil our dog. (or the "Grandpuppy" as he is sometimes known)

[rpmdfw]

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This reminds me of a note I need to make for the DJ:

NO CHICKEN DANCE!

[TinkerChelle]

Wow! That food looks yummy. Happy planning!

[zulemara]

This reminds me of a note I need to make for the DJ:

NO CHICKEN DANCE!

ok I'm gonna get on a soap box for a moment. This is only an opinion, it is indeed your wedding, and Disney might do things differently in terms of interaction.

soapbox
As a mobile DJ, I do weddings nearly every weekend and it will be every weekend for the next 3 months solid as we are approaching the heavy wedding season. We do all the planning for setting up events and song requests. This is where I'm going to define what I am. I am not a DJ. A DJ sits behind a box and plays music with little to no microphone work or involvement with anybody except people asking for requests. I am an entertainer. As an entertainer, I get involved with the crowd. I organize the grand march, first dance, parents dance, garter removal(he dances for it to "I'm too sexy for my shirt") and toss, the boquet toss, and the dollar dance. I also do games like Find the bride, find the groom, and anything else asked of me. I invite people to the dance floor by playing a slow song, making them continue dancing, and then tricking them into beer barrel polka(It's WI, don't kill me)

At pretty much every show, I put on a full MJ thriller costume with wig and glove and do the entire Thriller. I'm working on learning how to teach it to a few participants. I also have silver metalic pants and a spandex shirt which work oh so perfectly with the YMCA. I lead the YMCA dance and guess where I got the dance from? Disney Cruise Line of course! It's my own personal homage to Disney at every show.

Sound like fun? I sure hope so! But there is one problem - when I first started a year ago, we would ask the bride ahead of time if "interactive" songs are ok. Interactive songs being the Chicken dance, hokey pokey, Cha Cha, Electric slide, and you guessed it, the YMCA.

We also had a section to indicate what you wanted from us. A jukebox, a moderate entertainer, or an outgoing one. People would circle outgoing, yet say no interactive songs. I'm an entertainer, not a stand up comedian. I need a little help, and people would alienate the crowd's ability to have fun by cutting out either one or a selection of interactive songs.

An entertainer uses these songs as a tool. No, you might not enjoy them, but grandma Betty might love them. We give everyone the opportunity to dance.
I came into the office one day complaining that the contract stated outgoing entertainer but no interactive songs(specifically no YMCA) I took the boring YMCA, pretty much copied Disney, threw on some outrageous clothes, and made my own "magical moment" for every crowd I interact with, yet this bride didn't even want the POSSIBILITY of such a thing happening.

As a result of my reasoning in the office, we no longer ask people if they want interactive songs. It's up to the entertainer to read the crowd and determine if it's a good idea or not.

So what is my point? My point is that by specifically saying "no chicken dance" you are alienating a portion of your crowd who might not dance the entire night, but would love to do the chicken dance. In a year I have easily done 50-75 weddings and I can tell you the most successful and fun receptions are the ones with the least amount of restrictions. At the very least, I urge you to consider telling the DJ/entertainer "I'd prefer not to do the chicken dance unless someone asks for it" At least that way you are leaving open the possibility. Also keep in mind it's Disney. If I took the way they do the YMCA on the cruise ship and twisted it, imagine what your DJ might have done with the chicken dance!

Again, this is not meant to be disrespectful. It's your reception, but I speak based on experience and a desire for the two of you and your crowd to have the best time possible.

/soapbox

[wallyb]

This reminds me of a note I need to make for the DJ:

NO CHICKEN DANCE!

Well, I had this beaded and bangled
mother in-law of the bride over-the-top Loehmann's
kaftan thing with a matching turbin - I was going to wear
to this little hullabaloo - but No chicken dance!
Can we do the Electric Slide?
The YMCA dance?
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[TuckandStuiesMom]

Officially cracking the seal on the Cherry Garcia here and getting teary-eyed. i :lovestruc luv :lovestruc the chicken dance and the YMCA dance and so on and so on. :sad1: My daughter has flat told me that she is NOT getting married. EVER. (she's a Rocker Grrrl and that's just the way it is.) So no fun wedding/reception stuff for me.I am SO happy for you RPMDFW and more than a little jealous of your mom. It all looks wonderful, beautiful, and fabulous!!!! You are going to have an awesome wedding!!!!

[OrlandoMike]

As a server/bartender....I LOVE THE CHICKEN DANCE!

That's when we take our break! Guaranteed a good 20 minutes before anyone wants another drink! :rotfl2:

[Saxton]

Thanks for posting all the details and especially the pictures. I always wondered what was involved in the planning. Everything sounds amazing!

[TammieLand]

Thank you so much for posting this thread!

Very interesting and the food porn was, well, wonderful....

Down here it's not so much the chicken dance but doing "the stroke"....

shameful, but fun...

[JRoyster86]

This is an excellent thread! My DP and I are planning on having a commitment ceremony in Disney once we both finish grad school and actually start making some money! :goodvibes

[mykidsintow]

Yummmm.... This thread makes me want to get a divorce!

We eloped in FL. My husband was in the AF and at Biloxi. Pensacola was the first place that didn't require waiting period and/or bloodwork.. So we took a long weekend and did the deed. The nice lady with the big hair and scary blue eye shadow made it short and sweet. We flew kites and rode go-karts and he was back at tech school in 3 days.

I don't regret no wedding. Someone is always whining, I could never please everyone, blah. Too bad we can't just go eat all that food and say we ummm "renewed our vows"? LOL I know lame excuse to get that yummy looking food!

I guess the *perfect* wedding to me would be the $67 ring, scary blue eyeshadow and that FOOD! YUM! Oh and the icing on the cake was listening to him call his momma and tell her what we had done. Oops, no warning. :rotfl:

Tks for the awsome post!

[rpmdfw]

So what is my point? My point is that by specifically saying "no chicken dance" you are alienating a portion of your crowd who might not dance the entire night, but would love to do the chicken dance. In a year I have easily done 50-75 weddings and I can tell you the most successful and fun receptions are the ones with the least amount of restrictions. At the very least, I urge you to consider telling the DJ/entertainer "I'd prefer not to do the chicken dance unless someone asks for it" At least that way you are leaving open the possibility. Also keep in mind it's Disney. If I took the way they do the YMCA on the cruise ship and twisted it, imagine what your DJ might have done with the chicken dance!

Again, this is not meant to be disrespectful. It's your reception, but I speak based on experience and a desire for the two of you and your crowd to have the best time possible.



zulemara, thank you for posting this and giving me a different perspective on "interactive dances". And we WILL now consider changing the "NO, NOT ANY OF THEM" stance.

That said, the chicken dance is not something we did in my family. The first I ever even heard of it was when I saw it in a movie when I was in college. We have no tradition or memories associated with it and Scott and I both DETEST it. I feel similarly about the cha-cha, electric slide, and mambo #5. I could probably deal with the Hustle, the Macarena (Scott would kill me, though, he hates it) or the even YMCA; though I have to say that I've always thought that a song about gay men cruising at a bathhouse was an inappropriate and odd choice to be played at a wedding and I always crack up when I see all the str8 people rushing out to the dance floor because it's playing. :rotfl2:

My thought is that there are plenty of really fun songs that will get us up and dancing without resorting to the "gimmick" dances. I've got "The Twist" on the "must play" list because it never fails to get my entire family on the floor, and at 65 my dad will be the best twister out there. He always was, and it fascinated us as kids.

But, you're right, we do want it to be fun for our guests, and maybe we'll change our minds. Or maybe we'll decide to have Mickey Mouse show up at our reception to dance and see if that takes the places of the gimmicky stuff. (And yes, I realize that Mickey in and of himself is a gimmick at the reception, but it's a gimmick that you ONLY get at Disney, so why the heck not.)

We're also asking them not to play any of the "Gay Anthems" at the reception. So no "I Will Survive" (the song that brings out the inner drag queen in EVERYONE), no "It's Raining Men", no "I'm Coming Out" etc. This may disappoint some people; but to us it seemed like "too much", for the same reason we didn't even consider doing our reception at "The Great Movie Ride" (which is an option Disney offers, by the way.) We thought that cutting the wedding cake at a gay wedding in the Wizard of Oz scene with the Wicked Witch there to say "and your little dog, too" was just TOO MUCH. Too cliche, too tacky.

Okay, I'll end my rant now. But truly, thank you for your thoughts, and Scott and I will discuss these things again looking at it from the perspective you've provided.

[rpmdfw]

Officially cracking the seal on the Cherry Garcia here and getting teary-eyed. i :lovestruc I am SO happy for you RPMDFW and more than a little jealous of your mom. It all looks wonderful, beautiful, and fabulous!!!! You are going to have an awesome wedding!!!!

I think so too! And my mom has been enjoying every minute of it. Many of her friends have told her how lucky she is to be experiencing the planning of her son's wedding because most of the time the groom's mom isn't as involved. But since Scott's parents are no longer with us, Scott will be cutting into the Mother/Son dance and dancing with my mom, and my parent's flowers will have a mix of Scott's light blue and my cobalt blue. He's part of the family, so we're sharing the parents.

As a server/bartender....I LOVE THE CHICKEN DANCE!
That's when we take our break! Guaranteed a good 20 minutes before anyone wants another drink! :rotfl2:

Gosh! I forgot to ask the bartenders what they're preference was! How thoughtless of me! :lmao:

Thanks for posting all the details and especially the pictures. I always wondered what was involved in the planning. Everything sounds amazing!

You're welcome! There's a lot more involved with the planning, but the planning session is really "the fun stuff".

Thank you so much for posting this thread!
Very interesting and the food porn was, well, wonderful....
Down here it's not so much the chicken dance but doing "the stroke"....
shameful, but fun...

Never heard of the stroke. If it's shameful but fun, it might be right for us! :banana: And if you think the food porn looked good, you should have tasted it. I'm craving more of that chicken right now! (Scott's telling people we're having the "Chipper Chicken" at the wedding. :rotfl: )

This is an excellent thread! My DP and I are planning on having a commitment ceremony in Disney once we both finish grad school and actually start making some money! :goodvibes

Well, it sure ain't cheap, but we think it's going to be worth it. Start saving up now, and enjoy the ride when you get there! :thumbsup2

Yummmm.... This thread makes me want to get a divorce!
I don't regret no wedding. Someone is always whining, I could never please everyone, blah. Too bad we can't just go eat all that food and say we ummm "renewed our vows"? LOL I know lame excuse to get that yummy looking food!
Tks for the awsome post!

Disney does a LOT of vow renewals. It makes a lot of sense, too. Many people can't afford to do a big wedding when they're young and starting out. So why not have the big fun party when you can do it. A lot of people then turn it into a family reunion, celebration of family as well.

And we're not worried about pleasing everyone. We're really just doing what we like and hoping everyone else climbs on board the band wagon!

[OrlandoMike]

or the even YMCA; though I have to say that I've always thought that a song about gay men cruising at a bathhouse was an inappropriate and odd choice to be played at a wedding and I always crack up when I see all the str8 people rushing out to the dance floor because it's playing. :rotfl2:



Makes me laugh every time!

"Hello! Are you listening to the words???":rotfl2:

[rpmdfw]

Makes me laugh every time!

"Hello! Are you listening to the words???":rotfl2:

Speaking of gay men cruising at a bathhouse, Scott and I saw "Bathhouse the Musical" along with the Wanzie production of "When Pigs Fly" last night at the Orlando International Fringe Theatre Festival. For those of you who are local, the Fringe may be the gayest event of the year outside of Gay Days at Disney. What a BLAST!

[OrlandoMike]

I saw the "Ladies of Lake Eola" with Wanzie and Doug.....hysterical!

[rpmdfw]

I saw the "Ladies of Lake Eola" with Wanzie and Doug.....hysterical!

We missed that one! Apparently Wanzie was in a car accident yesterday and his understudy performed most of his role last night. He did come out and sing a love song to Dick Cheney though. (It's a very INTERESTING show.)

We enjoyed Bathhouse the Musical more. Boys in towels. Need I say more?

[PghLybrt]

I am loving this!! I have never known anyone to get maried at Disney, so youare giving great insight! It might be the spot for my sister!

Now on a serious note....i vote no on the chicken dance as well :rolleyes1
(of course this might not have been open to debate!!)

[rpmdfw]

I am loving this!! I have never known anyone to get maried at Disney, so youare giving great insight! It might be the spot for my sister!

Now on a serious note....i vote no on the chicken dance as well :rolleyes1
(of course this might not have been open to debate!!)

Oh, I'll listen to any debate on the chicken dance anybody wants to throw out there. Especially those who are against it! :lmao:

[OrlandoMike]

Your getting married at Disney World, not some Bowling alley in Milwaukee!

(Nothing against Milwaukee, I've had a lot of fun there!)

But I vote no on the Chicken Dance!

[mykidsintow]

I vote on chicken dance for kids birthday parties. Maybe active 80 yr old birthday party. A 50th wedding anniversary for the right type of outgoing couple.

For a wedding.... I vote no to the chicken dance. Of course this is coming from the person that got married at JOP with some crazy woman with bright blue eyeshadow..... Take it for what you will.

If I was going out of my way to have an awsome memorable wedding and reception at a place such as Disney.... I wouldn't want the chicken dance. Frankly, I wouldn't care what my guests thought. I doubt any will suffer long-term from not having the chicken dance. Of course, this goes back to why I eloped and had the blue eyeshadow woman ;). If they really need the chicken dance that bad, I would suggest them pairing the wedding trip with a nice baseball game....

[zulemara]

zulemara, thank you for posting this and giving me a different perspective on "interactive dances". And we WILL now consider changing the "NO, NOT ANY OF THEM" stance.

That said, the chicken dance is not something we did in my family. The first I ever even heard of it was when I saw it in a movie when I was in college. We have no tradition or memories associated with it and Scott and I both DETEST it. I feel similarly about the cha-cha, electric slide, and mambo #5. I could probably deal with the Hustle, the Macarena (Scott would kill me, though, he hates it) or the even YMCA; though I have to say that I've always thought that a song about gay men cruising at a bathhouse was an inappropriate and odd choice to be played at a wedding and I always crack up when I see all the str8 people rushing out to the dance floor because it's playing. :rotfl2:

My thought is that there are plenty of really fun songs that will get us up and dancing without resorting to the "gimmick" dances. I've got "The Twist" on the "must play" list because it never fails to get my entire family on the floor, and at 65 my dad will be the best twister out there. He always was, and it fascinated us as kids.

But, you're right, we do want it to be fun for our guests, and maybe we'll change our minds. Or maybe we'll decide to have Mickey Mouse show up at our reception to dance and see if that takes the places of the gimmicky stuff. (And yes, I realize that Mickey in and of himself is a gimmick at the reception, but it's a gimmick that you ONLY get at Disney, so why the heck not.)

We're also asking them not to play any of the "Gay Anthems" at the reception. So no "I Will Survive" (the song that brings out the inner drag queen in EVERYONE), no "It's Raining Men", no "I'm Coming Out" etc. This may disappoint some people; but to us it seemed like "too much", for the same reason we didn't even consider doing our reception at "The Great Movie Ride" (which is an option Disney offers, by the way.) We thought that cutting the wedding cake at a gay wedding in the Wizard of Oz scene with the Wicked Witch there to say "and you're little dog, too" was just TOO MUCH. Too cliche, too tacky.

Okay, I'll end my rant now. But truly, thank you for your thoughts, and Scott and I will discuss these things again looking at it from the perspective you've provided.

In every job I've had, I try to help people understand the other side of the McDonalds counter, the other side of the retail guy, and the other side of the DJ(which btw is a thankless job)

I have to say though, I'm a little disappointed about no gay anthems:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Truthfully, I will survive is a song that rarely ever gets played in this area and It's raining men is reserved for garter tosses.

In my opinion, no one knows the hustle and everyone except 9yos hates the Macarena. LOL that is one where if a bride says No macarena I scream with joy! 5 min of the same thing? gosh!

I frequently use Shout, the twist, then twist and shout later on in the night. They have lots of energy and it gets the older crowd dancing after you've been forced to play modern music.

It's a different part of the country and a different family history. 99% of people have one particular genre they like and think it's the only and best genre. I can have a packed dance floor to shout and some snotty 19yo will come up to me and say "play something newer, this old stuff sucks"
then the next person comes off the dance floor after build me up buttercup and says "awesome music, I feel young again"

Then of course there's the dreaded "Can you play soulja boy?" You can put that one on the do not play list :worship: :worship: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:

Ok so that was a mini soapbox. I don't get to voice my opinion or challenges about wedding receptions to the public very much, so I kind of took this as my chance to do that and help anyone, not just you two, think about a couple different things.

Best of luck to both of you and I am insanely jealous that you're able to do what you are doing. DBF wants to get married in the fall in MA. We get to honeymoon at WDW or DCL though, so I still get half the Disney feelnig!

[rpmdfw]

Um, I don't even know what "soulja boy" is.

Honestly, we're probably looking at mostly 60s, 70s, and 80s music for our crowd. Don't know of anyone who is in that "late teen/early twenties" demographic that is even coming to the wedding. And thank you for mentioning "Shout" and "Twist and Shout". I'm adding them to the play list.

As Scott and I are both (barely) over 40. We've got folks in their late twenties/early thirties through my parents generation in their sixties and seventies. And a few little kids thrown in to the mix.

[chip007]

Sounds like you had a great time. Congrats!

I'm curious, what other options does Disney have for receptions and what made you pick your location?

[rpmdfw]

Sounds like you had a great time. Congrats!

I'm curious, what other options does Disney have for receptions and what made you pick your location?

Disney has LOADS of options! Ceremonies can be held at the Wedding Pavillion, Yacht Club Gazebo, Sea Breeze Point (on the Boardwalk) or at several locations in World Showcase. And there are other locations that are used as well. Sunset Point at the Polynesian, a location at Wilderness Lodge, etc.

Receptions can be held in several unique locations as well as in the ballrooms on property. They also do receptions at the Living Seas private lounge, the American Adventure Rotunda, the American Adventure private lounge, the Piazza in the Italian Pavillion, the Great Movie Ride (it's a progressive reception there--cocktails and appetizers in the gangster section with appropriatly dressed actors to interact with your guests. Dinner in the Western section with cowboy actors, dessert and cake cutting in the Wizard of Oz location with Glinda interacting with guests an the Wicked Witch, then dancing under the "stars" in the black box room where they show the movies at the end of the ride. VERY cool, but not for us).

When they showed us the Atlantic Dance Hall we fell in love with it. It's just the right size for us, it's a gorgeous art deco dance palace. No additional decorations needed. AND because our guest count is as high as it is (:scared1: ) we're not spending any more money than if we'd booked a hotel ballroom. The only catch is that if you want an evening reception you have to book Sunday or Monday night because the ADH is open to the public on Tuesday thru Saturday. That's why we're having ours on Sunday.

[zulemara]

Um, I don't even know what "soulja boy" is.

Honestly, we're probably looking at mostly 60s, 70s, and 80s music for our crowd. Don't know of anyone who is in that "late teen/early twenties" demographic that is even coming to the wedding. And thank you for mentioning "Shout" and "Twist and Shout". I'm adding them to the play list.

As Scott and I are both (barely) over 40. We've got folks in their late twenties/early thirties through my parents generation in their sixties and seventies. And a few little kids thrown in to the mix.

good! Trust me, you don't want to hear the crap music this "artist" puts out!

We always start old and work new, but if I don't have requests for modern music I usually play 3 songs tops, plus maybe the cha cha. I should just write out my general playlist for weddings and then you can pick and choose which songs you like. Just don't be a "bridezilla" haha:rotfl:

[wallyb]

Disney has LOADS of options! Ceremonies can be held at the Wedding Pavillion, Yacht Club Gazebo, Sea Breeze Point (on the Boardwalk) or at several locations in World Showcase. And there are other locations that are used as well.

How about right before :eek: the big drop on splash mountain -
new meaning to take the plunge. ;)

[rpmdfw]

How about right before :eek: the big drop on splash mountain -
new meaning to take the plunge. ;)

:rotfl2:

You don't even want to know what a Magic Kingdom ceremony costs! :eek: :scared: :scared1:

And then you have to hold the ceremony after the park closes for the night, so it's either book for January, or get hitched at 1am.

[rpmdfw]

good! Trust me, you don't want to hear the crap music this "artist" puts out!

We always start old and work new, but if I don't have requests for modern music I usually play 3 songs tops, plus maybe the cha cha. I should just write out my general playlist for weddings and then you can pick and choose which songs you like. Just don't be a "bridezilla" haha:rotfl:

Actually, I'd love it if you'd send me your playlist. It'd give us a great "starting off point". I'll send you a PM with my email address, if you don't mind.

Oh. And I reserve the right to turn into BRIDEZILLA or GROOMZILLA or GAYZILLA or any combination thereof at any point that a durned well please! :laughing:

[zulemara]

Actually, I'd love it if you'd send me your playlist. It'd give us a great "starting off point". I'll send you a PM with my email address, if you don't mind.

Oh. And I reserve the right to turn into BRIDEZILLA or GROOMZILLA or GAYZILLA or any combination thereof at any point that a durned well please! :laughing:

:rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:


oh and last summer I spent countless hours in Barnes n Noble reading every Disney tour book I could get my hands on. From what I've read, an MK package is 40k. So much for a downpayment on a house!:worship:

edit: just remember it's the DJ's job to READ the crowd. Every minute detail to how people are dressed to how they dance can indicate what type of music they will enjoy

[rpmdfw]

:rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:


oh and last summer I spent countless hours in Barnes n Noble reading every Disney tour book I could get my hands on. From what I've read, an MK package is 40k. So much for a downpayment on a house!:worship:

edit: just remember it's the DJ's job to READ the crowd. Every minute detail to how people are dressed to how they dance can indicate what type of music they will enjoy

Yeah. From what I hear those tour books are out of date!

And I understand what you're saying about the DJ, and I have no intention of giving them too many restrictions. But I'm curious to see what the list would look like. I'm a big believer in hiring talented professionals and then letting them do their job. That means giving them the leeway to make judgement calls.

[rpmdfw]

Okay, I have to say that I'm very surprised that there aren't more questions about the cake. I show you this picture:

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/20080519_0007.jpg

With 8 cake flavors and 10 fillings, and only one person has commented. Nobody is curious about the flavors? What we chose? What the cake will look like? :confused3

I expected a lot of questions about that stuff so I could set y'all up for the pic of the cake, but if you're not interested, then we can go back to talking about the chicken dance . . . . :rolleyes1

[OrlandoMike]

I vote for Yellow cake with Butter Cream frosting!

Are you having a cake topper of some sort?

[wallyb]

Is there a chicken flavored cake?
Or a Cake with a Chicken on it?
Or chickens around it?

Doesn't chicken mean something entirely "different" to us gay dudes?
If you think of it that way - it might be nice to see some chickens dance.

Maybe one could pop out of your chicken cake? :lmao:

[OrlandoMike]

Behave Wally!

Honestly, I think some of that "golden diaphanous splendor" seeped into your brain! :rotfl2:

Besides, we are talking about the wedding reception, not the bachelor party!

[PghLybrt]

.
some snotty 19yo will come up to me and say "play something newer, this old stuff sucks"


Ok its not always a 19 year old is it :rolleyes1 because you just described me on the last Olivia cruise I went on :rotfl2:


As for the cake, sorry I would ask but I am really not a cake person. I like vanilla and raspberry. Since that’s out I probably would not eat it. Sorry. But again that cake should be your favorite!!!!!!

Now the actually food ....looked so good we ordered lunch early at work!!!

[rpmdfw]

I vote for Yellow cake with Butter Cream frosting!

Are you having a cake topper of some sort?

Yes, we are having a cake topper.

And how cute that you think you get a vote! :lmao: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :laughing:

[rpmdfw]

Is there a chicken flavored cake?
Or a Cake with a Chicken on it?
Or chickens around it?

Doesn't chicken mean something entirely "different" to us gay dudes?
If you think of it that way - it might be nice to see some chickens dance.

Maybe one could pop out of your chicken cake? :lmao:


:lmao:

That's funny. But I was never been into those kinds of chicken. :banana:

[wallyb]

Behave Wally!

Never!
And you can't make me!

Oh ...that's right ... you can. :eek:

[jamieandben]

:lmao:

That's funny. But I was never been into those kinds of chicken. :banana:

Mike, wally, rosie
One of you has to have a comeback for that

[PghLybrt]

Yes, we are having a cake topper.

And how cute that you think you get a vote! :lmao: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :laughing:

Wait we get a vote on the chicken dance but not n the cake!!!:lmao:


I do have a question, if you dont mind, how many people are you having?

[OrlandoMike]

Sometimes you dont have to have a comeback, they do it on their own!:rotfl2:



Yeah. We chose the limoncello sauce. Sweet, light, and rich. We'll have it served on the side, so the chicken doesn't get soggy

[rpmdfw]

Mike, wally, rosie
One of you has to have a comeback for that

Oh, c'mon! don't want to try one yourself? I left the door WIDE open . . . ;)

[rpmdfw]

Wait we get a vote on the chicken dance but not n the cake!!!:lmao:


I do have a question, if you dont mind, how many people are you having?

I never said you got to vote on the chicken dance. I said I'd LISTEN to the debate. It's not going to change my mind, but I'll listen! :rotfl2:

We're currently hoping to keep the guest list to 100 people. :eek: :scared:

[rpmdfw]

Sometimes you dont have to have a comeback, they do it on their own!:rotfl2:

Touche!

[rosiep]

I think so too! And my mom has been enjoying every minute of it. Many of her friends have told her how lucky she is to be experiencing the planning of her son's wedding because most of the time the groom's mom isn't as involved. But since Scott's parents are no longer with us, Scott will be cutting into the Mother/Son dance and dancing with my mom, and my parent's flowers will have a mix of Scott's light blue and my cobalt blue. He's part of the family, so we're sharing the parents.





As a MOM, this brought tears to my eyes. I have always embraced my daughter's partners and love the idea that our family is growing.

Please tell your MOM for me that she did a great job...and it shows.

[rosiep]

:lmao:

That's funny. But I was never been into those kinds of chicken. :banana:

Mike, wally, rosie
One of you has to have a comeback for that


Neither was I .............

[wallyb]

Mike, wally, rosie
One of you has to have a comeback for that

Remember - I'm doing the Wally-b-good thing!

Wally-b-bad was so "yesterday".

[rpmdfw]

As a MOM, this brought tears to my eyes. I have always embraced my daughter's partners and love the idea that our family is growing.

Please tell your MOM for me that she did a great job...and it shows.

Thank you Rosie. I'll pass the message along.

When I suggested the mixed color floral and Scott sharing our dance, both Mom and Scott got a bit misty eyed, too.

Early in our relationship, my mom gave Scott the same "talk" that she gave my sister's husband and the spouses of my cousins (who are VERY close). She took each aside and said "There are no in-laws in our family. Just family". We do a pretty good job of living up to that philosophy, too.

[jamieandben]

Oh, c'mon! don't want to try one yourself? I left the door WIDE open . . . ;)

Cant I'm the good child.:rolleyes1

[rpmdfw]

Cant I'm the good child.:rolleyes1

Experience leads me to conclude that the "good ones" are the ones you have to watch out for!

And they're usually a lot of fun, too! :thumbsup2

[OrlandoMike]

So where is the pic of the cake? Or do we have to wait for the actual wedding?

[jamieandben]

Experience leads me to conclude that the "good ones" are the ones you have to watch out for!

And they're usually a lot of fun, too! :thumbsup2
YOU GOT IT!

[rpmdfw]

Here's the cake topper.

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/IMG_0506.jpg

[rpmdfw]

And here's the cake.

Probably only three tiers for ours, though. And without the floral. We love, love, LOVE it!

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Moderne.jpg

[OrlandoMike]

Nice!:thumbsup2

[wallyb]

Remember - I'm doing the Wally-b-good thing!
Wally-b-bad was so "yesterday".

Cant I'm the good child.:rolleyes1

I'm right behind you dude.

Or is that you behind me?

Oh well-
Nothing I haven't done before.

[OrlandoMike]

I'm right behind you dude.

Or is that you behind me?

Oh well-
Nothing I haven't done before.

You had better be talking about standing in the checkout line at Walmart!

[jamieandben]

You had better be talking about standing in the checkout line at Walmart!

:lmao:

[rpmdfw]

Nice!:thumbsup2

Yeah, it's pretty awesome! And the art deco quality of the cake will work really well in the art deco interior of Atlantic Dance Hall

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Dance_Hall_Interior_Empty.jpg

[rpmdfw]

You had better be talking about standing in the checkout line at Walmart!

Wal-Mart? :scared1:

Can't we say the check out line at Target instead? ;)

[OrlandoMike]

Did they re-decorate Atlantic Dance? Looks different from what I remember.

And yes, Target is OK with me!:thumbsup2

[wallyb]

You had better be talking about standing in the checkout line at Walmart!

Well.
I was talking about support. Bro to bro unity!
Really - Where's your mind at these days? :confused3
You're so suspicious.
You haven't been "right" since your trip.
What happen up there?

We all had a "grand time" back here at the ranch. :)

[jamieandben]

After all this talk about food, cake and shopping at Walmart I'm Hungry.

[rpmdfw]

Did they re-decorate Atlantic Dance? Looks different from what I remember.


I've got no idea. We'd never been inside of ADH until our first meeting wth DFTW took us for a site visit last June.

[OrlandoMike]

You haven't been "right" since your trip.


I can assure you I haven'e been "right" for years, and I'm very proud of that fact!

Does Target sell cake? I'm hungry!popcorn::

[wallyb]

Here's the cake topper.

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/IMG_0506.jpg

Really?
And not this...
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/10611082.jpg

[rpmdfw]

I can assure you I haven'e been "right" for years, and I'm very proud of that fact!

Does Target sell cake? I'm hungry!popcorn::

I don't know how good Target's cakes are, but they make the most amazing mini-strawberry tarts! *drool*

Or you could swing by the Boardwalk Bakery on the way to work and pick up a delectable pastry or cake concoction all for you!

[PghLybrt]

I never said you got to vote on the chicken dance. I said I'd LISTEN to the debate. It's not going to change my mind, but I'll listen! :rotfl2:

We're currently hoping to keep the guest list to 100 people. :eek: :scared:

ok ok i guess we get no vote :sad1: ( although i still say no chicken dance:rotfl2: )

100 people!! It is going to be wonderfull! Will we see pictures? !!!

[wallyb]

After all this talk about food, cake and shopping at Walmart I'm Hungry.

Does Target sell cake? I'm hungry!popcorn::

I'm right behind you! ;)

[rpmdfw]

Really?
And not this...
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/10611082.jpg

:lmao: :rotfl2: :rotfl: :lmao: :rotfl2: :rotfl:

Yeah. But No.

[rpmdfw]

Will we see pictures? !!!

I think we can arrange that. :thumbsup2

[wallyb]

And here's the cake.
http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Moderne.jpg

And not this ...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/doxiebdaycake_lr.jpg

Did you even know you could get such a
splendiferous confection?!

[OrlandoMike]

Or you could swing by the Boardwalk Bakery on the way to work and pick up a delectable pastry or cake concoction all for you!


Sigh....I'd be late!

But I did throw a Hostess Orange cupcake in my lunchbox, guess that will have to do for today!

So what flavor cake did you pick?

[PghLybrt]

I think we can arrange that. :thumbsup2
:banana: :banana: :banana: Thanks!

Now i know i said that I am not a cake person...but... that cake is gorgeous! I love the topper you picked too! I often wondered about what my girl and I would do, I just don’t want two “brides” (neither of us really fit that image). I never thought of something like yours! I love it.

I also have to comment on the location. I can’t believe it but I have never been in there. Not at all what I expected. I figured it was darker, all one level…..I dunno but not as cool as it looks!

[rpmdfw]

Sigh....I'd be late!

But I did throw a Hostess Orange cupcake in my lunchbox, guess that will have to do for today!

So what flavor cake did you pick?

Three tiers, three flavors.

Bottom tier is chocolate cake with white chocolate mousse filling (I'd never have guessed that combination would be as good as it is!)

Middle tier, orange cake with orange mousse filling. SO delicious!

Top tier . . . Mike called it. yellow cake with butter cream icing as the filling.

[rpmdfw]

:banana: :banana: :banana: Thanks!

Now i know i said that I am not a cake person...but... that cake is gorgeous! I love the topper you picked too! I often wondered about what my girl and I would do, I just don’t want two “brides” (neither of us really fit that image). I never thought of something like yours! I love it.

I also have to comment on the location. I can’t believe it but I have never been in there. Not at all what I expected. I figured it was darker, all one level…..I dunno but not as cool as it looks!

Yeah, we were determined not to have two tacky plastic groom figures on the cake. And when we picked the art deco cake, I started looking for art deco cake toppers. This one isn't quite art deco, but we really like it!

And can you believe how cool the ADH is inside? I expected it to be dark and all one level, too. Never envisioned how beautiful it is.

And really, what says 'gay wedding" more than a reception at a night club? :banana: :rotfl: :dance3:

[wallyb]

Sigh....I'd be late!
But I did throw a Hostess Orange cupcake in my lunchbox, guess that will have to do for today!

Would that be a Josey and the Pussycats lunch box?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/josie.gif

[OrlandoMike]

I figured it was darker, all one level…..I dunno but not as cool as it looks!

I remember it being darker back in the day.

Sigh...back when they had live swing bands...it just never took off!

Hello Disney......Dancing with the Stars dinner show?!?!:cool1:

[rpmdfw]

I remember it being darker back in the day.

Sigh...back when they had live swing bands...it just never took off!

Hello Disney......Dancing with the Stars dinner show?!?!:cool1:

It is darker at night. It is a dance club after all, but it's just so . . . COOL!

[rpmdfw]

Would that be a Josey and the Pussycats lunch box?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/josie.gif

Okay, who gave Wally sugar?

[rpmdfw]

And not this ...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/doxiebdaycake_lr.jpg

Did you even know you could get such a
splendiferous confection?!

You want us to cut into a cake that looks like our dog!?!?!?!

Do you know how many levels of WRONG that is?

And that had better NOT be RED VELVET CAKE!!!

If it is, I'm gonna have to slap, you Ouiser!

[PghLybrt]

You want us to cut into a cake that looks like our dog!?!?!?!

Do you know how many levels of WRONG that is?

And that had better NOT be RED VELVET CAKE!!!

If it is, I'm gonna have to slap, you Ouiser!

HAHAHA it is wrong! Speaking of the pup, does he get cake too? It is a special occasion!

[rosiep]

I'm right behind you dude.

Or is that you behind me?

Oh well-
Nothing I haven't done before.

:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

Three tiers, three flavors.

Bottom tier is chocolate cake with white chocolate mousse filling (I'd never have guessed that combination would be as good as it is!)

Middle tier, orange cake with orange mousse filling. SO delicious!

Top tier . . . Mike called it. yellow cake with butter cream icing as the filling.

Oh God...cut me a slice of each! YUM!!

[rpmdfw]

HAHAHA it is wrong! Speaking of the pup, does he get cake too? It is a special occasion!

Sadly, Tolliver and his cousin MacGregor (my parents are bringing their dog) are going to be enjoying aweekend with the nice people at the vet's office/pet hotel.

We're checking into a Disney resort for 3 days of nonstop activities and they're not allowed anywhere on property. We could kennel them at Disney, but this way, at least Tolliver knows (and is spoiled by) the crew at the vet's office. They took care of him for a few days while Scott was in the hospital for appendicitis a couple months back, and he didn't want to leave.

That said, he might get a bit of frosting to lick off of a finger if there are any leftovers brought home.

[OrlandoMike]

Would that be a Josey and the Pussycats lunch box?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/josie.gif

The lunchbox matches the shoes and belt, and no, I dont have shoes and a belt to match that lunchbox, however cool it is!

[rpmdfw]

Oh God...cut me a slice of each! YUM!!

It was difficult to decide! If we could have we'd have had a 6 tier cake. The dark chocolate mousse and the mocha mousse were both close runners up. The tropical mousse (pineapple, mango, & orange) was tasty, but a bit too strong and tended to overpower the cake. The Bailey's mousse was rich and decadent (and with chocolate cake it was dreamy)

It was very hard to decide. And we didn't even taste all of the options. I know they also do the red velvet cake, cream cheese filling, german chocolate filling, and peanut butter cup mousse. If we'd had more options, we'd never have come up with just three.

[PghLybrt]

Sadly, Tolliver and his cousing MacGregor (my parents are bringing their dog) are going to be enjoying weekend with the nice people at the vet's office/pet hotel.

We're checking into a Disney resort for 3 days of nonstop activities and they're not allowed anywhere on property. We could kennel them at Disney, but this way, at least Tolliver knows (and is spoiled by) the crew at the vet's office. They took care of him for a few days while Scott was in the hospital for appendicitis a couple months back, and he didn't want to leave.

That said, he might get a bit of frosting to lick off of a finger if there are any leftovers brought home.

Bummer that they can't be there, but our always enjoy the puppy hotel for a weekend, I am sure that they will too!

I wouldnt kennel them at Disney either. It is not the same.

I do think that Tolliver would enjoy some cake! After all he is part of the family! (Well i know mine would scratch my eyes out for some!)

[rosiep]

Would that be a Josey and the Pussycats lunch box?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/josie.gif

I want a tail! I always thought I oughta have been born with a tail!

(is that TMI????)

[rpmdfw]

I want a tail! I always thought I oughta have been born with a tail!

(is that TMI????)

Um, yeah. Just a little bit.

But I did LOVE Josie and the Pussycats! Especially Alexandra! :lmao:

But I didn't have a JatP lunchbox. Mine was the classic Partridge Family lunchbox.

[rosiep]

I had school lunch (slop)...YUCK!

[JohnZ46]

Okay, I have to say that I'm very surprised that there aren't more questions about the cake. I show you this picture:

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/20080519_0007.jpg

With 8 cake flavors and 10 fillings, and only one person has commented. Nobody is curious about the flavors? What we chose? What the cake will look like? :confused3

I expected a lot of questions about that stuff so I could set y'all up for the pic of the cake, but if you're not interested, then we can go back to talking about the chicken dance . . . . :rolleyes1

There must not be very many bears on here. :lmao:

[mikelan6]

Ooh, this is so exciting - reading about your plans. For some reason, it reminds me of the movie "Steel Magnolias."

So .... did the Disney Wedding planner suggest a honeymoon location? LOL

[rpmdfw]

Ooh, this is so exciting - reading about your plans. For some reason, it reminds me of the movie "Steel Magnolias."

So .... did the Disney Wedding planner suggest a honeymoon location? LOL

She didn't. But we've already booked the 3 day Disney Cruise for the following Thurdsay using DVC points. :cool1:

[wallyb]

Ooh, this is so exciting - reading about your plans. For some reason, it reminds me of the movie "Steel Magnolias."


What Part of "Steel Magnolias" ? :confused:
The Dishy southern bells - carrying-on and pitching fits?

[rpmdfw]

What Part of "Steel Magnolias" ? :confused:
The Dishy southern bells - carrying-on and pitching fits?

the cakes shaped like animals

[wallyb]

the cakes shaped like animals

Ohh. Darn.
I was looking forward to pitching fits.

Are you saying the Dog cake is in then?

We could cut it with this...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/100811.jpg

As we listen to the dulcet tones of...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/liberace_daisy.jpg

And then you depart for the rapture of the honeymoon suite wearing...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/liberace.jpg

[zulemara]

And I understand what you're saying about the DJ, and I have no intention of giving them too many restrictions. But I'm curious to see what the list would look like. I'm a big believer in hiring talented professionals and then letting them do their job. That means giving them the leeway to make judgement calls.

That was my only concern and I'm glad you believe in that.

As for the rest of this thread, let the hijacking continue :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :banana: :banana: :banana:

[wallyb]

As for the rest of this thread, let the hijacking continue :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :banana: :banana: :banana:

Just who is - hijacking ? :mad:
I'm "consulting"!!!
Offering council.
Pitching in.

[rpmdfw]

Ohh. Darn.
I was looking forward to pitching fits.

Are you saying the Dog cake is in then?

We could cut it with this...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/100811.jpg

As we listen to the dulcet tones of...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/liberace_daisy.jpg

And then you depart for the rapture of the honeymoon suite wearing...

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/liberace.jpg

You're too twisted for color TV!

Oh, and no, no, and again NO!

[rpmdfw]

Just who is - hijacking ? :mad:
I'm "consulting"!!!
Offering council.
Pitching in.

Don't quit your day job. :rotfl:

[wallyb]

You're too twisted for color TV!

Oh, and no, no, and again NO!

See - now you're just being obstinate. :sad2:

[chip007]

What Part of "Steel Magnolias" ? :confused:
The Dishy southern bells - carrying-on and pitching fits?

The track lighting;)

[mykidsintow]

Yeah, we were determined not to have two tacky plastic groom figures on the cake.


I was hoping for 2 crystal mickeys as the cake topper....

I vote for that orange in the top layer so there is less of it.... Chocolate on the bottom, yah! Lots-o-chocolate is a good rule to live by! Oh wait, we don't get to vote...... :sad2:

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Here's the cake topper.

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/IMG_0506.jpg

Oh, I love it! -- very restrained and elegant!

[TuckandStuiesMom]

And here's the cake.

Probably only three tiers for ours, though. And without the floral. We love, love, LOVE it!

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Moderne.jpg

WOW! w/o the floral elements and that incredible topper, it's going to have a very art deco/moderne feel to it , isn't it?

[rpmdfw]

WOW! w/o the floral elements and that incredible topper, it's going to have a very art deco/moderne feel to it , isn't it?

That's the plan! Interestingly enough, the name Disney has given this particular cake is the "Moderne". Very perceptive of you to pick up on the moderne qualities. I sure as heck don't know the difference. It all looks deco to me.

[rpmdfw]

Oh, I love it! -- very restrained and elegant!

restrained and elegant? Oh dear. I wanted something that reflects the two of us! Restrained and elegant? THAT'S not us! :lmao:

Oh well, we've already got it, so I guess we'll stick with it!

[rpmdfw]

See - now you're just being obstinate. :sad2:

Obstinate? Perhaps. But I do recall reserving the right to become Bridezilla, Groomzilla and Gayzilla all rolled into one. So thank your lucky stars that we've only gotten to the "obstinate" phase!

:lmao:

[OrlandoMike]

restrained and elegant? Oh dear. I wanted something that reflects the two of us! Restrained and elegant? THAT'S not us! :lmao:

Oh well, we've already got it, so I guess we'll stick with it!

No restraints? Sigh.... Guess I better return the wedding gift!:rotfl2:

[rpmdfw]

II vote for that orange in the top layer so there is less of it.... Chocolate on the bottom, yah! Lots-o-chocolate is a good rule to live by! Oh wait, we don't get to vote...... :sad2:

I was pushing for the orange/orange layer to be the bottom and the chocolate/white chocolate layer to be the middle layer. The orange one is WONDERFUL!

And I agree with the lots-o-chocolate rule. Our favors/centerpieces will also involve chocolate. ;)

[rpmdfw]

No restraints? Sigh.... Guess I better return the wedding gift!:rotfl2:

:scared1:

[wallyb]

No restraints? Sigh.... Guess I better return the wedding gift!:rotfl2:

NOTE : He went there - not me. :sad2:

[TuckandStuiesMom]

NOTE : He went there - not me. :sad2:

I noticed that TOO. What is this world coming to????:rotfl2: (and yeah, I did kinda leave the door open on that one...):confused3

[wallyb]

I noticed that TOO. What is this world coming to????:rotfl2: (and yeah, I did kinda leave the door open on that one...):confused3

Please - Do not feed the monkeys! :sad2:

[TuckandStuiesMom]

Please - Do not feed the monkeys! :sad2:

or spank'em either:rolleyes1 ...

(it weren't me, Pa, that done posted no new-fangled animation thang...ah swears...)

[rpmdfw]

NOTE : He went there - not me. :sad2:

Only because he beat you to the punch!

Couldn't find a cute graphic in time to post before Mike, huh? :rotfl2:

[Saxton]

No restraints? Sigh.... Guess I better return the wedding gift!:rotfl2:

Dad isn't setting a good example for us. ;)

[DVC~OKW~96]

Wow! Some kinda thread, huh? :rolleyes1

You are both going to so love your ceremony and reception with Disney. I've been to a very nice Disney wedding and we still go on and on about how delicious the food was. Their food theme was champagne, chocolate and raspberries, and it was carried throughout the meal. The salad had a choice of raspberry or champagne vinaigrette. The main entree was chicken or filet mignon. To die for, let me tell you. The dessert was the chocolate slipper with mousse and raspberries. They had the ice slipper with raspberry sorbet in the toe. What a production and presentation THAT was!!!

Your choices are magnificent. The cake is definitely art moderne (a bit later than deco with cleaner lines but more rounded edges). The cake topper is perfect. You both have excellent taste.

The decision to have your partner cut into the Son and Mother dance, like Rosie, brought tears to my eyes. It's perfect, isn't it?

If it matters, I too vote against the chicken dance. My cousin had a very dignified reception (hors d'ouerves only, but they were very substantial) where there was live jazz music in the background. It was so nice to be at an adult function that was celebrating something so important, without having to endure all the tacky stuff. :confused3 Not everyone likes those interactive things, eh?

Please, please take thousands of photos and share them with us! Cannot wait to see how wonderful and beautiful your day is going to be!

[rpmdfw]

Wow! Some kinda thread, huh? :rolleyes1

Your choices are magnificent. The cake is definitely art moderne (a bit later than deco with cleaner lines but more rounded edges). The cake topper is perfect. You both have excellent taste.

The decision to have your partner cut into the Son and Mother dance, like Rosie, brought tears to my eyes. It's perfect, isn't it?

Please, please take thousands of photos and share them with us! Cannot wait to see how wonderful and beautiful your day is going to be!


Thank you for saying that our choices are magnificent and that we've got excellent taste. I've always thought so, too! :rotfl:

Interesting to hear about the wedding reception with the "champagne, raspberry, & chocolate" food theme. I've never heard of a "food theme" per se. I know we were shooting for "vaguely Italian" but never thought of it as a "theme" exactly, I just had never been to a family wedding where there wasn't some kind of pasta with tomato sauce. To me that's just what wedding food is, so I wanted to make sure it was there for ours. I guess that's silly and sentimental of me, but what are you gonna do.

I also was pretty adamant about having dancing at the reception. Family weddings have always meant a lot of dancing. I can remember dancing with my cousin at weddings when we were very little. Like 4 & 6 years old. And the phrase "I'll dance at your wedding" or "I'll dance at his/her wedding" is thrown around a lot in our family. Sort of shorthand for saying "You're family, I don't judge you, and will celebrate your joys with you" kind of a thing. Since I was told that a lot when I was coming out, I figured I'd better give them the chance to actually do the dancing. And when my cousin (the one I used to dance with way back when) asked if children were invited or if we were doing an "adults only" reception, I told her that I could never deny her 4 year old daughter the chance to have happy memories of dancing at a wedding. Having the family there means having ALL of the family there. Little ones too. And I look forward to dancing with my "neice". And with her mom, too.

Which brings us back to Scott dancing with my mom. It's an important symbol, I think. That mom and dad have a new son, and that Scott has a new family. And that when you're happy for someone, you dance at their wedding. The symbols are really imporant. Especially since with out any legal status, the symbols are ALL we have.

[DVC~OKW~96]

Absolutely. Symbols define our world.

Dancing at "your" wedding is a family phrase here too. It's an important one. Doesn't mean the dance has to be the chicken dance though, eh? LOL.

I thought the repeated flavors of chocolate, raspberry and champagne were very nicely done at the Disney wedding I attended.

In my family, pasta and sauce is a feature at EVERY family gathering, from christening parties to funeral gatherings, so I do understand that!

You'll have a glorious time! All the very best to both of you!

[rpmdfw]

Absolutely. Symbols define our world.

Dancing at "your" wedding is a family phrase here too. It's an important one. Doesn't mean the dance has to be the chicken dance though, eh? LOL.

In my family, pasta and sauce is a feature at EVERY family gathering, from christening parties to funeral gatherings, so I do understand that!


Are you sure you and I aren't related? :lmao:

[DVC~OKW~96]

Well, you never know do you? LOL. Are you originally from the northeast? :yay:

Perhaps it's just the cohort group effect, eh? :rotfl:

[rpmdfw]

Well, you never know do you? LOL. Are you originally from the northeast? :yay:

Perhaps it's just the cohort group effect, eh? :rotfl:

Well, my Dad's family (the full blooded Irish side) is originally from the Boston area.

My Mom's family (Sicilian and Slovenian) hail from Southern Colorado. Since they're the pasta and sauce side of the family, I'm guessing it's just the cohort group effect, thingy.

(and now I'm off to Google "cohort group effect" :surfweb: )

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

Thanks so much for posting here about the process. I would love to do a wedding at WDW, but honestly, it's more money than we would ever freely part with for a non-legally recognized event, I am not even sure if it was legal if we would do it. We have such a small family and so few friends that we would want to share the event with that it also just doesn't make much sense.

I am enjoying the chance to see it all unfold without the pain in the wallet. lol I wish you guys all the happiness in the world.

[DVC~OKW~96]

Errrrmmmm my biological Dad was the full blooded Irish side too. My Mom is the Italian. Errrrmmmm Calabrian. No Slovenian though, although I do have a Polish Aunt. (Married one of my mother's brother's during WWII).

Small world, huh? LOLOLOL.

[rpmdfw]

Errrrmmmm my biological Dad was the full blooded Irish side too. My Mom is the Italian. Errrrmmmm Calabrian. No Slovenian though, although I do have a Polish Aunt. (Married one of my mother's brother's during WWII).

Small world, huh? LOLOLOL.

It is indeed. Do people ask you if you have a really bad temper when you tell them you're an Italian/Irish mix?

:lmao:

I get that question ALL the time!

[DVC~OKW~96]

Usually they don't have to ask. :rotfl2: Ok. Ok. Yep, I get that question all the time too. LOL.

[rpmdfw]

Okay, since I just posted it on another thread, I'll post our invitations here as well. We're aiming to get them in the mail next week! :scared1:

We're doing a tri-fold invitation (actually, it's this one: https://invitationconsultants.com/in...m=3WFD11259302)

Our names are on the front.

Here's the quote for the middle: “We love because it's the only true adventure”-Nikki Giovanni, American Poet

And here's the wording.

"Because you have shared in our lives
by your friendship and love, we
Scott (Last Name)
and
Rob (Last Name)
invite you to share
in our Adventure
as we celebrate our Partnership
and loving Commitment"

And then date and time are listed. Oh, location too!

[StormTigger]

Congrats! and Love the cake! The Mom-son-son dance sounds like a great idea/thing to do, but left me w/ a question... What about Dad? I'm just curious to know how you are including your dad in all this since there's no bride to walk down the isle or Father-Daughter dance, etc?
My partner and I have thrown around the cermony idea for years and just have fun planning things that we'd probably never do, but never figured out what to do w/ the dads.

P.S. - if I've stuck my foot in my mouth about asking about dad.. I apologize in advance!

[rpmdfw]

Congrats! and Love the cake! The Mom-son-son dance sounds like a great idea/thing to do, but left me w/ a question... What about Dad? I'm just curious to know how you are including your dad in all this since there's no bride to walk down the isle or Father-Daughter dance, etc?
My partner and I have thrown around the cermony idea for years and just have fun planning things that we'd probably never do, but never figured out what to do w/ the dads.

P.S. - if I've stuck my foot in my mouth about asking about dad.. I apologize in advance!

Not at all. My Dad and I are very close as well. I just don't think he'd be comfortable dancing with either Scott or with me. :rotfl: :cool1:

I'd always said that if/when I got married, I would want to walk down the aisle with both of my parents. With Scott's parents no longer with us, it didn't seem right to do that. So Scott and I will walk down the aisle together. Two grown men, making the journey side by side.

That does seem to leave my Dad out in the cold. But we've got a very special job for him to do.

Dad will be delivering the last toast of the evening. Right before we cut the cake my brother and sister (who will be standing up with me) will give the first toast. They'll start by pouring a glass of champagne in honor of everyone who can't be with us, whether due to time or distance. Then they'll give their toast. After that, Scott's best friend and a close friend of the two of us will give their toasts (they're standing up with Scott). The last toast of the evening will be my Dad, who has a way with words that will surely have us all in tears. (Which is why he's not going first.)

[rpmdfw]

Thanks so much for posting here about the process. I would love to do a wedding at WDW, but honestly, it's more money than we would ever freely part with for a non-legally recognized event, I am not even sure if it was legal if we would do it. We have such a small family and so few friends that we would want to share the event with that it also just doesn't make much sense.

I am enjoying the chance to see it all unfold without the pain in the wallet. lol I wish you guys all the happiness in the world.

You're welcome!

Not sure how I missed this post earlier. Must've been lack of sleep from too much Fringe Festival. :rotfl:

I just wanted to let you know that we're doing a "Wishes" wedding, which is customized to our desires and has a lot of options; BUT Disney also offers an "Escape" wedding. With this option, you pay for a package where you get to have a small ceremony (up to 18 guests) and a cake and champagne reception, and that's it. I want to say the Escape package starts around $4500. So for a small group and a limited budget, and Disney Fairy Tale Wedding isn't that far out of reach. Most people do then have a meal at a Disney restaurant afterword, but it's not required.

Just a :idea: thought!

[DVC~OKW~96]

Awwwww! The link says, page unavailable. Fooey!

I love the wording though.

[rpmdfw]

Awwwww! The link says, page unavailable. Fooey!

I love the wording though.

http://www.invitationconsultants.com/images/catalogpics_s_bw/3WFD11259302.jpg

http://www.invitationconsultants.com/images/catalogpics/3WFD11259302i.jpg

Try these

[rpmdfw]

I love the wording though.

Thank you. Once we found the quote, everything else just came naturally.

[DVC~OKW~96]

Oh thank you for the new links! That is one wicked invitation! I know everyone will love it. :yes:

Once again, you two have excellent taste! :teeth: (Or is it Tolliver's influence)? ;)

[Mackey Mouse]

I love all the pics, your choices are impeccable, and can I say here I like your style... It is going to be an incredible day for the two of you....Hugs, Hugs, Hugs!!! Also, if you do not want the chicken dance, don't have it.. it is your day..

When my eldest daughter got married, she said absolutely no.. without a doubt no, Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman.. what does he play, you got it Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman... I thought my daughter was going to rip his eyes out, but the place went wild and everyone was dancing. Go figure..and yet the ones that the family had picked up to be played, he did not play. Needless to say, we would never recommend this DJ or his company....

PS, the invitations, the wording, well I am sitting here sniffling.. beautiful, absolutely beautiful.

[rpmdfw]

Oh thank you for the new links! That is one wicked invitation! I know everyone will love it. :yes:

Once again, you two have excellent taste! :teeth: (Or is it Tolliver's influence)? ;)

In my not-so-humble opinion, the invitations came out great! We used a more art deco looking font and blue ink, so the letters show up really well on the silver paper. VERY cool.

And Tolliver did have influence on one of the invitations. I was glad that we'd ordered spare copies when I discoverd that he'd snagged one and shredded it. He really enjoyed the being chased all over the house and patio with it, too. :rotfl:

[rpmdfw]

I love all the pics, your choices are impeccable, and can I say here I like your style... It is going to be an incredible day for the two of you....Hugs, Hugs, Hugs!!! Also, if you do not want the chicken dance, don't have it.. it is your day..

When my eldest daughter got married, she said absolutely no.. without a doubt no, Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman.. what does he play, you got it Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman... I thought my daughter was going to rip his eyes out, but the place went wild and everyone was dancing. Go figure..and yet the ones that the family had picked up to be played, he did not play. Needless to say, we would never recommend this DJ or his company....

PS, the invitations, the wording, well I am sitting here sniffling.. beautiful, absolutely beautiful.

Thank you very much!

Your story reminds me of my sister's wedding. She lives in Odessa, Texas. She and her husband, Tosh, are adamant Texas fans. And for those of you who follow such things, you might know that Texas has a MAJOR rivalry with OU. One of Tosh's cousins went to OU and acting out the rivalry is this thing they do. It's really annoying, and they lilke to play Texas/OU themed practical jokes on each other. So when she walked up to me at the wedding (I was an usher) and I asked "Bride's Side or Groom's Side?" She said "I'm on the OU side". I told her she was in the wrong place, as this was a wedding not a football game. She didn't think I was funny and walked past me towards the groom's side. So at the reception, all of a sudden the music switches to some marching band music and she's on the dance floor waving her arms around like she thinks she's conducting the band. It was the OU fight song. My sister hiked up that big poofy wedding dress marched over to the DJ with her eyes shooting fire and I swear you could here the needle being ripped of the vinyl (even though I knew it was a CD, I still heard that noise :rotfl: ). And from across the stunned silence of the room you could hear my sister loudly saying, "I don't care if she asked for it, I'm the one who's paying you!" The whole room erupted into laughter (turns out the grooms family pretty much thinks that cousin is and obnoxious b****, too.) :lmao: She then spent the rest of the evening manhunting and trying to "meet someone" because "weddings are a great place to hook up". Yeah, can you believe it? Such a catch was still single! Truly a classy, classy act. :rotfl2:

[rpmdfw]

Okay, I finally figured out how to capture the picture off of the "Create your own" section of the website where we ordered these! :woohoo:

So here's the picture of our favors/centerpieces.
http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Centerpieces.jpg

These favors are called "wanderfuls" They're clear plastic wands filled with candy (we'll either do sliver jordan almonds or Hershey's kisses) and topped with a metallic pom-pom. The Wanderfuls are then placed into a holder which creates the centerpiece "bouquet".

We thought they were very cool, will work well with the decor and lighting of the Atlantic Dance Hall, and were MUCH cheaper than doing floral centerpieces and individual favors. :yay:

[wallyb]

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii199/rpmdfw/Centerpieces.jpg


Hey! These are fun. :)

Do you guys have a song for your first dance?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/dancing_giraffees1.gif
Maybe Kung Foo Fighting or Ring My Bell?
I'm thinking not the chicken dance. :rolleyes2

[rpmdfw]

Do you guys have a song for your first dance?

Maybe Kung Foo Fighting or Ring My Bell?
I'm thinking not the chicken dance. :rolleyes2

We are currently gathering songs as options for the first dance. So far, I think the list is like 12 songs long. We'll need to sit down and listen to them all together and decide. That's what we did with my mom, while she was here. We listened to several songs and as a group decided which song to use for the mother/son(s) dance. It came down to "Candle on the Water" from Pete's Dragon, "Baby Mine" from Dumbo (the Jim Brickman/Carrie Underwood version) and "You'll Be in My Heart"from Tarzan. We decided on "You'll Be in My Heart", but we're now trying to figure out which version (Phil Collins singing, or the Broadway Cast Album version).

We know that we want them playing "Welcome" by Blind Boys of Alabama from Brother Bear as we're introduced, and "Promise" by Kelley Coffey (the song they play after the end of Illuminations at Epcot) for the last dance.

For our "big dance", we're looking for something romantic, sung by a male voice (or two) that doesn't mention a female in the lyrics. I don't think we'll have any problems choosing from the group we've got.

Then the battle royale begins! Who's going to lead! (Actually, we've been battling this one for over a year, and no end in sight)

[wallyb]

Then the battle royale begins! Who's going to lead! (Actually, we've been battling this one for over a year, and no end in sight)
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/Alex_03.gif Must Self Edit!!!!!
Dude - don't set me up like this.
There's so many ways for me to get points with my :hyper: "instinctive" reply

[rpmdfw]

http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/Alex_03.gif Must Self Edit!!!!!
Dude - don't set me up like this.
There's so many ways for me to get points with my :hyper: "instinctive" reply

That's what PMs are for! ::yes::

[wallyb]

That's what PMs are for! ::yes::

What an enabler - Great! :rolleyes1
Here Lindsay, have a small drinky-poo – it couldn't harm.
Hey Paris, how about doing another video – no one will see.

[rpmdfw]

What an enabler - Great! :rolleyes1
Here Lindsay, have a small drinky-poo – it couldn't harm.
Hey Paris, how about doing another video – no one will see.

Some people are in your life to provide "moral support". I'm here to provide "Immoral Support". It's a dirty job, but someone's got to do it!

Oh, but Lindsay and Paris? EW! I wouldn't go anywhere near them! I have my standards!

[StormTigger]

Oohh.. I got a question!! Tuxes! What are you guys wearing for the ceremony?

[rpmdfw]

Oohh.. I got a question!! Tuxes! What are you guys wearing for the ceremony?

Not doing tuxes. We'll be in matching black suits. My tie is "Superman Blue", and Scott's is more of an ice blue or sky blue color. This is fairly typical for Scott and me. We both gravitate toward shades of blue, but Scott is usually in the softer, lighter end of the spectrum (which sets off his blue eyes BEAUTIFULLY) while I end up in the royal, cobalt, navy end of things. And since I've been a Superman collector since I was 8, finding a tie in that exact shade was perfect. Since we didn't want to stress on having to match any colors exactly, we just told people that we're doing "shades of blue" in terms of color palate.

We're not dictating what anyone else wears. We want them to be comfortable and look like themselves. Not too formal, but kind of dressy. It's going to be September in Orlando, for pete's sake. We didn't want them sweating into a bunch of very well dressed puddles.

[wallyb]

Some people are in your life to provide "moral support". I'm here to provide "Immoral Support". It's a dirty job, but someone's got to do it!

Oh, but Lindsay and Paris? EW! I wouldn't go anywhere near them! I have my standards!

Well I'm coming out ahead of Lindsay and Paris - that's good.
But - What is this "dirty job"? Special equipment needed?

[OrlandoMike]

Well I'm coming out ahead of Lindsay and Paris - that's good.
But - What is this "dirty job"? Special equipment needed?

Looks like you "came out" just in time! :thumbsup2

http://www.news.com.au/couriermail/story/0,23739,23521854-5012980,00.html

[wallyb]

Looks like you "came out" just in time! :thumbsup2

http://www.news.com.au/couriermail/story/0,23739,23521854-5012980,00.html

Don't make me act out Mike -
Do we really want another round of L'enfant terrible? ;)

[DVC~OKW~96]

The centerpieces are wicked! :thumbsup2 What an unexpected touch.

I really like the sounds of the suits too. It is still seriously hot in September. You are really nice to consider your guest!

At the Disney wedding I attended, there was a point during the dinner where the lights dimmed and the servers (all in black suits with white shirts) entered with glass (ice) slippers on their trays (with blue lights embedded) that had sorbet on the "toe" of the slipper. What a stunning presentation and great entertainment for the guests. Oh, the music they entered to, was "Be Our Guest."

I know you are having a buffet, but are you planning on any sort of dramatic moment like that?

I love the music choices. Do you mind my asking what the list for the first dance includes? (Just nosey, but I'm mushy too. I'm loving the sensitivity in your ceremony).

[wallyb]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/mybubbles.gif
The book?
Accusations?

[OrlandoMike]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/mybubbles.gif
The book?
Accusations?

Hello! PIXIE DUST! :wizard:

[rpmdfw]

The centerpieces are wicked! :thumbsup2 What an unexpected touch.

Yeah, we really like that they're something that most people won't have seen before. :thumbsup2

I know you are having a buffet, but are you planning on any sort of dramatic moment like that?

More dramatic than Rob & Scott fighting on the dancefloor over who's going to lead? :lmao:

No, no big over the top thing. Just not really our style.

I love the music choices. Do you mind my asking what the list for the first dance includes? (Just nosey, but I'm mushy too. I'm loving the sensitivity in your ceremony).

Would you believe "I'll Make a Man Out of You" from Mulan? :rotfl2:

Okay, not really. On the music choices, I haven't even discussed them with Scott yet. And I've got no idea what songs he might have in mind. Out of respect for him, I won't discuss them until we've at leased narrowed it down.
But when we do, I'll be sure to post them.

[rpmdfw]

... And to be thrown at you on your departure?
Rice?
Rose petals?
Bubbles?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/mybubbles.gif
The book?
Accusations?

What's being thrown?

Caution. To the wind.

[rpmdfw]

Hello! PIXIE DUST! :wizard:

No need to throw pixie dust at a couple of fairies! :rotfl:

In all honesty, we're not doing a staged departure, and nothing tossed, etc.

All of those concepts are traced back to people throwing rice on the newlyweds to ensure fertility. That's a symbolism we're not interested in. We don't want children (Tolliver is PLENTY) and we're doing everything we can to eliminate any "bride/groom" or "male/female" symbols from the ceremony. (which ain't easy!)

That's a big part of why we're not having the ceremony at the Wedding Pavillion--It's screams "bride and groom". It also is a big part of why we're walking down the aisle together too. That way one of us isn't there first waiting for the other. It avoids the symbolism of the "groom" waiting for the "bride".

I know it's really nit-picky, but we're trying to avoid being what we're not, and as I said before, symbols are powerful things. By avoiding them, we're sending a clear message that Scott and I are equals, partners, and family to each other.

Okay, stepping off of my soapbox now.

[wallyb]

No need to throw pixie dust at a couple of fairies! :rotfl:

In all honesty, we're not doing a staged departure, and nothing tossed, etc.

All of those concepts are traced back to people throwing rice on the newlyweds to ensure fertility. That's a symbolism we're not interested in. We don't want children (Tolliver is PLENTY) and we're doing everything we can to eliminate any "bride/groom" or "male/female" symbols from the ceremony. (which ain't easy!)

That's a big part of why we're not having the ceremony at the Wedding Pavillion--It's screams "bride and groom". It also is a big part of why we're walking down the aisle together too. That way one of us isn't there first waiting for the other. It avoids the symbolism of the "groom" waiting for the "bride".

I know it's really nit-picky, but we're trying to avoid being what we're not, and as I said before, symbols are powerful things. By avoiding them, we're sending a clear message that Scott and I are equals, partners, and family to each other.

Okay, stepping off of my soapbox now.

Well thanks http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/image001-5.gifProfessor Homonuptial.
Darn - and I so did not want to learn anthing today.:headache:

[rpmdfw]

Well thanks http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/image001-5.gifProfessor Homonuptial.
Darn - and I so did not want to learn anthing today.:headache:

You actually learned something? :eek:

So, I guess it's not true what they say about old dogs, huh? :lmao:

Not sure what you could have learned from my little rant, other than the fact that I'm over-thinking EVERYTHING! :rotfl:

[wallyb]

You actually learned something? :eek:


Yes, I feel you forced me to LEARN. :(
I feel violated. And not in a good way.

[turkygurl]

I love all your choices. The cake looks amazing! I'm sure you'll have a blast.

And I love the song choice for the last dance. My husband, brother, and I always sing along as we walk around Epcot after Illuminations.

[rpmdfw]

I love all your choices. The cake looks amazing! I'm sure you'll have a blast.

And I love the song choice for the last dance. My husband, brother, and I always sing along as we walk around Epcot after Illuminations.

I can't listen to "Promise" without getting all teary eyed. We had originally discussed using it for a first dance song until we decided that we really wanted a male vocal. That's when we started pulling suggestions together.

It really is such a beautiful song. We decided to make it the last dance so that everyone can dance with us.

For those of you who don't know the words, you can read them here (http://www.lyricskeeper.com/kellie_coffey-lyrics/227808-promise-lyrics.htm).

[wallyb]

Can our dance be..
The Glamorous Life?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/or81f9.gifhttp://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/or84ll.gif
She wears a long fur coat of mink
Even in the summer time
Everybody knows from the coy little wink
The girl's got a lot on her mind

She's got big thoughts, big dreams
And a big brown Mercedes sedan
What I think this girl
She really wants
Is to be in love with a man

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

She saw him standing in the section marked
If you have to ask you can't afford it lingerie
She threw him bread and said make me scream
In the dark what could he say

Boys with small talk and small minds
Really don't impress me in bed
She said, I need a man's man, baby
Diamonds and furs
Love would only conquer my head

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

They made haste in the brown sedan
They drove to 55 Secret street
They made love and by the seventh wave
She knew she had a problem
She thought real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

[rpmdfw]

Can our dance be..
The Glamorous Life?
http://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/or81f9.gifhttp://i48.photobucket.com/albums/f241/wallyb3/or84ll.gif
She wears a long fur coat of mink
Even in the summer time
Everybody knows from the coy little wink
The girl's got a lot on her mind

She's got big thoughts, big dreams
And a big brown Mercedes sedan
What I think this girl
She really wants
Is to be in love with a man

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

She saw him standing in the section marked
If you have to ask you can't afford it lingerie
She threw him bread and said make me scream
In the dark what could he say

Boys with small talk and small minds
Really don't impress me in bed
She said, I need a man's man, baby
Diamonds and furs
Love would only conquer my head

She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
She don't need a man's touch
She wants to lead the Glamorous Life
Without love
It ain't much

They made haste in the brown sedan
They drove to 55 Secret street
They made love and by the seventh wave
She knew she had a problem
She thought real love is real scary
Money only pays the rent
Love is forever
That's all your life
Love is heaven sent
It's glamorous

Okay, who let WallyB have caffiene and sugar?

Whose turn was it to watch him today?

:rotfl2:

[zulemara]

When my eldest daughter got married, she said absolutely no.. without a doubt no, Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman.. what does he play, you got it Shania Twain, Feel Like a Woman... I thought my daughter was going to rip his eyes out, but the place went wild and everyone was dancing. Go figure..and yet the ones that the family had picked up to be played, he did not play. Needless to say, we would never recommend this DJ or his company....




So there was a song the bride didn't want. The DJ played it(perhaps it was requested) and everyone went wild. So the DJ had people dancing, which is his job, and you say you wouldn't recommend that DJ or his company to others. What exactly, then, do you expect from a DJ? Do you want him to make sure your crowd is dancing and having a good time or do you want him to play songs for people to listen to and have an empty dance floor?

Now that I've stated my side, I see yours as well. There are different ways the situation could have been handled based on what you said happened. Personally I have had a few times where I have "do not play" songs as well as a list of songs they want played. If I have a request for a do not play song, I check with the bride before playing it. 9/10 times the bride will approve it. As far as having a playlist, if there are 20 songs down and only 60 total songs are played in a 4 hour dance, that's 1/3 of the songs being scripted. It is a delicate balance to try and play all the songs on a "playlist" while also taking requests and keeping a dance floor dancing. I try to get as many of the playlist songs in as I can and as long as the customer is patient, I can usually get quite a few of them in. Obviously it is the bride and groom's day and that should never be overlooked, but how much fun are the bride and groom really going to have if no one else is being entertained and having fun on the dance floor? A night should be measured based on how many people overall are having fun, not one or two songs being played, and that is why we no longer ask people about interactive songs like the chicken dance. It is our job to read the crowd and figure out if it'll work or not.



rpmdfw none of that was directed at you and I have a playlist for you, but I just moved yesterday and I need to find it and type it up because it is slightly incomplete. I will PM it to you or email it when it's ready.

In an attempt to keep from hijacking the thread, I also wanted to say awesome choice on promise :hug: That will be a great end to the night

And the whole thing about bride/groom is awesome. I think it's fantastic that you're getting away from all that symbolism that exists and there's nothing wrong with that. These are all mental notes I'm making for when my ceremony comes some day down the line. :love: :love: :love: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[rpmdfw]

I have a playlist for you, but I just moved yesterday and I need to find it and type it up because it is slightly incomplete. I will PM it to you or email it when it's ready.

Take your time. No real rush.

I can totally sympathize with you for having recentlly moved. Nothing sends my life into disarray like moving does. Ugh! I don't envy you that at all. Hopefully it was as painless as possible and a good move for you.

[zulemara]

Take your time. No real rush.

I can totally sympathize with you for having recentlly moved. Nothing sends my life into disarray like moving does. Ugh! I don't envy you that at all. Hopefully it was as painless as possible and a good move for you.

It wasn't too bad. The 50 dollars for a Uhaul truck to drive 8 miles in town is a little price gouging IMO, but what can ya do?

Some of the playlist is different than usual because of some out of the ordinary events. For example, I played Piano man at the request of the bride and groom, the entire wedding party came to dance floor(this is at about 10:30) formed a circle and started sing the song when...:tongue: All the guys on the floor in the circle DROP THEIR PANTS!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: Oh the jokes that could have been made....
"I hope you guys have buttons on those boxers"
"I'd make a crack, but you showed me one"
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
That will truly go down as one of the most shocking, amazing, and downright awesome things I've ever seen at a wedding

[rpmdfw]

I played Piano man at the request of the bride and groom, the entire wedding party came to dance floor(this is at about 10:30) formed a circle and started sing the song when...:tongue: All the guys on the floor in the circle DROP THEIR PANTS!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: Oh the jokes that could have been made....
"I hope you guys have buttons on those boxers"
"I'd make a crack, but you showed me one"
:lmao: :lmao: :lmao:
That will truly go down as one of the most shocking, amazing, and downright awesome things I've ever seen at a wedding

:eek:

I . . .

. . . that's . . .

. . . I have no words.

[DVC~OKW~96]

Oh, I totally understand about keeping the ideas for songs private until you have both decided. Once again, classy guys.

I really like the 'overthinking' if that matters one whit! LOL! I really am impressed by the way you are carefully considering the origins of the common events contained in a heterosexual wedding and carefully pruning them out of your dignified ceremony. Nothing else will make it so very meaningful to you.

I LOVE the idea of pixie dust at faeries though! LOLOLOL! That is too priceless. LOL! Your sense of humor will see you well. :yes::

Anyway, thoroughly enjoying the discussion of your ceremony. Living vicariously! Gotta love it! LOL!

[rpmdfw]

I really like the 'overthinking' if that matters one whit! LOL! I really am impressed by the way you are carefully considering the origins of the common events contained in a heterosexual wedding and carefully pruning them out of your dignified ceremony. Nothing else will make it so very meaningful to you.

Well, I'm not sure how dignified it'll be, but it'll definitely be ours!

There are some traditions that we do feel like we want to keep. For instance the newlyweds feeding each other the first piece of wedding cake to represent the formation of a new family. We can get behind that. (Which is a good thing, because we REALLY wanted to have a fabulous cake! :rotfl:)

We also seriously considered adapting the african-american tradition of jumping the broom. Back when slaves were considered property they weren't allowed to marry. They had no legal right to do so. When a couple decided they would get married any way, they would gather friends together and jump over a broom laid on the ground. From that point on they were "married" in the eyes of the slave community. We thought it might be a good analogy for our commitment ceremony. Not a legal relationship, but one celebrated by our community. In the end, we decided not to do it because with us, the officiant, two "sidekicks" each (I refuse to call them attendants, and bridesmaids or groomsmen don't apply either), we've got enough going on visually without doing the broom thing, too. Just not really what we wanted.

We have decided on what readings we'll have read during the ceremony. I'll dig them out and post them in a little while.

[wallyb]

We also seriously considered adapting the african-american tradition of jumping the broom.

How about updating that - and jumping over a Dyson? :lmao:

[rpmdfw]

How about updating that - and jumping over a Dyson? :lmao:

Or we could stick with the art-deco theme and leap over one of these

http://homepage.ntlworld.com/paul.linnell/sso/electrolux/electrolux_xxx.jpg

[wallyb]

So I thoght this over - and no rice or anything - come on ...
knda anticlimactic. (And peolple are proably just chomping at the bit to throw somthing at you. :( )

So here's a thought- :hyper:
What about getting that space ship thing that they lower at the end of Cats-
You know the one that takes that old dusty Grizabella to the "scratching post in the sky" -
get that thingy - and you two can ascend to the heavens in that - the end.
Now that's a finish. ::yes::

I'm sure there must be a touring company of Cats in the area somewhere -
I mean the always is! - Isn't there?

[rpmdfw]

So I thoght this over - and no rice or anything - come on ...
knda anticlimactic. (And peolple are proably just chomping at the bit to throw somthing at you. :( )

So here's a thought- :hyper:
What about getting that space ship thing that they lower at the end of Cats-
You know the one that takes that old dusty Grizabella to the "scratching post in the sky" -
get that thingy - and you two can ascend to the heavens in that - the end.
Now that's a finish. ::yes::

I'm sure there must be a touring company of Cats in the area somewhere -
I mean the always is! - Isn't there?

Sadly, I think the only CATS costume I'd fit into these days would be "Old Deuteronomy".

Not quite as dressy as we'd like, I'm afraid. And an old tire? Really? It doesn't really say "classy" does it?

But you get points for thining "outside the box". The litter box in this case . . .

[OrlandoMike]

Oh your guests could all stand around waving lighters like a rock concert!


Up, up, up past the Boardwalk hotel........

Up, up, up, up, to the Heaviside Layer.......:confused3

OK maybe not....

[rpmdfw]

Oh your guests could all stand around waving lighters like a rock concert!


Up, up, up past the Boardwalk hotel........

Up, up, up, up, to the Heaviside Layer.......:confused3

OK maybe not....

:rotfl: :rotfl2: :lmao:

Okay, now you've gone and done it. My co-workers will now be miserable for the rest of the day. I'm putting in the CATS cast album! (yes, I have it, and YES I keep it here at work :hyper: )

[wallyb]

Sadly, I think the only CATS costume I'd fit into these days would be "Old Deuteronomy".

Not quite as dressy as we'd like, I'm afraid. And an old tire? Really? It doesn't really say "classy" does it?

But you get points for thining "outside the box". The litter box in this case . . .

You are not WORKING with me here!:mad:
I thought we discussed this obstructionist attitude.
:idea: Give me your partner's number - I'll get him to aprove it.
I've got a way of getting men to argee with me. ::yes::

[OrlandoMike]

:rotfl: :rotfl2: :lmao:

Okay, now you've gone and done it. My co-workers will now be miserable for the rest of the day. I'm putting in the CATS cast album! (yes, I have it, and YES I keep it here at work :hyper: )

Of course you do! It was part of your orientation kit!

Back in my day it was A Chorus Line!:rotfl2:

[rpmdfw]

You are not WORKING with me here!:mad:
I thought we discussed this obstructionist attitude.
:idea: Give me your partner's number - I'll get him to aprove it.
I've got a way of getting men to argee with me. ::yes::

Scott's been reading along on this thread. He'll see it.

Oh, and he's not as fond of CATS as I am. It remains one of my favorites after all these years.

[rpmdfw]

Of course you do! It was part of your orientation kit!

Back in my day it was A Chorus Line!:rotfl2:

Got that one, too! Another favorite.

C'mon. Scott and I each have a degree in Theatre Arts. You KNOW our collection of B'way tunes is HUGE!

[wallyb]

Scott's been reading along on this thread. He'll see it.

Oh, and he's not as fond of CATS as I am. It remains one of my favorites after all these years.

Or as I call it "THE THING THAT WOULD NOT DIE!" :lmao:
So no "convincing time" with sweetcakes? ;)

[wallyb]

Back in my day it was A Chorus Line!:rotfl2:

On B-way now I think - with dreamy Mario Lopez joining the cast.
Everything old is new again.

[rpmdfw]

On B-way now I think - with dreamy Mario Lopez joining the cast.
Everything old is new again.

Yeah, and complaining about his costume, too! Apparently he doesn't think it shows enough skin. :lmao:

[rpmdfw]

Or as I call it "THE THING THAT WOULD NOT DIE!" :lmao:
So no "convincing time" with sweetcakes? ;)

You'll have to take that up with him directly. :rotfl2:

[jamieandben]

Did someone say Mario Lopez and need to shows more skin? :love:

[wallyb]

Yeah, and complaining about his costume, too! Apparently he doesn't think it shows enough skin. :lmao:

What's your point. :scratchin

What the Lopez wants - the Lopez gets. ::yes::

I'd make sure he got it. :bitelip:

[rpmdfw]

Did someone say Mario Lopez and need to shows more skin? :love:

Here's the article I read:

Is Mario Lopez being “A Chorus Line” diva?

Mario Lopez, who plays the role of Zach, the exacting director of “A Chorus Line,” is apparently very proud of his biceps. So proud, in fact, that he’s making demands to ensure he faces no challengers. First he refused to wear Zach’s costume, a tan sweater with long sleeves.

It’s an iconic outfit, based on that worn in real life by “A Chorus Line” creator Michael Bennett, and it’s been worn by countless Zachs in productions of “A Chorus Line” all over the world for the past 30 years.

But Lopez wanted to wear a brown shirt with short sleeves so that he can show off his biceps.

The only problem is, Mario shares the stage with Nick Adams (photo right), who plays Larry, the assistant choreographer. Nick has a pair of biceps larger than Mario’s.
Larry’s iconic costume is a navy blue tank top with the number 17 on it. For “A Chorus Line” affectionatos, that number is significant, there are 17 performers auditioning for the eight spots in the chorus.

Mario, sources say, was concerned that Adams’ biceps would upstage his, so he requested that Adams wear a hoodie over his tank top, which Adams does whenever he’s next to Mario. Bicep envy?

This may seem like a small deal,but this revival of “A Chorus Line” is based on the 1975 masterpiece with staging, scenery and, yes, the costumes, near replicas of the original production. So it’s all about tradition.

After a second year on Broadway, long running shows often depend on TV stars like Mario to fill the house. And so if Mario wants to wear a short-sleeve shirt, he can wear a short-sleeve shirt, i.e. whatever Mario wants, Mario gets.

Officials with “A Chorus Line” insist that director Bob Avian made the decision to throw a hoodie over Adams.

“When they stood side by side, you couldn’t tell them apart,” one person says. “They looked too similar.”

[rpmdfw]

Oh. And here's a picture of Nick Adams

http://nickadams.biz/downloads/iNickAdams_001.jpg

Pity to throw a hoodie over that.

[wallyb]

Oh. And here's a picture of Nick Adams

http://nickadams.biz/downloads/iNickAdams_001.jpg

Pity to throw a hoodie over that.

Maybe JUST a hoodie? :bitelip:

[rpmdfw]

Okay, and getting us BACK on track, here's the first of the readings we've chosen for the ceremony:

Let’s Grow Old Together
By Denise Braxton Brown & Peggy Wrightsman

Let's grow old together... beginning with today.
Let's work slowly with each other and build a relationship that we can both enjoy being a part of.
Let's share love and understand that neither of us is perfect; we are both subject to human frailties.
Let's hold each other close and whisper through the night--pledging our love, honoring our commitment.
Let's encourage each other to pursue our dreams, even when we're weary from trying.
Let's expect the best that we both have to give and still love when we fall short of our expectations.
Let's be friends and respect each other's individual personality and give one another room to grow.
Let's be candid with each other and point out strengths and weaknesses.
Let's understand each other's personal philosophy, even if we don't agree.
Let's lie awake long into the night sharing our innermost secrets.
Let's be friends as well as lovers.
Let's laugh at time and plan with each other and wonder how we ever got along without this love we've found.
Let's never take for granted these moments that we've shared, but always be reminded of how intensely we have learned to live, how completely we have learned to love.
Let's grow old together...
and look back on life and smile.


I really like the fact that it's written by two women.

[rpmdfw]

And the second reading:

Love or To My Friend
By Roy Croft

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.

I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can't help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.

I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.

I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.

[jamieandben]

I say they should just do it au naturel.

[wallyb]

Okay, and getting us BACK on track, here's the first of the readings we've chosen for the ceremony:

Let’s Grow Old Together
By Denise Braxton Brown & Peggy Wrightsman

Let's grow old together... beginning with today.
Let's work slowly with each other and build a relationship that we can both enjoy being a part of.
Let's share love and understand that neither of us is perfect; we are both subject to human frailties.
Let's hold each other close and whisper through the night--pledging our love, honoring our commitment.
Let's encourage each other to pursue our dreams, even when we're weary from trying.
Let's expect the best that we both have to give and still love when we fall short of our expectations.
Let's be friends and respect each other's individual personality and give one another room to grow.
Let's be candid with each other and point out strengths and weaknesses.
Let's understand each other's personal philosophy, even if we don't agree.
Let's lie awake long into the night sharing our innermost secrets.
Let's be friends as well as lovers.
Let's laugh at time and plan with each other and wonder how we ever got along without this love we've found.
Let's never take for granted these moments that we've shared, but always be reminded of how intensely we have learned to live, how completely we have learned to love.
Let's grow old together...
and look back on life and smile.


I really like the fact that it's written by two women.

Can we add one line?-
Let's put rubber sheets on the bed douse ourselves in butterscotch and ...
Oh never mind - I'm going to get in trouble again - dang!:mad:
And now I'm hungry on top of it.

[rosiep]

Rob..the readings are beautiful, and if you hold true all of those things your relationship will grow and prosper. I have been married for 25 years and I am still..no...more in love with my husband than the day we wed. Remembering that we are human and that humans are fallible has really helped keep things in prospective.

Now..as for all this talk about hoodied men....ooooh bring it on!

[rpmdfw]

Can we add one line?-
Let's put rubber sheets on the bed douse ourselves in butterscotch and ...
Oh never mind - I'm going to get in trouble again - dang!:mad:

You're bored today, aren't you? ::yes::

[rosiep]

You're bored today, aren't you? ::yes::

Me too...work is slooooooooooooooow.
Let's start some trouble!

[wallyb]

You're bored today, aren't you? ::yes::

I'm sorry - do you find rubber bedding boring-
I think Martha Stewart just came out with a lovely set.
Perhaps a a wedding gift? ::yes::

[jamieandben]

Me too...work is slooooooooooooooow.
Let's start some trouble!

I'm with rosiep.

[rpmdfw]

I'm with rosiep.

Head on over to the virtual shower and grab some drinks and snacks then . . .

:banana: :cool1: :woohoo:

[wallyb]

I'm with rosiep.

This may well be your last words.

[rosiep]

This may well be your last words.

Hardie Har Har..
We'll just leave you out of it....

Come along Jamie...

[rosiep]

Head on over to the virtual shower and grab some drinks and snacks then . . .

:banana: :cool1: :woohoo:

Is that party still going on??? No wonder I'm seeing double!

[jamieandben]

Hardie Har Har..
We'll just leave you out of it....

Come along Jamie...
I'm with ya rosie
Looks like someone (wally) is wimping out... Dad must have gotten out the belt.

[rosiep]

Meet you over at the party...I'll just dress down a bit..I've got waaaay too many clothes on for a party!

And OT: Anyone know who the Sweet Potato Queen is and her rules for a party???

[wallyb]

I'm with ya rosie
Looks like someone (wally) is wimping out... Dad must have gotten out the belt.

The belt.
The paddle.
The handcuffs.
The ...
See... there I go ... again.

I'm just saying play with flames you might get burned.
Notice the color of her hair - red.

Now me - I'm a blonde - Pure, innocent, golden, blonde. ::yes::

[rosiep]

The belt.
The paddle.
The handcuffs.
The ...
See... there I go ... again.

I'm just saying play with flames you might get burned.
Notice the color of her hair - red.

Now me - I'm a blonde - Pure, innocent, golden, blonde. ::yes::

I'm not bad...I'm just drawn that way...

[jamieandben]

The belt.
The paddle.
The handcuffs.
The ...
See... there I go ... again.

I'm just saying play with flames you might get burned.
Notice the color of her hair - red.

Now me - I'm a blonde - Pure, innocent, golden, blonde. ::yes::

Not!!!

[PghLybrt]

Wow!!!! I have to work for the holiday weekend and look at what I come back to! The invitations are fantastic, I love the idea of walking down together and the different shades of blue, Fantastic (I hate matching:confused3 ). I am still voting no on the chicken dance….. :laughing:


? Do they provide a photographer?

[rpmdfw]

? Do they provide a photographer?

Disney does offer photography and video services. We have opted to forgo video completely (of everyone I know who had video of their weddings, I only know one couple that has seen their video more than once. We didn't see the need to incurr the additional expense for that.) That said, if you use Disney's videography services and have a ceremony in the Wedding Pavillion (which we're not so it doesn't really matter to us) they have 3 fixed cameras permanently mounted in the pavillion, so you get multiple angles of the ceremony as part of the package.

We've also opted to go with a non-disney photographer for a number of reasons. 1. He's MUCH cheaper. And we'll get quite a bit more photographs for the money. 2. He provides us with a DVD with high-rez copies of EVERY picture he takes over the course of the 8 hours (it'll be over a thousand pix). 3. He signs over the copyright to our photos so we own them at no charge (Disney charges a thousand dollars for the CD and you never get the copyright). 4. We'll get proof albums with a print of every picture he takes. 5. We shopped around and found a photographer whose style we liked, has already shot commitment ceremonies, and with whom we felt comfortable. With Disney, you don't know which of their photographers you're going to get until he or she shows up the day of your wedding. It's luck of the draw.

It seemed like a no-brainer to us.

Our photographer also does Disney Weddings all the time (and used to work for Disney Photographic Services before he went freelance), so the Disney Fairy Tale Weddings staff is very used to working with him, and he knows how to get some great shots in most locations, because he's done them so often.

Here's his website. http://www.chapmanphotography.com/

Click on the menu, then click "Disney Brides" and type in "ariel" when it prompts for a password. There are a lot of pix of weddings he's done. We think he's fantastic!

[TuckandStuiesMom]

I'm with rosiep.

Is that like "I'm with the band."?:rotfl:

[TuckandStuiesMom]

rpmdfw --
The readings are beautiful.:goodvibes

[rpmdfw]

rpmdfw --
The readings are beautiful.:goodvibes

Thank you! Each of them resonated with both Scott and me. It was tough finding non-religious readings that don't actually mention "marriage", or "husband and wife" etc. The fact that we found two readings that met our "no bride/goom symbolisms" and "no religious nonsense" requirements and yet are so beautiful and specifically appropriate to our relationship, was a very pleasant surprise to us.

It also makes me thankful for the internet! I can't imagine planning this shindig without the use of google! :lmao:

So much of our planning has been done online, simply by searching for what we're looking for: the cake topper, the readings, the favor/centerpieces, the rings, sample ceremonies to discuss with our friend who is officiating . . . . Thank god for modern technology! :worship:

[OrlandoMike]

Rings?

You haven't even shown us the Bling yet!

Pics please, or are you waiting for after the ceremony?

[rpmdfw]

Rings?

You haven't even shown us the Bling yet!

Pics please, or are you waiting for after the ceremony?

Of course we're having rings! We actually gave them to each other as Christmas presents in 2006, but they didn't fit properly. So we had to have them resized. By the time that was done, we'd begun planning for the wedding, so we just stashed them away so that we'll begin wearing them that day.

Here's the picture

http://www.titaniumera.com/products_images/t200r/0001/1487.jpg

They're titanium rings, with gold and platinum in a woven inlay. Once again, here I go with the symbolism: Two precious metals intertwine together to make one unending circle on a base of a very strong foundation metal. Like I said, I over-think these things too much.

[OrlandoMike]

Very nice! I dont think I've ever seen that ring before....classy!

[rpmdfw]

Very nice! I dont think I've ever seen that ring before....classy!

One of the things we really like about them is that it's not a terribly common style. Not terribly showy or ostentatious, either. They're really beautiful in person, too. Like so many things about this process, when we saw this design we knew it was the perfect one for us!

[TuckandStuiesMom]

...and a nice thing about titanium is that it will not warp, ding, or even scatch excessively. It's TOUGH!

[DVC~OKW~96]

The readings are very moving. How are they going to be presented? Will you and your DP read one each, or read a stanza each of each piece?

I LOVE the rings! Oh my gosh, they are absolutely perfect. Talk about symbolism! Titanium strength background with precious metal intertwined? I'll say!

Sheesh. You have thought of everything and that is really wonderful. :thumbsup2

[rpmdfw]

...and a nice thing about titanium is that it will not warp, ding, or even scatch excessively. It's TOUGH!

Which is part of why we chose it. The other bigger reason is that my body chemistry will strip gold plating off of any jewelry I wear (always has). So if I wanted a wedding band that included gold (which we did) I had to have something between my skin and the gold. Not sure how my body would react to solid gold, but if it breaks down the gold plate, I assume it would quickly wear through solid gold as well.

The readings are very moving. How are they going to be presented? Will you and your DP read one each, or read a stanza each of each piece?

I LOVE the rings! Oh my gosh, they are absolutely perfect. Talk about symbolism! Titanium strength background with precious metal intertwined? I'll say!

Sheesh. You have thought of everything and that is really wonderful. :thumbsup2

The readings will be read by one of my "sidekicks" and one of Scott's "sidekicks" during the ceremony.

We'll work with our friend who is officiating to create the actual vows we say to each other closer to the ceremony date. We've met with her once already to discuss everything, we'll meet a couple more times later on. The nice thing is we see her and her family at the Adv Club every couple of weeks, so it's easy to stay in touch with her.

And I've TRIED to think of everything, but I'm sure I'll get blindsided by something unexpected just before the wedding. :rotfl2:

[DVC~OKW~96]

Ah, that makes sense. Hence readings and not vows. Sometimes I'm a little dense. :rotfl:

[TinkerChelle]

Once again, here I go with the symbolism: Two precious metals intertwine together to make one unending circle on a base of a very strong foundation metal. Like I said, I over-think these things too much.

The rings are gorgeous. Love the symbolism. As for overthinking things....I think that is part of the planning process. It is hard not too overthink things when it is about your big day. I was the same way when we were planning our wedding. Sounds like everything is going to be great!

[rpmdfw]

Ah, that makes sense. Hence readings and not vows. Sometimes I'm a little dense. :rotfl:

That's okay. It was late at night. Sometimes late at night, my brain goes to sleep long before I do. :rotfl2:

The rings are gorgeous. Love the symbolism. As for overthinking things....I think that is part of the planning process. It is hard not too overthink things when it is about your big day. I was the same way when we were planning our wedding. Sounds like everything is going to be great!

Whew! Glad to know I'm not the only one! Thanks! :thumbsup2

[rpmdfw]

Well, I thought it might kill us, but we finally managed to get invitations addressed, stamped and mailed. They went out with today's mail. :woohoo:

One more thing to check off the list! Gotta love it!

[DVC~OKW~96]

That is a monumental accomplishment! I remember helping hand write invitations (the drawback of having good penmanship) for a friend. Sheesh. That about did me in!

So, what's the next major task on your list that you are working on?

[rpmdfw]

That is a monumental accomplishment! I remember helping hand write invitations (the drawback of having good penmanship) for a friend. Sheesh. That about did me in!

So, what's the next major task on your list that you are working on?

Handwritten? Yikes! Neither Scott nor I has pensmenship that would have been legible after the first envelopes. We printed all the envelopes, and the inner envelopes using his high quality printer. Blue ink, and and art deco font. They turned out beautifully. And more importantly, the post office will be able to read them well enough to deliver them. LOL

The next big tasks involve going shopping for matching black suits, white shirts with french cuffs, and appropriate footwear. (Though I'm tempted to head over to the western store to buy a pair of dress cowboy boots. The 16 years I lived in New Mexico & Texas taught me that the most comfy dress shoes for dancing are made by Tony Llama. :rotfl2:)

[rpmdfw]

Oh. And it looks like we may be back to deciding on a song for the mother/son/son dance. I got the B'way cast album of Tarzan from Amazon.com today. "You'll Be in My Heart" sounds great with the female vocalist (Merle Dandridge) but for the stage version they added new lyrics. Specifically, the line "Don't listen to him, he doesn't know. We need each other, to have to hold. He'll see in time, I know."

Which is actually a nice addition for the show. It helps to illustrate that Kala knows Kerchak isn't happy with her adopting the human baby.

But for our purposes, it makes it kind of all wrong. Argh!

So now we have to decide between the Phil Collins version (not bad, but we wanted a "mother's voice" concept for the song) or "Baby Mine" from Dumbo or "Candle on the Water" from Pete's Dragon. They're both good choices, but I really hoped the b'way version of Tarzan to give me what we wanted.

Hopefully, that'll be the biggest "catastrophe" we have to deal with. :rotfl:

[DVC~OKW~96]

French cuffs. Oooooh, NICE.

Can't you find another female voice recording the song you want without the lyric that you don't want?

I mean, Disney has some wonderful voices! :yes: Not sure what all that would entail, but surely that would be really unique and personalized, no?

The invitations sound lovely. I really like Art Deco style so I'm sure it will all be just perfect!

I love Dumbo, so Baby Mine is a good one, too!

Where are you going to look for suits? I'm thinking Armani? :teeth:

[PrincessBride010103]

Hi there :wave2:
I stumbled upon this thread completely by accident but I had to share with you that I had my reception at Atlantic Dance Hall and it is an awesome venue!! Also, you should join us on the weddings and honeymoon board!!
Oh & Congratulations too!!!!!!!!!!

[wallyb]

Of course we're having rings! We actually gave them to each other as Christmas presents in 2006, but they didn't fit properly. So we had to have them resized. By the time that was done, we'd begun planning for the wedding, so we just stashed them away so that we'll begin wearing them that day.

Here's the picture

http://www.titaniumera.com/products_images/t200r/0001/1487.jpg.

See - I was picturing something more in leather - with snaps.
::yes:: That kinda ring.

[rpmdfw]

French cuffs. Oooooh, NICE.

Can't you find another female voice recording the song you want without the lyric that you don't want?

I mean, Disney has some wonderful voices! :yes: Not sure what all that would entail, but surely that would be really unique and personalized, no?

The invitations sound lovely. I really like Art Deco style so I'm sure it will all be just perfect!

I love Dumbo, so Baby Mine is a good one, too!

Where are you going to look for suits? I'm thinking Armani? :teeth:

Yep. I love French Cuffs. Haven't had a shirt with them since 2000 when I left my last job where the dress code wasn't polo shirts casual. Which of course will bring about the cufflink dilemma, but that's an emotional trauma for another time. :rotfl2:

Armani, suits? I don't think so. In all likelihood, we'll wear these suits only on rare occasions. We'll look for something nice, but not looking to drop a lot of money on them. If I can convince Scott to go to Men's Wearhouse, that's where we'll start. :rotfl:

Yes, Disney has amazing vocalists. Many of them are friends of ours, as a matter of fact. The problem is, that Disney charges an arm and a leg for live peformers. Which we wouldn't have a problem paying if one of our friends actually got the money. The performer doesn't get nearly what you'd expect of that fee. We'll keep it simple and go with a CD.

[rpmdfw]

Hi there :wave2:
I stumbled upon this thread completely by accident but I had to share with you that I had my reception at Atlantic Dance Hall and it is an awesome venue!! Also, you should join us on the weddings and honeymoon board!!
Oh & Congratulations too!!!!!!!!!!

Hi, Amanda! Yeah. I know your reception was at ADH. I saw the pictures, and they're beautiful. I've been lurking on the wedding board since June of last year. I followed several of you lovely ladies through planning journals and trip reports. THAT'S why our planning session was so easy! So thank you. Oh, and we've got the same photographer you had, if I recall correctly. Oh, and p.s. your husband is a cutie! Just sayin!

Not ready yet to join y'all on the wedding board, just yet. More comfortable hanging here with my peeps. :thumbsup2

[rpmdfw]

See - I was picturing something more in leather - with snaps.
::yes:: That kinda ring.

:faint: I declare! I've got no idea WHAT you're taling about!

:rolleyes1

[wallyb]

:faint: I declare! I've got no idea WHAT you're taling about!

:rolleyes1

Yeah - RIGHT!
Don't get all "Fiddle Dee Dee - I do declare I've got the vapors "
And keep the hoop skirt down. ;)

[TinkerChelle]

Handwritten? Yikes! Neither Scott nor I has pensmenship that would have been legible after the first envelopes. We printed all the envelopes, and the inner envelopes using his high quality printer. Blue ink, and and art deco font. They turned out beautifully. And more importantly, the post office will be able to read them well enough to deliver them. LOL

The next big tasks involve going shopping for matching black suits, white shirts with french cuffs, and appropriate footwear. (Though I'm tempted to head over to the western store to buy a pair of dress cowboy boots. The 16 years I lived in New Mexico & Texas taught me that the most comfy dress shoes for dancing are made by Tony Llama. :rotfl2:)

Good job getting the invites out! Try and relax and enjoy the process. The day comes and goes so fast. Cherish all the steps. I know that is easier said than done-but it is true!:goodvibes

[rpmdfw]

Good job getting the invites out! Try and relax and enjoy the process. The day comes and goes so fast. Cherish all the steps. I know that is easier said than done-but it is true!:goodvibes

The invitations weren't that big of a chore, honestly.

That is, once we figured out how in the heck the newest version of Microsoft Office would let us format them.

We spent a good couple of hours trying to navigate through the changes they've made to doing a mail merge (which I used to be able to do with my eyes closed). And THEN when we finally had envelopes printing, we discovered that Microsoft Word was taking any zip code on our list (Microsoft Excel) that had the full nine-digit zip code in the field, and putting "0" instead. Why in the heck wouldn't Word read Excel and just put the full zip in? ARGH! So we had to re-print about a dozen envelopes. Very frustrating.

Okay. Sorry about that. Had to rant for a moment. Hating the newest version of Microsoft Office, can you tell?

I'm actually considering uninstalling it and putting Office 2000 on my new computer so I can actually get things done.

Anyway, we ARE trying to enjoy the process. And honestly, I've been enjoying discussing things here on this thread, a whole lot! ::yes::

[PrincessBride010103]

Hi, Amanda! Yeah. I know your reception was at ADH. I saw the pictures, and they're beautiful. I've been lurking on the wedding board since June of last year. I followed several of you lovely ladies through planning journals and trip reports. THAT'S why our planning session was so easy! So thank you. Oh, and we've got the same photographer you had, if I recall correctly. Oh, and p.s. your husband is a cutie! Just sayin!

Not ready yet to join y'all on the wedding board, just yet. More comfortable hanging here with my peeps. :thumbsup2

If you booked Randy you will love him! He's awesome! Thanks for the compliments on the pics :goodvibes

:rotfl2: I think Eric's kinda cute too lol

I understand about being more comfortable on your own board...I get weird about venturing off the weddings board lol so now that I'm subscribed to your thread, I'll follow along silently...cant wait to see pics from the big day!

[rpmdfw]

I understand about being more comfortable on your own board...I get weird about venturing off the weddings board lol so now that I'm subscribed to your thread, I'll follow along silently...cant wait to see pics from the big day!

Yep. We booked Randy. Love his work.

And don't feel the need to be silent. No one else around here is quiet about anything! Especially if they've got any strong views on the Chicken Dance. :lmao: :rotfl2: :rotfl:

Honestly, we've got lots of CSP's (that's Cool Straight People) on this board, so feel free to jump right in.

[wallyb]

Okay. Sorry about that. Had to rant for a moment.

Yeah just a MOMENT ::yes:: or two or three or...