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IWISHFORDISNEY
04-23-2008, 08:57 PM
You tell someone you are going on vacation and they give you a lecture about wasting your money going to Disney AGAIN.


I am so sick of it that I have literally stopped telling my SIL's that we are going again. I always get the lecture. We are not in debt and can afford a vacation. This is the only vacation we take every year short of going to our beachouse during the summer. I have come to the point of not even telling them but it always slips out in conversation and then I get the lecture.

Does this happen to anyone else? I for the life of me cant understand why they care where we go. I dont even know how to respond anymore with out getting a little snarky back. How would you respond to the lecture?

cdotla
04-23-2008, 09:01 PM
I get the lecture from DH too...so if you come up with a good response, I would love to hear it - LOL!

WaltD4Me
04-23-2008, 09:03 PM
I don't respond. I don't give a hoot what anyone thinks about my Disney trips. Yes, I hear "You are going AGAIN!?" and "How can you afford to keep going to Disney all the time?" Ummmmmmm, none of your business. I have a friend who has a purse obsession, she is always buying Coach, Dooney & Burke, Louis Vuitton ect...and in her case, I decided to answer "How do you afford to go to Disney all the time." My response was..."My purses are by Liz Claiborne." We all make choices. I get comments from people who also go to the same places all the time. Beach house, Las Vegas, Aruba, what's the difference between going to Disney every year and going to Las Vegas every year? :confused3 To each his own. I don't feel I owe anyone an explination or justification and I honestly don't care what people think, it's not their vacation.

lttlmc3
04-23-2008, 09:12 PM
Tonight, when I came in to work, I started watching Disney Behind the Scenes on the Travel Channel. One of the officers I work with started in on me on how he doesn't understand what my obsession with Disney is about and why woud I watch that. Then he started in on me for having my honeymoon there. I asked him, "have you ever been there?" He said no, so I said "EXACTLY! Now shut up!"

IWISHFORDISNEY
04-23-2008, 09:17 PM
I guess my issue is that is my DH's family and they are hurting my feelings. Like I deprive my kid of food to go to Disney or something. Also the comments that I dont let my husband choose another place when he in fact chooses to go to Disney too. I dont want to start a family war but the lecture always comes during a holiday or family event in front of everyone. I just hate it. I dont know how to be nice but firm with them. Besides the fact that his oldest sister thinks she knows everything since she has been to the world 2 whole times. LOL.

tinkbutt
04-23-2008, 09:18 PM
I get that a lot too but if they don't get it to bad for them cause they are missing out!!!!

MODisFan
04-23-2008, 09:20 PM
I get that question a lot too. Sometimes it puts me on the defense and makes me feel like I have to justify our trip. I start explaining how we are DVC members and AP holders so really our only immediate expense is a flight and food. I shouldn't have to explain but I do.

Here in St. Louis, it seems everyone goes to the Lake of the Ozarks in the summer. I should start repsonding to this question by saying "How is it different than you going to The Lake every weekend?" It's difficult not to be snarky when people think they are being cute by questioning your vacation destination.

MODisFan
04-23-2008, 09:24 PM
I guess my issue is that is my DH's family and they are hurting my feelings. Like I deprive my kid of food to go to Disney or something. Also the comments that I dont let my husband choose another place when he in fact chooses to go to Disney too. I dont want to start a family war but the lecture always comes during a holiday or family event in front of everyone. I just hate it. I dont know how to be nice but firm with them. Besides the fact that his oldest sister thinks she knows everything since she has been to the world 2 whole times. LOL.

I'm sorry to hear the in-laws are giving you such grief!

Maybe you could all go on a Grand Gathering and they could experience the magic themselves. If they still don't get it after a day or too, send them to Universal :)

halliesmommy01
04-23-2008, 09:29 PM
But it is my family that always says again!?! Even my boss says stuff like isn't that expensive. But I tell them that it is my happy place and if they do not like it too bad. The boss is now looking to take his family and guess who is he asking for help. My sister asked if she could come with us next trip. I may slowly be winning them over. I just want to tell them come to the dark side I have Mickey bars LOL.


Becky

IWISHFORDISNEY
04-23-2008, 09:30 PM
I'm sorry to hear the in-laws are giving you such grief!

Maybe you could all go on a Grand Gathering and they could experience the magic themselves. If they still don't get it after a day or too, send them to Universal :)

Oh we did the whole gg with his family about 10 years ago and never again. Our idea of Disney is not commando and SIL is a tad bit nutso. DH likes to hit the parks hard come back and rest get showered and have a nice TS dinner. His older sister (who raised him when mom passed away) only eats CS and runs from sun up to sun down. We actually ended up eating dinner each night with his sisters in laws because they were on our page. I really think it is a matter of we know more about Disney and it pisses her off a bit also the fact that we are not in cc debt up to our eyeballs and can afford a trip. Not so much the case for her. She is more like his mom and I dont want to fight with her because she is always right. One of those types.:sad2: This is why I wish I knew a better response to "the lecture".

amyhughes
04-23-2008, 09:34 PM
You know, I hear that too. I one time looked across and responded thusly:

"I eloped instead of spending thousands on a lavish wedding. I drive a 10 year old car that I own instead of a Lexus or some other car I could buy. Our mortgage payment is less than most people's rent. I take care of my bills, my kids needs, and my own. If I want to go to Disney, guess what? I live in America, if I have the dough I can go. It's a Free country, last I checked. I only have a few years where my kids want me around. Why not enjoy them?"

That was the last I have heard anything on the subject. And it also helps now that my husband backs me since he has been there as a Dad. Best of luck.

hanco005
04-23-2008, 09:41 PM
I used to get the same thing from my parents...until they retired and moved to Orlando 2 years ago. The finally decided to buy annual passes so that they can go when my family comes to visit. Now everytime I talk to them, they say "I can't beleive that we went 2 years without getting annual passes". I swear they go to the parks at least once each week.

They have now been bitten by the magic bug...better late than never, I suppose.

WaltD4Me
04-23-2008, 09:58 PM
I guess my issue is that is my DH's family and they are hurting my feelings. Like I deprive my kid of food to go to Disney or something. Also the comments that I dont let my husband choose another place when he in fact chooses to go to Disney too. I dont want to start a family war but the lecture always comes during a holiday or family event in front of everyone. I just hate it. I dont know how to be nice but firm with them. Besides the fact that his oldest sister thinks she knows everything since she has been to the world 2 whole times. LOL.

Maybe you should come right out tell them that it hurts your feelings the next time it comes up. Maybe you just need to say "You know your comments really hurt my feelings, maybe we should talk about why it bothers you so much that we go to Disney." The direct approach. Have your DH back up you that it is his decision to go to Disney too. If you don't feel you can talk about it in a group, like at a holiday event, maybe call the biggest offender before the next event and invite them to lunch and talk about it one on one with that person. I still don't think you need to keep justifying your trips as your in-laws aren't footing the bill, but you can explain how uncomfortable it makes family events for you and discuss why it seems to be so upsetting to them?

AllyGirl_79
04-23-2008, 10:07 PM
It's funny you should bring this up... I mentioned making a second trip to Disney this year -- the first was with my family, and the second would be with my friend this summer -- during a conversation at work today. My friend has never been, has been listenting to me talk about WDW for years, and is finally in a place where she has the time and money to go. So we're going in June. My coworker expressed astonishment at my going "again" and I laughed it off.

I mentioned the conversation to my mom on the phone tonight, and she said that she and my dad have been getting comments like that for years. I had no idea! I was 10 on our first trip, am 28 now, and we've made 13 family trips to WDW. Apparently this has been going on all along. They even took heat for pulling my little brother and I out of school for a week every year, and she still gets upset about what other people said about it at the time. (Since that first trip, I have been a national merit scholar, graduated from college with a 4.0 gpa, and earned a master's degree from an ivy league university. All of this is largely due to parental support and the balance between academics and fun that my parents insisted on. My younger brother loved the Japan pavillion at Epcot. Do you want to guess who is now studying that language? I told mom not to sweat it anymore. ;) )

Anyway, I don't think I'd worry about justifying the trips to the family. Just tell your sister-in-law that you love being one of the lucky ones who gets to spend quality family time in a place that makes you happy. If you're feeling snarky, you might add that you feel bad she doesn't have the opportunity to do the same. Your son will grow up believing in the power of dreams, understanding how to plan, striving for perfection in the details, knowing the value of different cultures, and having an interest in technology and the pursuit of new ideas. Disney creates curiosity and joy. I feel sorry for her kids -- yours is the lucky one for getting to grow up this way.

happy2go2wdwmom
04-23-2008, 10:15 PM
I had a friend who said that her three young kids would never enjoy Disney because they simply don't know who Mickey Mouse is and that they prefer the "newer, more moderrn characters" and then she said, "We just wouldn't 'get it' at all and my family would be totally bored" was her statement.:confused3

RE: IWISHFORDISNEY's sitch----maybe you could consider go to WDW over the holidays to get away from that extended family of yours! :lmao: :rotfl:

happy2go2wdwmom
04-23-2008, 10:18 PM
It's funny you should bring this up... I mentioned making a second trip to Disney this year -- the first was with my family, and the second would be with my friend this summer -- during a conversation at work today. My friend has never been, has been listenting to me talk about WDW for years, and is finally in a place where she has the time and money to go. So we're going in June. My coworker expressed astonishment at my going "again" and I laughed it off.

I mentioned the conversation to my mom on the phone tonight, and she said that she and my dad have been getting comments like that for years. I had no idea! I was 10 on our first trip, am 28 now, and we've made 13 family trips to WDW. Apparently this has been going on all along. They even took heat for pulling my little brother and I out of school for a week every year, and she still gets upset about what other people said about it at the time. (Since that first trip, I have been a national merit scholar, graduated from college with a 4.0 gpa, and earned a master's degree from an ivy league university. All of this is largely due to parental support and the balance between academics and fun that my parents insisted on. My younger brother loved the Japan pavillion at Epcot. Do you want to guess who is now studying that language? I told mom not to sweat it anymore. ;) )

Anyway, I don't think I'd worry about justifying the trips to the family. Just tell your sister-in-law that you love being one of the lucky ones who gets to spend quality family time in a place that makes you happy. If you're feeling snarky, you might add that you feel bad she doesn't have the opportunity to do the same. Your son will grow up believing in the power of dreams, understanding how to plan, striving for perfection in the details, knowing the value of different cultures, and having an interest in technology and the pursuit of new ideas. Disney creates curiosity and joy. I feel sorry for her kids -- yours is the lucky one for getting to grow up this way.

I LOVE YOUR PARENTS~!!:banana:

cwt580
04-23-2008, 10:18 PM
at 47 my friends laugh at me for planning trips to WDW. who cares... its my money and my earned vacation. i have lived all over this country when i was young and visited alot of places over the years. but every few years i still enjoy a trip to the world....


I love the different restaurants. different things to see and do. yes theres alot of kid stuff but its really a nice mix for all ages.

I do visit alot of amusement parks around the country and WDW has the best mix for all ages. from kids to grandparents. romance to laughter. to being a kid, if only for a short while........as far as price???? i think disney is inline with other amusement chains. i do feel though that their resorts are very overpriced but the convenience is worth it.......

WaltD4Me
04-23-2008, 10:33 PM
I think people think Disney is so expensive because you pay for so much up front, especially if you get the DDP. I think people think of their vacation price as being the transportation to get there and the hotel and they forget to add in all the extras once they get there, sightseeing, tours, activities, ect...But is Disney really all that much expensive than any other all inclusive place, like Sandals? I honestly don't know, I've never been to a place like Sandals.

happy2go2wdwmom
04-23-2008, 10:33 PM
I do visit alot of amusement parks around the country and WDW has the best mix for all ages. from kids to grandparents. romance to laughter. to being a kid, if only for a short while........as far as price???? i think disney is inline with other amusement chains. i do feel though that their resorts are very overpriced but the convenience is worth it.......[/quote]


I also go to other amusment parks, and IMO the BIG difference is that I simply never get that special somethin' somethin' feeling at those other parks---only Disney had the real MAGIC!!! :wizard:

wishspirit
04-24-2008, 04:10 AM
Yep, i get that ALL the time. Mainly from my flatmate who considers it a waste of money, 'You could go hitchhiking across Morrocco for a month for that!'. Well you know what, i don't want to hitchhike across Morrocco, i want to go to a place i feel safe and happy in when i go on vaccation. Its hard enough for me to get on a plane anyway, knowing i didnt have accomidation or any plans when i got there would make me freak out! :scared1:

I have only ever been to WDW 4 times, but they have been 2 weeks long each time. Mainly due to the ex*****e of airfare, plus that knackering time change!

Its not as though i have never been anywhere else ether, last summer we did a tour of the west coast of America, and that was deemed 'cool' untill the last 3 days where spent at Disneyland California which got a 'what a waste!'

Thank God i have my mom to back me up on my choices (she loves it just as much as me)

My answer to the questions is usually 'But you've never been have you? Well don't worry, maybe one day you will get to experience it the way i do.' or in the case of my flatmate 'Each to their own, i wouldn't do what you do, you wouldn't do what i do. I do criticise you for your choices, please don't think its ok to insult mine'

Gosh this makes me fume!!! :furious:

NWOhioAngela
04-24-2008, 05:17 AM
We are not in debt and can afford a vacation.

We're in debt and can't afford a vacation, but we're going anyway!

aGoofyMom
04-24-2008, 06:27 AM
My parents used to give me grief. Then they booked another cruise - I put it back on them (You are doing another cruise???? Didn't you just do that last year???) with all the exageration I could muster. Now, I am only asked when the next trip is (and Mom rewarded herself for quitting smoking with a 10-day eastern Caribbean booking)

Another friend thought I was crazy. We would talk about it because she figured she would have to take her girls soon - they felt it wasn't fair that I was going so many times and they had never gone. (our youngest girls are BF's) They are coming with us for this trip - she figured it would be easier for me to plan than for her to sort it all out for themselves...

We leave in 10 days and she is very excited now. She took care of some of her own ADR's, and even made changes when she looked into menus on line on her own. I keep telling her she is going to come home with the Disney gene!

GBShorts
04-24-2008, 06:34 AM
I think people think Disney is so expensive because you pay for so much up front, especially if you get the DDP. I think people think of their vacation price as being the transportation to get there and the hotel and they forget to add in all the extras once they get there, sightseeing, tours, activities, ect...But is Disney really all that much expensive than any other all inclusive place, like Sandals? I honestly don't know, I've never been to a place like Sandals.


Ewww. Sandals. Never been, but the idea just makes me shudder.

I get this sometimes too, and we can only really afford to go every few years! I have had co-workers say things to me like "what ADULT would actually WANT silly Mickey Mouse (She spit those words out) on a t-shirt? Ridiculous."

I just smiled at her and told her that a lot of people would and that different people like different things. ;)

LilGMom
04-24-2008, 08:15 AM
I used to get that all the time from my coworkers until about the third year of working there and having taken 2-3 trips each of those years. We used to hear it a lot from my ILs because they just didn't "get" it but after more than a few years of bugging them to go they did and finally saw that it was a bit more magical than they remembered from 25+ years ago. We do still hear "you should take your kids to other places... there are other places to vacation other than WDW". :rotfl2: Silly people!! While they see that WDW is a great vacation destination they still don't fully "get" it. :)

I can relate but unfortunately don't have much advise.

TXYankee
04-24-2008, 08:33 AM
My parents took me to WDW in 1971. I have been every year since. I hear "your going again??" all of the time. Even from my DH. He is not an "Anthony" and will only go with me once every 4- 5 years.

When I get the comment I just smile and say "I going because the voices in my head told me to go to WDW. I always listen to the voices." That pretty much shuts people up.

amyhughes
04-24-2008, 08:41 AM
When I get the comment I just smile and say "I going because the voices in my head told me to go to WDW. I always listen to the voices." That pretty much shuts people up.

:lmao: :thumbsup2

Becx N Gav
04-24-2008, 08:54 AM
I just think they are all jealous :thumbsup2 They can't have found their ' special place' - somewhere you can time and time again without getting bored ;)

As some of you have said once they (the non-beleivers) get there I'm sure they'll see it as you do or at least understand how you could be so happy to visit year after year :goodvibes

No-one should make you fell bad for doing something you love (as long as it doesn't impact on others)

As a kid our family vacations were spent in a caravan (static trailer) in the UK so I've had my share of budget trips :rotfl2: I intend for our kids (when we have them) to see a bit of everything.

calypso*a*go-go
04-24-2008, 09:48 AM
I've gotten to where I just don't tell anyone we're going back to WDW. I don't even tell my mom until a month or two before...and that's only because my parents usually watch our dog while we're gone. For the people that do question our love of WDW, I just say "we own a timeshare there" and they just nod their head like "okay -- they're going again because they have to". ;)

SteveInBrooklyn
04-24-2008, 10:30 AM
I can't take people's reactions, and I feel kind of ashamed, as a childless 42 year old man, spending all my vacations at Disney. This summer I've decided to tell people I'm going to Flagler Beach.

LittleRedShonda
04-24-2008, 10:52 AM
My co-worker told me "Why don't you go someplace for adults? Someplace cheap? Like Vegas!" (BTW, priced a trip. More than the cost of the same time at the world) Vegas? I asked..."Well, yeah, they have roller coasters, too." Oh, right...:rotfl2:

TXYankee
04-24-2008, 11:09 AM
I can't take people's reactions, and I feel kind of ashamed, as a childless 42 year old man, spending all my vacations at Disney. This summer I've decided to tell people I'm going to Flagler Beach.


Steve,

I am a 44 year old woman, no children, a DH who wont go to Disney with me, and I go to WDW every year ! Should we start a club?

dpuck1998
04-24-2008, 11:54 AM
My co-worker told me "Why don't you go someplace for adults? Someplace cheap? Like Vegas!" (BTW, priced a trip. More than the cost of the same time at the world) Vegas? I asked..."Well, yeah, they have roller coasters, too." Oh, right...:rotfl2:

No kidding, I spend more in vegas than I do in the world anyday. We have been to many places and it really is the best family vacation going. My response is, I can do anything in disney....want to lay on the beach all day...check, want to horseback...check...goes on and on...

SteveInBrooklyn
04-24-2008, 12:21 PM
Steve,

I am a 44 year old woman, no children, a DH who wont go to Disney with me, and I go to WDW every year ! Should we start a club? Yes!!! I have been considering starting a meetup group through meetup.com. Something like "DISers and other Disney Lovers." Fans could meet monthly at a local diner, or attend Disney-related events together.

lorax123
04-24-2008, 08:20 PM
Man, we hear this all the time from clowns. I just tell them these trips really aren't that expensive if you know how to shop around. And they really aren't! If you plan right you can do it uber-cheap. I just prefer to spend more :>

Besides, my opinion, a vacation is some place far enough away you can't drive home. Anything less than 8 hours away is a trip and I won't be able to relax. I have to much to do at home.

Besides the Jersey shore/Outer banks thing,all the clowns at work do, is not my thing. Beaches and beach houses are lame. Seems like a waste to spend $2500 a week for a beach house, have to cook, clean and deal with extended family!

Give me maid service and plenty of meals I don't have to prepare or clean up after. I do that enough at home. I'll do some laundry... but if I could, I'd just buy all new clothes when the old ones got dirty.

I'd love to go to Europe or Cali. Now that we have the money, we could. But with a 4 y.o. and a 6 month old, anything more than 2 hours, by air, is out of the question. And even if I went to those places, i'd still want to head back to Orlando for some extra vacation time.

paperdoll1986
04-24-2008, 09:08 PM
I had a friend who said that her three young kids would never enjoy Disney because they simply don't know who Mickey Mouse is and that they prefer the "newer, more moderrn characters" and then she said, "We just wouldn't 'get it' at all and my family would be totally bored" was her statement.:confused3

OK, I'm gonna say it. There is something incredibly wrong if these children don't know who Mickey is.

How do you allow your children to not know who Mickey Mouse is? He is basically the international symbol of America at its best. People who don't speak English know Mickey. He is basically the king of the "modern" characters and they wouldn't be there without him!

My goddaughter learned who Mickey and Minnie were simply from the fact that they were on her diapers and while my aunt would change her, she would hand her one to hold (she's always been into holding things, don't ask) and that's how she discovered Minnie and Mickey. He is everywhere. How is it possible they don't know him?

happy2go2wdwmom
04-24-2008, 09:22 PM
OK, I'm gonna say it. There is something incredibly wrong if these children don't know who Mickey is.

How do you allow your children to not know who Mickey Mouse is? He is basically the international symbol of America at its best. People who don't speak English know Mickey. He is basically the king of the "modern" characters and they wouldn't be there without him!

My goddaughter learned who Mickey and Minnie were simply from the fact that they were on her diapers and while my aunt would change her, she would hand her one to hold (she's always been into holding things, don't ask) and that's how she discovered Minnie and Mickey. He is everywhere. How is it possible they don't know him?

I KNOW, I KNOW!!! I totally agree! What can I say? I am certain they must know of Mickey, but he never caught on with them I guess? Not to mention that there are, what---1,000 other Disney characters to enjoy if Mickey ain't connecting w/ ya? She said her kids would be more into Universal characters but not Disney characters...at all. Thanks for posting---they are really missing out, huh! I can't imagine raising kids without Disney!!!!!!

wishspirit
04-24-2008, 09:52 PM
OK, I'm gonna say it. There is something incredibly wrong if these children don't know who Mickey is.

How do you allow your children to not know who Mickey Mouse is? He is basically the international symbol of America at its best. People who don't speak English know Mickey. He is basically the king of the "modern" characters and they wouldn't be there without him!

My goddaughter learned who Mickey and Minnie were simply from the fact that they were on her diapers and while my aunt would change her, she would hand her one to hold (she's always been into holding things, don't ask) and that's how she discovered Minnie and Mickey. He is everywhere. How is it possible they don't know him?

We were debating the extent of Disneyfication in American Studies today (i was on the pro-Disney side of the argument i must say) but i think it really is amazing how ingrained he is in ALL cultures, not just American.

Can't wait to start my essay on it!

drakethib
04-24-2008, 09:56 PM
I just moon them.

tinkbutt
04-24-2008, 09:58 PM
I just moon them.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

lttlmc3
04-24-2008, 11:44 PM
We were debating the extent of Disneyfication in American Studies today (i was on the pro-Disney side of the argument i must say) but i think it really is amazing how ingrained he is in ALL cultures, not just American.

Can't wait to start my essay on it!

What an interesting topic! Be sure to post it.

WaltD4Me
04-25-2008, 12:13 AM
I don't have kids, but I consider it my personal mission to pass Disney on to my 3 nieces and my nephew so they are properly Disney-fied and that they all believe in pixie dust and magic. I have taken them each on their own trip to Disney with Auntie Lisa and Christmas and birthday gifts always include something Disney. My one nieces is currently VERY into the fairies and my older niece loves Disney and of course Hannah Montana. My nephew is five and LOVES Mickey and has a big time crush on Ariel. In October I am taking them all to Disney again together. I can't even imagine it any other way. :goodvibes

wishspirit
04-25-2008, 02:41 AM
What an interesting topic! Be sure to post it.

I would, but its gonna be 3000 words long. Who really wants to read 3000 words on Disboards!! :rotfl:

If there is popular demand (and i get a high enough grade, im not showing you guys any trash!) i will figure out a way of posting it.

paperdoll1986
04-25-2008, 03:13 AM
I don't have kids, but I consider it my personal mission to pass Disney on to my 3 nieces and my nephew so they are properly Disney-fied and that they all believe in pixie dust and magic. I have taken them each on their own trip to Disney with Auntie Lisa and Christmas and birthday gifts always include something Disney. My one nieces is currently VERY into the fairies and my older niece loves Disney and of course Hannah Montana. My nephew is five and LOVES Mickey and has a big time crush on Ariel. In October I am taking them all to Disney again together. I can't even imagine it any other way. :goodvibes

That's me with my goddaughter. I personally gave her my VHS tapes of Toy Story and anything else I could spare her. She even took my Little Mermaid for months before it was on DVD. Later she asked me "Do you have this movie?" I replied, "yea, baby, you have mine." "oh." I consider myself that child's cultural director (I even got her to enjoy Yellow Submarine! I do good work!)

I KNOW, I KNOW!!! I totally agree! What can I say? I am certain they must know of Mickey, but he never caught on with them I guess? Not to mention that there are, what---1,000 other Disney characters to enjoy if Mickey ain't connecting w/ ya? She said her kids would be more into Universal characters but not Disney characters...at all. Thanks for posting---they are really missing out, huh! I can't imagine raising kids without Disney!!!!!!
Thank you! I've said similar things on another Disney board and I basically got jumped on! I think I'll stick to Disboards, personally!

And I'm sorry, if you're kid prefers Universal characters to Disney.........you've failed as a parent. My uncle can't stand Disney really, but he'll go for my goddaughter.

LilGMom
04-25-2008, 07:56 AM
Man, we hear this all the time from clowns.

That is the problem... you are hearing it from clowns. Evil, menacing, smelly clowns. :clown:

IWISHFORDISNEY
04-25-2008, 07:57 AM
I am so glad to learn I am not alone. My SIL jumped on my last nerve yesterday so I finally told her to pi$$ off. I for the first time laid her out. So now I feel better and hopefully have put all this behind us. She said she gets sick and doesnt like amusement parks. I told her it means more to us than just rides and we love spending time there. I also reminded her that her nephew (our son) is here because of a particular Disney trip when we decided to have a child after 12 years of marriage and swearing we were not having kids. Disney changed our minds and I guess the heavens and earth aligned and I came home pregnant. So that only sealed our bond with the mouse. Now she gets my end and I guess I will have to respect her end. :rotfl: Even if I dont understand people like her.

pklein09
04-25-2008, 11:28 AM
My SIL jumped on my last nerve yesterday so I finally told her to pi$$ off.

Congratulations on putting her in her place. It's a shame that it sometimes has to come to that to shut these ignorant morons up.

I'm still working on a snappy response to the stupid questions. For now, all I can do is try to avoid them altogether...

When someone asks me what we're doing for vacation, I tell them "We're staying with some friends in Florida" That's usually enough.

Praying Colonel
04-25-2008, 11:36 AM
Other folks get to have a say in my vacation plans when they start paying for it. ;)

SteveInBrooklyn
04-25-2008, 01:06 PM
Other folks get to have a say in my vacation plans when they start paying for it. ;)
There you go!!! That's the perfect attitude!:thumbsup2

DSNY4ever
04-25-2008, 01:53 PM
When someone asks me what we're doing for vacation, I tell them "We're staying with some friends in Florida" That's usually enough.

Haha, we might have to make some friends in Florida so that we can use this excuse too ;) We get this all the time from people when we go to the DLR and when we say we are dreaming of going back to WDW- they think we are nuts!

We have even considered not telling my husband's family when we go, but then we might come home to police cars and missing posters around town :rotfl:

They went with us on our last trip to the DLR, and we were hoping that they would see why we love it so much, but no such luck.

carelo
04-25-2008, 06:23 PM
I had a friend who said that her three young kids would never enjoy Disney because they simply don't know who Mickey Mouse is and that they prefer the "newer, more moderrn characters" and then she said, "We just wouldn't 'get it' at all and my family would be totally bored" was her statement.:confused3


Wow, how sad their kids don't know Mickey. I guess my response to people who go to the beach and lay around would have to be "We just wouldn't 'get it' at all and my family would be totally bored" :laughing:

DisneyJenn18
04-26-2008, 03:12 PM
hi everyone, I'm still reading all the posts but wanted to say, I have the same issue! There are two things I love in this world, disney, and hockey...and whenever I talk about either I get the polite smiles......but I have slowly been turning others into believers! :lmao:

my buddy John has never been to anything disney!! (including his wife and kids!)...but we decided to take a spur of the moment 4 day trip to DL next week! I CANT WAIT! He is excited, but not sure what to expect....I know two weeks from now he will be planning his return visit!
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Dizney_Fanatic
04-26-2008, 03:23 PM
I really don't understand either. But in some ways, I think they are a bit jealous.

WaltD4Me
04-26-2008, 03:30 PM
my buddy John has never been to anything disney!! (including his wife and kids!)...but we decided to take a spur of the moment 4 day trip to DL next week! I CANT WAIT! He is excited, but not sure what to expect....I know two weeks from now he will be planning his return visit!

My cousin has been dying to go to Disney for years, but they don't have children and her husband, who is 15 years older than she is, has never been to Disney, said he's never wanted to go and said he never would. I wish I could describe him, he's an orthodontist and a bit odd...not in a bad way, but just, I don't know, sort of quiet, sort of into himself and rather old fashioned. She finally, finally talked him into it and they went with another couple, long time friends of theirs. They stayed at Grand Floridian and went in early March and HE is already asking her when they are going back!!! He had a fantastic time and loved it. I saw actual pictures of him smiling with Mickey, Donald, Rafiki and Goofy! I seriously couldn't believe it. So believe me, if this guy can be turned into a Disney lover, it can happen to absolutely ANYONE.

Stroller Boy
04-26-2008, 03:48 PM
You tell someone you are going on vacation and they give you a lecture about wasting your money going to Disney AGAIN.


I am so sick of it that I have literally stopped telling my SIL's that we are going again. I always get the lecture. We are not in debt and can afford a vacation. This is the only vacation we take every year short of going to our beachouse during the summer. I have come to the point of not even telling them but it always slips out in conversation and then I get the lecture.

Does this happen to anyone else? I for the life of me cant understand why they care where we go. I dont even know how to respond anymore with out getting a little snarky back. How would you respond to the lecture?

Sorry to hear that they are making you feel bad about it. Probably more about them than you! I've found that some people are jealous cause they can't talk their families and such into going. That's been my problem as my wife's family now has a family trip every other year...I'm 2 for 2 in selling Disney..I figure, if I gotta be saddled with these people it mind as well be at a place I like to go! :rotfl2:


Really though, my guess is that some of their lecture comes from jealousy, do what makes you happy, they'll get it eventually!

AllyGirl_79
04-26-2008, 03:51 PM
hi everyone, I'm still reading all the posts but wanted to say, I have the same issue! There are two things I love in this world, disney, and hockey...and whenever I talk about either I get the polite smiles......but I have slowly been turning others into believers! :lmao:


Disney and hockey? I think we may be long, lost relatives! I do believe that's the first time I've ever seen that combo together when I didn't write it.

paperdoll1986
04-26-2008, 04:59 PM
I honestly think it's the state of the world...

People are just so cynical nowadays as a whole, that the magic and pure innocent happiness of Disney just makes people wonder where the catch is or where is the moment where people are brainwashing children with something innappropriate or naughty. I get that from people about Mr. Rodgers, like it has subliminal messages.

That's what bothers me. Why does growing up mean having to prove that what you loved as a child is really some sham?

tinkbutt
04-26-2008, 07:44 PM
The one thing I hate is when they say "your going to disney AGAIN????"


like one time is ever enough???

bunch of butts!!!

DVCsince02
04-26-2008, 08:22 PM
I also reminded her that her nephew (our son) is here because of a particular Disney trip when we decided to have a child after 12 years of marriage and swearing we were not having kids. Disney changed our minds and I guess the heavens and earth aligned and I came home pregnant.

AWE!!:lovestruc

Disneynut71
04-26-2008, 08:30 PM
Everyone I work with and a few of my friends and family do not understand my need to go to Disney so much. Some of my friends just ask me out right when is my next trip.

I spend my own money. I have never charged a penny for my trips. I don't buy fancy clothes or drive a fancy car, just let me have my Disney Vacations.

lorax123
04-27-2008, 07:04 AM
Sorry to hear that they are making you feel bad about it. Probably more about them than you! I've found that some people are jealous cause they can't talk their families and such into going. That's been my problem as my wife's family now has a family trip every other year...I'm 2 for 2 in selling Disney..I figure, if I gotta be saddled with these people it mind as well be at a place I like to go! :rotfl2:


Really though, my guess is that some of their lecture comes from jealousy, do what makes you happy, they'll get it eventually!

Stroller Boy I have to agree, I think it's more jealousy than anything else.

So many people ask me how can you afford a trip to Orlando every year (or 2x a year). It's honestly not that expensive! (My opinion, if you know how to shop the systems it can be super cheap!)

We don't do a lot of stuff on the weekends. No small weekend trips. Those little 2-3 day get aways can easily cost $500. Skip doing those and you can go some place nice!

My one friend is planning a trip to Disney next year and they are planning on driving down for a 5 night stay at the All Stars. He told me this vacation is going to cost more than all the vacations he's taken, since his honeymoon, combined. Somewhere in the 5k range. I told him, he's doing something wrong, we are planning a 9 night stay at a 2 bedroom villa at OKW, DDP, then a 3 night stay at RPR. That's going to be less than $5k for our half, with airline and spending cash (splitting the OKW stay with inlaws).

So, there's definately some misconceptions about pricing out there.

Launchpad11B
04-27-2008, 08:22 AM
I agree that it's important to take your kids to Disney when they actually enjoy your company.
That's our point of view. Kids grow up to fast. Our Disney memories will stay with DD her whole life. :thumbsup2

amyhughes
04-27-2008, 10:04 AM
I agree that it's important to take your kids to Disney when they actually enjoy your company.
That's our point of view. Kids grow up to fast. Our Disney memories will stay with DD her whole life. :thumbsup2

Exactly.

They (and I admit I have probably biased them) LOVE Disney World. Funny anecdote I was telling Parker, our 5 yo, that I wanted to go to WDW again. He goes, "Oh me too." I said, "Well, when do you want to go?" He says, "HOw about....(starts looking upward and tapping his chin)...THURSDAY??"

I was dying laughing.

happy2go2wdwmom
04-27-2008, 10:34 PM
I agree that it's important to take your kids to Disney when they actually enjoy your company.
That's our point of view. Kids grow up to fast. :thumbsup2


This is our mantra and the current reason we head to WDW as much as we possibly can! Just today, driving for an hour in the car w/ DS ansd DH, after visiting newborn twins, we heard "Cat's in the Cradle" song-ha! When the song goes, "My son turned ten just the other day. He said, "Thanks for the ball, dad, come on let's play. Can you teach me to throw?" I said, "Not today, I got a lot to do." He said, "That's ok.".... I turned to my husband in tears and said "We HAVE to get to WDW again!!!" Then, DH started tearing up TOO and I thought he was losing it, but then I realized he was laughing and then he recalled a Simpson's episode where Homer calls a Guilty Dad Hotline and while he is on hold that's the song they play---I told DH tonight about the Simpson's Ride and now we are back on for a Fla. trip!:confused3

heavenleigh412
04-28-2008, 10:39 AM
DH is easy to convince even though he always complains about the cost... I just tell him every year we never know, DD may not want to go again next year... She should go while she still loves it (never mind the fact that she will ALWAYS want to go!) (DH has never been, he always wants to stay home with "his" dog)

I can't talk about Disney with my sister at all, she thinks we are excessive and does not want her children knowing we are going AGAIN... I think because she doesn't take them, and they would love to go. I have tried to talk them into going WITH us, but she has a million reasons why they can't (one of them being that the kids don't really enjoy it... someone should tell her kids that! She also doesn't want to go because her kids are fair skinned and they might burn, it is too hot, her favorite hotel doesn't exist anymore)

Then there are the people who can't understand that I LOVE Disney... they think I should just be taking my daughter and not be so gung-ho about going. Hey, I wear ears, meet characters, and take millions of pictures... plus I love the planning aspect. (I don't understand people who wing it all the time... no ADRs, no idea what park they want to go to on which days... I am not obsessive, well I don't think I am... I plan my ADR's, my park days, schedule pool time, know where I want to be when the fireworks/parades start,and have alternative plans for rainy days)