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hugabearjo
04-16-2008, 09:54 AM
I am so taken a back and so out of the loop that I hope you will help this Mom!

Last night, my DS17 who is relative shy and hasn't gone to his own prom. Was called out of the blue by an old friend of the family (mind you we haven't spent time with them in years and years) (my son doesn't even know forsure who she is). She is a senior and wanted to ask DS to the prom..... IT IS THIS SATURDAY!!!!! :scared1: Being the polite kid I have, (he is wonderful if I do say so myself), he said sure.

Her family has had a terrible year with her dad being quite ill and the Dr. can't figure out what is going on. I can only surmise that she had a date and something happened last minute. She already has the dress. I did think to have him ask it is blue.

So now here it goes, how nice a dinner before, where do I go rent a cheap tux (budget is a huge consideration given that I have been out of work due to an injury). Does my son buy the both the flowers, for her and himself?

It is in the town next to us so he doesn't really know his way around town. He has only had his driver's license for 4 months and it is required for 6 in our town that he not drive with kids other than siblings let alone on prom night.... :scared1: Plus DMV puts a midnight curfew on his license. He told her he had a car and could drive because he was so caught off gaurd and wasn't thinking. He is a rule follower and is now worried. Lastly on the subject, the town has many many oneway streets and ours doesn't and that makes him very very nervous.

So how do I resolve all this?? Do I need to figure out if he needs to purchase tickets? or should I atleast assume she can do that since it is her school?

HELP!!!! we were heading to bed last night when the call came. so we are taken aback.

Sorry this is long.
Jo

mommy-on-the-move
04-16-2008, 10:03 AM
I have no idea about prom ettiquette in the USA but I just wanted to say you have a lovely son there offering to be her date, I was ditched last minute by my prom date and my bestfriend took me instead so i know first hand what it means to have someone step in last minute!

Good luck to him.

Fairytale Princess
04-16-2008, 10:12 AM
I went with a family friend to my high school prom as well. Most of the girls at my hs expected the boy to pay for everything---that is NOT the way I was raised. My parents always taught me to pay my own way when out. So, with that being said, for prom, I bought the tickets for prom (mine and his--it was my prom, so IMHO, since he was doing me the favor I couldn't ask him to pay.) The tickets were being sold during the school day, so I'm guessing if hers are the same she could purchase them (if you want he could offer to pay for one or both) He asked my mom to help pick out my corsage since she'd seen my dress and he hadn't, and since the florist was offering a discount for buying the corsage and boutinere together, my mom paid for that (since this is a "gift" for the other person, I guess this would traditionally be split). Since she did that, he brought me flowers instead. Definitely do NOT break the law on prom night...cops will be out looking for underage drinking and would be more likely to notice, esp, if he is driving extremely cautiously not knowing his way around...I wouldn't take the risk. As for dinner, we all went with various steakhouse/formal dining restaurants where prom attire would be appropriate....think classy places that require a reservation...not Applebees and the like (don't get me wrong, I love Applebees, it's just not prom dinner appropriate). We had planned (well I had planned) for us to split dinner, but the sneaky thing that he was, slipped away and paid for both of us. As for tuxes, at this late date, I'm guessing stores like Goody's (cheaper than most) and the tux places in malls/bridal boutiques are out of the question both timewise and price wise---if he has a NICE black suit, that could be appropriate as well. In our group the guys all wore tuxes, but I know some of the guys did have on nice suits. Since they are going as friends/aquiantances, it seems more than appropriate to split the cost, IMHO. I'm sure you will do fine and hopefully she will be more than understanding if everything isn't quite as fancy or elaborate as that of others since you're working with such short notice and doing her a big favor! Your son sounds like a great guy!

Bethy Lou
04-16-2008, 10:16 AM
Oh wow, well it has been a while since I went to prom, but I do have younger siblings that did this a few years ago. The dinner is expected to be nicer than a chain restaurant, my sister went to a restaurant that was about $35 a person and they got together with a group of people to get a limo because of curfew restrictions. I can say I would be very worried about him driving if he is nervous himself. He is also expected to buy the flower for her, but she should for him. I know on average guys spend hundreds of dollars on prom. I would be surprised if he could even get a tux this late... I am sorry to be the bearer of news that could cause you more stress. I hope things work out! Maybe someone else has advice I do not have.

donac
04-16-2008, 10:35 AM
Check to see if dinner is included in the prom. I think you need to call this girl's parents and have a chat especially about the driving.

JeremyGNJ
04-16-2008, 10:51 AM
I've never heard of having dinner before a prom. But I always bought both flowers...and paid for everything other than whatever fees were required for the prom itself.

Bethy Lou
04-16-2008, 11:11 AM
I have never heard of NOT having dinner before prom, but I do agree with the PP who said to call the girl's parents. It does sound as if her date cancelled at the last minute. The parents might be able to tell you what their daughter is expecting as well.

scrapquitler
04-16-2008, 11:16 AM
I think a lot of this is a matter of local/regional custom. When I was in high school here in CT, the dinner was part of the prom (which was always held in the ballroom of a hotel), so I don't know about the dinner part. I would think that since she asked him, she should pay for the tickets (it's HER prom, right?). As for flowers, my parents owned a flower shop for 35 years, and when they did prom flowers, the boy almost always bought thenm, and the flower shop always included a boutinere for the boy free with the purchase of the girl's flowers. I guess this depends on the flower shop, when you order the flowers you should ask.

As for driving, I guess that one of the parents will have to drive because of the restrictions on the license. Or you could get a few kids together and spend $$$$$$$$$$$$ for a limo (but likely too late for that).

Call a tuxedo rental place ASAP to get that taken care of. Probably not a huge deal that it is last minute, especially if your son is not picky about the particular style. Last year when my DH had to rent a tux it cost about $80.

Bethy Lou
04-16-2008, 11:20 AM
My sister worked for a tuxedo shop in college and she said that they have some tuxes in stock for trying on styles only, you have to order them for your size. I assume all places work the same but I agree that you should call around and see what they can offer you.

design_mom
04-16-2008, 11:21 AM
I agree with the other people who suggested that you call the girl's mom to find out expectations, etc. (And that your son is super-sweet for agreeing to go.)

In my opinion, I think she should buy the tickets, but your son would be responsible for whatever he wears and a corsage for his date. I think dinner plans should be discussed with his date and that it would be acceptable to expect each to pay his/her own way, but you'd want to clarify upfront. (Our prom was a dinner-dance, so dinner was included. Our winter formal was not a dinner-dance, but many people went to dinner in "groups" so she might already have a reservation somewhere.)

I agree that your DS should not break the law about driving, so that might need to be rearranged. But if he does end up driving, maybe you could drive over to the next town on Friday afternoon and try to find your way to the event -- a dry run, of sorts. It's always easier to find places in the daylight and when there's not pressure about being on time or looking stupid in front of your date.)

Best of luck to you and your DS.

MomNeedsVacay
04-16-2008, 11:25 AM
ok- tickets.... If this girl goes to a different school, most likely she bought the tickets already. Almost always they are sold at school beforehand.

I would ask your son to have the girl drive...He could drive to her house, take pictures, and she could drive from there? I drove myself and my date to our prom (mostly its because we borrowed my Dad's Jag and he trusted me with it more than my date!)

I always bought the boutennerie and the guy always bought the corsage. Encourage him to get a wrist corsage b/c the pin on ones are tricky(especially if she is wearing a strapless dress!) ;)

If they do a nice dinner beforehand, usually the guy pays but who knows nowadays????

TUX? I have no idea... Do you know anyone he could borrow a tux from to defer rental costs? how about a nice dark suit?

puffkin
04-16-2008, 11:32 AM
I never heard of dinner before the prom? Dinner was always included at ours :confused3 I would think she already has the tickets, so I wouldn't expect your DS to have to pay for that.

I think he should buy the flowers, but check with her if she has ordered any.

I would talk to the mom about the driving situation. Maybe the girl has some friends with which they could go in with for a limo or something? I would think each would pay their own way.

My answers would be slightly different if DS obviously would not be a "back up" choice (regardless of her reasons).

cinjam
04-16-2008, 11:48 AM
Many, many, many years ago the girl bought the boutonniere for the guy & the guy bought the corsage for the girl.

When I was my prom I bought the tickets & when it was his prom he bought the tickets.

We rented a limo - just about everybody did in my era/town.

I guess, as a PP said, it depends on a region, but I've never heard of a dinner before. Dinner was always a part of the prom (usually at the ballroom of a hotel or a large banquet facility).

I also suggest a call to this girl's parents to get more details.

You son is truly a sweet boy to say yes.

Matt'sMom
04-16-2008, 12:15 PM
Since it is the girl who did the inviting, and it is her school prom (not your son's), she should be responsible for purchasing the tickets.

Your son should purchase her flowers. I would check with the girl's mother in regards to what will work best with her dress (wrist corsage?), and if they have a local florist where these can be done. In our area, the florists typically included a matching boutonniere at no additional charge. And if you tell the florist what sort of budget you have, they can usually work within that $ amount by using appropriately priced flower varieties (think mini roses as opposed to $$$ exotic lillies).

In regards to the tux--a lot of the guys in our area don't even wear a tux to the prom. It has always been perfectly acceptable in our area to wear a nice formal suit, or even a stylish suit jacket & dress pants. But I am from a small town in a relatively rural area, and here tuxes are usually reserved for use by members of the bridal party at weddings.

Couples also did not typically go out to eat dinner before the prom, at the school I attended. Food was available at the prom, with additional 'snacks' provided at the post prom party. Occassionally, one of our circle of friends would host a light, pre-prom 'meal' at their home... but otherwise, we all just ate at the actual prom. Check with the girl's mother to find out what is typical in their town. If couples do go out to eat, it may be difficult to get reservations at this late date... so the girl's family might need to help you figure out where they can still get in. And again, since the girl did the inviting, I see nothing wrong with splitting the bill between the two families, if a dinner is expected.

As for the issue of transportation... ask if this girl has friends that they can tag along with. Nothing wrong with you driving DS to the girl's house, and then their traveling to and from the actual prom with another couple. That would probably be the easiest and least awkward solution.

Bethy Lou
04-16-2008, 12:20 PM
I guess the dinner with prom is a regional thing. I went to mine in Virginia, and my brother and sister went in Georgia and we all did it before hand at a nice restaurant. I am guessing that this is not done in the northeast? This boy is so sweet to be willing to do this for a girl he barely knows. I hope my children will be as thoughtful and considerate as teenagers!

The Moonk's Mom
04-16-2008, 12:41 PM
Years ago, before the dawn of time, when I went to the prom my Junior year of HS, I asked a friend to be my date. We went to dinner before the prom, which was pretty common around my hometown, and we went dutch. Neither of us had much to spend on the whole event. He wore a nice suit. We did buy each other's flowers. We rode with friends, which cut down on cost. As for the tickets, since I asked, I (or my parents) paid for the tickets.

As many others have said, talk to the other partents, just so there is no problems this weekend.

Oh, another idea, maybe you could cook for them a nice dinner?

D,L and K's Mom
04-16-2008, 01:45 PM
My DD and her boyfriend will be attending their Jr.prom in May. DD will be buyin her dress and his flower. He will be buying/ renting his tux and her flowers. He is going to pay for dinner ($$$ restaurant on the lake) and DH and I are buying the tickets for the actual dance. DD has a job and she is saving money for college. Boyfriend is a great kid and he also is working and saving money. He wanted to buy the tickets but since he is always driving and paying for gas and will not take money from DD we bought them for them. He will be coming here for photos with other kids, we will follow the "GROUP" to his house and other houses for photos. His parents along with other parents are dropping off a bunch of them at the restaurant for dinner and other parents will be picking them up from dinner and dropping them off at the Prom. We will be picking them up from the Prom along with other parents and bringing them here so they can swim (if it is nice outside). Parents will be picking them up from here to bring them home. They looked into a limo but since this is the Jr prom they are waiting until next year so it is special. I would discuss with the other parents what is expected and then go from there.

bumbershoot
04-16-2008, 03:46 PM
Theorizing is useless with this time-frame, he has to get on the phone and talk to her. Or have you and her mom talk, since you are old family friends (with my mom, she would have known about this before I did, if a family friend's son was going to ask me to something, LOL).

Since he can't drive legally home, she has to know that. He needs to know if there is a dinner connected to the dance (our proms/balls ended up that way by my Senior year b/c people were getting TANKED an hour before the dance started and they wanted to try to curtail that, but the years before that people would just go to dinner on their own) and if it isn't, IF she wants to go to dinner.

In these days of mapquest, there's almost no reason to get lost in a new town, well, except that mapquest has gotten confused with one-ways for me...do mapquest and google maps, compare, contrast, and even take a little trip in the next two days to practice? Ooh what if you and he went over to her house, so you can catch up with the parents and he can have his chat about the dance with the daughter? Might be a nice Wed, Thurs, or Fri afternoon adventure. :)

No time for theorizing, they have to lay it on the line and figure out what all is involved and who is paying for what!

kim_o
04-16-2008, 05:08 PM
Dinner is definitely a regional thing. I grew up in the northeast and went to prom there (approximately 8 of them) and they were the equivalent of a wedding reception - at a nice reception like place, sit down dinner served, DJ and dance floor. I currently live in the south (where DH is from) and the custom down here is nice dinner beforehand. They don't serve dinner at the prom. Dinner was usually at a very nice restaurant.

Since it is the girl's prom and a last minute invite, I think she should be responsible for the tickets (they should already be paid for). As far as dinner - your son should probably offer to pay.

Flowers - he buys her a wrist corsage, she buys him a boutinere (or however you spell it ;-)).

Driving - that's a little more tricky and will probably have to be worked out with the girl and her parents.

NotUrsula
04-16-2008, 06:30 PM
So now here it goes, how nice a dinner before, where do I go rent a cheap tux ... Does my son buy the both the flowers, for her and himself?

She who invites, pays, for all of the things that a guy would pay for if he did the inviting. So ... your son pays for his own clothing and her flowers, she buys the tickets, the meal, and flowers for him, and also any photos purchased at the dance.

This being a last-minute thing, if he owns a suit then he should wear that, not a tux. Renting a suit is also usually much cheaper than renting a tux; look into that if he doesn't own one. (By a suit I mean a suit, not a sport coat and khakis.)

The driving thing needs to be worked out ahead of time, if need be between the parents.

DevilDuckie
04-16-2008, 06:40 PM
Well, some of the standard rules are tossed out off the cuff because *she* asked him rather than the other way around. It is simply not reasonable nor courteous for her to ask him to take her and to pay for it all to boot.

He should call her and explain the driving issue. That is not his fault and you can all come up with a plan from there.

It would be a lovely gesture for him to buy her flowers. He should call her to "confirm that she has tickets already" and ask if dinner is included or if not, ask what sort of food she likes. This should hint to her that tickets are her responsibility if she didn't already know that. Dinner should be within his means. Nobody ought to go broke because they think the "owe" someone lobster. She may state an intention to buy him dinner which he should accept graciously.

Tuxes- we did very well with Men's Wearhouse for my wedding. Not terribly expensive and excellent, professional service.

merryweather's twin
04-16-2008, 07:46 PM
We had to get a tux last minute a few years ago and we went to JC Pennys! They have them with the suits! I think it was $130.on sale and we owned it . I hope this helps.:goodvibes

hugabearjo
04-16-2008, 09:57 PM
Thank you for all the responses. I was able to find a tux so after school and meetings, we scrambled and he was fitted it should be here tomorrow or Friday at the latest. Yeah!!!! Still haven't done much else, we also looked at flowers but, we don't know the exact color of her dress, just that it is "blue" got the paperwork done for him to go to the other school, it was faxed to his school today so that helps. The other mom still isn't home so I am still waiting to ask what the expectations of dinner and tickets are. My DS and I decided that he would drive to her house and that is it, either I would drive them or the other parents or the young lady who invited him, I believe even though they are only a few months apart she has had her license much longer and can drive without the limitations (dear son had to deal with me a single mom who is a scaredy cat to get his license so was very patient with me and got it when he was 17 rather than 16).

Again- thank you for all the great responses, if you think of anything else please please keep it coming

Jo

design_mom
04-16-2008, 10:45 PM
we also looked at flowers but, we don't know the exact color of her dress, just that it is "blue"


Glad you found the tux. If he needs to order flowers before he can clarify the color of the dress, maybe you could go with yellow, pink or white flowers. They should look okay with just about any color of blue dress. I don't think the flowers and the dress have to match.

MousekaMaddi
04-16-2008, 10:49 PM
have him get her a wrist corsage, much easier to wear.

hugabearjo
04-19-2008, 12:59 PM
Thank you so much for all the information. I was able to pull it all together and I am so releaved. DS17 looks so nice in his tux. I can't believe how fast they grow up. She did indeed purchase the tickets. They decided together since neither of them like fancy dinners that they are going to go to dinner casually and then go back to her house and change for the dance.

God is good, he worked out the driving too. The dance is on the same end of town that she lives on, so no one way streets. She just turned 18 so no worry about him transporting a minor, and lastly as to the after midnight rule, I called DMV and they said it is a school activity so it is fine. It doesn't matter that it isn't his school, it is still a high school activity that he was invited to go. We went and drove the route yesterday so he feels comfortable with it. He is very nervous but, I think he will have fun.

Thanks again Dis-friends for all the help, when I was in a panic. And for giving me ideas to ask.

Have a great day
Jo

emh1129
04-20-2008, 11:39 AM
How did it go? Your son sounds like such a sweet young man :) (good job!)

mommy-on-the-move
04-20-2008, 02:57 PM
**bumping** because i came back curious to see how it went too! Hope he had a great time.

D,L and K's Mom
04-20-2008, 03:00 PM
How did it go???!!????!!:confused3

Rylee
04-20-2008, 08:43 PM
I just read through this thread, and I guess I didn't realize how much prom traditions vary in different schools and locations.

My daughter's Junior Prom is on May 9... she's on Prom Court. princess: :yay:

We have been attending monthly After Prom Party meetings since September. At these meetings, they did discuss prom etiquette...

If your son/daughter is the junior, and he/she invites someone from a different grade level or school, you and your junior are responsible for just about everything... tickets, picture package, & 2 shares of the limo cost, etc.

If your son/daughter is the junior and going with another junior from his/her class... the cost for tickets, pictures and the limo ride are split evenly.

Dinner is served at the Prom.

Our school has a wonderful after-prom party. It is with the hope, that if we provide a safe place to "party," the kids won't throw their own parties involving alcohol, or worst... drink and drive. They rent out the YMCA for the night. (All night party.) The kids have raised money all year, and there will be food, music, gym and swim activites and lots of prizes... ipods, TV's, DVD players, a computer, etc.

The school will provide a bus at the end of the prom, to take the kids to the after-prom party, or they can arrive in their limos. If a parent is bringing them to the party, the parent MUST walk in with their child. NO student is allowed to drive to the after-prom party. This is so the students won't have an opportunity to "drink." Once a student is signed-in, they aren't allowed to leave the party unless a parent comes for them. All students must be picked up by 8AM.


OP - Hope your son has a wonderful time.

rcrk10
04-20-2008, 09:46 PM
My son's HS prom is in a couple of weeks - normal activities are....

Meet at local park for Pictures

Go to school for 'official pictures'

Have a parade of all the couples. They have it in the school gym and announce the couples one by one as they come out.

Go to school parking lot and get in your limo.

Take Limo to downtown Pittsburgh (approx 30 miles away) (Sheraton hotel) for Dinner and Dancing.

at 11:30 pm they get on a river boat (paddle wheeler) for 'after prom', which usually last till 3am.

Limo's then take them back to the school.

Once they check in at the Prom for Dinner, the chaperones make sure and verifies that they all get on the boat.

DevilDuckie
04-20-2008, 09:52 PM
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Our school has a wonderful after-prom party. It is with the hope, that if we provide a safe place to "party," the kids won't throw their own parties involving alcohol, or worst... drink and drive. They rent out the YMCA for the night. (All night party.) The kids have raised money all year, and there will be food, music, gym and swim activites and lots of prizes... ipods, TV's, DVD players, a computer, etc.



The small county I went to high school in started something similar for sober grad night when they were losing 1 kid a year to drunk driving that weekend. (Out of less than 1000 high schoolers total. Pretty Grim.) The carnival that comes through the week before is held over and there are free rides, bingo, casino games and an auction with the fake money at the end for electronics, cash, etc.

D,L and K's Mom
04-20-2008, 10:43 PM
My DD is a Jr and there is nothing "offical" going on for the kids before or after the ball. Dinner is even something they do on their own. Coming from a family that has lost someone to a drunk driver I would love to see the school do some sort of a safe, fun activity for the children. We are doing something here for the kids after but nothing is planned for everyone. Anyone on the Ball or Prom planning committee? I would love the particulars ...how you plan it, do you get sponsors etc.......I would love to bring this idea to the school for the Jr Prom. I have to admit I am unsure about the Senior Ball but I am pretty sure they do not have a planned activity either. Thank you.

hugabearjo
04-21-2008, 12:55 AM
All is well, thank goodness. It sounds like he had a good time, and was glad he went. They ended up doing a more "fancy" dinner because her friend and her date went with them. But, he thought it was fun. :) I am so glad this is a child who is very shy and I am so proud of him that he stretched out of his comfort zone to go and then was glad. I got some good pictures on the camera I sent with him so that was very cool.

We were very busy with a special seminar at church today and just got home, he wasn't thrilled to be woke up this morning but, quickly got in a good mood (sure sign to me that all went well last night).

He is exhausted, I think the worry right up too the event.

His tux looked wonderful, I was really disappointed with the coursage (it had 3 flowers in a sea of ribbon and 2 of the mini roses were wilted), so I went to Safeway and found one cheaper and the perfect colors. It was very pretty.

I am so thankful for the support and words of wisdom and encouragement that my friends here give so freely.

Thanks Disboards for creating a circle of friends.

Jo

MomNeedsVacay
04-21-2008, 05:53 AM
My son's HS prom is in a couple of weeks - normal activities are....

Meet at local park for Pictures

Go to school for 'official pictures'

Have a parade of all the couples. They have it in the school gym and announce the couples one by one as they come out.

Go to school parking lot and get in your limo.

Take Limo to downtown Pittsburgh (approx 30 miles away) (Sheraton hotel) for Dinner and Dancing.

at 11:30 pm they get on a river boat (paddle wheeler) for 'after prom', which usually last till 3am.

Limo's then take them back to the school.

Once they check in at the Prom for Dinner, the chaperones make sure and verifies that they all get on the boat.

You must be in Weirton??? I went to college in steubenville- ha!!

mommy-on-the-move
04-21-2008, 06:39 AM
Very pleased to hear it went well

Rylee
04-21-2008, 09:06 AM
My DD is a Jr and there is nothing "offical" going on for the kids before or after the ball. Dinner is even something they do on their own. Coming from a family that has lost someone to a drunk driver I would love to see the school do some sort of a safe, fun activity for the children. We are doing something here for the kids after but nothing is planned for everyone. Anyone on the Ball or Prom planning committee? I would love the particulars ...how you plan it, do you get sponsors etc.......I would love to bring this idea to the school for the Jr Prom. I have to admit I am unsure about the Senior Ball but I am pretty sure they do not have a planned activity either. Thank you.

After Prom Party

The After Prom committee is all vounteer... parents and students.
All money is raised by the students.
They raise far more than what is needed for the After Prom Party... they also earn money to off-set the cost of their personal prom expenses.
This money in not used for the actual prom... the class has been raising money to cover that expense separately.

Students and parents earn points. A point is given for each meeting you attend, every event that they help with, and each sale the student makes.

Students earning the following point levels are guaranteed the following - (Prizes awarded in the form of cash.)

10 points receive free flowers.
14 points receive free flowers and $$ towards pictures
16 points receive free flowers, $$ towards pictures, and free Prom tickets
.

In addition...


Students earning 14 points will also have their name entered in a drawing to will $100 toward their dress or tux. (1 boy and 1 girl name will be drawn.)

Students earning 16 points will be eligible for a chance to win the laptop and printer.


Parent points do NOT help students reach point levels. Students will be given 1 ticket for each parent point earned, to be drawn for chances to win extra cash for hair, nails tanning and limo expenses.

At the After Prom Party - For every point earned, students will have 1 ticket entered into the drawings for TV's, DVD players, ipods, etc. The prizes were purchased by the committee, (using money already raised) on the day after Thanksgiving. (A group of parents that set out bright and early for all the early specials... crazy but fun.)

Events and sales to raise money -


Donkey Basketball
Middle School Activity Nights
Bake Sales
"Bagging" at Bass Pro, the day after Thanksgiving (Bass Pro paid our student volunteers... money went directly the the party fund.)
Winterfest
Entertainment Book Sale
School Clothing sales
Poinsetta Sale
Easter Flower Sale
Pizza Hut and Applebee's nights... % given to fund.



At the After Prom Party the prizes are spread out on a table. They do the drawings all through the night. When your named is pulled, you may choose whatever you want from the table, although you can't choose the same type of gift twice, like taking 2 ipods.

Both my older daughters came home with DVD players, a TV, walkman, CD player... one daughter even won a tent???... towards the end of the party when most of the gifts had been chosen.

The party will have a DJ. They are allowed to swim or use the gyms. There is also a quiet room, for kids who may want to snooze.

The kids planned the menu at the last meeting... pizza, wings, salads, subs, donuts and fresh fruit.

Overnight bags must be dropped off at the school the day before with the understanding... they will be searched.

Our After Prom program is excellent and has been used as an example by neighboring schools.



*The class already voted for Prom Court... 8 girls (my daughter is one of them) and 8 boys. I'm surprised at myself, but... I find myself really hoping my daughter will be crowned Queen... she really is a sweetie, just a very nice kid.

tmatthews
04-21-2008, 10:45 AM
After Prom Party

The After Prom committee is all vounteer... parents and students.
All money is raised by the students.
They raise far more than what is needed for the After Prom Party... they also earn money to off-set the cost of their personal prom expenses.
This money in not used for the actual prom... the class has been raising money to cover that expense separately.

Students and parents earn points. A point is given for each meeting you attend, every event that they help with, and each sale the student makes.

Students earning the following point levels are guaranteed the following - (Prizes awarded in the form of cash.)

10 points receive free flowers.
14 points receive free flowers and $$ towards pictures
16 points receive free flowers, $$ towards pictures, and free Prom tickets
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In addition...


Students earning 14 points will also have their name entered in a drawing to will $100 toward their dress or tux. (1 boy and 1 girl name will be drawn.)

Students earning 16 points will be eligible for a chance to win the laptop and printer.


Parent points do NOT help students reach point levels. Students will be given 1 ticket for each parent point earned, to be drawn for chances to win extra cash for hair, nails tanning and limo expenses.

At the After Prom Party - For every point earned, students will have 1 ticket entered into the drawings for TV's, DVD players, ipods, etc. The prizes were purchased by the committee, (using money already raised) on the day after Thanksgiving. (A group of parents that set out bright and early for all the early specials... crazy but fun.)

Events and sales to raise money -


Donkey Basketball
Middle School Activity Nights
Bake Sales
"Bagging" at Bass Pro, the day after Thanksgiving (Bass Pro paid our student volunteers... money went directly the the party fund.)
Winterfest
Entertainment Book Sale
School Clothing sales
Poinsetta Sale
Easter Flower Sale
Pizza Hut and Applebee's nights... % given to fund.



At the After Prom Party the prizes are spread out on a table. They do the drawings all through the night. When your named is pulled, you may choose whatever you want from the table, although you can't choose the same type of gift twice, like taking 2 ipods.

Both my older daughters came home with DVD players, a TV, walkman, CD player... one daughter even won a tent???... towards the end of the party when most of the gifts had been chosen.

The party will have a DJ. They are allowed to swim or use the gyms. There is also a quiet room, for kids who may want to snooze.

The kids planned the menu at the last meeting... pizza, wings, salads, subs, donuts and fresh fruit.

Overnight bags must be dropped off at the school the day before with the understanding... they will be searched.

Our After Prom program is excellent and has been used as an example by neighboring schools.



*The class already voted for Prom Court... 8 girls (my daughter is one of them) and 8 boys. I'm surprised at myself, but... I find myself really hoping my daughter will be crowned Queen... she really is a sweetie, just a very nice kid.

DDs school has similar after proms as do many other local schools in the area. Parents provide food and music and MANY MANY gifts! $1000 for 1 jr and $1000 for 1 sr in cash is given away at the end of the night to keep the kids there as well as other great gifts like ipods and tvs. They have a hypnotist and massages....all is all a great night...kids get out of prom gear and wear sweats and such...then off to someone's poor house to sleep the day away!!!!

D,L and K's Mom
04-21-2008, 05:15 PM
It sounds fantastic!!!!! Good luck to your Daughter. My daughter is a tomboy!! I am thrilled we are able to get her into a dress for the Prom. It is very classic looking....black and white. Simple but really nice. Her boyfriend is no help at all he tells her, "you look beautiful in anything". I could kill him!!:headache: I keep telling him to tell her he would like to see her hair down and maybe a little makeup....nope. Oh well, there is always DD who is 4 to work on. I dont think I have any hope she already vetos the socks with the lace!!!!!!! We will all have to come back here later and post Prom photos!!