Who wants to discuss their long distance relationships?

[sand2270]

Hi all. Thought I would see if those on the adult/solo boards who are or were in long distance relationships with the one they love would like a place to chat about it (how do you handle it, offer support, vent if necessary :) ). I don't want to hijack other threads with this topic so thought I would create a new one.

I'll start. I have been dating my DBF for about 2 1/2 years. I am in Tucson and he is in Denver. We both have kids which has prevented either of us from moving. We love each other and are committed to each other so we are just taking it one day at a time. I personally never thought I could do a LDR but I guess when you meet the right person you do what you can to make it work.

[jpringle]

I am also in a long distance relationship, it is very hard only seeing each other a few times a year. What makes it particularly hard is we both live in different countries, I'm in England and my girlfriend is in Canada. We are both looking forward to May when shes comes over here for nine nights. Then we are both heading for WDW in October for a week :cool1: :banana: . We have found MSN and Skype very useful for keeping in touch the five hour time difference doesn't help though.

James

[sand2270]

I am also in a long distance relationship, it is very hard only seeing each other a few times a year. What makes it particularly hard is we both live in different countries, I'm in England and my girlfriend is in Canada. We are both looking forward to May when shes comes over here for nine nights. Then we are both heading for WDW in October for a week :cool1: :banana: . We have found MSN and Skype very useful for keeping in touch the five hour time difference doesn't help though.

James

That is quite a distance. My DBF spent over 6 months in Tokyo last year, it was very hard but we survived. Instant messenger was definitely our friend. What keeps me going is looking forward to the next time we see each other.

How did you meet?

[blondie7]

That is quite a distance. My DBF spent over 6 months in Tokyo last year, it was very hard but we survived. Instant messenger was definitely our friend. What keeps me going is looking forward to the next time we see each other.

How did you meet?

I can answer that. I am James girlfriend. We met here and Dismates. We both shared a love for Disney started talking and then before we knew it we were in love. We met in August and James came over to visit me in Jan/Feb for a few days. As he said I am going over there in May. I can't wait. I am also looking forward to our trip to WDW in October. The distance is hard but true love is worth every hardship and I am positive we will end up together in the end. It must have been difficult when your DBF was in Toyko the time difference is the hardest part to deal with. We really only get to talk on weekends. Good luck to you and your DBF I know with kids it is even more difficult.

[CoMickey]

Hi all. Thought I would see if those on the adult/solo boards who are or were in long distance relationships with the one they love would like a place to chat about it (how do you handle it, offer support, vent if necessary :) ). I don't want to hijack other threads with this topic so thought I would create a new one.

I'll start. I have been dating my DBF for about 2 1/2 years. I am in Tucson and he is in Denver. We both have kids which has prevented either of us from moving. We love each other and are committed to each other so we are just taking it one day at a time. I personally never thought I could do a LDR but I guess when you meet the right person you do what you can to make it work.

Hi there! I'll jump in. My DBF just left this morning after a wonderfully long weekend visit. I live in Denver and my DBF lives in LA. We met at WDW last July 4th and have been lucky enough to meet at least once a month but usually are able to fit in twice a month. I work from home and can take my job anywhere so I am able to go to visit him for longer periods. I will be seeing him again beginning April 24 until May 5th!

I agree that I wasn't so sure about a LDR either but here we are and I know that I made the right choice in sticking with it. He has two children still in school and I have one DD who is in college. We had 'the talk' this weekend and I am so excited! Neither of us had really seriously brought up the subject of moving just said 'what if's', but we did talk about it this weekend and I can't wait! My lease on my aprartment isn't up until Sep. so I won't be moving right away but at least there is an end in sight! :lovestruc

[sand2270]

Hi there! I'll jump in. My DBF just left this morning after a wonderfully long weekend visit. I live in Denver and my DBF lives in LA. We met at WDW last July 4th and have been lucky enough to meet at least once a month but usually are able to fit in twice a month. I work from home and can take my job anywhere so I am able to go to visit him for longer periods. I will be seeing him again beginning April 24 until May 5th!

I agree that I wasn't so sure about a LDR either but here we are and I know that I made the right choice in sticking with it. He has two children still in school and I have one DD who is in college. We had 'the talk' this weekend and I am so excited! Neither of us had really seriously brought up the subject of moving just said 'what if's', but we did talk about it this weekend and I can't wait! My lease on my aprartment isn't up until Sep. so I won't be moving right away but at least there is an end in sight! :lovestruc

That's great. I hope it works out. If you move to LA you would also be much closer to your daughter at ASU :) .

[sand2270]

it's nice to talk to people going through the same thing. :)

[Devil_Dog99]

Hi there. Was going to read the posts and move along, but considering DW has been calling our marriage a LDR lately, figured I would give my .02:

I am a travelling consultant in the computer industry. When I work from home (like this week), I can roll out of bed, put a t-shirt on, and I am ready for work. Unfortunately I have been traveling most of the past nine months and I found out today I could be going for a four month gig in Wisconsin when I am done in Durham NC and after a week long trip to Chicago.

We have been married 15 years and I have had this job for 3. Not that we had problems before, but my traveling has brought us closer. As she says - we dont have time to argue :rotfl: . We use e-mail, and I call her no less than 4 times a day - morning, noon, night and bedtime. Most times, it is just 'hi how are you' and less than three minutes long. Othertimes we'll talk for an hour. She knows how much I love my job and I remind her what I told her when I first took it - the worst part is the time between 5 pm one night and 8 am the next morning. We have made it work.

Good luck to all you couples in a true LDR - I feel a little guilty posting because I do get to see DW every weekend. But those 48 hours seem oh so short, then it's off to the airport again.

[sand2270]

Hi there. Was going to read the posts and move along, but considering DW has been calling our marriage a LDR lately, figured I would give my .02:

I am a travelling consultant in the computer industry. When I work from home (like this week), I can roll out of bed, put a t-shirt on, and I am ready for work. Unfortunately I have been traveling most of the past nine months and I found out today I could be going for a four month gig in Wisconsin when I am done in Durham NC and after a week long trip to Chicago.

We have been married 15 years and I have had this job for 3. Not that we had problems before, but my traveling has brought us closer. As she says - we dont have time to argue :rotfl: . We use e-mail, and I call her no less than 4 times a day - morning, noon, night and bedtime. Most times, it is just 'hi how are you' and less than three minutes long. Othertimes we'll talk for an hour. She knows how much I love my job and I remind her what I told her when I first took it - the worst part is the time between 5 pm one night and 8 am the next morning. We have made it work.

Good luck to all you couples in a true LDR - I feel a little guilty posting because I do get to see DW every weekend. But those 48 hours seem oh so short, then it's off to the airport again.

I can relate. With my DBF's job even if one of us move he still travels a lot for work. He was in Tokyo for 8 months last year, so even if we lived in the same city I still would have hardly seen him. Tha's also why it doesn't make sense for me to move to Denver since he is gone a lot and at least I have my family and friends here.

I don't see that as an entirely bad thing. I think one of the reasons this relationship works is we are both the type of people that need our space. Now granted, living in 2 different states is a little more space than I need. But the nice thing is we are so happy to see each other that we rarely fight and it feels like we are still in the honeymoon phase.

[djblu883]

well this one is certainly a bit different..my soulmate is in prison...yes I knew him before and its been 10 years. He is in for DUI manslaughter. He is a great guy who made a very horrible decision to drink and drive.... I tried dating outside the relationship at his request BUT I've stuck by him and he supports my love of Disney. We spend as much time together as we can(weekend visits)...and share our dreams as well as our frustrations together...recently he was moved to work release...this means in a few months I can take him home on weekends...and in a year possibly to WDW again for the first time in many many years...we plan a Disney re-wedding to celebrate his release...:hippie: :banana:

[beansmom]

oh, my! That must be awful hard.

My fiance lives in the Boston area and I live in Dallas...circumstances also prevent us from being together right now. We're working on changing that within the year, tho!

He'd not been to DW in years and we went last year together and now it's one of 'our places'.

LDRs ARE hard but we fly back and forth a bit...in fact, he'll be with me in 3 weeks for my birthday. I think I just have to say I believe the old saying 'love conquers all'.

[MagiKitty]

Wow! I just found this thread. Its good to know there are others out there in a similar situation to mine.

I'm in NY, my BF is in Kansas, we've been together three years. We see each other several times during the year, as scheduling permits. WDW is our special place, we plan an extended week's vacation together every year.

I don't usually bring up that I'm in a LDR, people have doubts that it can really work. But I talk to my BF every night, and that's more than some people who live in the same house!

Be strong everyone! Our sweeties may not be with us everyday, but they're in our hearts and minds.

[sand2270]

I don't usually bring up that I'm in a LDR, people have doubts that it can really work. But I talk to my BF every night, and that's more than some people who live in the same house!

That is what I struggle with. Neither of us are in a place where we can move right now. We know we will end up together we just don't know when. While this has been one of the hardest things I have ever done at the same time I have never felt this way about anyone. What I mean is, I don't think I could have an LDR with anyone else...this is who I want to be with and this is just the barrier we have to put up with right now.

But I have also started limiting what I say to my friends because I get a lot of pressure and criticism. All of my friends seem to think I need to find someone who lives close by, is ready to get married and settle down. Well, I already had that, I got married when I was 25 and was never really happy in the relationship. I would rather do a LDR with someone I really love and care about than have a relationship with someone who lives close by but that I don't really feel the same way about. Marriage is not my goal, being with the right person is my goal.

It is also funny coming from people who are in a relationship and live together/are married but they hate each other (or just don't seem to like each other very much). I can't say what will happen when we are finally in the same place, but for now I know that the time we do have together is usually happy and fun, I cry when he leaves, but we are so happy to see each other when he returns. We do fight, but not much, and it always just brings us closer.

[MagiKitty]

I always think that relationships, whether in proximity or distance, takes a lot of work. I always say I wouldn't recommend LDR to anyone, I won't deny it really gets tough sometimes. But I always think about how BLESSED I am to have found this amazing person, this happiness, that its worth fighting for and dealing with whatever hardship may come our way.

We too do not know when we will be able to move and be together "full time", but I do know that it will happen and I look forward to that day.

[CoMickey]

Hi all - Although it doesn't making being away from our LDR's any easier, it is comforting to be able to share with others that understand!

I am currently in LA with Mr. CA and have been since April 24 and I am already dreading leaving on Monday, May 5th. We are going to Disneyland on Friday and Saturday...so excited!

We'll be together again the weekend of May 16th we're both flying to Phoenix for my DD's birthday (they haven't met yet and it's been 9 months!) but it still is hard being away from him for even one day especially after spending this much time with him. It really makes the withdrawal that much more difficult then a weekend visit.

How did all of you meet your LDR's? Maybe you already wrote that but I have memory failure!

Hey DJblue - have you already been to Disneyland?

Waiting for Mr. CA to get home from work so we can go out on a 'date'...woo hoo! We've had his kids the entire time I've been here so this will be our night! Do any of your LDR's have kids? Being in a relationship with kids is a new experience for me, the other man that I dated for long term did not have any kids and I wasn't sure how it would be but it's working out great so far. The kids and I get along really well and they don't seem to mind that I am getting some of their dad's attention. Whew!

Take care everyone!

[MagiKitty]

Oh, CoMickey, I know exactly how you feel! It doesn't help that I'm a complete wreck when its time to go. I'm the crazy girl in the airport bawling uncontrollably. Its truly the most difficult part.

Bf and I, ahem, met online. We were in an advice chat room. I gave him advice on a problem he was having with a girl. We spoke once, and went our separate ways. Some time later, we ran into each other again and I asked about what happened to the girl. I guess my advice didn't work, because she and my now BF didn't get together. I myself was getting over someone and was on a self-proclaimed "man sabbatical". I told him we could talk, but no matter how charming he was, it was a no go.

I held out for about five months. I was in Canada visiting family and realized I wanted to talk to HIM and I couldn't b/c it would cost a fortune.

I've been in trouble (happily) with him ever since.

No, neither one of us have children. Have fun on your date! Enjoy your weekend!

[djblu883]

Hi all - Although it doesn't making being away from our LDR's any easier, it is comforting to be able to share with others that understand!

I am currently in LA with Mr. CA and have been since April 24 and I am already dreading leaving on Monday, May 5th. We are going to Disneyland on Friday and Saturday...so excited!

We'll be together again the weekend of May 16th we're both flying to Phoenix for my DD's birthday (they haven't met yet and it's been 9 months!) but it still is hard being away from him for even one day especially after spending this much time with him. It really makes the withdrawal that much more difficult then a weekend visit.

How did all of you meet your LDR's? Maybe you already wrote that but I have memory failure!

Hey DJblue - have you already been to Disneyland?

Waiting for Mr. CA to get home from work so we can go out on a 'date'...woo hoo! We've had his kids the entire time I've been here so this will be our night! Do any of your LDR's have kids? Being in a relationship with kids is a new experience for me, the other man that I dated for long term did not have any kids and I wasn't sure how it would be but it's working out great so far. The kids and I get along really well and they don't seem to mind that I am getting some of their dad's attention. Whew!

Take care everyone!

Yes I was there 2 weeks ago...I enjoyed it but still prefer WDW lol...I met my LDR at a bar...not good since he is now in trouble for DUI manslaughter...but he is a good man otherwise and hasn't tried to do that again although has that chance everyday!!!We hve been together for 16 years now. He traveled for work and we would spend most weekends together somewhere..camping and at home. He wold travel several states at times so we could be together...now It's my turn. I work on the road and travel to see him. We write and talk...It's hard not to have him there to share good and bad times with...he didn't see my grandaughter born...but they share a special bond now. He lost both parents in that time as well.life is what you make it so we do and still feel very blessed to have found one another...glad things go well for others in similar circumstances and know it can and does work!!:hippie:

[beansmom]

my favorite thing is when my 'friend' tells me that my fiance isn't 'real' because we met online and he lives so far away. Gee, he sure SEEMS real when he's got his arms wrapped around me. Yup...real for real!

LOL. I also limit what I say...I don't care what people think but I don't have enough time to explain it all to everyone. The only people that truly matter are me and him and our children.

:) He IS my Prince Charming.

[sand2270]

Hi all. I realized yesterday that my post could have been taken the wrong way. I agree, LDR's are hard and I would not recommend them. This is probably one of the hardest things I have done. And while I know couples who are in the same place that aren't happy I also know many that are.

Really the only point I was trying to get across is this is what I have chosen as right for me right now. I love my friends and know they are looking out for my best interest, but I am the only one who can make the choices that are right for me. The same goes for everyone else. While I try hard not to judge others relationships because mine gets judged so often, I am human and do judge sometimes. But really everyone has to make the choices that work for them.

:)

[MagiKitty]

Sand, I'm a little confused now! I read your post title as wanting to open a discussion about persons who share the same situation. What do you think has been taken the wrong way? Has it gone in a direction that you're not comfortable with? Please help me understand.

[sand2270]

No no no...I am fine. I was just clarifying what I said. I was thinking about what I posted and thought it sounded like LDR's were the way to go because people I know who are in the same place don't like each other anyway. I thought it had some negativity to it and I just wanted to clarify that wasn't what I meant. It's all good.

[MagiKitty]

Oh thank goodness! I felt so bad!

[sand2270]

after seeing how some of these threads blow up I try to be very careful about what I say :)

[Quiksilvr]

My wife and I were in a LDR for three years while I was in law school and she worked in our home state. We got married after I took the bar exam. It was hard sometimes, but totally worth it. We talked on the phone a lot and got together two weekends out of the month (usually). My friends at school were generally supportive; many of them were also in LDRs. It took a lot of time and patience, but everything worked out for the best.

[CoMickey]

No no no...I am fine. I was just clarifying what I said. I was thinking about what I posted and thought it sounded like LDR's were the way to go because people I know who are in the same place don't like each other anyway. I thought it had some negativity to it and I just wanted to clarify that wasn't what I meant. It's all good.

I didn't take it like that at all! Thanks for starting this thread!

[CoMickey]

My wife and I were in a LDR for three years while I was in law school and she worked in our home state. We got married after I took the bar exam. It was hard sometimes, but totally worth it. We talked on the phone a lot and got together two weekends out of the month (usually). My friends at school were generally supportive; many of them were also in LDRs. It took a lot of time and patience, but everything worked out for the best.

Thanks for sharing! It's always nice to hear success stories! Mine is looking very promising to become a success story and I couldn't be happier! :cloud9:

BUT there is still serveral dreaded good byes at the airport and the days a part until the happy ending!:sad1:

I hope everyone has a great weekend! I'll be spending mine with my two favorite men...Mr. CA and Mickey! ::MickeyMo

Take care!

[sand2270]

My boyfriend just told me he will be here on the 12th of May. Yeah!!

Not sure how long he can stay but he said as long as I can put up with him...to which of course I replied I can put up with him for as long as he wants.

That made my night.

:yay:

[beansmom]

My sweetheart is coming in NINETEEN days!! To spend my birthday with me. I'm so excited. He's met my daughter and now he will meet my son and his family.

LDR IS hard...but worth it when you've found the right one. And it won't last forever...for US, in a few months, we'll start the 'real' plans for my move to Boston.

I can't wait to live in the Red Sox Nation!!!:rotfl:

[mushumadness]

my favorite thing is when my 'friend' tells me that my fiance isn't 'real' because we met online and he lives so far away. Gee, he sure SEEMS real when he's got his arms wrapped around me. Yup...real for real!

LOL. I also limit what I say...I don't care what people think but I don't have enough time to explain it all to everyone. The only people that truly matter are me and him and our children.

:) He IS my Prince Charming.

lol I married the man I met online, and hes very real lol, my friends didnt like the idea either, but they are having to shut up and put up now we are married and having a baby

[MagiKitty]

Today I come to the thread and such good news! Congrats everyone on baby plans, moving plans, visiting plans. I'm so happy for everyone!

[blondie7]

It is nice to see that LDR can work. I am so excited I leave to see my BF on May 16th it won't come soon enough. I know the visit will be too short and there will be tears at the airport when I have to leave. I just keep reminding myself it won't be forever. Someday we will figure it all out and live on the same continent.

[Mouseaholic!!!]

Three years ago in June (happened to be Gay Day weekend and Jim was wearing red), I started chatting with a tall New Yorker in line a BTMRR. I thought he was gay for about 2 weeks because of the red shirt.

It wasn't long before we knew we had each waited over 50 years to meet each other.

We were married in Alaska last June.

He continues to live/work in NYC and I live in Maryland.

I am a caregiver for my 87 year old mother and 17 1/2 year old Cairn Terrorist. Jim knew that from the beginning.

Jim works for ABC News and because of Disney's heart-breaking employee cutbacks and hiring freezes....he has not managed a transfer to the DC Bureau.

Recently I got serious medical news......looks like I will not have the chance to grow old with my brand new husband.....and the very good Disney medical insurance is all the more important to us now.

Yes, some would be heart-broken with the news.

I still consider myself so very lucky. 10 days more or 10 years more....each day will be better because I share it with Jim.


We share the same cell phone plan so our nightly telephone calls are ...well, kind of free. We see each other every two weeks for the weekend. Jim has 7 1/2 weeks of vacation to my 3 1/2 so he often travels with me when I'm wandering around the country for work.

Do we want to be together.....more than words can express. The Amtrak conductors know us by now at the BWI rail station.....saying good bye.

With all the good and the bad....my life is so much better with him in it there was never a consideration that the LDR would be difficult. It is difficult....but my Jim is worth it.

[MagiKitty]

:hug: Mouseaholic! What a beautiful love story you have. I am sorry to hear about your health issues, but so happy to know that you found your love (and at Disney World nonetheless! :thumbsup2 ) and that you've shared such wonderful times together. You both are in my prayers.

And thank goodness for free nights and weekends on the phone plan!

[DisneydaveCT]

Hi there! I'll jump in. My DBF just left this morning after a wonderfully long weekend visit. I live in Denver and my DBF lives in LA. We met at WDW last July 4th and have been lucky enough to meet at least once a month but usually are able to fit in twice a month. I work from home and can take my job anywhere so I am able to go to visit him for longer periods. I will be seeing him again beginning April 24 until May 5th!

I agree that I wasn't so sure about a LDR either but here we are and I know that I made the right choice in sticking with it. He has two children still in school and I have one DD who is in college. We had 'the talk' this weekend and I am so excited! Neither of us had really seriously brought up the subject of moving just said 'what if's', but we did talk about it this weekend and I can't wait! My lease on my aprartment isn't up until Sep. so I won't be moving right away but at least there is an end in sight! :lovestruc



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Congratulations Vicki.

After meeting at WDW and dating a few princess:'s from the Disboard (as well as chatting with many others but never meeting), I actually met my special princess: two towns over from where I was living. And she had never heard of the Disboards, even though she is a big Disney fan.

I know this thread is about LDR's, and I met the princess: Next Door. But I learned a great deal about me and what is important for me in a LTR with a princess: from the various princess:'s I chatted with on the Disboards, and more importantly from those I met in person. And the most important thing I learned is that I enjoyed being involved with someone that I could see in person on a regular basis. I found that it was difficult for me to be involved with someone that I would only see a couple of times a month. I found the princess: Next Door more to my liking.

Now while LDR's aren't for me, it doesn't mean they are a bad idea. My boss has been involved with a LDR and she is very happy. One of my sisters was involved in a LDR for a long time (several years and different parts of the country) before she married her husband. And they are very happy.

So to those involved in LDR good luck...and those of you thinking about trying one...go ahead, you have nothing to lose...who knows you may end up with a friend in the end.

[CoMickey]

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Congratulations Vicki.

After meeting at WDW and dating a few princess:'s from the Disboard (as well as chatting with many others but never meeting), I actually met my special princess: two towns over from where I was living. And she had never heard of the Disboards, even though she is a big Disney fan.

I know this thread is about LDR's, and I met the princess: Next Door. But I learned a great deal about me and what is important for me in a LTR with a princess: from the various princess:'s I chatted with on the Disboards, and more importantly from those I met in person. And the most important thing I learned is that I enjoyed being involved with someone that I could see in person on a regular basis. I found that it was difficult for me to be involved with someone that I would only see a couple of times a month. I found the princess: Next Door more to my liking.

Now while LDR's aren't for me, it doesn't mean they are a bad idea. My boss has been involved with a LDR and she is very happy. One of my sisters was involved in a LDR for a long time (several years and different parts of the country) before she married her husband. And they are very happy.

So to those involved in LDR good luck...and those of you thinking about trying one...go ahead, you have nothing to lose...who knows you may end up with a friend in the end.

Thanks Dave and I am very happy for you and your true princess and that she lives 'next door'!!:goodvibes

Sometimes we don't have a choice who we fall in love with and that perfect person for us may live many miles away and from my experience I am very happy that I took a chance on my Mr. CA. I am not saying that it is not difficult but I would rather be with my Mr. Right who lives 1000 miles away then with someone that I am just settling for because he lives in my city. I am fortunate that I am in a situation with my job and my life that I will be able to move to be with him soon! :cloud9:

[beansmom]

Mouseaholic, your story is poignant and moving. I, too, am having some 'issues'...not real actually but a lot of different 'scares'...and my LD sweetheart is sticking right beside me. It's wonderful when you finally find 'the one'...no matter where they might live.

We are figuring fall for moving in together...I cannot wait! Our first xmas tree full of disney ornaments! Wooohooo!!

[Mickey'sApprentice]

Mouseaholic, I'm so sorry for your news, but am happy that you have someone so wonderful.

I will jump in now with my story of a Long Distance Relationship. Almost 18 years ago, I was a college senior living with 4 other girls in a 4 bedroom house. One of my roomies boyfriends practically lived at the house and we were really good friends. One evening he decided to call his buddy that lived about 200 miles away. Anyway, one of the other girls called the guy into the other room and he said, "here...talk to this guy on the phone for a minute." Yep, you guessed it, hubby was on the other end of the line.

We only lived apart for about a year, and my parents made things hard. I moved home after college, and had to resume living by Mom and Dad's rules which meant no trips for "the lady" to visit the man un-chaperoned. Hubby's friends decided that I was making harsh demands on hubby. Mom and Dad didn't want me to move without a marriage license.

Anyway, it worked out. We've been married for 16 years now. Unfortunately, we may be facing another LDR. Hubby has 19 years on a state job, and can retire with benefits with 25 years. I'm close to completing my Ph.D. and will need to get a job wherever it comes along. I would rather move closer to my family and know that we will likely both end our careers wherever I ultimately find work. Six years is a long time. I hope it do not have to move out of state, or heaven forbid, not somewhere cold.

Over time, there has been issues. As wonderful as hubby is...and he is wonderful, I didn't realize how long I would be away from my family. I guess I figured that I would like my new area, or that we would only be there for a few years if I didn't like it. As hard as I try, I'm missing the lives of my loved ones, and vice versa.

For you guys going through this...the good news is it can work, and hubby and I are absolutely great for each other. The bad news is you've either got to live apart from your LDR or somebody has to sacrifice a lot for you to be together.

Are you prepared to only see your family occassionally?

Good luck to you all!

[weluvjasmine]

Three years ago in June (happened to be Gay Day weekend and Jim was wearing red), I started chatting with a tall New Yorker in line a BTMRR. I thought he was gay for about 2 weeks because of the red shirt.

It wasn't long before we knew we had each waited over 50 years to meet each other.

We were married in Alaska last June.

He continues to live/work in NYC and I live in Maryland.

I am a caregiver for my 87 year old mother and 17 1/2 year old Cairn Terrorist. Jim knew that from the beginning.

Jim works for ABC News and because of Disney's heart-breaking employee cutbacks and hiring freezes....he has not managed a transfer to the DC Bureau.

Recently I got serious medical news......looks like I will not have the chance to grow old with my brand new husband.....and the very good Disney medical insurance is all the more important to us now.

Yes, some would be heart-broken with the news.

I still consider myself so very lucky. 10 days more or 10 years more....each day will be better because I share it with Jim.


We share the same cell phone plan so our nightly telephone calls are ...well, kind of free. We see each other every two weeks for the weekend. Jim has 7 1/2 weeks of vacation to my 3 1/2 so he often travels with me when I'm wandering around the country for work.

Do we want to be together.....more than words can express. The Amtrak conductors know us by now at the BWI rail station.....saying good bye.

With all the good and the bad....my life is so much better with him in it there was never a consideration that the LDR would be difficult. It is difficult....but my Jim is worth it.

This is a beautiful and moving story. Sorry to hear about your health problems. God bless you and your dh.

[MagiKitty]

beansmom...congrats and I'm so happy that you and your honey are going to move in together! How wonderful!

[tmli]

Thought I would share our story.....

I met my LDR here on the dis and dismates. We started with "written communication" and quickly moved to the phone. We were both in Canada but still about 1500 miles apart. We had unlimited long distance plans and would log hours a week on the phone. Rather quickly we started in person visits, in each of our provinces and in WDW. It got to the point where we were seeing each other a couple times a month. I have a son and was married once before, he had never been married and had no children.

About 9 months after meeting, he moved here to where I live. A year after that we were married....in Disney World.

As difficult as the LDR was, I believe it helped us have a stronger relationship now. You learn to appreciate your time together, we spent way more time talking than some "conventional" relationships do.

It is hard for people to understand, especially when they usually hear the negative stories of LDR's. I knew what we had was real. LDR's can be very lonely and frustrating at times, but who ever said love was easy!!:)

[MagiKitty]

tmli....thanks so much for sharing your story! Its so true, its harder to find those LDR stories with happy endings. But I do know they're out there! You've given me strength in knowing what I'm doing isn't THAT crazy, and that never to take happiness for granted. If you find it, in whatever form, you hold on to it!

[MaryD73]

This is a great topic and very timely in my case.

I met someone from the Disboards a little over a year ago (hey sweetie :wave2: ). He is from Buffalo and I am from Houston. After many WDW trips and visits later we got married a little over a week ago on May 3rd. In fact we just returned from our WDW honeymoon (which I highly recommend to everyone) just yesterday. Unfortunately we did not return to the same place. My DH cannot move until July due to many things. So I have gone from a LDR to a LDM.

It is hard but we are now in the home stretch and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. And after the initial "you met him on the internet?" shock wore off our families and friends have been nothing but supportive.

I guess my story ends with... everyone takes different roads to find their special someone and I could never have imagined the one I took until I was on it. I am so glad I took that chance.

My best wishes go out to all the LDRs.

[DisneydaveCT]

This is a great topic and very timely in my case.

I met someone from the Disboards a little over a year ago (hey sweetie :wave2: ). He is from Buffalo and I am from Houston. After many WDW trips and visits later we got married a little over a week ago on May 3rd. In fact we just returned from our WDW honeymoon (which I highly recommend to everyone) just yesterday. Unfortunately we did not return to the same place. My DH cannot move until July due to many things. So I have gone from a LDR to a LDM.

It is hard but we are now in the home stretch and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. And after the initial "you met him on the internet?" shock wore off our families and friends have been nothing but supportive.

I guess my story ends with... everyone takes different roads to find their special someone and I could never have imagined the one I took until I was on it. I am so glad I took that chance.

My best wishes go out to all the LDRs.

That is a great post about true love. Congratulations on your marriage and good luck with your brief LDM.

[MagiKitty]

Congrats MaryD73! I hope you had a wonderful Disneymoon! Here's some :pixiedust: for your marriage!

[fall08CP]

I'm in an LDR too! No one here seems to understand it:sad2:
We've been dating for 5.5 years and still going strong. I'm in the US (moving to Lake Buena Vista on Sunday!!) and he's in Australia. :scared1: But you know what? He's amazing. The distance is far, and it's been quite some time since we've been together, but I will not let any other woman take him from me :) That's right- he's all mine! haha. One day he'll make the big leap, but we're still young (20+22) and taking it slow.

[Clifton]

It would be nice to try out LDR's. Let's just say it could be less stressful then a local couterpart. Though i'm single, I'm afraid to be hurt if something bad happens in a local relationship. So being single makes me free of that part but wouldn't mind experiencing the "Long" type.

[sand2270]

Hmm...I think the easiest thing about it not working out would be that you wouldn't really have to worry about accidentally running into the person,etc. In my case that doesn't matter, since my BF travels here to do work for my company (which is how we met). Also I am already used to not having him around so it wouldn't be like a person is around all the time and than all of a sudden isn't.

As far as it being easier otherwise I personally have to say it wouldn't be. Even though this is the first time I have been in a long distance relationship, this is also the most intense, loving, amazing relationship I have even been in. If it were to end, I know I would personally feel a sadness and emptiness I have probably never felt before.

Let me put it this way. I am divorced. The ending to my divorce would be a cake walk compared to the feelings I would experience if my long distance relationship ended (granted I was the one who left the marriage). I guess that also helps explain why I am in this relationship. I never had feelings comparable in my marriage to my relationship with my boyfriend, which again is the reason I am willing to do a long distance relationship.

As far as being hurt, I really try to view everything as a learning experience. Getting hurt sucks. But I also always realize down the road that I learned something. A lot of those hurt experiences for me helped lead me to my boyfriend. There can also be positive results. My DD8 asked me the other night if I loved my BF more than her father. I told her I did, but I also told her that I have no regrets about being with her father (and believe me I could have a lot, it was not a good relationship). But the reason I have no regrets I told her was because it produced her and she is the best thing in my life and she is who she is because of me being with her father. So I wouldn't change a thing. That put a big, embarrassed smile on her face.

[sand2270]

Let me add one more thing. Different relationships have different types of stress. Believe me LDR's are hard and they are stressful. What I think makes them work is if the 2 people really love each other and are committed to make it work.

But it has it share of stresses. My BF went to Tokyo for 10 months last year. While I went out twice to see him that was 9 plus months of not seeing him. Of not touching him, kissing him, cuddling on the couch with him, etc, etc. I have to honestly say it sucked big time...but we got through it and it made us stronger. Now there have also been conversations about what are we doing, are we crazy to try and make this work, lots of tears, etc. However we always come of out of it knowing we want to be together and doing what we can to make it work.

Any relationship has stresses, whether it is local or LDR. What is important is how you communicate and manage those stresses.

[sand2270]

Thank you all for listening (reading) my Saturday morning lecture LOL. :)

[MagiKitty]

Sand, I totally agree with you. A relationship depends on each other's commitment to making it work and to communication. I hadn't completely ruled out an ADR before, but it definitely had some getting used to. And of course, there was the panic of what am I doing? This is crazy! But honestly, I haven't been happier in my life and am so looking forward to that day when we're no longer LD. But until then, I'm as happy as a clam with my far away sweetie. You really don't know what you're capable of until you try.

[wdwtheplacetobe]

Like tmli....we met on the dis and got to know each other as friends on dismates.

Between IL and TX..."you can't get there from here" ....not very easily anyway. It was 5 hours and 2 plane rides at least, so we met in WDW for dates, too.

We had (and still do sometimes) the "you met online???" :scared1:

Went thru all the times that the most important number is the countdown to the next time you touch each other, but it forced us to get to know each other REALLY well.

We met in person for the first time at the Magical Express desk at MCO.

We were married on 10/10/07 at the Wedding Pavilion in WDW.

Because of our job situations, I moved to IL.

We just returned from yet ANOTHER dis couple's wedding this past weekend....she can tell her story after their Disneymoon.

:love: :love: :love: :love:

[SweetAmy31]

Hi! Mind if i join your convo?
I am currently in a long distance relationship for almost a year with a great guy i have tons in common with that i met on myspace. Its only an hour away from each other, but as both being single parents its hard. I thought it would all work out eventually but right before i left for my first trip to Disney, 2 weeks ago, he dropped the bomb. He told me we have no future. :scared1: He'll never move here and even thou we originally agreed I'd move 3/4 the way there, and he'd meet me the last 4th, hes now decided since his daughter starts kindergarten in September he'll never move. :confused3 So its ok for my kids to move 45 min but her not move 15 min? I was pissed but let it slide, cause nothing was going to ruin my trip.

We chatted a little via txt while i was away and talked a couple of times but now that I'm home, i dont know what to do. Should i bring it up? Should i just dump him and move on? Is he just freaking out cause of his own issues? :confused:

Please a little advice here would be great! :flower3:

[MagiKitty]

wdwtheplacetobe...what a wonderfully inspiring story! Thank you for sharing with us. I'm so happy for you both!

Sweetamy....I am so sorry for what happened to you these last few weeks. Let me just say I would KILL to have my BF only an hour away. In my opinion, an hour really is not that big of a commute for either of you. For your BF to say that he won't move 15 minutes is just crazy, an excuse. I don't have children, so I can't judge how difficult it must be. You should bring it up, you have every right to as part of the relationship. I would try to find out if the distance is really at issue here. You have a year invested with this person, if you are going to break up, the reasons should be clear to both of you. You both deserve that respect.

And yes, moving 15 minutes is definitely not too much to ask. It may take some juggling on both your parts, but the assumption is that the moving is for a better future for everyone involved. September is months away, if you truly want to work out the best scenario, there's no reason to make rash judgements on either behalf.

I also think he is a pooty-head for springing it up on you while you're on vacation. Sorry, but it wasn't fair to you. :hug:

[CoMickey]

Hi all -

Glad to see all of you here and to hear about your LDR and know there are others like me going through the same feelings and adventures! :goodvibes

I am in CA now for two weeks with my DBF...so happy to be with him! We spent the weekend in PHX for my DD's BD and they finally met. Went really well!

I agree that although the distance makes it challanging I have never been happier in a relationship. We are perfect for each other...not perfect by any means but perfect for each other! I have dated locally (and was almost involved in one other LDR) over the past 5 years since my divorce and I never knew I could be this happy...long distance or otherwise! :love:

We'll be celebrating our 1 year anniversary in WDW in July! (For those of you who do not know our story, we met at WDW during July 4th weekend last year...totally unexpectedly and if anyone would like to know the whole story please PM me and I'd be happy to share!!)

I am looking forward to the end of the distance which it looks like will be this Sept!! It is a big decision to move from a state that I have lived all of my life but to be with the love of my life I am willing to move anywhere and hey...who can complain...no more shoveling snow! :banana:

:wave2: Hello to WDW and tmli - who I have 'known' and followed their wonderful stories from the beginning on the Singles Thread...so happy for all of you and your happy endings! :goodvibes

Pixie dust for those who needs it! pixiedust:

[sand2270]

[QUOTE=MagiKitty;25195186]wdwtheplacetobe...what a wonderfully inspiring story! Thank you for sharing with us. I'm so happy for you both!

Sweetamy....I am so sorry for what happened to you these last few weeks. Let me just say I would KILL to have my BF only an hour away. In my opinion, an hour really is not that big of a commute for either of you. For your BF to say that he won't move 15 minutes is just crazy, an excuse. I don't have children, so I can't judge how difficult it must be. You should bring it up, you have every right to as part of the relationship. I would try to find out if the distance is really at issue here. You have a year invested with this person, if you are going to break up, the reasons should be clear to both of you. You both deserve that respect.

And yes, moving 15 minutes is definitely not too much to ask. It may take some juggling on both your parts, but the assumption is that the moving is for a better future for everyone involved. September is months away, if you truly want to work out the best scenario, there's no reason to make rash judgements on either behalf.[QUOTE]

I agree, I would also kill for an hour. I am a little confused though, is it that he doesn't want to change her school? I am trying to understand what would keep someone from moving, what it sounds like in this case, across town?

I think him saying you have no future is a pretty clear signal that he is not vested in this relationship, but I agree you need to have a serious, honest conversation. I don't mean to be harsh, but do you really want to be with someone who isn't willing to make a relationship with minimal distance work?

After my divorce and my many bad attempts at relationships I finally realized one thing. I was done playing games. If a man was not going to show me he wanted to be with me than why was I wasting my time. No sooner had I adopted this philosophy than I met my BF and he asked me out...and I did something I rarely do with someone I think I might be interested...I said no.

We met when we were out with my friends, he was working with one of my friends and she invited him. We instantly hit it off and chatted the whole night and he asked me to go to dinner the next day. I said we had been drinking and said no. He asked again so I said if you remember to contact me tomorrow maybe. Well 10am the next day there is an email in my inbox that says "I remembered...what are you doing for dinner?". We have been together since. And you know what, he says my saying no is what intrigued him even more...funny how that works. But I want to caution, I was not playing games, I really was in a state of mind where I did not feel like bothering (I had played the "meet the guy he asks you out and than never calls" game too many times) and I meant it when I said no. I also said I wasn't wasting my time on anyone who did not really show they wanted to be with me. He showed he wanted to be with me.

Men on this string, please don't take this as man-bashing, I am simply giving my story. I am so worried that people will take something wrong and start yelling at me :) Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't really want to be with you because there is probably someone out there who does. It is worth waiting.

[sand2270]

boy I really tend to ramble on don't I? Please let me know if you are getting sick of me. :)

[SweetAmy31]

Thanks for the advice and your own stories. :flower3:
Yes, i guess he and I should have a serious talk.
The weird thing is when we are together every things great :) , its just when we're apart, its like a fell off the face of the planet to him :confused3 . I get a txt msg every morning and thats the end of it. If i dont call, I dont get to talk to him, he wont call me, he wont make any effort. It wasnt always like this. Its only been the last few weeks which is why im so puzzled and not getting any answers. He avoids answering me or just says i dont wanna talk about it right now.
And I completely agree, an hour isnt that bad. With the cost of gas these days its hard for week day visits but we see each other almost every weekend. Its actually quite comfy for me since I'm a very independent single mom who thinks she can do it all on her own. I like not having to worry about someone else, after all i have enough to do. :surfweb:
If we break-up thou, my kids and I will take it badly. :sad2: This will be the second time we've had a man come into our lives and then just walk away with no answers. Its not fair to put them through this again. :guilty: And I really will miss his daughter. I love her and I loved finally having a girl to do girl things with. My boys dont like to play dress up. :laughing:
Thanks again for the advice, I'll keep you all updated.

Oh and congrats to WDWtheplacetobe and MaryD73! I'm happy to know there are happy endings out there! I love hearing stories like yours, they inspire me to keep being strong and not give up. :cutie:

[onecutemoocow]

New to this thread. I just saw singles and never went into it. But tonight I wanted to look and see what was here. So I am in a LDR with DBF of almost 2 years. We live 120 miles (2hours) apart. Plus there is also a huge age difference between us, HUGE, lol. I have two little boys and he doesnt have any. There have been a few times we talked about moving closer to each other. He has a good city job and I am so family oriented I dont think I could move there, not knowing anyone. The distance has caused some problems in the past and in January we acutally broke up and in the middle of feb got back together cause we missed each other so much. He comes here just about every weekend (I know I am lucky compared to some of you) but with gas the way it is, I dont know if he will be able to keep coming every weekend :sad1: . LDR are hard. I was married for almost 5 years and have 2 kids to that marrige. My ex husband has seen them once since Christmas Day, ONCE. The man I am with now does so much with them, teaches the boy/man stuff like playing sports, farting (lol), camping, just guy stuff that men are supose to do with their kids. And my boys love him so much. If I ask them who they want to go with...me or DBF they will say DBF not me :scared1: . Sometimes I get upset but then I realize its ok. Got a little off track here. Sorry about that! Anyhow, us 4 will be making a trip to WDW again the Sept. for our 2nd "family" trip. :)

[wdwtheplacetobe]

:wave2: Hello to WDW and tmli - who I have 'known' and followed their wonderful stories from the beginning on the Singles Thread...so happy for all of you and your happy endings! :goodvibes

Pixie dust for those who needs it! pixiedust:


Good to hear that your LDR has been progressing and getting to the point that you will no longer have to leave to go home. One of the newbies to this asked me if leaving gets any easier....not until you don't have to leave anymore.

Hugs and :dance3:

You will Love California....HE is there!!!!

wdw

[Keneke]

I broke up with my ex, who was an LDR, back in December. It was difficult driving 3 hours to see each other, but at least it wasn't as bad as being undriveable. We'd see each other 3-4 times a month, taking turns to visit on weekends. In the end, neither one of us wanted to move (we're both very career) and she never, ever wanted kids (I mean, at some point I thought I might want to, so knowing that I'd never get them with her was a bit of a red flag), so we broke it off. It was a shame - we both loved Disney and had made a trip to WDW in 2005.

I guess what I'd say about LDR's is that you really have to look at what you want in a relationship that has come to full fruition. Is the LDR a temporary stage until one of you moves? Do you have a game plan for reaching the next step of your relationship? You just have to think hard about what you are attempting to accomplish with an LDR.

[DisneyBride'03]

Another one with a happy ending....LDR are not easy!

DH lived in San Fran, CA...me Chicago...met in San Diego in 2000...LDR went on til Dec 24, 2002...married at Disney in June 03...celebrating our 5 yr anniv next month!


It was expensive flying back and forth...both IM, emails and phone calls got us through!

The longest period of time we endured apart was from Oct til the end of December...tht was tough!

Good Luck everyone!:hug:
*We met in San Diego...after meeting on line.....sshh!! lol

[SweetAmy31]

I guess what I'd say about LDR's is that you really have to look at what you want in a relationship that has come to full fruition. Is the LDR a temporary stage until one of you moves? Do you have a game plan for reaching the next step of your relationship? You just have to think hard about what you are attempting to accomplish with an LDR.

Ok. I agree, but what about when you make a plan and one person backs out, changes their mind? Do you just walk away? I have a really hard, stressful, and dramatic life. I try very hard to avoid drama but like a llama it follows me everywhere.(im stalked by the drama llama :) ) I'm not sure if my DBF is freaking from the drama, having his own commitment issues, or is just done with me. How do you know when to walk away? :confused: He wont answer my questions so I have no answers, so now what?

[MagiKitty]

DisneyBride---congrats on your happy ending! You made my day.

SweetAmy, the issue with your BF isn't about the distance or the moving. If he's not talking with you right now, he's not respecting you. I think there's a time to give him space, but you ultimately have to decide what is acceptable for you. It may come to pass that you have to walk away, because as a partner, he's not giving you the chance to participate in your relationship. And since there are children involved, you do have to think how this will affect them.

I can only tell you what I would do in your situation. I too am one of those people who need a "breather" to really figure out what I'm feeling and what I want to say. But anything longer than a week for me is just procrastination. I think about how the other person must be feeling, being in the dark about my feelings and perspective. I know that something MUST be said, and sooner is always better than later.

Let him know that you are waiting to find out what he's feeling and going through, but that you will not be waiting forever. I know its horribly painful, but don't drag out something unnecessarily. If he did want to be with you, he would be working on it with you, whatever reservations he may have. Give him some space and respect, but let him know that you deserve the same in return.

I hope this helps you a little bit. I'm offering an ear and a shoulder if you need one. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Good luck and be strong!

[DisneyBride'03]

Thanks:)

Do want to add, I know its a difficult thing this type relationships!! I know I chimed in...at the end...but if I would have found this thread years ago, who knows what I would be writing! lol
I recall, many lonely nights and days....thinking, I wish he was here for this....for that.....communication is key...and when that is ALL you have...it can build a great foundation for the future....cause many relationships do not have that important foundation of communication.
I had been married before...had kids, so this worked out...that my children built a relationship with him, and someone just wasnt in the picture all of a sudden.

I am blessed it worked out:)

For everyone else ...please be hopeful and look to the future:)

[SweetAmy31]

Magikitty - thank you so much for the honest heartfelt advice:flower3: . I think I'm going to see him tonight, no kids, for a chat. So we'll see how it goes. fingers crossed, please!

If he doesnt open up and tell me whats going on im gonna give him a week to do so and then move on if he still doesnt. It will hurt all the kids, but I really cant just stay with him in a one side relationship for the kids. I tried that, it was called the last year of my marriage and it didnt go so well. :sad2:

Thank you for your advice, all of you :grouphug:. Its appreciated more than you know :cutie:. Of course if I'm single, maybe I can find me a pirate pirate: who plays poker and loves disney! :)

[Keneke]

Ok. I agree, but what about when you make a plan and one person backs out, changes their mind? Do you just walk away? I have a really hard, stressful, and dramatic life. I try very hard to avoid drama but like a llama it follows me everywhere.(im stalked by the drama llama :) ) I'm not sure if my DBF is freaking from the drama, having his own commitment issues, or is just done with me. How do you know when to walk away? :confused: He wont answer my questions so I have no answers, so now what?


That is a tough spot. As a quintessential guy, I can tell you that sometimes conflict-avoidant men (women too, sometimes) often just disappear instead of solve their problems, if disappearing is easy to do. And living apart means disappearing is VERY easy to do. Maybe approach him and ask for some more quality time - without saying how much you miss him, cause its obvious you do already.

[SweetAmy31]

That is a tough spot. As a quintessential guy, I can tell you that sometimes conflict-avoidant men (women too, sometimes) often just disappear instead of solve their problems, if disappearing is easy to do. And living apart means disappearing is VERY easy to do. Maybe approach him and ask for some more quality time - without saying how much you miss him, cause its obvious you do already.

Honestly I dont miss him as much as I miss him missing me :sad1:. If you know what i mean... I miss the txt msgs with cute things for no reason other than he missed me, or showing up on my door step at 8pm on a weeknite, cause he couldnt wait for the weekend even though he'd have to get up at 4am to make it work the next day. :hug:

I want to make sure its him I miss thou, not just the actions, I shouldn't need those little things to make the relationship work, but for some reason I feel a real loss that they are gone without reason:sad2:. When I ask him he just says, "well arent we pass that, we're use to each other now." or "Im not going to do things just cause you tell me too, that ruins it."

Thanks again for the advice guys :grouphug: . I'll let you know how it goes if I make it down to his place to talk tonight!:thumbsup2

[SweetAmy31]

I didnt make it down there last night...i stayed home and scrapbooked my Disney trip! :rotfl:

I'll see him this weekend thou...with kids. I'm gonna have to wait til Saturday nite after the kids are in bed so as not to cause any scene in front of them. I know hes not the type to wake them up and leave in the middle of the nite.

I'll keep you posted, and thank you again for all the warm hearted replys and advice. :flower3:

[Keneke]

"well arent we pass that, we're use to each other now." or "Im not going to do things just cause you tell me too, that ruins it."

I heard a quote once: "Love is not gazing at each other. Love is gazing outward at the world as one." I bet you one of us guys wrote that quote. ;)

[SweetAmy31]

I heard a quote once: "Love is not gazing at each other. Love is gazing outward at the world as one." I bet you one of us guys wrote that quote. ;)

I'm sure a man did write it! ;) Unfortunately us ladies like the man looking at us longingly :love:. Heck, why do you think it takes us so long to do our hair, make-up and pick out the perfect outfit? Do you think those red stilettos heels are comfy? :lmao:

[jennytablina]

Another LDR here

Been dating my fella for almost a year now. I live in England and he lives in Michigan, USA. We met online and were friends for a while. During the time we became friends I was dating another guy who lived close by. It was kinda hard on me because I was crazy about my ex. Though I did a lot more for him than he did for me

Though during this time, he was a good friend to me and also had some stuff of his own which I helped him with in turn as well. He started making sure he was online when I was online more often and after sometime we fell in love~

People are sceptical here too, but in all honesty I'm quite happy this way. We get on great and thanks to the internet, we can still do things together. This week I've been introducing him to Eurovision, thanks to an international feed of the events online and we've been having a great time watching the semis and waiting for the final tomorrow.

We'll finally meet for the first time in July at Florida and gonna be doing Disney for 2 weeks then hes coming to England for 2 weeks as well. I'm so excited :woohoo:

[SweetAmy31]

Another LDR here

Been dating my fella for almost a year now. I live in England and he lives in Michigan, USA. We met online and were friends for a while. During the time we became friends I was dating another guy who lived close by. It was kinda hard on me because I was crazy about my ex. Though I did a lot more for him than he did for me

Though during this time, he was a good friend to me and also had some stuff of his own which I helped him with in turn as well. He started making sure he was online when I was online more often and after sometime we fell in love~

People are sceptical here too, but in all honesty I'm quite happy this way. We get on great and thanks to the internet, we can still do things together. This week I've been introducing him to Eurovision, thanks to an international feed of the events online and we've been having a great time watching the semis and waiting for the final tomorrow.

We'll finally meet for the first time in July at Florida and gonna be doing Disney for 2 weeks then hes coming to England for 2 weeks as well. I'm so excited :woohoo:


CONGRATS to you two!!! I think that is wonderful! it really proves that its best to be friends first as your lover should also be your best friend! :cutie:

I wish you all the happiness in the world!!!!:wizard:

[MagiKitty]

Hi there Jennytablina! Welcome to our little club....call me an incurable romantic, but I just beleive that with strength and determination, you can make anything happen.

The best romances start out as best friends.

Congrats on your meet in July!

SweetAmy....good luck this weekend! I'll be thinking of you!

[SweetAmy31]

It's done. I'm back to singlehood....again. He didnt want to even discuss things, as soon as I tried he just said "lets be done. I'll get my stuff and we can stay friends." Thats it. No tears, no arguments, just walked away like it never happen. :confused3

Thanks for the advice all. In some ways I feel a lot better now. I know I made the right choice, I'm just really going to miss his daughter! I'm sure I'll see them again, after all, his best friend is engaged to my best friend. We introduced them.:upsidedow Its just a little hard today!

I'm gonna spend the rest of my weekend on my couch watching sappy movies and eating ice cream. Have a good holiday! :flower3:

[sand2270]

It's done. I'm back to singlehood....again. He didnt want to even discuss things, as soon as I tried he just said "lets be done. I'll get my stuff and we can stay friends." Thats it. No tears, no arguments, just walked away like it never happen. :confused3

Thanks for the advice all. In some ways I feel a lot better now. I know I made the right choice, I'm just really going to miss his daughter! I'm sure I'll see them again, after all, his best friend is engaged to my best friend. We introduced them.:upsidedow Its just a little hard today!

I'm gonna spend the rest of my weekend on my couch watching sappy movies and eating ice cream. Have a good holiday! :flower3:

Wow...well it sounds like you are handling things ok. I would definitely take you out for some drinks and some fun if I could :) I know nothing I say will make you feel better, breakups are just hard. Just know that in this little cyber community of ours we are all supporting you. :)

[jpringle]

I have just got home after dropping my girlfriend off at the airport (Blondie7 see earlier posts). She is going back to Toronto after being here in the UK for nine days. The next time we will be together is October at WDW, it is going to be very hard.

James

[MagiKitty]

:hug: :hug: SweetAmy! I'm so sorry to hear that it ended for you. He seemed pretty resigned from the way you described it. Move over on that couch, I'll be there with you. Take the time you need to think about it and move on when you're ready. I'm so so sorry, but you can't make him want to try.

jpringle...sorry to hear that you'll be separated from your girlfriend for a while. It is very hard. It just makes me appreciate the time we have together that much more. I try to distract myself when I'm apart from my BF by planning extensively for our trip to WDW in September. I keep thinking about how I can make those amazing memories together.

Again, while I wouldn't necessary recommend an LDR, I also wouldn't deter someone from trying it. It just takes a different type of commitment and strength. I wouldn't trade the happiness I have for a more "traditional" relationship. And it won't be forever! Its just a milestone in our relationship.

Happy Holiday to those who will be enjoying it!

[CoMickey]

Welcome! Have a wonderful time at WDW! I met my LDR DBF at WDW a year ago July 4th and we will be going back to celebrate our one year 'meeting' anniversary! BTW - I live in Colorado and he lives in California. Not a lot of miles between us but even one mile seems too far when you can't say good night or good morning in person. :lovestruc

The distance is difficult at times but the rewards are so worth it!


Another LDR here

Been dating my fella for almost a year now. I live in England and he lives in Michigan, USA. We met online and were friends for a while. During the time we became friends I was dating another guy who lived close by. It was kinda hard on me because I was crazy about my ex. Though I did a lot more for him than he did for me

Though during this time, he was a good friend to me and also had some stuff of his own which I helped him with in turn as well. He started making sure he was online when I was online more often and after sometime we fell in love~

People are sceptical here too, but in all honesty I'm quite happy this way. We get on great and thanks to the internet, we can still do things together. This week I've been introducing him to Eurovision, thanks to an international feed of the events online and we've been having a great time watching the semis and waiting for the final tomorrow.

We'll finally meet for the first time in July at Florida and gonna be doing Disney for 2 weeks then hes coming to England for 2 weeks as well. I'm so excited :woohoo:

[CoMickey]

SweetAmy - I am sorry to hear about your break up. My ex BF and I broke up almost two years ago after being together for a year and a half. When he ended it he wouldn't even talk to me about it and we had not communicated for almost a year, nada...nothing! Then out of the blue this past December he IM'd me and said he was ready to talk about the real reasons he broke it off and blah...blah....blah! At that point I had so moved on and really didn't care what he had to say. When he broke it off, I really thought I would never get over it nor find anyone like him again but I did, in fact I found someone so much better. It's heart breaking I know...take this time to take care of yourself and your boys.

Sending good vibes your way during this difficult time. :goodvibes

It's done. I'm back to singlehood....again. He didnt want to even discuss things, as soon as I tried he just said "lets be done. I'll get my stuff and we can stay friends." Thats it. No tears, no arguments, just walked away like it never happen. :confused3

Thanks for the advice all. In some ways I feel a lot better now. I know I made the right choice, I'm just really going to miss his daughter! I'm sure I'll see them again, after all, his best friend is engaged to my best friend. We introduced them.:upsidedow Its just a little hard today!

I'm gonna spend the rest of my weekend on my couch watching sappy movies and eating ice cream. Have a good holiday! :flower3:

[Keneke]

My condolences, SweetAmy. I became single in Dec, so i feel your pain a little, still. *hugs*

[SweetAmy31]

Thanks all. I'm fine with it, really. I saw it coming.
The only thing that bugs me is when I tried to discuss the relationship, he wouldnt, he just pretty much said "lets end it". I think he was planning on dumping me if I didnt give him the chance for an out. :furious:

Seriously arent there any grown ups in the world anymore who have open communication? I just dont understand ppl who dont say what they are feeling.

Thanks again for the warm thoughts. :hug: