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airplane
02-26-2008, 10:13 AM
I am headed to the World in the beginning of May w/ a group of 9. It's in celebration of my dad's retirement so my DH agreed to come. It wasn't too hard to convince him to come b/c we are staying at SOG and I told him he could play golf every day. However, when I talk about the trip w/ him, he doesn't get excited, AT ALL. It's very frustrating for someone like me who loves WDW, but I understand that some people are just crazy;)
He is convinced that I am going to "force" him to go to the parks once we get down there.
So, I am looking for some suggestions. He's been 2 other times in the past few years. His main complaints are "the wx is too hot" and "the lines are too long," even though we used fast pass. He loved the ESPN Zone and Jelly Rolls. They are both on our list. He also enjoyed EPCOT.
Please help me think of other ideas that aren't going to send us to the poorhouse.

TIA:)

misricsmith
02-26-2008, 10:17 AM
Pack His Golf Clubs And Dont Force The Issue
Thats What I Did

ZoZo
02-26-2008, 01:17 PM
There are other fun things to do that aren't related to the parks. Definitely go to the Adventurer's Club and Comedy Club at DTD - very fun. Get a good guidebook (I like the unofficial guide) and do a little research - then approach him with some options.

I say, just let him golf every day and let him do his own thing -- hook up periodically to do things you're both interested in, but don't let him ruin your vacation! He can hang by the pool, golf, etc.

mom2cookies
02-26-2008, 01:47 PM
I agree. Compromise.... he gets to golf everyday if he wants. Then he agrees to do something with you or the group afterwards. Doesn't have to be all day in the park. He could meet up with everyone ( or you) for dinner and spend the evening in the park when the sun is setting and it is getting cooler. He can find shade to wait in instead of standing in line and be the " bag holder" fast past getter. LOL

deekaypee
02-26-2008, 02:08 PM
I agree with PPs. Don't "force" him, because that seems to be his major concern. In my experience--with my own lukewarm-on-Disney DH--it took several trips of low-pressure touring before he discovered what he likes about Disney.

So your DH wants to golf every day--so be it. Don't plan on him going to the parks unless it's to meet up with people for dinner or an event HE wants to do. I know it's a cliche, but you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink." Accept that he's not that into Disney, don't try to convert him, and let him discover what he likes about WDW for himself. And if he doesn't want to visit the parks, don't let that ruin your vacation!

twoanddone
02-26-2008, 10:29 PM
Divorce .....

j/k....I'd do the same as the others suggested. I wouldn't force as I wouldn't want to be forced in to the magical place on earth either.. . . . ?? Foreign concept!

27yroldStitchFan
02-27-2008, 06:59 AM
How could somebody not be excited?

I agree though... as a husband, I would be pumped, but if he isn't don't push it (this however, does give me the idea to strongly recommend to my father he retire so I can get an extra trip to Disney).

Anyway, one thing you could do is also let him see some options as far as other events. I know different things work for different folks, but when I took my father for his first trip (almost 60 and for the first time in my life I heard the man yell "wahoo!" and "weeee!" as he rode roller coasters for the first time since he was in his 20's... great memory), I also showed him some of the other goings on.

If your husband is into cars, an off park visit to Old Town on a Friday or Saturday night will be something to consider... on Saturday they have vintage cars and the site is only maybe 10 minutes from the parks.

My other suggestion is to "ask" him to find some places to eat, which works for two reasons... first, the old saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and second, because to me, eating what I want is part of the vacation... My wife always humors me and we take a 45 minute drive away from Disney so I can eat at Florida's Sea Food up near Cocoa Beach and its always one of my favorite spots. By asking him to help find stuff like this, you may be able to get him to look at brochures and pick some stuff to do.

No guarantees, but as a guy that is what I would recommend. I still am shocked he doesn't want to go to the parks on his own... even as a guy quickly approaching midlife MK blows my mind and is a technical and emotional marvel.

Anyhey, hope this helps!
Take care,
J, the 27yroldStitchfan

misha
02-27-2008, 01:48 PM
My DH sadly is also not a Disney fan luckily for him he's too cute to divorce!:goodvibes

He came on our DS first trip (DD had been when she was smaller but definitely didn't remember much) in Oct. He tried his hardest but he was miserable - it was hot, there were too many people etc. We never forced him to go any where but he wanted to be with us. We ended up sending him back to the room every afternoon for a nap :lmao: and then met up again for dinner. The kids and I would go back to whichever park and watch fireworks at night while he relaxed. It was great to have him there - I even managed to get him to wear matching shirts for about 10 minutes a few days just to get pics! He was a good sport but we won't take him back. It was stressful knowing he was back at the hotel without us.

So let your DH do what he wants and don't worry about it!:flower3:

lisaland
02-28-2008, 08:58 AM
My husband wasn't very excited about our first WDW trip. He didn't want to talk about it at all. I called him Grumpy. :mad: I even bought him a Grumpy hat. On the other hand, I was reading DIS, TGM, and taping the travel channel like a crazy person. All I wanted to do was talk about it! It was the last thing he wanted to do. I finally shut up and just vented my Disney craziness on my bf who is also nuts about the Mouse. When the WDW trip drew nearer, my DH began to ask questions about this and that.:confused3 I tried to just answer the questions and leave it at that. He actually stopped and watched a few minutes of the WDW shows on travel channel when I played them. :happytv: When we got down there, he totally morphed into a Disney Freak! I was so suprised! He was all about the rides, when to ride what, where are we eating tonight, what are we seeing tonight, etc. He loved it, and he was so thankful that I had done all the research and knew all the things to make our trip great. He was a park touring fool. :banana: We could barely keep up with him. As we left WDW on our last day, he was talking about our "next trip".

Sadly, once we got back home, he changed his tune and had morphed back into Grumpy. :snooty: He told us that we would probably never go again and that he'd rather spend money to go where we've never been before. Well, I'm glad to say that in May we will be making our next (but not final, imo) trip to WDW. Husband is still grumpy but I'm sure that once we hit Orlando, he'll turn back into that fun, park touring nut that we saw two years ago!!:banana:

Lisaland

bopper
02-28-2008, 11:31 AM
I would tell them that he is welcome to play golf or drive boats or fish or drive racecars all day while at Disney...and you are happy to go to the parks with PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE THERE! You just want to meet up with him at night for dinner.

jetprincess
02-28-2008, 11:36 AM
Mine wasn't very excited either. I really have to struggle to get him to agree to go. Once he's there and he sees how much fun the kids are having he can get into it. I think some of the CM's and attractions are good at including clean adult humor (jungle cruise) and that helps too!

I hopped out of line while waiting to meet the princesses at Toon Town and bought him some ears once. That helped too!

marvin12
02-28-2008, 12:09 PM
When we go I let the hubby play golf in the morning and then when he gets back it's off to a nice lunch (somewhere in the parks) this way he gets to (brag) about how well he did and then everything just falls into place. He doesn't feel like I'm dragging him around the parks.

marvin12
02-28-2008, 12:12 PM
One more thing some times in the afternoon we go and rent those big boats at the cr and that is a nice way to spend some time together, It doesn't have to be the parks all the time. And once we did the Keys of the kingdom tour, which he did enjoy.

BeHappyInDisney
02-28-2008, 02:07 PM
Tell Him To Stay Home

disneydad1013
02-28-2008, 03:18 PM
Leave him home !!!!
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

mickeybrat
03-20-2008, 08:09 PM
My DH isn't crazy about it either. It is very hard to get him excited about WDW. My DS 9 and I started going on Mommy and me vacations in 2005 and have done it every year. I know that is not an option on this trip, but just throwing it out there.

dancin Disney style
03-20-2008, 09:03 PM
My DH used to hate Florida and WDW. Last summer I totally turned him around. I asked him what he did like about the last time he was there. He loved the waterparks so we added on that option. Also, we got the DDP and he LOVES to eat. I spent a ton of time chosing restaurants that he would love...and he did. I think the ADR's are what turned him around. He did such a turn about that I got him to look at DVC and he liked it. Hopefully next year we will buy.

drcbpearce
03-20-2008, 09:13 PM
My husband wasn't very excited about our first WDW trip. He didn't want to talk about it at all. I called him Grumpy. :mad: I even bought him a Grumpy hat. On the other hand, I was reading DIS, TGM, and taping the travel channel like a crazy person. All I wanted to do was talk about it! It was the last thing he wanted to do. I finally shut up and just vented my Disney craziness on my bf who is also nuts about the Mouse. When the WDW trip drew nearer, my DH began to ask questions about this and that.:confused3 I tried to just answer the questions and leave it at that. He actually stopped and watched a few minutes of the WDW shows on travel channel when I played them. :happytv: When we got down there, he totally morphed into a Disney Freak! I was so suprised! He was all about the rides, when to ride what, where are we eating tonight, what are we seeing tonight, etc. He loved it, and he was so thankful that I had done all the research and knew all the things to make our trip great. He was a park touring fool. :banana: We could barely keep up with him. As we left WDW on our last day, he was talking about our "next trip".

Sadly, once we got back home, he changed his tune and had morphed back into Grumpy. :snooty: He told us that we would probably never go again and that he'd rather spend money to go where we've never been before. Well, I'm glad to say that in May we will be making our next (but not final, imo) trip to WDW. Husband is still grumpy but I'm sure that once we hit Orlando, he'll turn back into that fun, park touring nut that we saw two years ago!!:banana:

Lisaland

That's what I"m hoping for. we're going the first week of May and my dh is not excited at all. I think more about the drive than anything (17hrs:scared1: ). but he's never been anywhere but 6 Flags. He's got no idea what it's all about and I"m crossing my fingers that once we get there and he sees how awesome it is and it's all about magic and fun, not just the rides, that he'll turn into that person you saw. :goodvibes I made a comment about him liking it so much we might get to go back some time. He rolled his eyes at me, so I'm not going to push my luck! I"m just happy he's agreed to go now.:yay:

momof3girls6712
03-21-2008, 07:30 AM
Our first family trip, I decided one day out of the blue to go to Disney. I told hubby, we called CRO and booked for the next week. He seemed excited and talked alot about LaNouba. Once we got there all he enjoyed was LaNouba. He hated the parks. After that me and the kids took trips with other family members. Last december, I convienced him to try it again for Jan. I found disboards and planned and researched like mad. I planned in down time for him and things he liked. Guess what he loves it. We are going again in May and he was talking about an adult only trip in Sept for our anniversary. SSo my advice is do your research and plan in things he likes. And just like the PPs do not push it and hopefully he will come around.

blondinkaya
03-21-2008, 08:49 AM
My dh is kinda the same way. We went down to Sea World in April last year, and he was the same way. We went because I wanted to go. But once we were there, he really enjoyed it. We're military, and this was the first time we've gone somewhere that didn't involve his duty or visiting family (and we've made many trips in our 14 years of marriage). He was very relaxed while we were there, and he was surprised at how much he enjoyed "getting away".

On our last day, we went to DTD to visit the Lego Store. Just being there put the bug in me to plan a WDW trip. Dh felt the same while we were there, so when we got home, I booked a September trip. Well, we got orders for an October move and had to cancel the trip. I think that put him back into his "we'll go if you want to, but I'd rather do something else, like stare at the walls" mood. Then he told me that he'd rather wait until our youngest (he'll be 5 soon) is old enough to remember the trip. Well, that didn't sit too well, I knew he was just dragging his feet and if it were up to him, we'd never go. So I told him that we are not putting this trip off any longer, and I booked our May trip.

He's still not expressing interest in the trip, and while I'm esctatic about it, I refuse to discuss my planning details with him. I know that once he's there, he's going to enjoy himself, it's just the getting there part of it. I'm not putting any pressure on him. I figure that the more laid out the plans are, the less he'll have to do when we're there, and he can just sit back and relax, kwim?

maddhatir
03-21-2008, 10:55 PM
DH and I have been to Disney 14 times. He is not a freak like me, but he went for me. Well, in 2006 I discovered the DIS and planned our next 3 trips like a madwoman- well! That has turned him off completely!

He said overplanning has taken the fun out of going and he does not even want to talk about another trip!

So- I am going in Aug with SIL and my niece. DH does not even want to go!

Anyway- in 2006 I DID plan the Segway Tour b/c I knew he would love it- and yup- he did. He said that was one of the most fun things he has ever done in Disney! I know it costs a bit of $$- But it was worth it- you might want to try that!

AND! do not overplan!!!! Let him "go with the flow"

dpayne1969
03-22-2008, 10:56 AM
mine hates crowds so Disney is out okay so he rode his motorcycle from oklahoma to florida while me & my kids flew he came to the parks 1 day he hated it i paid for him to go to the spa & get a massage. what he did the rest of the week was rode around florida on his bike

now he just stays home while me & kids go :lmao:

we are returning in May for Disney & Universal trip he is staying home to work :rolleyes1


its just not his cup of tea but oh well lol he did say he may ride his bike back down in 2009. so him riding is his vacation for him. that is his thing bikes

so i say just let hubby do whatever he wants to do ya know just enjoy yourself & let him be lol

breezy1077
03-22-2008, 11:53 AM
The only person's happiness you can control is your own. My suggestion - worrying about his good time will ruin yours. So don't;)

tami82
03-22-2008, 05:15 PM
I wouldnt pressure your husband, if he doesnt want to do the parks, just forget about it, move on & enjoy your day. Meet up later for dinner later. You can work something out. Most of all dont get mad at him for not wanting to do certain things, it is his vacation to and he may just want to relax. Let him do golf everyday, and you go with the kids to the parks - there is nothing wrong with that. Or compromise see if he will at least do one park with the family and then the rest of the time he is free to do what he wants.

Two years ago I planned a trip to the Smokey Mountains with my family for the first time. I myself have been going since I was 4 and many many years later brought my family. I was excited as I knew they would love it. My husband actually surprised me, he loved the condo that i picked out (i guess because it was like an actual home with every nice amenity, big screen t.v., private bedroom, kids bunk bed room, etc.... and we were overlooking the pool waterslide which was cool. He went down the slide and a day after that went to his first waterpark. He was pretty involved and i can tell he liked it there and probably not what he expected but much more. When we got home he told me he wouldnt mind going back again.
Now last year we went to Myrtle Beach in a beach house for 9 nights and the only thing my husband did was sit on the couch & watch t.v., go in the private pool which we had, went to the beach 3 times, and then the highlight of each day was going out to dinner (actually every other day) but he loved to plan what we were eating each night. lol! That was about it no other activities like the previous year. He had no interest at all and told me he was content just staying at the house.
I didnt mind and figured it was his time off also and I didnt pressure him at all about it. He just seemed very content doing pretty much nothing. I went out during the mornings with my 3 kids and we did activities without him. Later on we would go to the beach with or without him. But the major highlight was dinner. I just excepted it and had a good time either way.

Now next year in 2009 we are going to Disney as he promised - he actually followed through (i wanted to go this year but he wanted to wait another year until the kids were "old enough to remember". Im not sure how it will go as I know he will probably like to relax and had mentioned 2 days at the parks. I would like to spend more than 2 days at the parks but i think thats what he has in his mind to do. I wouldnt mind if he got a 1 or 2 day pass and i got the 4+ day pass for me & the kids, just as long as I can do longer than 2 days. I am hoping we can work something out as i would hate to go all the way there and have a limited amount of time as this has been a long awaited trip. I guess I have to come up with some plan so everyone is happy.
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Millie12591
03-23-2008, 04:52 AM
I am headed to the World in the beginning of May w/ a group of 9. It's in celebration of my dad's retirement so my DH agreed to come. It wasn't too hard to convince him to come b/c we are staying at SOG and I told him he could play golf every day. However, when I talk about the trip w/ him, he doesn't get excited, AT ALL. It's very frustrating for someone like me who loves WDW, but I understand that some people are just crazy;)
He is convinced that I am going to "force" him to go to the parks once we get down there.
So, I am looking for some suggestions. He's been 2 other times in the past few years. His main complaints are "the wx is too hot" and "the lines are too long," even though we used fast pass. He loved the ESPN Zone and Jelly Rolls. They are both on our list. He also enjoyed EPCOT.
Please help me think of other ideas that aren't going to send us to the poorhouse.

TIA:)


I would suggest since your hubby doesn't like the lines to get the Tour Guide Mike site to figure out how to avoid the lines. His site really works when it comes to the crowd levels and what park for what day of the month/day.
You won't regret getting it I promise, it's a little overwhelming at first but follow his directions and use his boards to talk with other people just like here, and if you have any questions the site has people who will get back with you right away.
As for him worrying that your going to push the parks then I would suggest you don't push for him to be at the parks! LOL Simple as that! Let him have his own fun while there.
My husband always wanted to go to California to see his parents as our "vacation", well it was a vacation to him because he got to lay around all day, or do what ever he pleased while I still had to do what I did at home but in someone else's house, there is nothing more frustrating to be on a vacation that someone else plans that has nothing to do with what you want to be doing, it isn't really a vacation at that point.
All of that beind said, maybe you two can sit down and talk about if you were to do some homework and find out how to navigate the crowds and not to be in lines for very long would he consider some time in the parks, then if he says yes ask what else can you do to make his vacation a vacation for him but still be about what your there for. The bad part about that question is that you need to follow through as best as you can but also kinda be tough about that fact that he needs to be apart of the family stuff as well. I wouldn't push for him to be with everyone the whole time though, or you'll never get him back to WDW, or probably any other vacation for that matter. LOL
Maybe in the future when your next vacation talk comes around allow him to plan a vacation, :scared1: I know that sounds like a possible plan for hell, but he needs to know that you really do care about what his wants and needs are and once he sees that your willing to concede for him, he might be more willing to concede to your wants for vacations in the future.
OK, that's my .02. Hope it didn't sound to preachie, I have a real heart for marriages and want to see couples be everything they can be for one another. Have a wonderful vacation in The World! :woohoo:

maddhatir
03-23-2008, 12:58 PM
The only person's happiness you can control is your own. My suggestion - worrying about his good time will ruin yours. So don't;)

Ugh! This is SO true. As I said DH and I have been to Disney 14 times and have had a good time. The last 2 trips were with BIL and his family.

WELL! BIL is SO not a Disney person- he was grumpy and just wanted to rush through everything the whole time we were there! Good thing DH decided to have our own Disney time alone to do a few parks without him. As soon as we left BILs side- it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders- he was really a downer!!! It does ruin a trip.

I will never go with him again- as much as my DH does not like Disney- he still goes with the flow and never complains while we are there. Even he felt like he needed a break from the grumpiness!:sad2:

It is SUCH a downer going with someone that does not want to be there. :guilty: