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disneyfav4ever
02-10-2008, 04:09 PM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

OhioMom
02-10-2008, 04:13 PM
It's perfectly natural to be a little offended or hurt by that comment, but really it is none of that person's beeswax! If you wanted companions on your trips you'd have them...just not that person!! ;)

Enjoy yourself!! :flower3:

Ilovestitch
02-10-2008, 04:16 PM
You should have replied "Oh, well I find it depressing that some people can only have fun with other people" :thumbsup2

Matt'nMeg'sMom
02-10-2008, 04:20 PM
You should have replied "Oh, well I find it depressing that some people can only have fun with other people"

Brilliant!

Personally, I think a solo trip would be a dream come true.

Lynn5700
02-10-2008, 04:21 PM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

Good for you!!! I am 23 too and I would go by myself:yay:

kokomos
02-10-2008, 04:22 PM
My reaction would be different. Im SO jealous!
Enjoy it while you can. Maybe in another 10 yars I can slip away but myself.

skipperkim
02-10-2008, 04:23 PM
You could ask them to go along or tell them you are suing Vegas for stealing your line about WDW, "What happens in Disney, stays in Disney". :rotfl:

Vickie46
02-10-2008, 04:43 PM
I think its totally ok... I saw a lady a lot in January.. like 20-26 that did the parks by herself... we kept running into her a lot.. she seemed to be having a good time herself!

BamaFan121s
02-10-2008, 05:00 PM
I think that is perfectly understandable. You can do what you want, go at your own pace. I like to be by myself often to relax..why not at Disney?:confused3

I would have to say in response, "Yes, but I go to Disney alone to get away from those friends."

JennyRMouse
02-10-2008, 05:07 PM
I agree that it is a very rude thing to say. I think it is cool when I read about people taking solo trips to WDW. You can do what you want, when you want. Have a great time and try to forget about what rude people say. :)

silverarrowknits
02-10-2008, 05:19 PM
I am 26 and love going to WDW solo. Sometimes my friends make comments that suggest that they think it is a little sad, but I take a breath and explain that I need "me time." I should note that the people who make the solo = sad comments usually want to invite themselves onto my trips and have me plan the trips for them. What I really want to tell them is "I prefer going by myself, because when I take you I become designated tour guide and then I don't have as much fun." I don't always go by myself. I like going with my parents and one friend of mine, since we seem to have the same Disney schedule, if you know what I mean.

Mini Rant: So I have taken a few people to WDW for their "first time" usually when we come back they tell me that they loved it. A few months later they tell me that they loved the trip and they want to do it again and bring some of their friends and let me be tour guide again, because I did such a great job. I know this is supposed to be a compliment, but honestly, I hate being tour guide. I hate the assumption that I enjoy planning a trip for several people who don't have the scheduling preferences that I do but still expect me to hold their hands the entire trip. On my last trip, I felt like I was going with a 2-year old. My friend couldn't go back to the room by herself, so when she got tired at 10PM, back to the room we went.

I need to find more commando people with which to travel.

mickeyfan2
02-10-2008, 05:23 PM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

So where was this said?:confused3

Harambe
02-10-2008, 05:27 PM
You don't need that person to validate yourself. And they're just jealous of your gutsy, independent spirit.

And your big fat honkin' wallet that let's you do this all the time! Go, girl!

BabyPiglet
02-10-2008, 05:29 PM
Yeah, that's definitely rude.

I would absolutely love to go solo! Ride Splash Mountain over and over and over and over again. Go places I want. Eat at places I want. Go back to the room when I want. :cloud9:

Oh well, have fun!

henrylovespooh
02-10-2008, 05:30 PM
I agree - a solo Disney trip would be a dream come true!

Go and enjoy!

ammo
02-10-2008, 05:34 PM
Why do people say things like this? Because some people are idiots. ;)

bullcat_02
02-10-2008, 05:35 PM
I'm 23 also and I find that a lot of my friends find that Disney is too expensive when they could go other places for the same amount of time and a lot less money. Of course, most of my friends either haven't been to Disney since they were little or it's just not their thing.

PiratesRock
02-10-2008, 05:36 PM
Early on in my marriage, when my husband asked about my day & I said Movies, or Park or whatever, he'd say "who did you go with?" He acted like I was nuts or just lying when I said I went by myself. Now, he doesn't think anything of it. Lots of people have no concept of being happy alone. (I'll just add that DH wasn't being controlling or anything, just making conversation. Don't want anyone thinking badly of my hubbie, he's awsome!! just a lot more social than I am!!)

dandave
02-10-2008, 05:38 PM
After my sis and niece left for their ME last Thursday, I had a few hours to blow before leaving for my own flight home. At first I thought I would just grab a bite at the resort, since it was just me. Then I thought, "Hey! It's just me. I can do whatever I want!" So I treated myself to a very nice lunch at the Brown Derby, which included lingering over dessert with coffee. Solo rocks! :goodvibes

jswalker1981
02-10-2008, 06:01 PM
I've only gone by myself once, but I still had a blast. I actually did 18 total attractions throughout the four parks in one day. Which is definitely easy to do when you are by yourself. When I first got there, I was a little worried about going by myself, but it ended up being great. It was definitely relaxing.

goofyernmost
02-10-2008, 06:51 PM
I have gone to WDW 4 times in the last 5 years and the one year that I didn't, I went to DL. Every one was solo! This year I am going with my entire family and although I expect it to be fun, I am sure that there will be times when I will long for the solo part again.

What people say never has been a factor. In fact, I don't even recall what people have said. Whatever it was wasn't significant enough for me to consider it anything, rude or otherwise.

It's one of the up sides of being dead inside. I am oblivious to the outside world and anything that is said there.

creativeamanda
02-10-2008, 06:59 PM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

I wish I could go by myself (but with 3 kids, I think they deserve to go, too.) Dh and I actually plan on each picking a morning to go to the park alone while the other gets the kids ready for a later morning. I'm looking forward to my morning. There's nothing wrong with what you are doing if it makes you happy.

Roxane
02-11-2008, 10:36 AM
I'm local and sometimes I go without my DH when he's stuck working on the weekend, or if I get a day off during the week. I always used to worry people would think I had no friends, but most people just ask me if I work there.

disneyfav4ever
02-11-2008, 10:52 AM
Eat at places I want.That's the main reason I love going solo. When I went years ago, (when I was in high school,) with my parents, they did not want to spend money on food, and for lunch they'd bring in sandwiches, (tuna salad too, which I usually won't eat, and I know I didn't eat it then, since it had been in a bag for hours at that point, and was completely nasty by lunch,) and CS for dinner.

The first time I went solo I was 21, and I ate almost exclusivly at TS restaurants, and didn't have anyone I had to compromise with.

When I went with my mom last year, she let me pick the restaurants, and since we had the DDP, I didn't have to hear her worry about cost, but she did make it known that she was going to pay for nothing OOP, so I ended up paying for two characters meals for us both OOP.

DF and I were supposed to go together last year, but we had to cancel that trip when he ended up in the hospital the day before we were supposed to go. He is the one person I really would love to go to Disney with, since he let me pick all the restaurants, and he didn't mind me booking an extra character breakfast, which again would be OOP.

Anyway, I do love being able to go to Disney solo, and I don't really let people's comments get to me, but I just found that comment especially rude.

NewYorkRedNeck
02-11-2008, 10:58 AM
I love my solo trips..Did anything and everything I wanted to do. Had to wait for noone..Single rider line for Everest rocks. 5 times in20 mins. Always seemed to get placed in really good seats for different attractions and resturaunts. And did i mention I didn't have to wait on anyone?

JeremyGNJ
02-11-2008, 11:03 AM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

I once went on vacation alone. I went to Jamaica to an all-inclusive resort for a week. People thought I was crazy or were sad for me, but it was one of the BEST things i ever did.

It was SO much fun to not have anyone else impeding on the things I wanted to do and WHEN i wanted to do them.

Evil Genius
02-11-2008, 11:06 AM
Gotta tell ya' you'll here some rendition of that comment no matter what age. I did my first trip solo last September at 48. I was all ways getting comments about couldn't I find ANYONE to go with me.

I had a blast, rode Dinosaur 4 times in a row. Ate where and when and what I wanted. Slept in.

Have a wonderful solo trip.

snowbell
02-11-2008, 11:08 AM
I think if you can do a solo trip that is awesome. You get to do everythign you want to do. I am doing my first solo trip for a weekend in April. I cannot wait!!!

Tomh
02-11-2008, 11:13 AM
I agree the comment was somewhat rude and insensitive, but I have a bit of a different perspective. I absolutely hate doing things by myself. Really, I don't like to do much of anything without some sort of company. I wonder if perhaps the person who made that comment is the same way, and perhaps just doesn't quite "get" the idea of going on a trip alone. It certainly wouldn't be much fun for me.

disneyfav4ever
02-11-2008, 11:13 AM
So where was this said?:confused3Why does that matter. Someone said it, and I thought it was rude. For the record it was not one of my relatives.

Piglets Mommy
02-11-2008, 11:17 AM
I'd love to do a solo trip someday.....go commando when I want, sit and people watch when I want, relax by to pool when I want, eat where I want, etc.

I always plan our trips making sure that there is something for everyone, everyone's happy, etc. It would be pretty cool just to do whatever, whenever!:thumbsup2

WillCAD
02-11-2008, 11:21 AM
On my last trip, I felt like I was going with a 2-year old. My friend couldn't go back to the room by herself, so when she got tired at 10PM, back to the room we went.

I need to find more commando people with which to travel.

I'm more like your friend; I gave up the commando touring thing years ago and go much more slowly now, savoring every minute. I get back to my room most nights before 12, and often cut my day short to relax in my room with a book, a TV show, or to look through my pics or surf the boards.

And that's exactly why I love solo trips, too - because I don't have to inflict my touring style on anybody else, nor do I have to have someone else inflict theirs on me. It's a win-win situation!

Lots of people have no concept of being happy alone.

Exactly! I, on the other hand, have always been happier alone than with most other people.

That's the main reason I love going solo. When I went years ago, (when I was in high school,) with my parents, they did not want to spend money on food, and for lunch they'd bring in sandwiches, (tuna salad too, which I usually won't eat, and I know I didn't eat it then, since it had been in a bag for hours at that point, and was completely nasty by lunch,) and CS for dinner.

The first time I went solo I was 21, and I ate almost exclusivly at TS restaurants, and didn't have anyone I had to compromise with.

When I went with my mom last year, she let me pick the restaurants, and since we had the DDP, I didn't have to hear her worry about cost, but she did make it known that she was going to pay for nothing OOP, so I ended up paying for two characters meals for us both OOP.

DF and I were supposed to go together last year, but we had to cancel that trip when he ended up in the hospital the day before we were supposed to go. He is the one person I really would love to go to Disney with, since he let me pick all the restaurants, and he didn't mind me booking an extra character breakfast, which again would be OOP.

Anyway, I do love being able to go to Disney solo, and I don't really let people's comments get to me, but I just found that comment especially rude.

I tend to be the opposite - when at WDW solo I eat mostly CS food. I love all the CS options in the parks and resorts! But again, going solo means that I don't have to inflict that preference on anyone else, or put up with someone elses insitence that every meal be a $30 TS.

I'm also jealous; I didn't get to go to WDW at all till I was 21, and didn't go solo till I was 30.

collcass
02-11-2008, 11:22 AM
Lots of people have no concept of being happy alone. (I'll just add that DH wasn't being controlling or anything, just making conversation. Don't want anyone thinking badly of my hubbie, he's awsome!! just a lot more social than I am!!)


I think this says it all. My DH is exactly the same way you are. He loves to goto the movies,trips and many other things solo. He's a quiet person and enjoys just being alone doing things. After 12 years of marriage, I honestly still do not get it. I am such a people person. At 23 I was single, but wouldn't have dreamed of vacationing solo. it simply never would have crossed my mind to go alone and enjoy myself. When I planning a vacation then, it just would have been natural for me (speaking only for myself) to include other people.

Now, at 36 with four kids, I still don't plan things for myself but I certainly see how much fun it could be.

my point, through all this rambling, is that some people don't understand it. I don't think comments like that are always made to be rude, but perhaps just by misguided (for lack of a better word) people such as myself.

RustManFan
02-11-2008, 11:22 AM
I find it depressing when someone can't simply enjoy their own company and has to always rely on others to make life interesting.

I've been to WDW solo twice and I had a wonderful time !!

Dan Murphy
02-11-2008, 11:24 AM
Almost all my trips to Disney have been solo (family did not get Mouse bit as I did). I must say though that while there most days are spent with other solo folks, or families from the boards here. But the days or times when I truly am solo while there are very, very enjoyable. :thumbsup2

helenk
02-11-2008, 11:44 AM
My first trip to WDW was back in 1982 and I was 28 and I have been hooked on WDW ever since. The only person in my family that gets Disney like I do is my son, and in 2003 he was in college so I decided to go on a solo trip. People thought I was crazy but I loved it, I got up early for the early entry (which my family hates to do) I went on the rides I liked multiple times. I got to read my book by the pool.
Since then I have been to WDW by myself quite a few time. I am like WillCAD, I do not do commando and I very rarely eat at the TS, I do the CS, except for my one indulgence which is the afternoon Tea at the GF. I love to sit and people watch. When you go with others you feel as though you are taking away their park time when you just sit and relax. I take a break in the afternoon, I go back to the parks and stay for as long as I want. If I'm tired I'll make an early evening of it.
When I tell people I am going by myself they ask me if I go on the rides?? What a silly question, what do they think I do roam around the parks aimlessly?
I think some people are just afraid to do things alone. Although I do wonder if I would have tried going by myself had I had not found these boards and read others solo trip postings.

kilarney
02-11-2008, 12:02 PM
Let's be honest. It's more fun to share the experiences with someone you are compatible with and who shares your excitement. But for many people that's not an option. Why stay home? I say go and have a good time!

The one thing I absolutely refuse to do is being part of a large group. I did that once in Las Vegas, and it was a nightmare. Way too much time coordinating and accommodating.

TCKK
02-11-2008, 12:07 PM
I wouldn't have the nerve to go by myself. I think it's great that you do and that you enjoy it so much. I say "You go girl" and have a great time and don't worry about what others think!!! (But if you want someone to go with, you could always give me a call :laughing: :laughing: )

Have a wonderful trip :)

DWGal210
02-11-2008, 12:12 PM
I think it's awesome that you go solo...I was actually planning on doing a solo trip for my birthday this year but then other plans got in the way, so I may end up taking one in late fall / early winter 2008.

I echo what others have said...it's fun because you make your own schedule. You eat when you want, you wake up when you want, and if you want a day by the pool to read and enjoy a few fruity drinks, you can do that too. It's harder to do this with friends or family, since most people want to go-go-go and not take any rest time.

Good for you - keep taking those solo trips! You know what, if you haven't yet, you should do a Trip Report for your next trip. I'm sure that other solo travelers (and maybe those that are thinking about it) would really enjoy that!

Airb330
02-11-2008, 01:02 PM
I always get comments about going to Disney solo, but I just found this one kind of rude, "You're 23 and going to WDW alone for a week. Don't you have any friends to go with? That's just depressing to me."

Don't people get that I go to Disney solo because I like too? I find the alone time very relaxing, even if my idea of "relaxing" is running around a theme park.

I got the same thing. I went straight down to Universal after I graduated college in May 07. It was last minute and I got a great deal with an AP (plus I was planning on moving to Orlando soon...I've since scrapped that idea). "Why would you go alone?" became really annoying. I had a great time, especially skipping those lines thanks to staying on site. I have to say I did burn through a lot of cellular minutes though since I was by myself! Have fun!

GrowingUpDisney
02-11-2008, 01:25 PM
While that kind of trip is not for me (I couldn't imagine going without my dh or my boys!), it is no one else's business when or where you go or who with! That definitely was a rude statement....

monorailsilver
02-11-2008, 01:41 PM
I went on a partial solo trip when I was in my early 20's (I am now...old..ok young to some but I am 36).

I flew down alone (I love being on the plane alone-I used to visit my cousin a few times a year in Stuart, FL & would fly alone). My sister, my neice, my cousin, her 3 kids & one of her kids friends all met me at the WL & they stayed there for a night or two. They left & I still had 2 days at the park alone.

Sometimes I felt lonely but I also liked being able to do what I want, when I wanted to do it.

Luckily my dh does the same things I do only because that is how I trained him.

Oh & I also went to Club Med in the Bahmas for a week all alone. That was really nice too. I did meet a few people & they had me eat dinner with them & go on the snorkel cruise with them but it was nice just being alone & just sitting there on the beach with out a care in the world.

burberryplaid
02-11-2008, 01:48 PM
I would have replied "I hate people..but I love gatherings!" :rotfl2:

Enjoy yourself and don't let the haters ruin it!

MickeyNicki
02-11-2008, 01:49 PM
jealousy! I would kill to go by myself but Dh wont let me, he insists on coming with me ;)

jordancej
02-11-2008, 04:19 PM
I'm another disney soloist that get the "feeling sorry for you" speeches from co-workers. Went in 2006 solo, and had a blast, and i'm currently planning my 40th bday solo in May. Now thats another one... "your going to be by yourself on your birthday?" AHHH!!!!!

My feeling on going solo is, i'm by myself all the time anyway, except when i go an spend time with my mom, sister and family (i'm divorced, no kids) so what is the difference... being by myself during the week vs being at disney solo... i have no problems being by myself... if someone cant go to the movies, or go eat out with me... why sit home?? I went with my family the first 2 trips to disney, and got the lay of the land, and i think its a great place for a soloist, i feel very safe there, i dont have to worry about transportation, etc.

So i just let it roll off my back when they make those comments... i just say to myself... their jealous :rotfl: But really, its just a great adventure, and they are not going to keep me from going!!! :)

mickeyfan2
02-11-2008, 04:38 PM
I find it depressing when someone can't simply enjoy their own company and has to always rely on others to make life interesting.

I've been to WDW solo twice and I had a wonderful time !!

It is not depressing at all. DH and I have a great marriage and want to be together as much as possible. We don't argue over meals etc. We communicate what we want before we go and plan accordingly. The problem many have that need to go solo is they cannot communicate their desires well and then get mad when it does not happen as they planned.

I would never want to go the happiest place on earth without the person who makes the world such a happy place to live in.

HonnyDipp
02-11-2008, 04:41 PM
There is nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own skin, forget what other's say have a wonderful time!!!

Tonya2426
02-11-2008, 04:48 PM
It is not depressing at all. DH and I have a great marriage and want to be together as much as possible. We don't argue over meals etc. We communicate what we want before we go and plan accordingly. The problem many have that need to go solo is they cannot communicate their desires well and then get mad when it does not happen as they planned.

I would never want to go the happiest place on earth without the person who makes the world such a happy place to live in.

I've read your post several times and am happy you love spending time with your husband but do you actually think that because someone goes to Disney World by themself that they can't communicate and then get mad about not getting their way????? Please tell me you just phrased that improperly because if not then I think you just called me a two year old. :confused3 :rotfl2: :confused3

mickeyfan2
02-11-2008, 05:00 PM
I've read your post several times and am happy you love spending time with your husband but do you actually think that because someone goes to Disney World by themself that they can't communicate and then get mad about not getting their way????? Please tell me you just phrased that improperly because if not then I think you just called me a two year old. :confused3 :rotfl2: :confused3

What I was saying was the ones who get mad are not communicating what they want. The only time my brother joined us we would ask him what he wanted to do. He would tell us nothing but that not complain that we didn't do anything that he wanted. This is what I mean by poor communication.

If you want to eat at a certain place the time to discuss that is before the trip not when you are hungry.

chigirl
02-11-2008, 05:11 PM
Could you imagine being on a solo trip and winning a stay in the castle? The ULTIMATE bachelor/bachelorette pad!
Talk about "me" time!

disneyfav4ever
02-11-2008, 06:03 PM
I have to say I did burn through a lot of cellular minutes though since I was by myself! Have fun!The same thing happens to me too, since I "have" to call DF every day. Otherwise he worries that something happened to me.

disneyfav4ever
02-11-2008, 06:05 PM
Could you imagine being on a solo trip and winning a stay in the castle? The ULTIMATE bachelor/bachelorette pad!
Talk about "me" time!I really hope that happens. This will be my third solo trip since the start of the Million Dreams promo, and will probably be my last, (during the promo,) but I would love to win the night in the castle. That would mean a lot more to me then any of the monetary prizes.

maccagerl
02-11-2008, 06:17 PM
Disneyfav,
Don't let their comments get to you- I'm a bit older and wiser now, and I really wish that I had done more solo trips / events when I was your age. Follow your heart and have a great time!!

CanadianGuy
02-11-2008, 06:31 PM
Follow your heart and have a great time!!

Best advice in the whole thread!

SharonS
02-11-2008, 07:10 PM
I am 46 and go solo almost all the time. My Mom and I used to go together...she passed away 3 years ago. We had many good times at Disney, so, I could either give that up, or go it alone. I also own DVC at Boardwalk. I have met many wonderful people by travelling solo...many of them cast members. Now...it is like going home...I always have people to do stuff with...if I chose. Most of the time, I prefer doing my own thing. I have also travelled to DL myself.

iluveeyore
02-11-2008, 07:36 PM
Have a great time! I'm currently planning my first total solo trip for my 40th birthday. We go as a family every year for two weeks, and DH and I manage to make at least one side trip together as well (yay ap!). I have always tried to get away during our family trips for an afternoon on my own at a park or DTD, but always have to meet back at our villa for lunch/dinner/park time, etc., and can never seem to get pool time alone to read without a "mom, look at me", or "honey, put sunscreen on my back". So my ultimate dream is to spend a week just doing my own thing at my own pace. Can't wait to be solo at WDW:cool1: