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ShellyShell
02-01-2008, 11:22 AM
Not me of course! It's my boyfriend. I keep saying well the trip is about 2 1/2 months away aren't you excited because i'm too thrilled! He's like NOPE!! I'm like WHATTTT how can you not be?? We are going to Disney!! He's like i'm just not!
Then he goes to say how can I be excited about going somewhere I've never been before? I'm like well it's DISNEY!!! The #1 Vacation spot in the world!!! He's like AND?? UGHHHH!!
I just don't understand how he can not be excited!! Yes he's never been before but it's freakin Disney. He should be happy to go on vacation period because he's never really been on a vacation before! I want somebody to be excited with me! He's a loser...lol

DJ Disney Kid
02-01-2008, 11:25 AM
The people that aren't excited tend to enjoy it the most because their going into it with no pre-conceived notions of what it should be. You have all the expectations of how great its supposed to be, so you have no place to go but down, where-as he has no place to go but up.

ShellyShell
02-01-2008, 11:27 AM
The people that aren't excited tend to enjoy it the most because their going into it with no pre-conceived notions of what it should be. You have all the expectations of how great its supposed to be, so you have no place to go but down, where-as he has no place to go but up.

I guess so. He has no idea what he's in for. I think he's thinking Disney is along the line of Six Flags or something. I keep telling him it's not. It's in a class of it's own!

NEVERENOUGHWDW
02-01-2008, 11:47 AM
I think we have to keep in mind that not everyone loves or "gets" Disney. If he has NEVER been on a vacation I would suggest it is someplace you both want to go. . . Just a thought.

Tinks1984
02-01-2008, 12:28 PM
Now ShellyShell, I have the same problem!! :rotfl:

We're due to leave in just over two months and I can't tell you how excited I am, I'm ready to burst! On the other hand, DBF hasn't shown ANY excitement at all! He, like your BF has NEVER been to WDW and has taken the same approach of 'How can I get excited over a place I've never been too'!

He enjoys it when he sees me excited though, he realises he's made MY dreams come true by taking me back there - to my Happy Place :)

I'm pretty much certain though, that once he's there he'll understand. I've so far got him an obsession with all things 'Grumpy' - he loves him, even has a stuffed toy :rotfl2: I've ordered him a Grumpy t-shirt from Laughing Place, so that'll arrive for 'travelling day'. So I'm trying at least, to build his excitement!

I secretly think he's excited, just not showing it, as he's mentioned a number of times about 'going back' - and he's not even been once yet! But I'd better get some saving done, he wants to stay at AKL!! :scared1:

WildernessBride
02-01-2008, 12:44 PM
You know how those men are....we ladies have to help them out sometimes!!!:hug: :hug: :hug:
:rotfl:

Not so Dumbo
02-01-2008, 12:47 PM
Make him read one of the guide books (Birnbaums -has alot of nice pictures of the rides) Tell him you want him to pick out the rides he want to go on. Maybe after he realizes what he's in for he'll be a bit more excited.

babyruth
02-01-2008, 01:57 PM
Now ShellyShell, I have the same problem!! :rotfl:

We're due to leave in just over two months and I can't tell you how excited I am, I'm ready to burst! On the other hand, DBF hasn't shown ANY excitement at all! He, like your BF has NEVER been to WDW and has taken the same approach of 'How can I get excited over a place I've never been too'!

He enjoys it when he sees me excited though, he realises he's made MY dreams come true by taking me back there - to my Happy Place :)

I'm pretty much certain though, that once he's there he'll understand. I've so far got him an obsession with all things 'Grumpy' - he loves him, even has a stuffed toy :rotfl2: I've ordered him a Grumpy t-shirt from Laughing Place, so that'll arrive for 'travelling day'. So I'm trying at least, to build his excitement!

I secretly think he's excited, just not showing it, as he's mentioned a number of times about 'going back' - and he's not even been once yet! But I'd better get some saving done, he wants to stay at AKL!! :scared1:


OMG same here! DBF isn't excited and wasn't too thrilled when I chose Disney as our vacation destination. He has never been to the World but he was at the Land as a child (and really doesn't remember it)

BUT I have also been able to fester a love of Grumpy in him and he actually hit the Disney store sale with me and bought a shirt and jacket for himself, and Donald is creeping in a close second so he got a shirt with him too. it says "born angry" LOL. and books helped also, we got several from the library and he started talking with co-workers who have been and its getting better. he's not really excited but at least now he's not indifferent.

just remember to make sure you have downtime planned to relax and hopefully enjoy some "Adult" things too- I know if I make DBF gogogo all day long with kid stuff the excitement will NEVER happen.

avic77
02-01-2008, 02:23 PM
My DH isnt thrilled either... he says standing in lines and walking for hours is not his idea of a vacation. i think the problem is that they are MEN... they would rather spend a week sitting on the couch watching football and being left alone.
Dont let his lack of excitement ruin yours... men just are not as excitable

themilesfamily
02-01-2008, 02:28 PM
He has no idea what he's in for. I think he's thinking Disney is along the line of Six Flags or something. I keep telling him it's not. It's in a class of it's own!

I dealt with this with my boyfriend, too, (now husband.) He was not excited at all because he'd only ever been to smaller amusement parks. He was BLOWN AWAY by Disney and left such a fan that he booked our next vacation as a surprise for me and our DD and gave it to us as a Christmas present.

I'll keep my fingers crossed that you come home with a Disney convert! :)

Sysyphus
02-01-2008, 03:02 PM
I was a bit skeptical for our first visit almost 11 years ago now... as a big kid of 35 I was far more excited about going to Cape Canaveral... we stayed offsite and had a 4 day 3 park hopper ticket (AK wasn't open yet)... didn't plan a thing: to me amusement park planning meant picking up a map at the gate and picking whihc rides to do next... that said we did pretty good, I think: did MK first day, Epcot 2nd, MGM 3rd with a hop back to Epcot for dinner, then hopped around on day four seeing a few of the things we missed. Got to ride everythign we wanted and certainly didn't go hungry.

I had much more fun than I was expecting, but basically moved WDW from the todo list to "done"

That all changed two years ago when we took DD, then 3, to MK for a day (two nights at ASMo) as a sidetrip to a family visit to the area. It was the most delightful day ever... and now she's five, we're taking her back for an 8 night stay at AKL later this month, and I'm having almost as much fun planning as we will have when we are there :)

Tinks1984
02-02-2008, 07:06 AM
BUT I have also been able to fester a love of Grumpy in him and he actually hit the Disney store sale with me and bought a shirt and jacket for himself, and Donald is creeping in a close second so he got a shirt with him too. it says "born angry" LOL. and books helped also, we got several from the library and he started talking with co-workers who have been and its getting better. he's not really excited but at least now he's not indifferent.

just remember to make sure you have downtime planned to relax and hopefully enjoy some "Adult" things too- I know if I make DBF gogogo all day long with kid stuff the excitement will NEVER happen.

Ahhh...it seems Grumpy and Donald have the same effect on these men! :rotfl2: ShellyShell, maybe you should introduced your BF to these two characters :rotfl:

Like your BF, mine comes to the Disney Store with me (not that he has much choice ;) ) and he's began to pick things up, got himself some Grumpy socks the other week!! I can't wait for his t-shirt to arrive and to see his face, it's got Grumpy on the front with 'I'm only Grumpy on days that end in a Y' underneath him :laughing:

We have 'adult' things planned also, we're going to take a couple of trips down to The Boardwalk and DTD and Pleasure Island :thumbsup2 We have an ADR booked for Le Cellier in Epcot too, so we'll spend some time in WS and have a few drinks and chill together in there. Not too MUCH though, I need my 'kid' time, and after a few days I'm sure DBF will be just as excited! I think AK will be his favourite park, he loves 'wild' animals and the likes, so I've a feeling I'll need to schedule a couple of trips here :)

mossy1
02-02-2008, 07:34 AM
Hello All, I just had to throw my 2 cents in on this discussion. I have to say I love going to Disney!!! I'm a male and I do "get" it. But I think my personal link to Disney started long ago with many trips there as a child and now I like to take my children there. As previous posters had mentioned perhaps your DH or DBF have never been and just doesn't understand. As far as vacations go Disney is by far the best but sadly for us this may be our last trip for a while(usually go every 3 years) before my oldest will start college. I have done my best to instill the love of Disney to everyone in our family and on this trip We will be taking DMIL who has never been there. She loves Disney movies and the like but I don't think she has any idea of what she is getting into!!! I am very excited to go there with anyone who has never been there before just because I feel it is my duty to "spread the magic". I know coming from a male this may seem strange but believe me, I know other Disney loving males exist. Maybe we are not the rule but an exception to it. The truth is Disney is not just for children but it is for the children deep inside all of us.. my 2 cents..thanks for reading;)

chrismb22
02-02-2008, 07:53 AM
Not me of course! It's my boyfriend. I keep saying well the trip is about 2 1/2 months away aren't you excited because i'm too thrilled! He's like NOPE!! I'm like WHATTTT how can you not be?? We are going to Disney!! He's like i'm just not!
Then he goes to say how can I be excited about going somewhere I've never been before? I'm like well it's DISNEY!!! The #1 Vacation spot in the world!!! He's like AND?? UGHHHH!!
I just don't understand how he can not be excited!! Yes he's never been before but it's freakin Disney. He should be happy to go on vacation period because he's never really been on a vacation before! I want somebody to be excited with me! He's a loser...lol

Mine did the same thing. The first time we went I tried to downplay it and TRIED not to talk about it too much so he wouldn't have this image in his head LOL. He was amazed by it and said he couldn't wait to go back. The 2nd time we went he was excited but said he wouldn't get excited until we were on the plane. And he was right. For 6 months I hopped around the house, counting days, planning outfits etc. He packed the night before and that morning was tired (he's GRUMPY in the morning) so didn't say much but when our plane took off he was like a little kid.

So, just have patience. He'll come around --and HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

eliza61
02-02-2008, 08:00 AM
I wasn't all that keyed up the first time I went either. I kept thinking it was just a big amusement park and that it was mainly for kids. That was almost 10 years ago. Now I'm a DVC member and go almost 1X/year.
But, you may have to get use to the real possibility that he might not be a "Disney" person. Remember we're on the Dis boards, we already know that we're obsessed.

RMulieri
02-02-2008, 08:02 AM
I'm with you !!!My hubby...HATES, I mean really HATES wdw.We went 8yrs ago for our honeymoon, and I finally got him to agree to go this Sept for our 4yo DDprincess: I had to make certain concessions though...like staying at a 1br villa at BCV( I wanted the contemporary mk view) ..I finally got him to admit he MAY actually enjoy himself....but I am not holding my breath.I figure if I don't pester him and involve him a wee little bit in the planning it may actually work...ah one can dream!!!:cool1:

shakebear
02-02-2008, 01:09 PM
i'd say you're right, and he's picturing a six flags type thing, which is fun, but nothing special, the opposite of disney.
i bet he'll change his mind once you get there.
:)

lntsmom
02-02-2008, 02:24 PM
it's time for a new boyfriend! :rotfl:

Seriously, my sister and her kids go to Southern CA...for free...every summer. The first time they went her kids were about 5 and 7. All three of them somehow managed to have a horrible time at Disneyland, despite having VIP passes that meant they never once stood in line.

My niece is now a teen and madly in love with Johnny Depp and I keep asking her how it is that she isn't DEMANDING to go back to Disney. I think I'm converting her :lmao: . I'm not sure my sister appreciates it.

Come on, I enjoy the beach. It's great. But given that or a day at Disney, I'll take Disney every time!

ShellyShell
02-02-2008, 11:58 PM
I think we have to keep in mind that not everyone loves or "gets" Disney. If he has NEVER been on a vacation I would suggest it is someplace you both want to go. . . Just a thought.

Ok yeah but I'm paying for it so he has no choice! ;)

mouseman41
02-07-2008, 01:04 AM
Well if he is not excited after the trip, then you can call him a loser!!! If he is like most people the first time is eye opening! I think he will be excited when you go there on your honeymoon on his second trip to Disney!!!! Good Luck!!

Tomh
02-07-2008, 08:40 AM
Let's go easy on the guys here, it's not like every guy in the world hates Disney. I'm a guy, and I'm planning our family vacation to Disney. This will be the first time for our DD13, and DS4. I am the most excited person in the house right now, just making the plans, and we don't go until August.

Goofin' around
02-08-2008, 08:02 PM
If he doesn't want to go, I'll go with you. I'll have to check with the wife 1st of coarse. I dont thik she'll mind (yeah right). I can't wait for June 22nd.

Goofin' around
02-08-2008, 08:04 PM
Let's go easy on the guys here, it's not like every guy in the world hates Disney. I'm a guy, and I'm planning our family vacation to Disney. This will be the first time for our DD13, and DS4. I am the most excited person in the house right now, just making the plans, and we don't go until August.
I'm with you Tom. I'll be as much of a kid as my kids are. I'll probably embarrass them.

Shir Kahn
02-08-2008, 09:22 PM
My DH isnt thrilled either... he says standing in lines and walking for hours is not his idea of a vacation. i think the problem is that they are MEN... they would rather spend a week sitting on the couch watching football and being left alone.
Dont let his lack of excitement ruin yours... men just are not as excitable

Are you kidding?? I've been reading these forums for hours and hours each day for the last couple of months since we decided to go! I bring the Unofficial Guide with me to work every day so that I have something Disney related to read during breaks! I've got a countdown calender made! I've even started working on planning not only our next trip, but the trip after that as well! My DW is excited, but I've got her beat hands down! :rotfl:

I work at a place called Future Shop, same type of store as Best Buy. Here's a picture of my modified nametag:

http://i98.photobucket.com/albums/l252/Shir_Kahn/Miscellaneous.jpg

So yeah, some of us men are as much or more excited than you women! :rotfl2:

wookie28560
02-09-2008, 06:45 AM
My husband was not excited either. He has never been so I don't think he understands the magic that is Disney. I rented the History channel's modern marvels Disney world and we watched it together. That seemed to help some. Of course he may be just tired of hearing me talk about Disney because that seems to be all I'm doing since I made the resevation! Our problem may just be my obsession. He told me to find a forum where people have the same obsession. So here I am!!

BrittBritt
02-10-2008, 06:17 PM
Ok, so here's my two cents. Maybe, just maybe, he thinks he's too cool for Disney. I mean, the idea of taking pictures with strangers in large plush costumes doesn't seem extremely manly. Maybe, :eek: , he thinks Disney is only a place for kids.

I would reevaluate this whole idea once you're actually there. I think he'll come around, and by the end of the week, it might even be him wearing the character shirt, hat, socks, etc.
Until then, you can always get your reassurance from us crazies on the Dis.

pigletforever
02-11-2008, 12:16 PM
My husband was the same way before our first trip. I just couldn't get him excited about it. He said when we get there he will be happy but not until then. :confused3

I booked our next trip last week and he is already asking when I can make dinner reservations and what restaurants he wants to go to and what rides he wants to go on and how tall our son will be so he can ride more as well.

He just didn't get it the first time. but after being there for a week he GOT IT. This time he had me book 12 nights. I almost have him talked in to DVC so we can go every other year.

Disney Spaz
02-11-2008, 04:31 PM
My DH didn't get it at first either. Then after a few trips he really started loving WDW too. Some people just need to see it to get it. Give him some time.:goodvibes

Tomh
02-11-2008, 09:00 PM
Goofin' around, you couldn't be more right. My DD13 is always telling me that I act just like the boys at school, and sometimes even accuses me of being less mature than they are. That's alright by me, I don't mind being a big kid at all.

dbarker
02-11-2008, 09:28 PM
Not me of course! It's my boyfriend. I keep saying well the trip is about 2 1/2 months away aren't you excited because i'm too thrilled! He's like NOPE!! I'm like WHATTTT how can you not be?? We are going to Disney!! He's like i'm just not!
Then he goes to say how can I be excited about going somewhere I've never been before? I'm like well it's DISNEY!!! The #1 Vacation spot in the world!!! He's like AND?? UGHHHH!!
I just don't understand how he can not be excited!! Yes he's never been before but it's freakin Disney. He should be happy to go on vacation period because he's never really been on a vacation before! I want somebody to be excited with me! He's a loser...lol

Have hope. :cloud9: DH was exactly like that our first trip. He and his family had only taken "vacations" to go from Texas to Illinois to see family. They had never been anywhere else. DH was not very excited about going to WDW. Now he is a bigger WDW fan than I am...I just get to do all the research and planning.:cool1:

JPN4265
02-13-2008, 05:04 AM
One thing great about a boy friend / girl friend, its never to late to get a new one.:rotfl2: I predict that when he walks into the MK, he will be just like a little kid...:wizard:

AGlassSlipper17
02-13-2008, 08:19 PM
I took me almost a year to talk my DBF in going on a trip to WDW with me. At first he wasn't excited at all. I think he didn't think that an adult could go and have fun. When by chance we were channel surfing and found a show about disney. He saw how wonderful it was, and that there were rides that he could enjoy. They weren't all dumbo rides. lol. After that, he agreed to go. I had him help me in planning the trip. We bought a book and read about the rides (even though I have been multiple times and know them by heart) so that we could pick what we wanted to do together. We sat down and talked about what we could afford and then we looked at hotels together . . . if your boyfriend is having problems getting excited . . .I suggest that you have him join in your planning . . . have him pick where to go and what to see. It might help him get a little more excited and interested in the fun you are bound to have.

captinhookedondisney
02-13-2008, 08:23 PM
I think you should show him Theses Boards and Then Show him the Planning video and then show him the WDW web site then show him the guide maps. Order Customized maps Then watch him he will be excited

tipsytrtle
02-15-2008, 05:29 PM
My DH loves WDW and has been many times, however this will only be my 3rd trip and i am very excited. my husband isnt. he just doesnt get excited about things until we are actually there, maybe its a guy thing?

DISNEYJAZZ
02-16-2008, 12:25 PM
i completely get what you all are saying...dh was ok withthe idea of going with the oldest 2 grandkids to disney. but was not into all the planning i was doing.just wanted to bottom line of the time frame and the money!:thumbsup2 then as i got to doing more and more research { i have read on these boards almost daily and written down so many ideas and fun things to see and doand i have learned so so much,i haven't been since 1973 and dsil 1983 or so and dd in 93 with her grandparents and dh can;t remeber when he was there last so we are vertual newbies] and the grands get more adn more excited from all i tell them i have learned and all the videos of the rides they have wathed online. thier excitment is rubbing off on him.as we get closer { 48 days and counting!} i have begun to send him emails of things we plan to do,pix of the resort and menus form the places we plan to dine,the more excited he is getting. being able to see it all through the grands eyes iwll be awesome. maybe you can send him emals or post pix around the house or do as i do each month for the past 2...onthe dates of out trip i will say .." on hti sday i 2 months we will be doing this that or ht eother..." hehe driving them nuts i know...also dgs & dgd and i play a game called 'i lov eyou more than' and we have to beat each other with saying ' i love you more than??? cinderella,goofy,donald duck etc...pirate: princess: really fun and gets them to thinking abouut all their fav characters... hope he gets more excited with you as they tiem gets closer...:lovestruc

fireman1
02-17-2008, 09:26 AM
I'm 37 and I get more excited for it now than I did as a child. My daughter and I are going in 6 days, and we cant even look at each other right now without breaking out in a huge smile, knowing that we are about to go.:rotfl: :firefight

tikimimi
02-18-2008, 07:47 AM
Not me of course! It's my boyfriend. I keep saying well the trip is about 2 1/2 months away aren't you excited because i'm too thrilled! He's like NOPE!! I'm like WHATTTT how can you not be?? We are going to Disney!! He's like i'm just not!
Then he goes to say how can I be excited about going somewhere I've never been before? I'm like well it's DISNEY!!! The #1 Vacation spot in the world!!! He's like AND?? UGHHHH!!
I just don't understand how he can not be excited!! Yes he's never been before but it's freakin Disney. He should be happy to go on vacation period because he's never really been on a vacation before! I want somebody to be excited with me! He's a loser...lol
Count on his feelings toward yout o spark his excitement. Share memories of your trips there (not with other guys of course) and things you have done that you can't wait to do with him plus new things you can't wait to experience with him. Let him know the one spot you want to make sure you get a picture together and the one treat you want to make sure you eat. Then play on what he does like - is it thrill rides? If so, try to drum up some interest in what awaits him at whichever parks you will visit. Is it water parks? If so, go shopping with him for that perfect little number you'll wear during your visit and while shopping, remind him of all the thrilling water rides and the theme designing and such. Come up with what he enjoys and play up that aspect. If he has never been, he doesn't know how special it is. Seeing it through his eyes will be magical for you, but you want make sure you don't get him so hyped up that there is no way he can be excited enough to please you.

disneydreamin247
02-18-2008, 10:29 PM
My Dad says he hates it every time we go, but is always buying a ticket when the rest of us do :confused3 lol. You can't help but get caught up in the spirit once you're there.

CapeCodMouse
02-22-2008, 04:56 PM
This past November when we were there, my DH, DS and I had a great time with our friends. It was a little hectic, and we decided that "next time" we would go longer and have more down time.

Well, this time, I scheduled a longer trip, and it will just be DH, DS and I. The other day I asked DH if he was looking forward to Disney - he said he wasn't really sure because Disney "can be boring"??? WHAAAAAATTT???:scared1: I asked him how he could say that considering he had been on EE, TOT, RnR, etc. - all thrill rides and all rides that he couldn't stop talking about when he got off. GRRRR....

I told him we could always leave him home........:laughing: