Grampa Has Prostate Cancer

[you'llbeinmyheart]

Hi I'm new to this board but I'm really glad it's here...you see my grampa has had prostate cancer for about five months and I can tell he's getting worse when I see him... he didn't look too bad at thanksgiving but at the annual christmas eve party I could tell he was really struggling.. I'm only 13 and he's my very best friend in the whole world.... it's really hard to see him like this

[BMNABrinx]

I am so sorry. I know how you feel. When I was 15 I lost my grandpa to lung cancer. He was one of my very good friends too. Just 9 days ago I lost my grandma and she was my best friend. She had lymphoma.

I am much older than you. I am 37 years old but I am hurting too. Age doesn't matter when it comes to things like this. It isn't easy to see someone you love suffer and it seems even tougher when they actually pass on. I learned from my experience at 15 to talk about things. Don't try to carry the weight of the situation on your shoulders. Your grandpa is very special and lucky to have someone like you. Make as many memories as you can then hold them tight because nothing will take them away.

I'll be praying for you and your grandpa.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

your prayers are most definately appreciated! I only mentioned that I am 13 bc it seems like such a sort time that I've known him...

[withay]

Hey there,

I wanted to reply because I was 13 when I lost my grandpa who i LIVED for (i am now 20). i was his shadow, i spent every friday and saturday night at my grandparents' house. i wanted to respond because of something you said in the post before about only knowing your grandpa for what seems like a short time. i have thought about this before and have realized that it doesn't matter how long you spend with someone like a grandparent because you love them just the same, you know? over the years, your love and appreciation may change in the ways that you perceive them, but you still love your grandparents all the same.

i wish i could say something to make your situation a little easier. all i can do is give you advice from what i went through... and it's this: at first, when i kept seeing my grandpa's face and hearing his voice in my head and during my dreams, i wanted it to go away because it was too hard for me to have to keep seeing. what i learned is that i didn't want these memories to go away at all, i just needed time to make it easier to see them.

ill be praying for you and your grandpa! i'll be here to look out for you!

[you'llbeinmyheart]

Hey there,

I wanted to reply because I was 13 when I lost my grandpa who i LIVED for (i am now 20). i was his shadow, i spent every friday and saturday night at my grandparents' house. i wanted to respond because of something you said in the post before about only knowing your grandpa for what seems like a short time. i have thought about this before and have realized that it doesn't matter how long you spend with someone like a grandparent because you love them just the same, you know? over the years, your love and appreciation may change in the ways that you perceive them, but you still love your grandparents all the same.

i wish i could say something to make your situation a little easier. all i can do is give you advice from what i went through... and it's this: at first, when i kept seeing my grandpa's face and hearing his voice in my head and during my dreams, i wanted it to go away because it was too hard for me to have to keep seeing. what i learned is that i didn't want these memories to go away at all, i just needed time to make it easier to see them.

ill be praying for you and your grandpa! i'll be here to look out for you!

Thank You For Your Prayers! And An Extra Special Thank You For The Advice It Really Helped! It Still Seems A Little Harder Because I Dont Get To See Him As Often As I Would Like..

[lkwssss]

I am so sorry that your family is going through this....My Dad had this type of cancer and he is currently doing fine after having his prostate removed....I know how hard it is to go through and especially since you all are so close....I will be praying for your family.

[Tinks1984]

Hello there,

May God be with you at this time. I lost my Granddad when I was 15 and it was a very difficult time, so I understand your pain. You must be stong for Grandpa though, he'll feel your support in that way. You're such a young person, but you'll be suprised how strong you can be.

Spend as much time as you can with your Grandpa, cherish every minute of it, it's the most precious time in the world. My Granddad was taken from me suddenly, so I never got that time.

Praying so hard for you and your Grandpa, you'll be in my thoughts and I do hope he improves over the coming days and weeks.

[Mackey Mouse]

I am so sorry to hear that your Grampa is not feeling well.. hopefully they can get this cancer under control for him and once treatment is over, I am assuming he is in treatment maybe why he is not looking so well, I hope he perks up and feels better.. It is young to face something like, I think on another thread I said that my daughters lost their Nana at 9, 12, and 15, and their Grandfather died way before they were born.....it is hard to face something like that so young and it takes time to recover from that kind of loss.....Grandparents are so special.

Hopefully, and I will say prayers for your Grampa, he gets through this cancer and does well....stay strong and just love him as I know you must for even posting this at 13. Hugs to you.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

Thank you all so much for your advice it's immensely appreciated. I posted on here because I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom about it. Since it's her dad, I know it's really hard for her too and I don't wanna make it worse. I'm gonna go and see my grandpa the weekend after this one and go to Disneyland :banana: my grandpa won't be able to get treatment due to a heart condition but he is on a medication of some sort.. not exactly sure what it is..Thank you so so so much for your prayers. It means more to me than you might think :grouphug:

[slickthomas]

I know it is a little bit different but my dog has non-treatable cancer. We did a lot of research and put him on mushroom therapy (there are like 5 anti-cancer). He hasn't shown any symptoms of getting worse. Of course, I don't know if it is that or that the cancer is just not that active.

Just wanted to let you know that there are some other options out there. I wish your grandpa the best.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

yeah he's taking some sort of medication but i'm not exactly sure what it is but he's not getting worse i feel much like you do about your dog in that sense thanks for all you guys' help and advice it means alot to me and my grandpa :)

[LeahA]

You and your grampa will be in my prayers.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

Thanks :grouphug:

[you'llbeinmyheart]

another close family friend has died :( but she was one of those people who has so many medical problems already that they are like a time bomb waiting to explode still kinda sad tho i regret not having gone to see her in the hospital.. i didn't want to see her in that state of pain and sadness... My grandpa hasn't gotten any better or any worse for that matter so i guess that's some good news... thanks again for your continous prayers :grouphug:
if it wasn't for you guys and my friends idk where i would be in life right now it means alot that you guys care so much :)

[Gdad]

My father had prostate cancer 3-4 years ago- he got treatment and is doing just fine now. I will say a prayer for your grandfather. Take care.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

thanks you guys it means ALOT :grouphug:

[you'llbeinmyheart]

Upadate: grandpa has cellulitus and was in the hospital he is coming home soon but it sounds like he's not doing very well according to my aunt and mean while one of my closest friends commited suicide yesterday.... this is not my weekend :guilty:

[you'llbeinmyheart]

i've developed a breathing problem as well... i'm going to the doctors tomorrow i heard asthma runs in my family... if anyone reads this i'll keep you posted :goodvibes

[LittleBlue22]

:hug:

I'm glad you are close to your grandparents. They are so important to/for the family dynamic. I loved and cherished my grandparents. It was funny to hear my grandma tell me how my dad help my grandpa (his dad) in the tuxedo pants for my wedding. He was dressed to the 9s. I cried that day seeing him so dapper. Any way, spend as much time as you can with him, help him when you can, and just be with him (old people just want company and people to talk with). Ask him family stories and write them down.

Take care and I hope you are doing better.

[LeahA]

Hang in there, I hope you feel better soon. It's nice to see that you care so much for your grandfather. Your very strong, you will get through this.

[you'llbeinmyheart]

thanks they dont know what's triggering my breathing problem and my grandpa is not getting any worse but not getting any better either so i supose that's good?? thanks again for posting it really means alot :grouphug:

[Microcell]

You have been dealing with alot, I wonder if your breathing problem is anxiety related?

Remember, God does not give you any more than you can handle, so you must be pretty strong.

I lost my mom pretty young, so I understand your worry, and all I can tell you is to enjoy your grandpa now and be sure to ask him about his life, his childhood and his favorite memories, so you can help carry them on when you tell your kids. It will help you feel like you know him really well! He may be around to spoil your kids, but if not, they can get to know him through you.

[Shugardrawers]

I'm guessing your grandpa is about my dad's age. My dad is 77 and had prostate cancer but is doing excellent. My own grandpa had it for several years before he passed away from something completely unrelated. Cancer is not always the death sentence it used to be, even when the Drs say it is. I'm living proof of that. ::yes::

Remaining positive and cherishing every moment is the single best thing you can do not only for someone who's ill but also to help yourself cope better. It's so easy to put off special time together until tomorrow, but we only get so many tomorrows and none of us knows how many. Make every today count. I can tell you when my daddy passes I won't be crying and wishing "if only I had....." I'll be thinking of all the special times we had and saying "I'm so glad I did...." :hug:

[Mackey Mouse]

OP, try to take care of yourself and not worry too much.. Sounds like your grandfather is getting the proper care and hopefully will continue to do well. Just as shugardrawers said:

"Remaining positive and cherishing every moment is the single best thing you can do not only for someone who's ill but also to help yourself cope better." That says it better than I could... live for today, no regrets and spend as much time with your grandfather as you can letting him know how much you care..

[you'llbeinmyheart]

well my grandpa now has multiple liver masses :( and my breathing problem went away i think it was anxiety realated and so does my doctor

[you'llbeinmyheart]

went and saw my grandpa he didn't look so good he's been in and out of the hospital alot lately..if anyone actually reads this xD