Families...

[Ms.Squeakers]

Currently im learning in health that you should talk to your family about how you feel...


Am i the only one that just cant do that?

If i tell them how i feel they either

A. Make fun of me
B. Yell at me
C. Im making a big deal about crap
OR
D. Saying im too young for these problems


For instance

I once told my mom that i think i might have depression...but instead she said "Oh no honey you dont have depression" how would she bloody know?

and i once told my mom who i liked and she ended up telling the rest of the family and laughing AT EVERYTHING
if they see me saying hi to him BOOM "hahaha" its so not funny and it hurts my feelings

and whenever i try to sit down to talk to my family about these problems all i get is "No you know what i dont have to listen to these problems start talking rational and then i will listen"

and it just hurts


what should i do?

Am i the only one with these problems?:confused3

[::Snow_White::]

Nope.
I can't tell anyone anything.
If I'm really annoyed at school and I have to vent. I tell my mom and she tells me that I need to grow up and stop acting like a baby. Even when I didn't do anything wrong.

When I tell her about other things she makes fun of me.

I hate it. She doesn't understand. She tells me she does, but she doesn't. If she did she wouldn't be telling me off, and making fun of me for it. I can't tell her what I want to do as a career, I can't tell her what college I really truly want to go to. I can't tell her what I like to do or anything, because she'll make fun of me for it.

One day I told her I wanted to be an author and she says "You want to write a book!?" like I couldn't do it. It hurt my feelings.
Then I put all these books on my christmas list and she asks "What all you want for christmas is books?!?! Pfft, how boring." Wether she knew it or not she sounded like she was making fun of me for wanting books.

I don't have any advice, because I have the same problem.

[Ms.Squeakers]

Nope.
I can't tell anyone anything.
If I'm really annoyed at school and I have to vent. I tell my mom and she tells me that I need to grow up and stop acting like a baby. Even when I didn't do anything wrong.

When I tell her about other things she makes fun of me.

I hate it. She doesn't understand. She tells me she does, but she doesn't. If she did she wouldn't be telling me off, and making fun of me for it.

I don't have any advice, because I have the same problem.


So im not the only one...Huh.. interesting..



Yeah isnt it annoying? It makes me emotionally screwed up so i end up crying at school sometimes and people wonder why and when i tell them all they can say is "Oh im sorry" which helps a little but i mean all i have ever wanted was to talk to my family and be able to TRUST them

trust me i dont like crying at school but sometimes i cant help it it just flows out

[Quack Attack]

You are not alone in this. I also have trouble telling my issues to my parents. The only person I can really express my feeling to is my best friend.

[::Snow_White::]

So im not the only one...Huh.. interesting..



Yeah isnt it annoying? It makes me emotionally screwed up so i end up crying at school sometimes and people wonder why and when i tell them all they can say is "Oh im sorry" which helps a little but i mean all i have ever wanted was to talk to my family and be able to TRUST them

trust me i dont like crying at school but sometimes i cant help it it just flows out

I added more to my post.

No, and I knew I wasn't the only one. Another one of my friends has the same problem too.

I usually won't cry about it. I just think of ways like writing and stuff to show her what I can really do.

And on things she just tells me off about and makes fun of me I get really ticked off and go to my room shut the door and watch a movie. It usually gets out of my mind and I forget about it, because she doesn't really understand. Yeah, my mom knows me alot, but I know me the best. And I hate it when she thinks she knows exactly what I'm thinking and the problems I have. She doesn't. Doesn't even have a clue.

I just keep it bottled up most of the time now, because I can't vent at school and if I can't do it at home I have nowhere to do it. Except vent to myself and on here. I'm glad that I have friends on here that understand.

[disneychick2721]

I dont bother telling people my problems. If you ever watch Scrubs, JD talks to himself and has his little fantasies, thats what I do.

I would never tell my family anything like that. My mom thinks I have a problem because I never call or hang out with my friends, and im always on the computer, but I dont care.

[Ms.Squeakers]

I added more to my post.

No, and I knew I wasn't the only one. Another one of my friends has the same problem too.

I usually won't cry about it. I just think of ways like writing and stuff to show her what I can really do.

And on things she just tells me off about and makes fun of me I get really ticked off and go to my room shut the door and watch a movie. It usually gets out of my mind and I forget about it, because she doesn't really understand. Yeah, my mom knows me alot, but I know me the best. And I hate it when she thinks she knows exactly what I'm thinking and the problems I have. She doesn't. Doesn't even have a clue.

I just keep it bottled up most of the time now, because I can't vent at school and if I can't do it at home I have nowhere to do it. Except vent to myself and on here. I'm glad that I have friends on here that understand.


True true

I can NEVER cry
but sometimes i cant help it
i feel my face turn red and i just burst out


and other times i sit by myself and think...



I just need someone a little older to tlak to

I can talk to my friends thats true but...they are slow and dont understand my type of humor
im kinda wise beyond my years
im normally helping them with their problems and then once their done and im a little upset "O too bad" and i have no one to talk to...


AND

Wanting books for christmas is not boring its awesome I dont know how many of those magic tree house books i wanted when i was 7 for chrismtas and easter

[Ms.Squeakers]

I dont bother telling people my problems. If you ever watch Scrubs, JD talks to himself and has his little fantasies, thats what I do.

I would never tell my family anything like that. My mom thinks I have a problem because I never call or hang out with my friends, and im always on the computer, but I dont care.

My mom doesnt even notice
she just ASUMES that im on VMK because thats all i can talk about thats positive...

[marypops!]

Let's just say you guys know more about me then my family do...

[Ms.Squeakers]

Let's just say you guys know more about me then my family do...

::yes:: Ditto its almost like the DIS is my family :lmao:

[disneychick2721]

::yes:: Ditto its almost like the DIS is my family :lmao:

ITA:thumbsup2

[Ms.Squeakers]

We are all one big happy family

If one is down we all pitch in

If someones gone theres always someone else to talk to

:)
Yeah we may fight or have little arguments sometimes but were still together :)

[::Snow_White::]

Let's just say you guys know more about me then my family do...

Same.

My mom doesnt even notice
she just ASUMES that im on VMK because thats all i can talk about thats positive...

My mom thinks I talk on the phone and hang out with friends too much. 0_o
I only go out like 4 times every couple months and I usually don't talk on the phone.

She thinks I'm on DIS too much also.
But I tell her it's addicting and she believes me.
But I don't think she understands that I have friends on here...she thinks I just...talk. And not be friends with anyone.

[Ms.Squeakers]

Yeah i dont know i guess i should be happy it COULD be worse

[AngelInDisguise]

Well if I say something to my mom she says I'm too young somtimes.
But thats it.

[BandGeek911]

I can't trust anything with my family.
Especially my mom. She shoots down everything. Everything possible. She won't even think about positive possibilities, and she's extremely closed minded.

And I can't tell my dad anything...well...you'd have to know him why I can't tell any of my feelings to him. I just can not relate to him.

And I can't tell my little brother or sister, they're just too young/stupid to understand anything.

[Tinkerbell424]

Yeah, I have trouble telling most people my feelings.
When I have a problem though,I try to go to my mom and talk with her. She usually listens and never judges or anything but it's still hard for me to go up to her and be like "Hey I'm sad". Because if I told her the reasons she probably would just tell me to try not to worry or something that just wouldnt help.

When my brother overhears my problems, I never hear the end of it. He one time heard how much I weighed from when I told my mom,and now he constantly call's me fat.

Blahh. This is why I am going to start keeping a journal of my feelings and why I feel that way..Maybe that will be an easier way for my mom to know my problems,without it being embarassing to me.

[BandGeek911]

I've always wanted to keep a journal. But I'm so afraid of someone picking it up and reading it. I'd hate that. o.O

[pigletgirl]

I tell my family everything.

[Tinkerbell424]

I've always wanted to keep a journal. But I'm so afraid of someone picking it up and reading it. I'd hate that. o.O

Ohhh..Nobody come's in my room,so i dont think anyone will read it..but i'll hide it just incase my brother sees it.

[STOPxmickeytime]

My parents are supportive of my goals and ideas of what I want to do when I'm older, and they take my side if I say a teacher was annoying or something, but they also tease me.

Like, just good-naturedly, it doesn't bother me that much.
But every once in a while, it gets annoying when my mom starts telling her friends stupid stuff I said, especially when I babysit for them.

I don't tell my family anything about my friends, or who I like, or who I'm going out with, though.
And I don't really talk about how I feel.
But we don't have a bad relationship.

[Sparx]

i have the best mom in the world. i love her. shes my hero. i dont' know how i could get through a day without her. shes my rock.

look, i'm a freakin crazy person to live with. i'm all over the place. i'm easily enchanted and even more easily disenchanted. i'm insane half the time. i'm messy and pretty much a slob.

my mom can put up with me, which is probably more than most people on the planet can do.


and about my dad. well hes better than anything out there too. i wasn't born to him, he picked ME out. out of everyone in the world, he wanted to be MY dad. He wanted me more than he wanted children of his own.


my family is amazing.

[PurpleDucky]

Me and my mom have the best relationship. I can talk to her about anything and she understands. I love her so much because she's like my best friend

My dad...he's the complete opposite. That's all I'll say

[PowerMonkey]

i dont talk to my family about much lol.. they just wont really understand whats going through my mind... but i have very close friends in which i consider family .. i tell them everything and they do the same

[Ms.Squeakers]

I just feel so bad

Like this morning i completely lost it i cried in front of her...and what does she do?...

She yelled at me...



I know it could very well be worse but i just sometimes wish...ya know?

[hippinhoopster]

My parents are like Jekyl & Hyde when it comes to listening to my problems. Sumtimes they are so supportive and give me tons and tons of advice and others they just like to tease me about my problems. I hate when they say stuff like you just wait until you my age and then you'll know what problems are. Well I am not their age yet and I have my own issues for my own age and they are important to me. I luv my Mom & Dad but sumtimes I just have to seperate myself from them because they can drive me batty.

[crazytp93]

Its tough talking to your parents/guardians about this stuff. But try your best too.

[Ms.Squeakers]

I cant at all

Ive completely shut doors that ever led to telling them stuff

[hippinhoopster]

I cant at all

Ive completely shut doors that ever led to telling them stuff

You can't completely shut yourself off to your parents they have way to much good stuff to give ya.

[Babyjustrun]

My family's pretty easy to talk to, but I usually don't talk about personal stuff.
I would never tell my mother who I like, because she wouldn't know who it is.
And I just don't share.
But I'll talk to my mum about my day at school, and whine about a few things.
I know what I'm able to share, and what would take me hours to get out of me in the first place.

See, it's not my family that's the problem, it's me.

[Ms.Squeakers]

You can't completely shut yourself off to your parents they have way to much good stuff to give ya.

I never said i put locks on the doors ;)

[hippinhoopster]

I never said i put locks on the doors ;)

that's good ;)

[JulielovesDisney]

Currently im learning in health that you should talk to your family about how you feel...


Am i the only one that just cant do that?

If i tell them how i feel they either

A. Make fun of me
B. Yell at me
C. Im making a big deal about crap
OR
D. Saying im too young for these problems


For instance

I once told my mom that i think i might have depression...but instead she said "Oh no honey you dont have depression" how would she bloody know?

and i once told my mom who i liked and she ended up telling the rest of the family and laughing AT EVERYTHING
if they see me saying hi to him BOOM "hahaha" its so not funny and it hurts my feelings

and whenever i try to sit down to talk to my family about these problems all i get is "No you know what i dont have to listen to these problems start talking rational and then i will listen"

and it just hurts


what should i do?

Am i the only one with these problems?:confused3

My family is exactly the same! I can talk to them about some stuff, like fights with friends, when I'm feeling stressed, ect. But other stuff I have to keep to myself for my own safety. Writing it down or talking with a friend are good solutions.

[Ms.Squeakers]

Mhmm

When i grow up I PROMISE to listen to my kids problems and actually help them

I would want a relationship with them where they could tell me ANYTHING

[hippinhoopster]

Mhmm

When i grow up I PROMISE to listen to my kids problems and actually help them

I would want a relationship with them where they could tell me ANYTHING


i agree with that.

[pigletgirl]

I really want that too. I also don't want to be a hovering mother who swoops in everytime something goes wrong. That isn't right either. I also don't want to be too distant as well.

[Ms.Squeakers]

I really want that too. I also don't want to be a hovering mother who swoops in everytime something goes wrong. That isn't right either. I also don't want to be too distant as well.

Ditto

I wouldnt want them to become so attached to me that when they go off to midd school it would be "STOP TALKING ABOUT MY MOTHER :("

Nope i would want it to be where they could tell me about anything if they had a problem and i wouldnt yell at them about it

[CrazyChik]

I can talk to my brother.
I gave up on my parents long ago.

[Pirate Me]

I can talk to my mom about anything...but I'd feel weird doing so.

[Ms.Squeakers]

I can talk to my brother.
I gave up on my parents long ago.

I can talk to my brother about some things

Infact lately ive been talking to his gf about problems

[hippinhoopster]

I am an only child so I have to take my problems to my parents most of the time. If they are in one of their shut me out moods I usually then go to my BFF.

[wishspirit]

i have a great relationship with my parents. They listen to me and respect what i've got to say. But sometimes when they have other things on their minds, a kids problem can look so insignificant. I know it isnt, but sometimes adults get wrapped up in their own worlds just as much as kids do, and can't see that what they say is hurting you. My rents used to say hurtful stuff from time to time. Now when they say stuff i just say 'That hurt my feelings, this stuff is important to me can you please listen', and they usually stop and apologise.

Plus i am living away from home now, so that they are so happy when they get to see me, they doesnt complain!

If you ever need to chat please PM me, i have a slightly older perspecative, as i have done the whole high school thing. (i am at uni or college as you call it!)

But please don't shut your parents out, i know they might be hard to talk to sometimes, and heck i dont tell my parents everything, but just to know you can talk to them if you need to is a blessing!

[disney100666]

::yes:: Ditto its almost like the DIS is my family :lmao:

same for me!


I just like to keep things to myself in RL. but on here I like my life flow.