View Full Version : Ladies - A friend question

09-19-2007, 12:36 PM
Do you have anyone near you or even in another state that if you needed them they would drop what they were doing and come to you?

I like to think I do but we were discussing this earlier here at work and I'm just curious now. :)

09-19-2007, 12:39 PM
Yes, I have two. One lives here locally and the other lives in Scotland. I have no doubt that both of them would drop anything to come to me. I would do the same for them.

09-19-2007, 12:39 PM
One, but she lives in another state.

09-19-2007, 12:41 PM
Yes I do and there are prople I would do (have done) the same for.

09-19-2007, 12:42 PM
Yes, I am blessed with such friends. And I would do the same for them.

09-19-2007, 12:44 PM
My sister would. My niece would, as well, but she has 3 small kids so I wouldn't ask her to except as a last resort. Both live about 1.5 hours away from me.

09-19-2007, 12:55 PM
I have three that would and have. I do feel very blessed to have friends like that. I'm lucky to have a sister that would also do anything for my family. I try to make sure that my friends & sis know that I would do the same for them.

09-19-2007, 12:59 PM
Yes, I have 2 maybe 3 and my mom. I consider myself extremely lucky. All 3 of these people I have known since I was a little girl.

09-19-2007, 12:59 PM
At the risk of looking totally lame, no, I don't think I do. I have friends, but not a friend like that.

I can count on my family though. :thumbsup2

SC Minnie
09-19-2007, 01:00 PM
I have several. 3 live in this town and one in another state. I don't talk to 2 of them regularly but we would be there for each other in a heartbeat.

09-19-2007, 01:05 PM
I am fortunate that my friends all live within 3 hours of me. We have dropped everything for each other, and I would not hesitate in a heartbeat to do it again, as would they..

We are all going on 28 years strong, and hopefully we all last at least another 28..

09-19-2007, 01:07 PM
Yep I have 2 local and one in the next state over that would be here for me no matter what time of day or night if I needed them. And how do I know? I needed them once.

What I was very surprised about was just this week my mom's best friend- really her only friend fell into a coma(she is 65 so young imho) they live several states apart now. I asked when my Mom was coming up and she replied"well there isn't anything I can do for her now" and then went on to say "got to go to MahJong"
Um how about be there to help her daughter deal with it all. It's not like she works or doesn't have the $$ to go. I was really rather shocked by her comment.

09-19-2007, 01:17 PM
Yes..and when a tree came down on our house in a storm this summer, within an hour (I got a call from one, just after it happened, and she called the others), we had three sets of friends here. One brought a chain saw, and another brought clippers (which we took a pic of..if you saw the size of the tree, it was really funny). We had a professional take it down, but was so thankful for good friends, who came to do what they could.These are the same people who house sat when my mom died, and would come in a minute if I needed them for anything.

09-19-2007, 01:24 PM
Yes, I am fortunate to say I have at least four friends who would drop everything to help me and I would do the same for them. They all live close by.

09-19-2007, 03:28 PM
I have 2 that would drop anything for me and I would do the same for them.

We've done it many times already. One friend has gone through breast cancer, then ovarian cancer and I have stayed up many nights with her in the hospital and taken off work to go get meds for her, etc. Both friends were there for me when I was hospitalized earlier this year with numerous pulmonary emboli and DVT. They took care of my animals and my bills - I didn't even have to ask.

It's nice to have friends like that.

09-19-2007, 03:39 PM
I have 2 probably 3 that I know would do that. 2 of them live quite close to me and one lives in Wisconsin, but I know that he would do that for me as I would and have done for him.

He was going through a really tough time right before he decided to get divorced and I drove to see him that weekend. He called on Weds and I talked to my friend and on Friday we went down to surprise him!

I wish more people would be that way.


09-19-2007, 03:47 PM
I didn't think so until my mother had surgery 2 weeks ago. Her closest friend spent the day with me at the hospital. The surgery itself went fine, but my mother had a hard time coming out of anesthesia. Her friend stayed with me the entire 12 hours and toward the end of the day, she sent me home while she stayed at the hospital so she could bring my mother home. She also stayed at the house with my mother so I could go to the pharmacy. I'd say my mother's friend is one of my closest friends now, too!

09-19-2007, 03:48 PM
I have one, she's like another sister to me and I wouldn't trade it for anything

09-19-2007, 05:49 PM
Do you have anyone near you or even in another state that if you needed them they would drop what they were doing and come to you?

I like to think I do but we were discussing this earlier here at work and I'm just curious now. :)

I'm that type of friend, sadly I can't think of one friend I have that would do that in return.

09-19-2007, 06:22 PM
I can honestly say that I have over 10 friends that would do anything for me. I would do anything for them as well. I am truly blessed. At least 4 of them have been my best friends since elementary school.

09-19-2007, 06:26 PM
I used to have one. She and her new husband died in a plane crash about eight years ago, on Christmas day. We buried them on New Years Day. :sad1:

My sister and my mother would drop anything to be there for me though. They may be family, but they're still my best friends.

09-19-2007, 07:48 PM
Yes, I know I have at least one, plus three family members (Mom, Sister, and SIL) and I'd do the same for them. They know if I asked for help I really need it. Only twice have I needed someone almost immediately and both times my sister just happened to be there so I didn't need to call anyone. Once, when I had just got home from the hospital after surgery and had to be rushed back even though she had to cancel something pretty important and once when I was arrested (domestic) and needed someone to keep the kids (and they were already at her house because she had been babysitting at the time). Don't ask:rotfl:

09-19-2007, 08:10 PM
I have one friend, 500 miles away - we don't stay in constant contact, but when we talk, it's like we never spent time apart. She can come here or I will go there without hesitation.

I have a friend here who I think would be the same way - I was for her when her mom had an aneurysm - we had their kids for the 5 days she was hospitalized until she died, then we were "there" until the funeral.

09-19-2007, 08:37 PM
Can't say I do. I have acquaintances, but no real friends. I'm an only child and never see most of my cousins. I always joke that when I die I'll have to hire professional mourners, otherwise it'll be a really intimate funeral :rotfl2:

09-19-2007, 08:43 PM
Yep. :)

Fortunately I grew up not far from where I live now and have had the same core group of friends for 30+ years. I also have a few close friends I've met through work or elsewhere who I know I can count on.

09-19-2007, 09:52 PM
I cannot say that my blood family (with the exception of my Mom...not counting my kids and husband of course!) would come to help me...

but I have a small group of friends that would!!! And they are more like family to me than most of my blood relatives.

09-19-2007, 09:57 PM
Hmmm... no, I don't think so, not anymore. I used to have a few but we've grown apart over the years. Too much time and distance...

09-19-2007, 09:59 PM
Yes I do. And I would do the same for her.

Handbag Lady
09-19-2007, 10:05 PM
I have two.

I have one friend in Arkansas who would (and has) dropped everything for me. I wouldn't ask her now, as she is delivering twins in a few days!! Because of her family and kids, etc., we don't talk as much, but it is like flicking on a switch. In a heartbeat, if she called and asked, I would be on a plane. I almost nearly expect it now that we are on countdown.

I have another friend in Washington State who I talk to daily, and who I met through a Disney board like this. IN.A.HEARTBEAT if she called, I would be on a plane as well.

And I am blessed to have family who would do/be treated the same.

Pineapple Princess
09-20-2007, 12:21 AM
Nope, not one.
When my mom died a few months ago, no one really cared. I did not have one friend come to the house, they were all my dads friends. I am the one who stops everything for other people, but I am not good enough for other people stop everything for me.

Like Amapola said a few posts back, I'll have to hire professional mourners.

09-20-2007, 07:52 AM
Mine is mostly family...not friends. :sad2:

09-20-2007, 08:04 AM
yes I have several locally in my circle that would do that. I am blessed to have a great circle of friends here.

I have one or 2 out of state taht I could count on as well.

09-20-2007, 08:34 AM
NO. The only one I can count on is my dh.

I found this out the hard way two years ago when I had a series of unfortunate events happened to me and most of my so-called friends found it too difficult to even send me an email of support.

09-20-2007, 08:38 AM
Yes I do. Many of them. I would do the same for them too.

09-20-2007, 08:46 AM
Yes...I have 2 very close friends that would do that for me and my family and I would do the same for them. They both live far away from me now, VA and Iowa. We don't get to see each other much except for weddings, graduations etc and have such busy lives we talk to each other on the phone about 1 time a month. But, like another poster said...its like we talk to each other every day. We just pick up where we left off. Both of them were there for me when my dd passed away and both were there when my oldest ds graduated hs...so, good times and bad they have made trip to my house.

I love them both a great deal!