I have spiraled into a food depression

[Zela]

Things didn't work out with my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months....I am sad and have made bad food choices....gained 11 pounds...could i just get some encouragement.:grouphug:

[tiggerlover]

:grouphug: Zela, I am so sorry to hear that your relationship didn't work out and that food has been your comfort. WISH is just the place you need to be to help you through this trying time of your life. I for one am an emotional eater, as I think you will find many here are, so I feel for you. But the great thing is you are here and you are looking to make a change. Have you given any thought to what you want to do to lose the weight? A great start is to drink lots and lots of water and to keep track of the food you are eating, this will help you in the long run all around. EDITED TO SAY I JUST SAW YOUR CLIPPIE, you obviously have been around for a bit and have been very successful. Congrats on your loss to date, that is pretty impressive. My thoughts are to try to find something else to do besides eating as an emotional outlet, when you find yourself turning to food do something else and hopefully the urge to eat will pass.

There are a ton of people here who will help you along the way. Just come by often and we will help you any way we can.

Hang in there and know you are not alone.

[Tiger Lily 03]

Zela, I am sorry for your pain. Please don't let food be your comfort. I know it is difficult to do and easy for me to say, but you have worked so hard to become a healthier you. Don't give in to this temporary feeling.

We are here for you. :hug:

Find something else to do for yourself. You can get through this!

[NeverlandClub23]

I'm with you girl! I'm SUCH an emotional eater. It's so hard to control yourself when you have little voices in your head saying "eat whatever you want, it'll make you feel better" or the even more stupid voice that says "eat all you want, no one to try to be thin for now". I've gone through that so many times. We're here for you and I've found forcing myself to do healthy things like going for a long walk, going to the gym, bike ride, etc. makes me feel so much better about myself (and makes me make better food choices too). Also sign up for a dance, Pilates, or Yoga class. You may not want to at first but once you start going it'll make you feel so good.

Just remember, NO guy is worth ruining your health/body for. (Also an added benefit is if you're healthy and loving life the next time you run in to your ex he may not recognize you and may kick himself for losing you! :thumbsup2)

[MelanieC]

Zela - Hugs :hug:

Sorry to hear about your relationship! Hang in there. Join one of the many challenges here and turn that 11 pounds around. You can do it - I know you can!!!

[DVCkidsMOM]

I'm so sorry you are feeling down after your relationship loss. :hug:
I'm also so thrilled to see your huge weight loss - much much bigger than a temporary gain that you will soon get control over. Hang in there. :thumbsup2
I too turn to food, but the thing is, it really does make me feel better. I wouldn't do it if it weren't calming and soothing as well as yummy. I read an article that suggested you make a list of options for emotional times. The list should included longer term projects, crafts, vacations that you enjoy - schedule some of these things to keep your batteries charged. Then there were the things you like to do that don't require much preparation - also scheduled regularly but more frequently as mini-pampering sessions. Finally (and this has been so important for me) the list includes "quick fixes" to which you can turn during an "emotional crisis." I could think of a few things (jump on a rebounder, play a favorite song, do a Sudoku puzzle) that I like and help me feel better fairly quickly. I can never think that clearly, though, when I'm in "crisis mode," so having made the list was very helpful. Now I have options that will provide the calm/soothing for me - after which, when I become hungry, I can consciously and with control choose something yummy. :flower3:

[AuntieM03]

Zela, sorry you are having a hard time. I know how hard it is not to turn to food for comfort. I hope you realize you are worth taking care of!:hug:

[Zela]

THanks for everyone's encouragement:) I feel a lot better now

[Miss Jasmine]

I am sorry to hear about your relationship. :hug: I am an emotional eater as well and have to be very careful about it. The fact that you are talking about your weight gain means that you are ready to address it. :thumbsup2 So take control...you know what you need to do. You've all ready done fantastic. You have received some good advice about substituting other things. Good luck, and let us know how you are doing. :)

[cats7494]

I am also an emotional eater and I know how hard it is sometimes to do the healthy thing.
Good for you on your weight loss so far! Do not let this small set back of weight gain get you down and do not feel guilty!
I am very sorry to hear about your relationship - that is always painful!
The fact that you are posting here is great! You are not trying to hide it you acknowledge it and are ready to work hard!
Hang in there!:goodvibes

[Tiger Lily 03]

THanks for everyone's encouragement:) I feel a lot better now
I am so glad to read this. I was worried.

Let us know what your are doing to replace that food you wanted to eat. I could use the advice too.