What to do? I can't be the only one!

[DisneyGuy]

Hello,

Well, I have a little dilema - i'm in my early twenties, LOVE Disney, DisneyWorld and traveling - but I really don't have anyone to go to Disneyworld with - The people I used to travel with were my family but recently things have come up for them that put Disney vacations on the backburner - other vacations, new jobs, you know - the typical stuff. The last time we went will be just about 2 years ago shortly. I have been to Disneyworld 7 times now but like most, LOVE it and would love to go once a year if I could - but of course obligations happen for me to.

But, here's my situation, I booked a room at the Swan at an AMAZING rate - 125.00 a night and it's my favorite hotel in Disney (well this and the Beach Club) but no one is able to go with me - my friends are either A. Not into Disney, B. Wouldn't spend money on a Disney vacation, or C. Have no money nor to do they try to make any.

Looks like the only way I could go is if I pay for someone's trip entirely - which isn't really fair to me - in fact, it's absurd I guess. I'm always buying things for others and taking them places but I think I have to draw the line somewhere - right? Plus, not that I ever expect anything in return, but it wouldn't hurt ONCE in a while.

I'm just torn because I can't bring myself to cancel a Disney vacation that I would consider increddibly CHEAP and amazing. I wish I could meet someone who is as easy going as I am and would love the chance to go - but I don't think I have enough time to find that person...and if I don't go and this pattern keeps up - I don't know when i'll ever get back.

Well, that's my dilema - it's going to be hard to cancel - as i'm sure most of my fellow Disney lovers can understand. :sad1:

[DaisyDuck001]

I agree with you that it would be absurd for you to pay for a friend's entire trip just so that you can have company there.

You didn't say when your trip is, but if you have some time before the trip, you can post on this website and see what other solo travelers will be at WDW at that time.

Then maybe you can arrange to hang out with them during part of your trip. That's what the "Meet a Friend, Share a Ride" thread is about. Or you can start your own thread.

[Tink-in-Training]

Go. Go, go. Go, go, go, go, go.

Oh, and if I was wishy-washy on that, GO!

I've been on a number of trips solo and have had a great time.

Sounds like we two have a little in common. Itend to do more for others than maybe I should sometimes...especially when it comes for paying for things. The only trip I've ever (partially) paid for was a birthday gift for my absolute bestest friend ever, and she still paid for part of it.

Honestly, I think if you went solo, you'd still enjoy yourself. And as the poster above me said, you can always join a thread here on the Dis for people who'll be travelling in the same timeframe. I've never done a 'Dis-Meet' but I bet it would be fun.

Oh, and by the by, that IS a great rate! I'll always have love for the Swan and Dolphin as I used to be a Starwood employee (Sheraton/Westin) and used to stay there for a paltry $69/nt (+ tax and all of the ridiculous fees those hotels like to charge). Not sure if you've been there since they've renovated, but the rooms are much improved.

I hope you decide to go and if you do, have a great time. :upsidedow

[djblu883]

go ahead and go on your trip even if you don't find a princess in time...who knows...standing in a line there you just may run into her doing the same exact thing you are!!! Have a blast! Life is too short to spend it waiting for others to decide to join you....Cheers!:cool1:

[spiceycat]

go have a great time.

hey you might just love going solo!!!

look at this way if you found someone to go with you - you would have to do what she/he wanted to do - not necessary what you want to do.

you can do the parks when you feel like it - not when someone else is bugging you to go.

you can ride the rides you want.

eat at the restuarant or not - when and if you want too.

besides Disney CM have a problem - they want to play match maker.

they (except my favorite Cape May Cafe) are always sitting me next to a single guy.

so take heart - go eat in a restuarant and you might meet your lady!

[ANTSS2001]

I agree with you that it would be absurd for you to pay for a friend's entire trip just so that you can have company there.

You didn't say when your trip is, but if you have some time before the trip, you can post on this website and see what other solo travelers will be at WDW at that time.

Then maybe you can arrange to hang out with them during part of your trip. That's what the "Meet a Friend, Share a Ride" thread is about. Or you can start your own thread.

HIya Daisy!!!

Hello,

Well, I have a little dilema - i'm in my early twenties, LOVE Disney, DisneyWorld and traveling - but I really don't have anyone to go to Disneyworld with - The people I used to travel with were my family but recently things have come up for them that put Disney vacations on the backburner - other vacations, new jobs, you know - the typical stuff. The last time we went will be just about 2 years ago shortly. I have been to Disneyworld 7 times now but like most, LOVE it and would love to go once a year if I could - but of course obligations happen for me to.

But, here's my situation, I booked a room at the Swan at an AMAZING rate - 125.00 a night and it's my favorite hotel in Disney (well this and the Beach Club) but no one is able to go with me - my friends are either A. Not into Disney, B. Wouldn't spend money on a Disney vacation, or C. Have no money nor to do they try to make any.

Looks like the only way I could go is if I pay for someone's trip entirely - which isn't really fair to me - in fact, it's absurd I guess. I'm always buying things for others and taking them places but I think I have to draw the line somewhere - right? Plus, not that I ever expect anything in return, but it wouldn't hurt ONCE in a while.

I'm just torn because I can't bring myself to cancel a Disney vacation that I would consider increddibly CHEAP and amazing. I wish I could meet someone who is as easy going as I am and would love the chance to go - but I don't think I have enough time to find that person...and if I don't go and this pattern keeps up - I don't know when i'll ever get back.

Well, that's my dilema - it's going to be hard to cancel - as i'm sure most of my fellow Disney lovers can understand. :sad1:

when is your upcoming trip... there's a link on my siggie "check these dates" is a thread where a few already had subscribe along with their dates... msotly SOLO travelers also... if it is around Dec.... there is already a nice group that got formed from just browsing this thread.. good luck!!! You can add your date and ADR and I will link them together so they can find you!!!:rolleyes1

[LMCT88]

Hi, I can understand your dilemma, been there and have actually gone with a friend (I paid the cost of the room), she only paid her airfare, park tickets etc. maybe you may have a friend who would be willing to go if they could share your room? I also wouldn't cancle the trip. You will have an amazing time, as their are alot of people who take solo trips ( I have read their reports on the boards). Good luck with your decision.

[a1tinkfans]

I echo the other poster's and say
GO!
You're sure to have a wonderful time! What better company...YOU!!!

[DaisyDuck001]

Hi ANTSS, nice to see you here!

DisneyGuy,

Some people are saying you should be able to enjoy the whole trip alone. Some people can enjoy WDW alone, while other people enjoy it more if they have company. Either way, there is a solution. If you are the type who really needs to hang out with people in order to enjoy yourself, that's part of what this website is for! You can use this website to find people to meet up with at WDW. I did this for my past two trips, and have plans underway for meeting up with more people for my upcoming trip in December. If you don't want to spend your trip alone, you don't have to. You can meet different people for different meals and parks and so on.

However, you didn't say when your trip is. If it's within the next few days, you may not have much time to arrange to meet with people there, so you may want to consider re-scheduling.

Daisy

[helloirishkitty]

I'll go with you!!! heh.. :)

But in all seriousness...
GO!
I loved my Solo trip because it was what I wanted to do. It was a rough time in my life and it made me kind of sad to see all of the happy couples/families, but it was good for me :)

[spiceycat]

start a new thread - here, on the meet, and on the Orlando board - maybe theme park too

tell them you want to meet other people.

you will get replies - there are several people who live in Orlando that reply to these boards.

definitely go on your vacation!

[DisneyGuy]

Wow, thanks for all the replies!

My trip is in September. There are times when I think "Yeah I'll just go alone - i'll be fine" - but then I can't seem to really WANT to do it. I just went to a theme park and had to go on most of the fast stuff alone because the people I was with couldn't "handle" the good rides. I must say while I started getting comfortable going on alone, there was something missing - sharing that excitement - sharing being scared, sharing the screams - you know what I mean? Instead you are sitting next to a stranger.

I do admire the people who go alone - I really do - and I think it's great! I'm just sort of the kind of person who likes to have someone with them.

I haven't cancelled yet, and won't until last minute - hopefully the right person - aka - princess will come along....and I hope she's not a cheap or boring one! haha.

I appreciate all the responses and i'll consider them in my decision.

:love:

[DisneyGuy]

Hi, I can understand your dilemma, been there and have actually gone with a friend (I paid the cost of the room), she only paid her airfare, park tickets etc. maybe you may have a friend who would be willing to go if they could share your room? I also wouldn't cancle the trip. You will have an amazing time, as their are alot of people who take solo trips ( I have read their reports on the boards). Good luck with your decision.


I wouldn't dream of making my friend get their own room - I would certainly share a room with them - and I have considered paying for the entire room and just having them by the park ticket and airfair - but even so I get so mad at myself for even considering it because I do so much for people and as mean as this may sound (because i'm FAR from mean) it's just not worth it because once it's over - the gesture is forgotten. As I said in my original post I don't expect anything in return - but enough is enough. ;)

[englishrose47]

I'm having the same dilemma . I want to do Disney with adults but can't find anyone to commit to going with me . I want to go first week of February . Haven't booked yetand have plenty of time still but I think I.m going solo if no one goes with me!!

[Dolce27]

Haven't booked yetand have plenty of time still but I think I.m going solo if no one goes with me!!

That's the attitude that I learned that I would have to take. I've now done two solo trips and loved it - don't be afraid to go alone. You'll still enjoy your trip.

For my b-day trip next year I'm scheduled to go with a friend but I'm saving the money for another solo in case she bails on me - I get bailed on a lot.

[iggbees]

dude, totally go! it would be silly to cancel that amazing rate for the fact that nobody can go with you.

if i went alone, i would totally have a great time! think of all the things that you can do by yourself that other people don't or wouldn't want to do with you! when i brought my boyfriend down with me in jan i can't tell you the number of things that i wanted to do that he didn't. he's just not into it. go on a tour (like keys to the kingdom), take surf lessons at typhoon lagoon, go drinking around the world. i'm not the kind of person who likes to do most things by themselves, but when it comes to things that i want to do and nobody else wants to, then i'll go. i've learned never to rely on anyone, do what you want to do.

[DaisyDuck001]

Not all people are the same with regard to hanging out solo at WDW.

Some people have a great time, doing exactly what they want to do, no arguments or compromises with anyone.

Other people value sharing the WDW experience with another person or people, and have a richer experience this way, even though compromises are required when people hang out together.

Not everyone can have a fun time spending their whole WDW trip alone.

For those who can, more power to you!

For those who have more fun when with people, this website is a great place to find people to meet up with at WDW.

DisneyGuy, if you find your princess in time for your September trip, that is awesome, and we'll all be happy for you.

In case you don't, you might consider being open to meeting up with some other Disney fans during your trip.

They might be in a similar situation to yourself.

For those who don't like to hang out alone for days on end, an experience shared with friends or friendly acquaintances is more fulfilling than being alone, even though you would rather be with your future soulmate whom you have not found yet.

Whatever you decide, have a great trip!

[englishrose47]

I've decided I'm going Solo or not. Eating alone doesn't bother me at all . I people watch and hopefully will be setting up some meets with other Dissers in the same boat as me. I really want to go to BOMAS for supper, which we didn't do kids would not have liked the food, I want to do the "WORLD" alone and at my pace, I'm doing all the fireworks and the Spectro . Iwas the only one who saw Spectro this time and had tears in my eyes it was so beautiful. I also will do CP again. It will be awesome to not have to wait for everyone else to get up aand ready and look for everything the kids have misplaced. Of course in a year or so we'll do another family tripwhich as DD is getting married will include SIL and stepson so we will be 7 but will still fit in 2 rooms at POP which is our hotel of choice!!

[lynn71092]

I agree, go solo!!
I did it the 1st time myself without telling anyone I was going since no one wanted to go with me. Way too many excuses, "I can't get off work right now" or "Been there, done that" so I went alone and had a ball. Met up with a bunch of new people when we did the Monorail-Drink-A-Thon.

:drinking1 :drinking1 :drinking1 :drinking1

Doing our 3rd one the first weekend in October if you could change your dates. Otherwise, just keep reading these boards, you will find a ton of new friends that will be there at the same time as you.

[PDJPrinceCharming]

Last year when the trip was being planned I had 6 others that were gonna come with & one by one they all ended up not able to go. One of my best friends ended up going with me & we had a blast. This year, no one is able to go with me so I decided to go by myself. It's my birthday on September 21 & i'm gonna go have fun, get away from the drama here at home & just go back to my real home. It would be nice to meet another DISer who just wanted to hang out with a Disney Guy like myself or maybe even meet that one CM with the very familiar face that sung happy birthday to me last year. Guess we'll see in 4 months.

[DisneyGuy]

I may have found someone to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! let's hope they say yes!

[englishrose47]

[QUOTE=DisneyGuy;18820366]I may have found someone to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! let's hope they say yes![/QUO
Let's give him some Pixie Dust to help him!pixiedust:

[fAnnF]

go and have fun,
BF and I are going and he couldn't really afford to go(but wanted this trip more then me), so I'm paying and he's paying for part that he can afford right now, and will(wants to) pay me back for what other then my half that I pay for.

[DisneyGuy]

So yeah...that didn't work out.

:confused3

[ANTSS2001]

So yeah...that didn't work out.

:confused3

theres already a handful of us going solo in Sept.. when in Sept are you planning...

check this link...

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1416979

[DisneyGuy]

theres already a handful of us going solo in Sept.. when in Sept are you planning...

check this link...

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1416979

Thanks to everyone for the suggestions and for sending out positive thoughts - but i'll be home in September....

:sad2:

There will be other times I guess....

[Glendamax]

Sorry you can go. But if you change your mind, there are a bunch of us going. So I 'm sure you could find someone to hang out with.

[madenon]

I know the problem, and my advice? Don't let other (or the lack of others wanting to go with you) stand in the way of your own plans and wishes! I mean, if you don't go, you'll miss out on the thing you'ld love to do because of other people.

Allthough going with others definately has it's benefits, going solo also has it's pro's. You can do whatever you like, don't have to think about any other person and what they might want or dislike. Being solo does make it easier to get in contact with others, which can be a real bonus.

Somehow I always ended up with this problem. First with me only being able to get off from work at the moment my friends couldn't get out of there study. So I went to Greece on my own. Had a blast and because of going solo I ended up at a greek families home having diner.

In 2005 I was desperately wanting to go to Australia, but again; no one wanted to go or could/wanted to afford the trip. I went solo again, and am so in love with the place. I would have missed out on so much if I hadn't gone.

And now? I want to go to DWD, and most people think I'm ready to go into a mental ward. First of all, why go to DWD if you've got Disneyland Paris "around the corner" (well, 2 countries away), and second of all; why go to any Disney-thing for longer than 2 days anyway? So I ended up booking a solo trip. 8 Days of fun in September. :yay: On one part I'm a bit nervous, most of all because of it being my first trip with a new wheelchair. But my curiousity definately wins! I can't stop myself from drowning online in all kinds of topics to get into the athmosphere.

If there is one lesson I've learned; "it can all be over by tomorrow, so you'ld better start living your dreams today. " And let's be honest; isn't it better to have some doubt and/or fear and overcome that, than not going and having to wander what could have been? What's the worst thing that can happen if you go alone? You won't like it? Doubt it! You might find you're not a person for solo trips, well OK than you'll know for sure but still had the disney-time.

I'm being a bit of a copycat, but I would have to join the others and say; go!

[Dolce27]

Thanks to everyone for the suggestions and for sending out positive thoughts - but i'll be home in September....

:sad2:

There will be other times I guess....

Honestly, if you want to go to Disney - GO! Don't let others ruin a trip that you want to take. So.. maybe you'll end up hating it going solo.. but there's a really good chance that you won't hate it at all.

My first solo trip occurred due to pure stubbornness on my part. I had a trip planned with a friend and just after I made reservations she bailed on me. Another friend stepped in but that friend also bailed on me one week before final payment was due. I wouldn't have dreamed of taking a solo trip - I mean, what fun is that - right? :confused3

But I had been looking forward to the trip for months and my stubbornness refused to let me drop the trip just b/c my friends bailed and guess what – I had a blast!

Sure, I don’t want all of my trips to be solo but I’ve learned that I still really enjoy myself with or without family/friends there.

I understand that not everyone would have fun going solo but you just seem that upset over your situation that I advise you to go and see for yourself if you enjoy a solo trip or not – you won’t know until you try.

And, as Glendamax pointed out below, there are several Diser’s going in Sept. Here’s an opportunity to make new friends. :thumbsup2

[ckphila]

I have been to disney a couple times myself it is awesome the second time I went to disney then went on the cruise alone! It was great and you never are alone with all the people there most of them are crazy about disney too and will share in your excitement! But then there are the times you can meet up with people from the boards I did this last year and had a great time! Just take a chance and do it! I am also going in Sept but with my daughter and two grand daughters.
:cool1: :banana: :welcome: :jumping1: :tinker: ::MickeyMo :tigger: :tink: :goofy: :mickeyjum

[DisneyGuy]

Well, I should also mention that it no longer becomes a "cheap" vacation if I have to pay for the entire room myself - that's almost 1,000. So I really couldn't even go alone.

[ckphila]

well instead of 7 nights go for 4 nights! At least you get a mini vacation!!

[ANTSS2001]

well instead of 7 nights go for 4 nights! At least you get a mini vacation!!

Hi neighbor!!!

[Glendamax]

well instead of 7 nights go for 4 nights! At least you get a mini vacation!!
I agree! 4 nights at Pop, or one of the other value resorts. :goodvibes

[lynn71092]

I agree! 4 nights at Pop, or one of the other value resorts. :goodvibes


Totally agree!!
(AND the Pop has a great pool bar, lots of Diser party people go there!!)


party: :drinking1 :drinking1

[cheapi86]

I stayed at a value in May and had a great time. It was clean, safe, convenient and most importantly affordable!

I say you should go alone. I'm going on my first solo trip in July and I'm excited. One is because I've never eaten alone (I canceled my one adr in May because I was too scared to do it!) and can't wait to just "spread my wings" a bit. I'm also excited to do just what I want to do when I want to do it.

Also, I don't think you'd be too lonely. I know I've never met a stranger and will talk to any and everyone I see--- I never got any weird looks in Disney world and had a lot of great conversations/met new people.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

[ckphila]

going solo is fun! I've done it a few times even took a disney cruise alone loved it! :cool1: :banana: :woohoo: :thumbsup2 :love: