Bad Uncle???

[scottny]

Ok so I booked a trip to disney world 1 1/2 month ago. CRT is booked and paid for, adr's made. Plane ticket paid for.

Countdown on my comp going. Pics of Disney rotate every 15 minuites so I have a new wallpaper pic.

Just got email tonight from sister in law saying my nephew is getting married the day before I come back.

I said sorry but paid for disney and cannot make it.

Now i was given up for adoption at birth so only met birth family 3 years ago. met my nephew once.

Should i feel guilty for not going???

is Disney worth missing my nephew's wedding?

[BeautyNBeast]

My cousin did not go to my wedding because she was in Australia at the time. You have only met him once, said a card with a gift, and you should be fine.

[scottny]

thanks, that is what I thought too.

[Cee]

Maybe something from the housewares dept. at World of Disney in DTD? I
wouldn't give this another thought. Have a blast! :thumbsup2

[scottny]

LOL

Thanks

[MellaWDWnut]

Some of my uncles didn't came to my wedding....They just sent gifts. And, of course, that was ok with me. I know they had other things going on.

[want2bamommy]

Ok so I booked a trip to disney world 1 1/2 month ago. CRT is booked and paid for, adr's made. Plane ticket paid for.

Countdown on my comp going. Pics of Disney rotate every 15 minuites so I have a new wallpaper pic.

Just got email tonight from sister in law saying my nephew is getting married the day before I come back.

I said sorry but paid for disney and cannot make it.

Now i was given up for adoption at birth so only met birth family 3 years ago. met my nephew once.

Should i feel guilty for not going???

is Disney worth missing my nephew's wedding?

I agree with them that you should send a gift and have a BLAST at Disney!

Missie :thumbsup2

[Lisa Hale]

Enjoy your vacation! I'm sure you aren't the only person invited that won't be able to attend the wedding. I'd send a nice gift or a card with a gift card even. The nephew's focus will be on the wedding and such. Guilt shouldn't even play a part in it.

[Kazzy1548]

Go to DW, have a blast. Just send a card and a gift and you would have already done better than some of my uncles did at my wedding.;)

Kazzy:hippie:

[2giddy4wdw]

Totally agree with everyone else, go and have a great time. If you were still in the planning stages that's one thing. But everything is bought and paid for, so you can't go back now. I also had quite a few of my aunt and uncles not attend my wedding...and they didn't even send gifts. Get them something nice and have the time of your life at Disney!!!!

[Mousema]

I didn't go to a family wedding once because of Disney vacation. I'm not the black sheep of the family because of it. I sent a card and money (money cures everything). Go and enjoy!:cool1:

[Jrabbit910]

Ok so I booked a trip to disney world 1 1/2 month ago. CRT is booked and paid for, adr's made. Plane ticket paid for.

Countdown on my comp going. Pics of Disney rotate every 15 minuites so I have a new wallpaper pic.

Just got email tonight from sister in law saying my nephew is getting married the day before I come back.

I said sorry but paid for disney and cannot make it.

Now i was given up for adoption at birth so only met birth family 3 years ago. met my nephew once.

Should i feel guilty for not going???

is Disney worth missing my nephew's wedding?

hi scotty,
its not as bad as you think... i wouldnt worry about it... alot of people miss out on things because of vacation... it happens.... I would send a nice gift and just apologize for not being there (if you want- you can say that you had a better time in WDW then being there!! hahahahaha! JK)
Enjoy your trip and dont worry about not being there... there are probably going to be other things that come up that will be missed as well! :)
Have a great time and no worries! hakuna matta

[scottny]

Thanks all. makes me feel better. Disney here I come. LOL

[Jill in Chicago]

Your reservations were already made. Giving you 1 1/2 months notice about a wedding is pretty short notice. Usually you hear about weddings much farther in advance. If you would like to get to know your nephew better, offer to make a visit to deliver the gift in person. Enjoy your trip guilt free!

[scottny]

Thank you, it will be guilt free. I hope. LOL

[Applemomma]

Go and have a blast and send a nice gift. If they are telling people that their date is only two months away then they may find a lot of people can't make it! It probably won't be a surprise to them that you can't do it. Maybe find out if they have a favorite Disney Character and get them something nice from Disney too.

[scrapbookworm]

If the relative was someone you were close to, then I would reconsider. However, since it is someone you have only met once, I would just send a card and a present.

[schmoopypoo]

I definitely agree with everyone else. Go and enjoy DW guilt free! Trust me, your nephew will have plenty of other things on his mind. I know this from experience in my family (there have been MANY weddings). Go and have a great time :banana:

[mabenoab]

I'm sure everyone will understand that you had made prior arrangements for that week. When I got married (granted it was 22 years ago!) I didn't mind at all if someone couldn't come...and if they sent a gift anyway, I was delighted!

Perhaps at some later date you could go and visit your nephew and his bride and extend your in person congratulations then.

[stczt]

When I was getting married my MIL told me most people wont come. and some will just send money, thats what we cointed on. If everyone came that I sent invites to, it would have been crazy. My brother who was supossed to give me away decided not to come at the last min. ( he was mad at my mom) If fact the only family I had was my Mom. no brothers, aunts uncles or cousins.
Go to dis and enjoy yourself.

[scottny]

Thank you to everyone....

[UGAFan0829]

I don't think you should feel guilty. It was funny because my DH has a lot of aunts and uncles. I had met some of them before our wedding, and some I had not. We sent invitations to all of them, as they were all welcome. It was funny because the ones that I had met didn't show up and one of the ones that I had not met came. It didn't hurt my feelings a bit.

[clownchk]

my oldest sister did not come to my wedding. Her reason? She couldn't get her front door to lock.

No Gift, no card, no phone call, I found out why when we got back form our honeymoon.

I still love her. I should add that yes, she does live 6 horus away and no, she is not the only one to live in her house, and it did not lock the THREE YEARS before my wedding either. She knew over a year in advance when my wedding was and even had THREE different offers for rides here from people in her area (including her DD who was in my wedding!) and her BF was going to stay home anyway (THat is a WHOLE other story, but I have yet to even meet him - I've been married almost 8 years now!)

I think you should just go!! Send a nice card and gift and me on your merry way!! It is VERY cnsiderate of you to even THINK about cancelling!!

[LilBlackSheep]

Should i feel guilty for not going???

Nope.

[lisajo5]

Go to DW. I am adopted as well, and met my bio family a few years ago, and have been in a similar situation. I don't think anyone would be offended, besides it's not like you were just starting the planning of the trip.

Go, have fun and just send a card and a little something. :flower3:

[Detailor]

[QUOTE=Applemomma;18408128]Go and have a blast and send a nice gift. If they are telling people that their date is only two months away then they may find a lot of people can't make it! It probably won't be a surprise to them that you can't do it.QUOTE]

Do go and have a good time, though it isn't unusual for invitations to be sent at about two months before a wedding. Based on my oldest DD's meticulous following of proper wedding etiquette last summer, the invitations generally go out 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding. However, a Save The Date notice is supposed to go out about a year before the wedding date.
Who knows why they didn't notify you earlier. Perhaps they felt that they didn't know you very well but didn't want to hurt your feelings by excluding you altogether. I'm sure they'll be quite happy with a card and a gift. And they'll probably be pleased that they didn't make you change your vacation plans. You could always send them a set of Mickey & Minnie groom and bride figurines from WDW.

Dick Taylor

[scottny]

Thank you all. I will go to Disney guilt free and enjoy myself.

Thanks

[megnsamsgracie]

I am adopted as well and I missed out on family things during the new"ness" stage too. Go and have fun. I totally get where you are coming from too!

[Tinkerbell24]

I do not think that you are being a bad uncle. You have not know your birth family that long and as you said you only met this nephew once. I know that I would want my uncles at my wedding, but I have known them all my life. Two completely different situations. Have fun in Disney!!! :thumbsup2

[JPN4265]

Ok so I booked a trip to disney world 1 1/2 month ago. CRT is booked and paid for, adr's made. Plane ticket paid for.

Countdown on my comp going. Pics of Disney rotate every 15 minuites so I have a new wallpaper pic.

Just got email tonight from sister in law saying my nephew is getting married the day before I come back.

I said sorry but paid for disney and cannot make it.

Now i was given up for adoption at birth so only met birth family 3 years ago. met my nephew once.

Should i feel guilty for not going???

is Disney worth missing my nephew's wedding?

My guess is that you have only heard from them now because they want a gift. The next time you hear from them will be at the birth of a new baby, then graduation, and so on. Don't sweat it, enjoy your trip.:thumbsup2