Help!! I need everyone's opinion on what to do!

[erinlovesmelvin]

Hi everyone, ok so here goes:

My cousin is one of my bridesmaids, and she is going down with my aunt, uncle, and like 3 of her friends because she is making it, her senior trip. Ok thats fine, and everything but now my aunt and uncle, are asking my mother, if her friends can come to the ceremony in the wedding pavallion. Point being i dont even know her friends, so i dunno if i say no, or say yes they can come to the wedding pavallion, HELP GUYS!!

Erin :sad2:

[princessdisneybelle]

Do you have room? I would say if it wouldn't mess up your count, I would. If it messes things up then I'm sure there is something they can do during the ceremony.

[IrishCinderella]

If they sincerely only want to come to the ceremony, then I'd let them. (However, you are in no way required to say yes.) The problem, however, is whether or not they expect to follow that by going to the reception. We all know that is where the money is spent, and unless you can afford the extra cost, I'd say three young ladies in WDW can come up with another way to occupy themselves.

[PrincessBride07]

Have your mother tell them that it would be difficult to make arrangements for them to participate in the wedding itself. You might want to extend an invite to any pre or post wedding events (welcome dinner, going away brunch, etc.), if you feel that they should be involved. Otherwise, I think that these friends should understand that they will be going out without your cousin that day. Also, were they wanting to come to the wedding or was this the aunt and uncle's idea? If they weren't asking about it, they might be put in an ackward situation showing up to a wedding of a person that they don't know.

[MickeyAnne]

I agree with the thought that if they want to come to the RECEPTION as well, then that is a definite no as you have to pay for them. I would think that you might not even notice them at the ceremony though. Unless you have a real desire to make it as intimate and personal as possible (which you very well have the right to), I would say that it wouldn't be too bad to allow them at the ceremony only.

But remember, its your day and you must do what you feel works best for you.

[myprincessgirlisa]

I agree with the above posts

If its for just the ceremony, sure the more the merrier, but

if they want to attend the reception(which out of courtesy, the shouldnt since they werent formally invited) Id let em down lightly..unless they are willing to pay;)

They should understand, but you know haw some people can get....just stay calm & compossed & im sure everything will be fine

Good luck!!!

Funny....Ive been telling people about our VR in Dec & it seems I cant pay people to come ...oh well ...they're loss;)

[MagicKingdom05]

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[MagicKingdom05]

Erin,

I agree with everyone else. If it's just for the ceremony and you have the space I would say go for it. However if it's for the reception as well then that's a different story.

[DisneyFairy19]

Maybe to the ceremony but not to the reception

[heatherlynn444]

it's amaing, some people just don't think when they volunteer for other people to do things like that...

ok, it is DIsney world, not like its grandpas farm with no cable or anything. i am SURE they can find something to do, be it go to a park, lay by the pool, etc. etc. I mean, it IS disneyworld right? if it is no cost and you don't care, then sure, let em come, but if it is going to be a cost, ro stress you out in some way, then I would have no problem saying no, simply since ther eis so much else for them to do! :wizard:

[MagicKingdom05]

it's amaing, some people just don't think when they volunteer for other people to do things like that...

ok, it is DIsney world, not like its grandpas farm with no cable or anything. i am SURE they can find something to do, be it go to a park, lay by the pool, etc. etc. I mean, it IS disneyworld right? if it is no cost and you don't care, then sure, let em come, but if it is going to be a cost, ro stress you out in some way, then I would have no problem saying no, simply since ther eis so much else for them to do! :wizard:

That's the same thing I was thinking. It's WDW, they should have no problem finding something to do during the ceremony and reception.

[Chantelle]

The whole thing sounds pretty ridiculous. I am not sure why they would want to come to a wedding of someone they don't even know and I don't know how your aunt and uncle can expect you to invite girls you don't know.

If your cousin is coming to be your bridesmaid, for that day she should make you the priority. Had it been only one friend I would say include her, but if there are three of them, the can easily find something else to do together for the day. They knew coming in that your cousin was going to be part of your wedding and should have been planned to not be with her for the day of the wedding.

I hate when you are expected to invite people to your wedding because they know your parents or relatives. It is your wedding and you should choose who is there. I would imagine that is part of the reason you are getting married away in the first place and it should stay that way.

[erinlovesmelvin]

awww thanks you guys, you have been so helpful, i swear sometimes you guys are better friends then my own here in nj. thanks !!! :cool1:

[MagicKingdom05]

No problem. We are all in the same boat anyways some of us are just getting married sooner this year than others.