Kid was home sick today and Mom still wants to have her birthday party tonight...

[Jenn]

Okay - back me up Moms...

My daughter's friend from school was absent today and her birthday party is planned for tonight at her house. I told my DD to call her house when we got home from school to see why her friend wasn't at school. She was throwing up and had diarrhea. But, get this, she is still having her party! So, I told my DD I'm sorry but you can't go. She got upset, so I took the phone and politely told her friend, I'm sorry but she can't come. Mom calls me back and says, "My DD said you said your DD can't come..." I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???

[Darcy03231]

I wouldn't let my daughter go either. I can't beleive the Mom didn't cancel the party. That happened once with DD's friend. We got a call that morning (party was on a Saturday) and were told not to come, they had sick kids and the party would be rescheduled.

[seashoreCM]

It is a good idea for the person with the tummyache (the birthday girl in this case) to not eat anything for at least six hours after the last twinge of pain or bout of diarrhea/vomiting. Perhaps longer if the person "still feels" sick*. This may be enough to force postponement of the party.

While some tummyaches are not contagious there are a variety of stomach ailments that are contagious, Norovirus (or is it Novavirus?) is one example. Play it safe and have DD stay away from her friend for awhile.

Health hints:
http://members.aol.com/ajaynejr/health.htm

* After two days of fasting, perhaps a bite here and a bite there may be taken cautiously.

[TheDizMom]

Totally. I don't get why she is even thinking of having it in the first place:confused3. Keep your daughter away. I understand she is upset but point out if she goes she will be the one throwing up in a few days. No birthday party is so important it can't be rescheduled for when the kid is healthy. It sounds like the norovirus:sick: to me and that is highly contagious. Think cruise ships and stick to your guns;).

[Mickey'sfriend]

Stay away!! Stay very far away!!

[meandtheguys2]

Ditto. I hate stomach bugs!!!!!

[Brier Rose]

OMG..people like this just amaze me!:sad2:

My sis-in-law just did this last weekend! Dniece was up all night with high fever, etc. and they still had her party at a PUBLIC SKATING RINK the next morning!

Of course I didn't know any of this until after we had been there a few hours and I asked what was wrong with Dn because she was all flushed in the face, and kept laying her head on the table!:headache:

[kribit]

This drives me absolutely INSANE!! Why would a parent expose their child to several other children and make them sick? :confused3

[MiniGirl]

Wow!!!! It would never even cross my mind to still have the party. I don't get some people sometimes.

[PrincessGracie]

We were heartbroken last year when we had to cancel DD's birthday party because she was sick. But I wouldn't DREAM of exposing other kids to what she had (the Flu)!!!!! We rescheduled a few weeks later!!!

[Mouse House Mama]

No question about it- my kid would not be going. I absolutley cannot stand it when parents feel the need to parade their sick kids around other well ones when there is no need for it. I mean wouldn't her daughter have a better time not worrying about if whe was going to puke or poop in front of her friends? I get that joyous experience at Mommy and Me occassionally. Once in a while there is a Mom who feels the need to bring their sick child (obvious fever and runny nose) and I just don't get it. How is that fun for the child? I back you up 110%. Keep your daughter home. A few hours at a party is not worth praising the porcelein God. princess:

[daisyduck123]

This drives me absolutely INSANE!! Why would a parent expose their child to several other children and make them sick? :confused3

Because the parents are stupid.
I'm a teacher...I've seen it all.

(I had one parent send her kid to school with a fever once, just so she wouldn't miss our field trip. And yes, the mom knew her kid was sick. The nurse had sent her home from school the day before with a 102. temp." I didn't even let the girl get as far as her locker...I sent her to the nurse to go home.)

Stupid, selfish parents.

[crazymomof4]

Okay - back me up Moms...
I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???

What is it with moms and their ignorance to spreading germs around? :confused: :confused3 :confused: :confused3
I run into this all the time......mom's who let their sick kids play with your's and then you find out later!!
It's like they might as well say, "Heck, my kid is already sick, what do I care whether or not your kid gets sick?"
Sick kids should be home, on the couch surrounded by a cloud of Lysol spray! --just kidding, don't flame me- I'm not really that paranoid!

I do believe that considerate people keep their germs to themselves if at all possible!

I've called moms the day of a play date to tell them that my kid got sick over night and it would be best to reschedule. Sure, the kids are disappointed but mother knows best!

[dvcbnd]

Okay - back me up Moms...

My daughter's friend from school was absent today and her birthday party is planned for tonight at her house. I told my DD to call her house when we got home from school to see why her friend wasn't at school. She was throwing up and had diarrhea. But, get this, she is still having her party! So, I told my DD I'm sorry but you can't go. She got upset, so I took the phone and politely told her friend, I'm sorry but she can't come. Mom calls me back and says, "My DD said you said your DD can't come..." I said, "Yeah, I don't really think it's a good idea to expose her to a stomach bug". So, she says, "Hmmm, maybe I should reschedule"...... Ya think???


I have 3 children and I wouldn't send them either. You made the right decision in my opinion. I think that it is very SELFISH and INCONSIDERATE to want to expose a sick child to other children, just so they could have their b'day party. I also feel that it's downright sneaky if they don't expose the truth to all their guests ahead of time!

[kribit]

"Heck, my kid is already sick, what do I care whether or not your kid gets sick?"

This is primarily one of the reasons we avoid playgroups during flu season. I actually had a mom tell me this outright. She said to her child "I don't care if you're sick and threw up all night, your going out." At least she was being honest about her stupidity and ignorance. Most other ignorant people just drag their kids out and don't tell us their child is sick until AFTER our kids are up vomiting all night. :mad:

You can tell...this really is a huge pet peeve of mine. :)

[Tink561]

I can't believe she would consider still having the party. She should have been on the phone this morning calling everyone to cancel.

People amaze me.:rolleyes1

[abookworm]

I agree, some parents are not very bright or responsible when it comes to illnesses.
We were at a b-day party and a little girl came that was my sons age-about 15 mos. They were both still slobbering on toys a little and exchanging these toys back and forth. After about 20 min the mom says, I'm so glad we could come since she (baby) was throwing up last night and had diarhea (sp?). I was so mad. I prompty removed my son from the area and washed his hands, etc. My Dh wanted to make a really rude remark but I prevented that. I wanted to say something but I didn't know these guests and didn't know what to say that wouldn't sound mean or rude.....
We left shortly after that. Luckily my child didn't get sick but my friend's child that had the party got sick and the mom called to let me know. When I told her about the baby she was surprised but what can ya do?
My mom has a daycare and she's had loads of parents bring a sick child (usually w/ fever) and act so surprised when they get a call an hour later...don't tell me they didn't know most of the time!

[nettii]

Wow and we wonder why the stomach flu can run ramped thru a school in a matter of a few days!

[TheDizMom]

After reading all these I felt the need to comment more. This would be my SIL. One of her girls gave my DD fifths disease, which I didn't know about until my DD got it and exposed two of the pregnant moms at her preschool to it(this is very dangerous for pregnant women and kids are most contagious before they develop the red face and get the temp). This then makes me look like the kind of mom who doesn't care. She constantly sends them to my MIL's sick with things like chicken pox, pink eye and high temperatures with unknown causes. My MIL never tells her she won't take them, but if mine get sick she tells me not to bring them or makes me come and get them. It really makes me mad:furious:. Twice she has sent her daughter to my MIL's (she takes the kids once every week) for the day because she was to sick to go to school, but apparantly the fact that she is exposing my kids to it doesn't bother her. What really ticks me off:furious: :furious:is I don't find out about it until the end of the day when I can't do anything about it anymore. Colds? No big deal, but anything else stay home and get better or at the very least give me the option of deciding if I want my child exposed to what your child has:confused:!!!

[fan_of_small_world]

If my child was the guest, they would not be going.

If my child was the birthday child, the party would be rescheduled.

I had a bad playgroup experience too. It was my day to host and one woman called to say her kids was sick, then she ASKED me whether I still wanted her to come or not. Um, NOT! I was really peeved that she made me make the decision to not have her come. I mean, really, she needed to grow up and be the parent. So, I told her it would be best to wait until after her daughter felt better. I didn't want my child sick, and I had a responsibility to the other moms coming too.

[Not so Dumbo]

I wouldn't let my kids go either. I'm surprised the little girl even felt well enough to have a party. When anyone in my family gets the stomach bug, they are down ALL day. Even after they are done throwing up, they have to sleep it off and it's at least 24 hours before they feel back to normal.

[Merriwind]

Crazy--on several levels! :sad2:

Sorry your DD had to miss out. When she's older she'll appreciate having a parent who's a grown-up. Good job, Mom! :thumbsup2

[Steph9072]

What:eek:! Do people even think?
If you are too sick to go to school you are too sick for fun after school. Not to mention giving all of her friends germs GROSS! :rolleyes2

[Not so Dumbo]

What:eek:! Do people even think?
If you are too sick to go to school you are too sick for fun after school.

My kids just learned this rule :rotfl2: :thumbsup2 they were highly disappointed :rotfl:

[Steph9072]

My kids just learned this rule :rotfl2: :thumbsup2 they were highly disappointed :rotfl:

My dd too. She was sick a few weeks ago but thought she could still go to brownies that night. NOT!

[Mouse House Mama]

I just had to add as I sit here sick as a dog. We went to a playgroup a few days before our last trip and usually people are pretty good at this group but there is always one.:rolleyes: Well- a Mom felt the need to bring her child who was clearly sick. His nose never stopped running so much so that when it was time to separate she had to stay next to him. I was so annoyed. Needless to say my DD got dick before we went and it lingered for the vacation, I got sick and still am- I am currently on antibiotics (did I mention I am pregnant?) my youngest DS got it while we were in Florida and since he can't kick it we are going to the doctor today. I am hoping my oldest DS doesn't get it but you know how it goes. It's only a matter of time. I am so mad because not only are we very sick, we were supposed to go to a Christening today and now we have to cancel. So her stupidity has affected alot of people. Some people think a cold isn't that big of a deal, but when my kids get any type of repiratory ailment they need nebulizer treatments and often vomit alot from the congestion. I actually stopped going to one of the playgroups because everytime we went there was some kid with big green boogers running down their face or an obvious fever. Thanks but I will socialize my kids other places. I really think that these mothers just want to get out themselves and will at any cost. I like to see other adults too, but not at the expense of my child's health and comfort. JMHO.

[Earstou]

One Thanksgiving, my mom asked sil why her dd isn't eating. SIL then announces that both her kids were vomiting all morning, so therefore not hungry! Yikes.
Three days later, I have to skip the family's activities because I'm sick. Add to that I was pregnant and I was not a happy camper! Then the next day we drive over 3 hours home with dh and dd vomiting!
16 out of the 18 of us (in my family) ended up catching the thing!
Self-centered sil is now ex sil!

[Kewz1]

For me it is not even about exposing other kids. It's about me being exhausted from taking care of a sick child and really not wanting to entertain on top of it all. Ugh. :confused3 I'd cancel the party in a heartbeat.

Kristen

[seashoreCM]

Even after they are done throwing up, they have to sleep it off and it's at least 24 hours before they feel back to normal.
Don't feel discouraged if, correction, when, it takes awhile. I'm all in favor of bed rest but I'll clue you in on one thing. As far as actually succeeding in "sleeping" "it" "off" I personally have an 0.000 batting average.
We went to a playgroup a few days before our last trip and usually people are pretty good at this group but there is always one.:rolleyes: Well- a Mom felt the need to bring her child who was clearly sick. ... big green boogers running down their face or an obvious fever. Thanks but I will socialize my kids other places.
This (the actions described, not the thread the actions are described in) is starting to look just as bad as the rude-people-at-Disney issue. Like for the latter issue, it is going to take more and more people including people in charge taking positive action to stop the former issue.

[Elmo888]

I honestly can't believe this thread - that there are so many clueless and/or selfish parents out there who knowingly expose others to illness. Pregnant women, infants, grandparents are all sensitive populations, and some can get really, really sick. How can these people be so thoughtless? These stories are terrible and numerous. I am aghast.

Heck, I'm embarassed when I unknowingly expose others to illness!

[lucky1]

Unfortunately I wonder what message it gives a child that is sick enough to miss school, but is allowed still go out play (party) later.

[emileee]

Last week I was a "new" friends home for a playdate..her son mentions he was sick the night before...she tried to cover....AACK!!! I am leaving for Disney in 3 days...there will be little outside contact....................school (are we allowed to skip that...JK!!!)

[snowman]

As has been said - our rule is "too sick for school, too sick for anything else".

And besides exposing other children to your child's illness, why risk having your child get sicker because they pick up Johnny's different illness while their immune system is low? We have cancelled parties due to illness and DNephew has stayed home from other parties because he was sick. Fortunately him being sick isn't too much of a battle...he just wants us all to go away anyway and leave him "the HE** alone!" :hug:

[maxiesmom]

I bet these parents are the same ones who show up everywhere sick themselves. I work with some of these people. They come in, you say "Hi how are you?" and they proceed to tell you they have been up all night puking. Thanks for coming to work, now get away from me!:mad: