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Tink11302
02-05-2007, 05:47 PM
When I got engaged three years ago, I had my wedding party already picked out. I asked all my girls and they all said yes. Well, one girl that is in my party, I'm not really friends with any more. She's moving about 2 hours away and we don't even talk any more. She went and got married and didn't even tell me :eek::scared1: . I don't really want her in my wedding party any more. She doesn't support me, and that's the job of bridesmaids. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and we both still want her to come to the wedding. I just don't know how to go about telling her we don't want her in the wedding any more. :confused: sigh.:sad2:

Sparkles9306
02-05-2007, 07:14 PM
Does she realize that you both have kind of lost touch? If so, then maybe it so be that bad because she may understand. The best thing to do is just come right out and be honest.

catmorgan4
02-05-2007, 07:48 PM
I had the same issue with one of my friends. We had grown apart, but I had already asked her to be in my weddiing before we did. It is a sticky situation, but here is what I did.

I explained the financial obligations of a destination wedding and told her to think about what she could do. I think she was aware of the distance that had come between us and she decided she could not do it. I have realized over the past couple of months that it is asking alot of my friends to fly out to florida, stay in a hotel for several nights, buy park passes, and not to mention the regular bridesmaid obligations. It has been hard enough bearing the guilt of making really supportive and generous friends partake in MY dream wedding. I would suggest having supportive friends with you because it gets stressful at the four month mark and you dont need added stress and guilt.

Cat :cutie:

Rustyflwr3
02-05-2007, 10:16 PM
I had the same situation with two of my bridesmaids. I got engaged a couple of years ago and back then they were really great friends, but as time went on we grew further apart! when it was time to do things with the bridesmaids, I just didn't contact them. I wasn't invited to one of their weddings and wasn't told about it either! We didn't have a fight, we just grew apart and that's ok! You dont want to have someone in your wedding party that isn't a special part of your life anymore!! I hope that helps :)

phisigprincess
02-06-2007, 07:52 AM
I had the same situation with two of my bridesmaids. I got engaged a couple of years ago and back then they were really great friends, but as time went on we grew further apart! when it was time to do things with the bridesmaids, I just didn't contact them. I wasn't invited to one of their weddings and wasn't told about it either! We didn't have a fight, we just grew apart and that's ok! You dont want to have someone in your wedding party that isn't a special part of your life anymore!! I hope that helps :)

This is exactly what my DH did. He was in the same situation as you and like Rustyflowr said, he just didn't contact the guy. It turned out to be fine because he still came to our wedding and we went to his, but just as guests. There were no hard feelings and I think they both realized it was just a fact of life. Good luck!

sarah_n_brian2006
02-06-2007, 08:03 AM
I haven't spoken to my MOH in 8-9 months and really have no idea if we'll see or talk again. Just move on. I doubt you'll regret it.

korbbec
02-07-2007, 11:41 AM
Sounds like a non-issue to me. She did not even invite you to her wedding so I think that levels the playing field. If she still expects to be in yours I would be very suprised. Just send her a regular invite and do not bring it up. If she asks just pretend you thought you were doing her a favor since you aren't that close in proximity anymore.