did you ever use a child "leash" at DL?

[abookworm]

OK, I know some people have strong feelings about these-but I'm guessing they didn't have an extremely fast toddler run away from them either :scared:
Anyway, my older 2 never had a problem w/ running and I never gave the leash things much thought. Now I have a 2 yr old that is not only very fast (freakishly fast for that age!) but very obnoxious! :crazy: You'd think the term "terrible 2s" came from him!
Anyway, I've always used carriers in the past but now that he's older (28 mos) he just wants to be free and won't stay in my back carrier more than 30 minutes on a good day. he'll stay in a stroller about the same amt of time but then is freaking to get out.
Soooooo....a child harness/leash thing sounds like the best option for DL where he can get lost in the crowd in seconds. My Dh says he's not taking him WITHOUT one!
Did anyone else use one there? Did it work well? Do people scoff at you like you are a terrible parent ;)
thanks
Ann

[tacomaranch]

I love the leash. Yes, we use a retractable dog leash on our son. However our DS has autism and he will be gone in a second. I know mom's will say that I should be able to control him, but if they wanted they could spend a day with my DS and they would use a leash also.

In the end, I am the mom and I have to keep my son safe from harm. He doesn't get that a bus will kill him. I use a leash to keep him safe.

Good luck. Remember you will never again see these people anywhere again in your life. Who cares what they think. Do what is best for your child and you.

[kribit]

Do whatever you as a mom feel is necessary to keep your son safe. We never had the need to use one because my kids love the stroller, but I saw PLENTY of parents using them and I wouldn't have hesitated using one if it was necessary. Even though people call them leashes, I like to call them "leads." :) They have so many different kinds now and from what I've read on here plenty of places to buy them.

[dijid]

I've used a leash for my DS. My older DD never would have needed one. But DS was a wanderer. We didn't use it consistently, and one of the times we didn't use it he got away from us. We were absolutely panicked for probably less than a minute before someone returned him to us. You see, our family was wearing matching shirt and I had made unique, matching hats for the kids. It helped a stranger recognize who he was supposed to be with immediately. Needless to say, we wore matching shirts and the kids wore those hats the whole rest of the trip!

[Merriwind]

I never did, but I wouldn't have hesitated if I thought I needed one for my child's safety. My Dsis was lost for about an hour in a department store one evening when we were little. (Early 70s, so this was before Code Adams). I still remember how scared my parents were. We were so lucky that she was safe and sound. Do what you feel is best and enjoy!

[wardfamily1]

Yes, I used one last year on my then 20 month old DS. I got the one that went on his wrist and was elastic, so he never got hurt if he tugged on it. It worked out great, especially during the theater type shows. He would never sit still, so he stood in front of me during those shows. I would highly recommended them!

And to the people who have never used one and think they are horrible, I say "Don't judge the parents until you've ran a mile in their shoes after their child."

[KariC]

I've never used ours at an amusement park, but we have used them with our twins. We did get strange looks....but as a mom, there are a lot of times when I feel vulnerable. I would much rather provide my child(ren) with some freedom with boundaries that I set, rather than have them wander off and get lost or snatched. I've had some friends that didn't think they were "nice", and other friends who swore by them. Needless to say, my twins still play with the children of the friends who used them. Not saying the leash was responsible for well-behaved preschoolers, more the like-mindedness of the parents.:)

So, use one if it's best for your family. He'll probably like it more than being strapped in the 5 point harness of his stroller all day. Thankfully, ours will now stay in the stroller, most of the time, without being buckled in. Of course, I can't even tell you how many times each day I told my DS, "Aidan, stay with your family" when we did the world in '05.:rolleyes:

[TMB1203]

I haven't used one, just because my 11 yo was always very good. My 3 yo likes to walk and thinks he is much older than he is. I am going to get one for this trip. Don't really care if other people don't agree with them. My son's safety is the priority and I would rather be safe than sorry.

If you think you should use one, by all means use it. ;)

[karibritt01]

I used them for DS when he was younger, and was always so thankful I had it. Some people would look at me funny, but I just returned the look and didn't care. Who are they to judge you, anyway? Like someone else said... you don't know them, and will never see them again anyway, so let them think anything they want! Most people laughed, though... my DS was so fast he wrapped more than one unsuspecting person before they knew what was happening!:lmao: Needless to say, but they understood the leash perfectly! Use the leash, keep your child safe, and have fun!:thumbsup2

[BostonMickey]

We have never used one for our DS2(almost 3) and DS5(almost 6). We have talked about it, but have never felt the need. We do see the use of them though and have no opinion of parents who use them. I did notice, on our last trip, that a leashed boy got his lead tangled in a strangers legs. It made for an awkward situation that could have been worse. So I would recommend keeping vigilant about the other park goers as well as your own children. Good luck and enjoy.

[WildGrits]

I never used the leash, but when my youngest was little, I did use the wrist to wrist lead in airports.

Don't worry what others think, they aren't the ones whose hearts will be in their throats if your little ones is lost.

[abookworm]

Actually, it was the wrist to wrist thing I was going to try first. But if that doesn't work well for us then I'll get the harness.
thanks everyone, his safety is the priority so it doesn't matter what others think

[soibn]

I am so against these, children are not dogs period. Unless of course you are going on a ship or boat, I don't think a child should have to where them. If you kid runs off, then you run too period. No one ever said it was going to be easy raising a child, so you better run. Besides running is good for you and keeps you in shape.

:confused3

[PistonsFan]

I have a very fast almost two year old. I bought one of the little backpacks with a "leash" but I don't think I'm even going to take it to WDW. I've tried it out just walking on our sidewalk and he just pulls against it until he falls down (he actually acts like a dog on a leash!) He does better just holding my hand, plus I'm hoping he will be content in the stroller for the most part!

[TMB1203]

I am so against these, children are not dogs period. Unless of course you are going on a ship or boat, I don't think a child should have to where them. If you kid runs off, then you run too period. No one ever said it was going to be easy raising a child, so you better run. Besides running is good for you and keeps you in shape.

:confused3

I'm assuming you don't have kids....obviously this is an ignorant statement that the OP should ignore.

[soibn]

OK, I know some people have strong feelings about these-but I'm guessing they didn't have an extremely fast toddler run away from them either :scared:
Anyway, my older 2 never had a problem w/ running and I never gave the leash things much thought. Now I have a 2 yr old that is not only very fast (freakishly fast for that age!) but very obnoxious! :crazy: You'd think the term "terrible 2s" came from him!
Anyway, I've always used carriers in the past but now that he's older (28 mos) he just wants to be free and won't stay in my back carrier more than 30 minutes on a good day. he'll stay in a stroller about the same amt of time but then is freaking to get out.
Soooooo....a child harness/leash thing sounds like the best option for DL where he can get lost in the crowd in seconds. My Dh says he's not taking him WITHOUT one!
Did anyone else use one there? Did it work well? Do people scoff at you like you are a terrible parent ;)
thanks
Ann


Okay first off my son is 3 and he is actually pretty quick. I don't have a problem running after him. And if he is being bad, then we leave the park. That will teach any kid a lesson. So I suggest to all of you parents, to keep up. I notice alot of parents do not keep their eyes on their children very well.
Plus that is what a stroller is for, if they get out of the stroller and cause havoc. Take them home, they don't deserve to be there period with bad behaivior. I know sometimes its hard to do that, because you just spent a whole bunch of money. But your kid will probably never do it again, once you leave the park.

[Lady V]

:surfweb: OK, I know some people have strong feelings about these-but I'm guessing they didn't have an extremely fast toddler run away from them either :scared:
Anyway, my older 2 never had a problem w/ running and I never gave the leash things much thought. Now I have a 2 yr old that is not only very fast (freakishly fast for that age!) but very obnoxious! :crazy: You'd think the term "terrible 2s" came from him!
Anyway, I've always used carriers in the past but now that he's older (28 mos) he just wants to be free and won't stay in my back carrier more than 30 minutes on a good day. he'll stay in a stroller about the same amt of time but then is freaking to get out.
Soooooo....a child harness/leash thing sounds like the best option for DL where he can get lost in the crowd in seconds. My Dh says he's not taking him WITHOUT one!
Did anyone else use one there? Did it work well? Do people scoff at you like you are a terrible parent ;)
thanks
Ann


thre was a thread about this exact thing about 2 weeks ago....

anyways, I will say that I don't agree with them. I think holding their hand is better. To each her own.:surfweb:

[Disney_Dreaming]

I don't agree with them.

[soibn]

I'm assuming you don't have kids....obviously this is an ignorant statement that the OP should ignore.

Actually, I do have a son who is 3. And he mis-behaives all the time. I just had an incident with him not too long ago at Disneyland, where we had to leave the park. When we went back to the park this year, he behaived like an angel. I give him 3 warnings and that is it. There is no need for me to have him on a leash. If he takes off running, he knows what no means. And he knows, what go home means too.

[Monkeyfeet]

I don't agree with them for our family, but I also do not have a child with special needs. Also, dd is our only right now.

However we do not put dd in a stroller either, she hates them. Someone said to me that at least a child on a leash is getting excercise and that has made me more accepting of them.

I would rather see a child on a leash than a mom fighting with her child to get him into a stroller and thenn calling him bad. Seems quite harsh.:sad1:

[NotUrsula]

I give him 3 warnings and that is it. There is no need for me to have him on a leash. If he takes off running, he knows what no means. And he knows, what go home means too.

With all due respect, your warnings will be moot if he "takes off running" right into the path of a parade float. Sometimes that first dash can be deadly. With certain children under certain circumstances the only foolproof way to keep them safe is prior restraint.

And BTW for everyone: "leash" is an incorrect term. The device is called a safety rein.

[Monkeyfeet]

Actually, I do have a son who is 3. And he mis-behaives all the time. I. And he knows, what go home means too.

There are some great books out there to help. "Playful Parenting" "Easy to Love, Hard to Discipline" Positive Discipline" I have more titles if you would like. HTH!!:thumbsup2

[kanga24roos]

Actually, I do have a son who is 3. And he mis-behaives all the time. I just had an incident with him not too long ago at Disneyland, where we had to leave the park. When we went back to the park this year, he behaived like an angel. I give him 3 warnings and that is it. There is no need for me to have him on a leash. If he takes off running, he knows what no means. And he knows, what go home means too.

This is great advice for parents of single children but won't work with more than one. If you have a child who stays with you and one who wanders you cannot 1. leave the one child to go chasing the other or 2. leave the park, how would that be fair? I agree children are not dogs I have 2 dogs and 4 children I care enough for my dogs to protect them by putting them on lead when in dangerous situations why should I not care as much for my chilrdren to do anything and everything I need to to keep them safe. That said I personally have never used one but am giving it alot of thought for our upcoming trip.

[pixiepoo24637]

With all due respect, your warnings will be moot if he "takes off running" right into the path of a parade float. Sometimes that first dash can be deadly.
With certain children under certain circumstances the only foolproof way to keep them safe is prior restraint.
I agree! Also, in the interest in fairness, what about if you have other children with you? Is it fair to punish them for something their sibling is doing? A leash or a wrist restraint is so much better than the droves that let their kids run around & chase after them.

[soibn]

I love the leash. Yes, we use a retractable dog leash on our son. However our DS has autism and he will be gone in a second. I know mom's will say that I should be able to control him, but if they wanted they could spend a day with my DS and they would use a leash also.

In the end, I am the mom and I have to keep my son safe from harm. He doesn't get that a bus will kill him. I use a leash to keep him safe.

Good luck. Remember you will never again see these people anywhere again in your life. Who cares what they think. Do what is best for your child and you.


I kind see, that you definately have an exscuse. I think I would do the same in your case.
Sorry to have offended anyone, but that is just my opinion. I my self, do not believe in them. The only time I have used one, was on a ship. And yes my son, almost went over board. He was only 2 at the time. And yes I had a gentlemen argue with me about it, untill I explained how my son could go over board. Other then that, do not see a use for them. Again sorry for offending you ladys. I personally would rather get the excersise and run my butt off to catch him. It is actually kind of amusing and fun. :rotfl2:

[soibn]

There are some great books out there to help. "Playful Parenting" "Easy to Love, Hard to Discipline" Positive Discipline" I have more titles if you would like. HTH!!:thumbsup2

So shoot the names over here. I would not mind reading them, maybe it might helps some other parents as well. And I don't mean that sarcastically either.

:grouphug:

[soibn]

With all due respect, your warnings will be moot if he "takes off running" right into the path of a parade float. Sometimes that first dash can be deadly. With certain children under certain circumstances the only foolproof way to keep them safe is prior restraint.

And BTW for everyone: "leash" is an incorrect term. The device is called a safety rein.

Actually my kid is pretty smart, so I think he knows not to run into a float or any other moving device.

[soibn]

I agree! Also, in the interest in fairness, what about if you have other children with you? Is it fair to punish them for something their sibling is doing? A leash or a wrist restraint is so much better than the droves that let their kids run around & chase after them.


Very true, I got to agree with you in that respect. But that is what a break is for, maybe perhaps away from the park to show that you are serious. I guess it would be pretty tough with several kids. But usually if one kid is acting up, its like a domino affect the rest go down.

[all4fun]

I used one when my ds was between 18mos-3yrs. He had gross motor skill delays and the harness helped us help him keep his balance without us pulling his little arm out of its socket. Also, he did like to run away and went through a phase where he very resistant to holding hands but with the harness on, he would NOT try to run away - so it worked for us. Plus, when he did run, I was always very scared that he would fall and hurt himself - or as has been pointed out already - run right in front of a moving object - forget about the parade floats - think about all the strollers at WDW. And not everyone is looking down towards their feet, so it is very likely for a 2-3yr old to get stepped on.

Just some thoughts. I think you should do what feels right to you. You can always bring it and play it by ear - you only have to use it if you feel you really need to. As for the Dog comments (and the like), the only place I've heard those are on boards like this where people obviously feel comfortable making rude statements like that. None have ever been made to me IRL. I suppose those are the same people that won't discipline their child at all, for fear of treating them like a dog (ie "sit", "stay", "come here" etc) JK of course!

ETA: Oh and of course, just because a child has a safety harness on doesn't mean you can't hold their hand too. Usually when our ds had one one, he was more willing to stay by our side and hold our hand. I suppose with the physical boundary the rein provided, he knew he wasn't going to get very far anyway.

Hth.

[dbmarie]

When my dd6 was little I would use the stroller if she did not listen. However I had to be consistent if she did not hold my hand and stay by me she had to go into the stroller. I can't judge about using a leash as I have never used one but I would worry about my child getting hurt when they reached the end of the leash. A dog has good balance (with 4 legs) and do not generally get knocked down but a child would be.

[Gillian]

I guess for something like this I don't care what others think. It's not hurting anyone, and it might help keep a child safe.

My older child is not perfect by any means, but he responds to normal discipline techniques. My daughter is another matter. She is very fast, very strong, impossible to hold onto if she doesn't want to be held, etc. If I only had one child, or none, I would have no idea what it would be like to have one like DD.

As for running, it's wonderful, but not always practical. Do you leave your other child(ren) while chasing down the runner? What if, like me, you are not able to run?

Anyway, we have used the harness kind. It's very secure, and not uncomfortable.

[Monkeyfeet]

So shoot the names over here. I would not mind reading them, maybe it might helps some other parents as well. And I don't mean that sarcastically either.

:grouphug:

ITA, I think all parents could benefit from some good parenting advice. If you go to Mothering.com and look under Gentle Discipline, at the top in a sticky is a book list. I have found that very useful! They are books geared to be gentle to your children (trying not to yell, humilate, or physically hurt). It is a GREAT resource!

[Gillian]

When my dd6 was little I would use the stroller if she did not listen. However I had to be consistent if she did not hold my hand and stay by me she had to go into the stroller. Good idea, except that my kids can get out of anything. When they want to, of course, not when it's convenient for me, LOL.

We do that at stores now, stay by the cart or go in the cart. It's difficult for DD. She gets upset. She is so stubborn!

[soibn]

I guess for something like this I don't care what others think. It's not hurting anyone, and it might help keep a child safe.

My older child is not perfect by any means, but he responds to normal discipline techniques. My daughter is another matter. She is very fast, very strong, impossible to hold onto if she doesn't want to be held, etc. If I only had one child, or none, I would have no idea what it would be like to have one like DD.

As for running, it's wonderful, but not always practical. Do you leave your other child(ren) while chasing down the runner? What if, like me, you are not able to run?

Anyway, we have used the harness kind. It's very secure, and not uncomfortable.

Alot of you have some great excuses, but keep in mind that alot of people out there do not. They just do not pay attention to their children very well, so they compensate with a leash. My comments are meant for those kind of people. And yes, if you only have one child. Why the heck do you need a leash? Again there are excuses out there, but I have seen in many cases where it was not necesary. I my self prefer a stroller, that way I know my kid is safe. But everyone has a different opinion.

[va32h]

I have three children, ages 10, 6, and 3. I am almost always the only adult with them, as my husband travels a lot for work. I have taken all three of them to DL, alone. They are neither especially well behaved or especially bad, like most kids they can act before thinking, and disobey and run around.

I've never used a leash, and have plans to start.

I say all this only because anytime someone says they don't use leashes, everyone jumps on them and says "you don't have kids" or "you only have one" or "you aren't trying to take care of them alone," or some other reason why their opinion isn't valid.

If other parents want to use leashes, it is absolutely none of my business. If it will improve your park experience and make things easier for you, buy it, use it, and don't worry about other people's comments or looks. It's their problem.

The only things I would caution people using leashes about is making sure it isn't too long, so it doesn't get tangled up on objects or other people and making sure you don't walk too fast so the child doesn't trip while walking with you.

[Gillian]

The only things I would caution people using leashes about is making sure it isn't too long, so it doesn't get tangled up on objects or other people and making sure you don't walk too fast so the child doesn't trip while walking with you.This is a good point! We haven't used ours a lot, but when we do, DD walks ahead of us, making it easy to see what's going on. I have the kind with a harness and the "leash" part is on the back. It's not stretchy. We control the length.

[jessica52877]

I have never used a leash, my son is now 4 and he'll ride in a stroller (which I prefer) BUT if it worked for me then I would not hesitate to use a leash what so ever. Knowing where your child is and peace of mind is so much more important then others opinions!

[Gillian]

Again there are excuses out there, but I have seen in many cases where it was not necesary. I my self prefer a stroller, that way I know my kid is safe. But everyone has a different opinion.I am glad that a stroller works for you. I know for my son it was wonderful.

I don't think that you can ever really tell if it's necessary. If the child is perfectly behaved with the harness, it might look unnecessary, but it could be that is the only thing that works. If a parent looks healthy and able to sprint off at any moment, perhaps that is because he/she chooses to take it easy and not run. I know you understand what I mean. There are many hidden disabilities in both kids and adults, and you really may not be able to tell.

Honestly, I do not know anyone who would use a harness for their kid if they didn't need it.

[abookworm]

I am so against these, children are not dogs period. Unless of course you are going on a ship or boat, I don't think a child should have to where them. If you kid runs off, then you run too period. No one ever said it was going to be easy raising a child, so you better run. Besides running is good for you and keeps you in shape.

:confused3

The problem with your logic of "if your child runs, then you run too" is that most 2 yr olds are small and can run thru people easily whereas I am an adult and would have to push people down and dodge around them to get at him directly-not exactly an option. And I'm not some lazy out-of-shape person either (nice implication on your part) ;)

I also have 2 other children I need to watch and even with my Dh we are outnumbered. My older 2 certainly will not run off but crowds can separate people quite easily so i still need to be able to keep my eye on them at all times too.

And to imply that I think parenting should be easy is rather rude and obnoxious. It's hard to imagine anyone having 3 children and thinking parenting was a bowl of cherries.

As for your discipline tactic of "if he misbehaves then we leave" well that's just not happening since we're only there for a few days and my 2 other kids want to enjoy the park. I'm not going to spend a few thousand dollars on a trip then not stay at the park because I'm teaching my 2 yr old a lesson that he can't fully understand yet anyway. If you can afford to do that then more power to ya.

I knew people would have a strong reaction to this post which is why I mentioned it at the beginning, but I also was directing it at those that had needed to use them.

While holding his hand is an option for short time-there is a bit of height difference and I'd actually have to lean over a bit and his arm would be stretched up which would not be good for hours at a time.

I also should not have used the term "leash" since I think that is what gets many people in a tiz anyway. They obviously are not around their neck like a pet.
They are child harnesses or wrist leads if that helps take the sting out of it.
They are for safety just like life preservers or training wheels. Unless you don't think people should use those either and just sink or swim?

[karibritt01]

Alot of you have some great excuses, but keep in mind that alot of people out there do not. They just do not pay attention to their children very well, so they compensate with a leash. My comments are meant for those kind of people. And yes, if you only have one child. Why the heck do you need a leash? Again there are excuses out there, but I have seen in many cases where it was not necesary. I my self prefer a stroller, that way I know my kid is safe. But everyone has a different opinion.

When I used a leash for my son, he was an only child, and we have no disabilities for 'excuses.' However, we took him to Busch Gardens Williamsburg at the age of 22 months. My son was never the type to ride in a stroller, and was miserable if we tried. In theory, we should have been able to chase him if he ran off. In reality, his little body could wedge through openings that we couldn't. Also, people will step aside if a child pushes on their leg, but block an adult. Fear of line cutting, maybe? I do know that the leash made it easy for all of us to relax and enjoy the day. We didn't have to worry he would get away, and he didn't have to be constantly reigned in from enjoying his first park visit. My DD is a whole other matter, and we have never had to worry about her wandering away, and so she has never been leashed. We also did not leash DS except when we felt it truly necessary, such as parks, state fair, Christmas parade. My DS never minded his leash, as it gave him the freedom to check things out within our boundries. BTW - we didn't buy the harness or the wrist leashes. We used a 6' retractable, and hooked it to the back of an overalls strap. We didn't have to worry about it dragging, and we worried he could remove the wrist one.

[dbmarie]

Good idea, except that my kids can get out of anything. When they want to, of course, not when it's convenient for me, LOL.
I'm not saying it's easy my youngest dd was a handful you have no idea and my dh was always deployed when he was in the army so I was alone alot. I was lucky with my older dd she was very patient with her little sister. Like I said I have never used a leash but I have seen kids hurt when the parent were not paying attention (knocked down, tripping over the cord, or even being dragged behind) but I'm not saying that is all parents or any parents on this board. I know when I was a young mom (a long time ago):rotfl: :rotfl: the stroller worked for me. You have to go with what works :thumbsup2 .

[GingerbreadCoffin]

I got one as a gift at my baby shower with my first son. I was appauled and swore I would never use it. I just assumed that the only people who used them were people that were lazy or didn't want to watch their kids.

All that changed when we took him to the zoo for the first time. There was so much going on that he really was miserable in his stroller so we let him walk as long as he was holding someone's hand. Well after 2 hours the poor kids arm was sore so the hand holding ended. No biggie until we happened to be walking by a path and a show let out. Out of nowhere tons of people came barreling out and my son who was standing right next to me was shoved away from us. I found him 2 second later, but by that point he had been knocked down and had a skinned knee.

Needless to say when we took him to WDW for the first time the "leash" came along. We never used the harness part, just the wristband and it was a dream. While standing in line for a ride a woman said something to her husband very loudly about "Why would she put that boy on a leash?" so I just smiled and told everyone that he was rabid and we didn't want him biting anyone. I even got a high five from a few people on that one :rotfl2:

[WildGrits]

While standing in line for a ride a woman said something to her husband very loudly about "Why would she put that boy on a leash?" so I just smiled and told everyone that he was rabid and we didn't want him biting anyone. I even got a high five from a few people on that one :rotfl2:


Consider this another High Five. That was laugh out loud funny.

My arm gets tired blow drying my hair. I can't imagine walking around all of WDW with my arm over my head.

[Blueyed Girl]

I have used one in the past. The one I got was from Target but I think Walmart has them too. They look like stuffed animal backpacks and it has a long furry cushion strap that you can clip on to it or take it off and just let them wear it as a back pack. VERY CUTE! We got so many compliments on it. My son only wore it about 2-3 times total. But, I used it as an "aid" to teaching him how to hold my hand in public and not let go and run. I had the strap around my wrist and held his hand instead of the strap.
Here's a link to one at Target: http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-2/qid=1169656578/ref=sr_1_2/602-1914341-9627862?ie=UTF8&asin=B000EBITU8

Here's a picture of one:
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y171/ctx203/backpackleash.jpg

[soibn]

I have used one in the past. The one I got was from Target but I think Walmart has them too. They look like stuffed animal backpacks and it has a long furry cushion strap that you can clip on to it or take it off and just let them wear it as a back pack. VERY CUTE! We got so many compliments on it. My son only wore it about 2-3 times total. But, I used it as an "aid" to teaching him how to hold my hand in public and not let go and run. I had the strap around my wrist and held his hand instead of the strap.
Here's a link to one at Target: http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-2/qid=1169656578/ref=sr_1_2/602-1914341-9627862?ie=UTF8&asin=B000EBITU8

Here's a picture of one:
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y171/ctx203/backpackleash.jpg


Now that is actually the best idea, I have heard on this topic. I gotta say that is great thinking, in that case I would not mind having a strap. Teaching them not to run off and of course holding their hand at the same time. That would be the only way I would do it. Although for some people, I don't think that would be the case, because you only have so many hands.
:teacher:

Oh and the thing about my punishing him and taking him home. By the way he did learn his lesson and he has never acted like that again. Children are not stupid, they know what go home means.

[Blueyed Girl]

Yes, it was actually a great transition "tool" from stroller to walking around on his own. He really never even knew he was "attached" to me by the strap because I was holding his hand. If he wanted to drop my hand and look at something on his own, I'd explain that he had to stay next to mommy and not run off. It worked pretty well. I liked having a "back up" just in case he ran off. And it made him feel confident and like a "big boy" because he was allowed to walk around with mommy (instead of being in the stroller the whole time) and because he was wearing a "backpack".

[JodyTG]

I have used one in the past. The one I got was from Target but I think Walmart has them too. They look like stuffed animal backpacks and it has a long furry cushion strap that you can clip on to it or take it off and just let them wear it as a back pack. VERY CUTE! We got so many compliments on it. My son only wore it about 2-3 times total. But, I used it as an "aid" to teaching him how to hold my hand in public and not let go and run. I had the strap around my wrist and held his hand instead of the strap.
Here's a link to one at Target: http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-2/qid=1169656578/ref=sr_1_2/602-1914341-9627862?ie=UTF8&asin=B000EBITU8

Here's a picture of one:
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y171/ctx203/backpackleash.jpg
This is the exact same one that we have taken to WDW our last two trips. Our son is a very, VERY active two-year-old and doesn't like sitting in his stroller for too long at a time. He wants to be out and about just like his sister (15-years-old). We leave just enough slack in the strap so that he has freedom of movement but isn't able to run off. It was wonderful. He was happy about what a "big boy" he was and we weren't worried about losing him in the crowd. Once he gets tired, we put him back in the stroller. If we just hold hands he's pretty patient and will wait until his and our sweaty hands make it easy for his "great escape."

We got more positive remarks than I can remember. Quite a few people asked us where we got the "monkey" on my son's back (funny) because they want to buy one for their child. I highly recommend the harness for parents' peace of mind as well as for children's need/desire for freedom...and exercise. And for the people who don't/refuse to use a harness, that's your decision and what works best for your family. Parent's of little jedi, superheroes, racecars, and such shouldn't be looked down upon because we're more concerned about our child's safety than upsetting some busybody.

[abookworm]

Yep, that monkey one was just the one I was looking at. I thought he'd think it was fun and it does look cute ;)

[disneymom06]

Needless to say when we took him to WDW for the first time the "leash" came along. We never used the harness part, just the wristband and it was a dream. While standing in line for a ride a woman said something to her husband very loudly about "Why would she put that boy on a leash?" so I just smiled and told everyone that he was rabid and we didn't want him biting anyone. I even got a high five from a few people on that one :rotfl2:

And another High Five, I still can't stop laughing.

I am always amazed at the comments people make when this topic comes up. Obviously, I am for and have used harnesses. Accidents happen and NO ONE knows what a child will do in any situation. Well behaved or not, I have used a harness on my children because you just never know what will happen. A parents eyes cannot be everywhere. Better safe than sorry in this day and age. Have you ever thought about this: I'd rather see my child wearing a harness, than their face on a milk carton.

[NotUrsula]

I've always been puzzled that WDW has not chosen to sell safety reins in the park shops. Plain ones or even Disney character backpacks?

Can't you just imagine all the little Simba & Figment backpacks they could sell? They could make a MINT on these.

[PistonsFan]

I have that backpack too, but it is a pain to take on and off if they are going to be in and out of the stroller a lot. It seems to bulky on their back to leave on in the stroller or sitting on a ride. And the backpack part really doesn't hold much of anything to make it useful. I think I'm going to leave it at home and just buy a cheap wrist link and hold hands, but have that as a back up. It might be better for older kids (my son is not quite two) that aren't in the stroller so much.

[JodyTG]

I have that backpack too, but it is a pain to take on and off if they are going to be in and out of the stroller a lot. It seems to bulky on their back to leave on in the stroller or sitting on a ride. And the backpack part really doesn't hold much of anything to make it useful. I think I'm going to leave it at home and just buy a cheap wrist link and hold hands, but have that as a back up. It might be better for older kids (my son is not quite two) that aren't in the stroller so much.

We just left it on Hayden when we put him in the stroller (just took off the handle part). He was usually tired and ready for a nap by the time he wanted (yes, actually wanted) back in his stroller so it worked great for a pillow. He liked wearing it even on rides especially since it looked like a backpack which his daddy was wearing all the time anyway.

[va32h]

Parent's of little jedi, superheroes, racecars, and such shouldn't be looked down upon because we're more concerned about our child's safety than upsetting some busybody.

Surely you didn't mean to imply that people who don't use leashes are unconcerned with their children's safety, or are more concerned with appearing a certain way in public?

I am not judging anyone who uses a leash, why should I be judged for not using one?

My children are every bit as lively, imaginative, and energetic as anyone else's. I've just found methods that work for us that do not include a leash.

I certainly doesn't mean I don't care about their safety!!

[Stimpy]

Surely you didn't mean to imply that people who don't use leashes are unconcerned with their children's safety, or are more concerned with appearing a certain way in public?

I am not judging anyone who uses a leash, why should I be judged for not using one?

My children are every bit as lively, imaginative, and energetic as anyone else's. I've just found methods that work for us that do not include a leash.

I certainly doesn't mean I don't care about their safety!!

::yes:: Glad to see I wasn't the only one offended by that comment! Personally, I would not use a leash for my own children but I do not judge anyone that does. Each parent needs to do what's right for their family. Do not judge me as being unconcerned because I choose not to use a restraint!

I am absolutely concerned for my children's safety! (Which includes a very active Jedi and extremely active, fast, strongheaded Princess in the midst of the terrible 2's)

Dh is a police officer and I worked in law enforcement myself for several years before becoming a SAHM. Believe me, I know what dangers are out there. One of the reasons I left my job was due to the safety of my children.

We take our kids quite often to very crowded places and they know that they have 2 choices....hold our hand/stay in stroller and have fun or we leave....no if ands or buts. Again, that's how our family does it, if using the leash works better for your family, that's great! I absolutely agree there are cases where it is necessary but not for us. So please don't assume I don't care about my child's safety!

[Miss Jessr!ca]

do what you gotta do. people can say what they want but in the end...they DO really help.
my mom used to use one on my little brother when he was younger.
we would go the the mall, and he would run off so much, when the people at the service desk seen her walking twords them htey would just say "oh hi Dawn, we'll send out a page for him."

but she also owned a day care, and when we would go on feild trips, everyone would get a sertain colored shirt (usually blue) AND a matching ballon tied to their wrist.

[JodyTG]

I swear, some people are just way too touchy. No one, not even I, was judging the two of you. I'll just get off this thread so that I don't make someone cry.

[southernbella]

We got the same leash as the one pictured. I got several "looks" & noticed ALOT of people talking about it. Not to many direct comments, though. I will definatly remember the rabid reply!:lmao: Too funny!

I do remember several parents asking me if I got it in the parks. They were dissapointed when I said no!

My 2 year old angel can wedge herself into the tiniest of spaces, so I knew when we decided to take her, the leash was the 1st thing I was buying for our trip. That, and our Brita Fill & go water bottles, were the best things I brought. Sbella

[northriver]

This is a great thread, thanks everyone for your imput and all the information!

When DS was little I was really against these leashes, but my child never ran off either. A friend of our had a boy who would take off - fast. The leash was, perhaps literally, a lifesaver for this family, it was the only way you could handle him in a crowded place.

I am considering getting one of these for our upcoming trip. I don't personally mind chasing after my youngest child, but she will be spending alot of time with my mother at WDW, mom has arthritis in her back, it hurts her back to stoop to hold DD's hand, and if DD gets away mom can't move very fast if she needs to chase her.

And sure there are people that look down on leashes for children - I used to be one of them! While I still don't think they should be used every day, they are great when you realy need them, and WDW is one of those places where they are useful for some families.

[all4fun]

I've always been puzzled that WDW has not chosen to sell safety reins in the park shops. Plain ones or even Disney character backpacks?

Can't you just imagine all the little Simba & Figment backpacks they could sell? They could make a MINT on these.

Actually, they did have a very simple wrist style one in the Baby Care center at MK. I noticed it the last time we were there. They were in the little section where they sell pacifiers (not to start a whole other debate, lol) and other small "necessities" that are sold to parents who may have forgotten something.

[bzzymom]

I think that it is the parents choice. I feel that people shouldn't judge someone based on the use of it. Every child is different, all parents are different. My friend's spouse is legally blind, and he harness works great for them. It allows him to take his son places with some independence.

[C.Ann]

Let's see.. The child is yours.. Only you know your child's behavior.. You are the adult.. You are responsible for your child.. You are responsible for your child's safety..

I say do what you feel is right.. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

Have a great time! :)

[corey2]

I agree with CAnn. You have to do what is right for your child and family. No one really knows your child like you do. I never had this problem with my two, but I certainly have had moments when I thought everyone was staring and judging my parenting skills.

[MelodyMack]

I have never had to use a child restraint leash with my daughter because she was always a stroller junkie. However we have certainly seen many children wearing them at the parks, and always offered their parents a big smile. Do what you need to do OP, and have a great time!

Frankly, I wish they made them for adults. My husband is always wandering off to the Grotto to get a peak at Ariel...... :rolleyes:

[northriver]

Frankly, I wish they made them for adults. My husband is always wandering off to the Grotto to get a peak at Ariel...... :rolleyes:

:rotfl:

[momz]

We have the puppy-dog harness/backpack. My son is 3 now, and he no longer needs it. I did, however, take it with us to the mall for Christmas shopping in December, but did not need it, he has learned to stay close. When we went to WDW last January, son was 2 1/2. It was a wonderful tool for navigating through the crowded airport. He was also not keen on staying in a stroller, like a little Hoodini, he can work his way out. He was happiest when he could be wandering and exploring the world. There is absolutely nothing "wrong" with him, he is a bright, inquisitive child. The harness allowed him some freedom of movement, and gave me some piece of mind. Children are very unaware of their environment, barriers have no meaning to them. If given the opportunity, he could get past any fencing to try to catch a bird, or pet a duck, or touch the pretty water in the pond. We did not use it for discipine or to control his "horrible behavior". He is a normal kid who behaves predictably in ways that make sense to him, but may not be safe. Putting a harness on a child in no way makes you a "lazy parent" or indicates your child is "not smart" and therefore incapable of learning how to behave. For some kids it is appropriate, for others, not necessary.....just my 2 cents.

[abookworm]

Children are very unaware of their environment, barriers have no meaning to them. If given the opportunity, he could get past any fencing to try to catch a bird, or pet a duck, or touch the pretty water in the pond. We did not use it for discipine or to control his "horrible behavior". He is a normal kid who behaves predictably in ways that make sense to him, but may not be safe. Putting a harness on a child in no way makes you a "lazy parent" or indicates your child is "not smart" and therefore incapable of learning how to behave. For some kids it is appropriate, for others, not necessary.....just my 2 cents.

very well said :thumbsup2
thanks

[drakethib]

We never have as of yet and I sure don't think anything is wrong if someone wants to do so to with children.

[Luv'sTink]

Your kinda damned if you do and damned if you dont on this board.

It is rude to let your kid run around where they could trip someone and it is wrong to try to use something to control their child, that isn't going to hurt them. Double edge sword there!:confused3

I guess it is OK to be running through crowds of people chasing your kids. That in no way is bothering anyone else. :confused3

[Stimpy]

I don't think many people in this thread have said it was absolutely wrong. Even many of the people that choose not to use one, myself included, said that it wasn't "bad" to use the restraint.

Personally, I think it's up to each parent & family individually. If you want to use it, that's great. If you don't, that's great too. Don't worry about what other people think! Do what you feel is best for your personal situation. :)

[soibn]

:rotfl:
That is great, well said. They should have been born with them. :rotfl2:

[soibn]

::yes:: Glad to see I wasn't the only one offended by that comment! Personally, I would not use a leash for my own children but I do not judge anyone that does. Each parent needs to do what's right for their family. Do not judge me as being unconcerned because I choose not to use a restraint!

I am absolutely concerned for my children's safety! (Which includes a very active Jedi and extremely active, fast, strongheaded Princess in the midst of the terrible 2's)

Dh is a police officer and I worked in law enforcement myself for several years before becoming a SAHM. Believe me, I know what dangers are out there. One of the reasons I left my job was due to the safety of my children.

We take our kids quite often to very crowded places and they know that they have 2 choices....hold our hand/stay in stroller and have fun or we leave....no if ands or buts. Again, that's how our family does it, if using the leash works better for your family, that's great! I absolutely agree there are cases where it is necessary but not for us. So please don't assume I don't care about my child's safety!


Finally, I have a mother who does the same thing. Common sense people. Again some people have many good excuses for them. But why can't we try other avenues before using the leash.

[Fintastic]

We used one on our then-20-month-old when we flew a couple of years ago, so obviously I don’t have a problem with leashes. As with anything else, if a parent uses a leash as a babysitter, there’s the problem. Just like strapping your kid into the stroller and then turning your back because you assume your kid can’t get into trouble. But if you use it as backup for that “just in case the kid runs” scenario but you’re still very attentive to your child’s actions, I don’t think a leash is that big of a deal. Leashes, playpens, baby gates, etc. are parenting TOOLS, not replacements for parenting.

[FSUDisneyGirl]

i had to add that i was at the magic kingdom 2 days ago, and saw many "puppy" backpacks with leashes. most parents i saw were holding their kids and not dragging them around! yay! :banana:

however,as i was going into philharmagic, this one lady was yelling at her son (looked to be about 3) and pulling him backwards because apparently he had wallked into the wrong row. the poor kid looked like he was going to fall over! :rotfl: just wanted to share my experiences :)

[Shoshana]

Ii bought an "Au Pair" for my December trip with my 3-yr-old. The child wears a fanny pack which is a stuffed animal with a zipper pouch and the adult wears a regular fanny pack. The two connect with a retractable leash. I didn't want the back pack version because it would have been uncomfortable when sitting.

I was worried about ordering and carrying food, etc., and ensuring that she didn't wander off. After a day of using it intermittently, I realized that we just didn't need it. There was no way she was letting me out of her sight. If she wandered ahead of me by a few feet, I could always keep her in my line of vision. If it had been terribly crowded, it would have been difficult to use and manuever through the crowds.

[Mari annie]

both ds dd was very social, and loved to run/hide and just be kids, never wanted to loose them.........so yes, and they work fine!;)

They are now a tween and teen and when we go now to the parks and they see kids on a "leash" they laugh and can't believe it, and we always laugh too and say, yes, you were both such little ramblers and we are sure glad we used them!

7 days to WARM FL WEATHER!!!!!:banana: :cutie: :cloud9: