My Cousin is Seriously Screwing Up.

[MuNkY]

So here's the story. I'm an only child, so I've had to rely on my cousin's, whom I have a lot of, to be that whole "brother-sister" thing. Well, I was particularly close with two of them. One named Max, who was sort of like my big buddy when I spent time with him, and Katie, who we've always referred to as our "bud". Well, sometime last year or so, Max made me really proud. He took the ACT, and his score was something like the top two percent in the country. Not the county, not the state, but in the whole country. This guy could've gone to MIT and kicked butt. Well, he decided to attend Michigan Tech, a good school. Well, as far as I was concerned, he was doing great, but a couple of months ago I find out he dropped out, went back to his mother's house, and they basically kicked him out. Point is, he's not doing so great. I was slightly disappointed when I hear this. I know he can do great, and could be the next genius at NASA or something, but because of not wanting to put in a little bit of effort, he looks like he's just going to be some bum or something.

Now on to today...

Yesterday my grandma flew down for thanksgiving. Today when I got home from school I started talking to her. I asked her how everybody is, and she gave me the news with Katie.

She's seriously messing up. She was going out with this cool guy who looked like he was going to do something with himself. She was doing alright in college, and although struggling a little bit, seemed like she was going to be fine. I talked to her not too recently, and she seemed like that person I knew growing up. It was nice, because I hadn't seen that in her in years. Well, apparently she's gotten into more trouble with school. She needed $700 to continue taking a few classes she needed. Her mother gives her the money, and all seemed fine. Well, my aunt gets home, and it's something like 12:30. Her class started half an hour ago, and she finds Katie in bed with her current boyfriend. She broke up with the last guy, and is now going out with some 31 year old bum, who collects scrap metal off the streets and sells it as a full time job. He sits around all day and smokes pot, and apparently she's taken up the habit with him. So to make a long story short, she's not going to class, stealing money from her mom, broke up with a good guy, and started dating this guy a lot older than her who is doing nothing with himself, and who is into illegal drugs.

This devastated me. Honestly, I've loved Katie my entire life, and it really, really pains me to see her messing up this bad. The next time I see her, I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I know she's going to be going for the classic hug and the "hey bud!", but I'm not sure if I'll be able to. I've lost serious respect for her, and I don't know if right now, I could even look at her.

I guess a good thing that comes out of this is that it's inspiring me to be even better than I'm planning. It's making me want to go above and beyond to improve myself. I know I have cousin's younger than me who probably look up to me as much as I looked up to these two people, and now I know first hand, just how hard it would hurt them if I screwed up. This has inspired me to want to be the one who succeeds. The one, who gets the good grades in HS, goes to a good college, marries a good woman, and has a great family. I want to be the one who doesn’t let anyone down.

So, have you ever been disappointed in a loved one messing up?

[Sparx]

you already know what I think about this, just taking this chance to give you another cyber hug and tell you that I'm sorry you and your family are going through this with Katie. :hug:

[Babyjustrun]

I'm sorry this is happening to you, honestly, I am. As you mentioned, it hits hard as you're an only child, your cousins are your closest thing (blood related that is) to a sibling. To see them do such things.. But I think you should try to support her though, it may be difficult, but you should try to talk her into turning her life around in a positive way, I'm sure she knows she's made quite a few bad turns in life. And don't you hate it when someone continuously shoves your errors in your face? It's not fun. I know it's not easy to face people when you lose their respect, but she's family and you care for her, so you should try to help her fix things up.
Just curious, did she share why she broke up with him? Even if he does have a future, it doesn't mean there wasn't any problems.

My uncle has dissapointed me, though I don't say anything about it. He used to live in NY, LA, Hollywood... working for Sony and the lighting for one of those famous late night talk shows. But a few years ago, he came back home. What did he do with his life? He worked at a radio station, living in his sisters basement. He's come up quite a bit over the years, living on his own and getting better jobs. But the main line is, he's single, still working for a radio station, and at almost fourty, still living in an apartment.

[Princess Ash]

"Don't run when I push you away...it's then that I need you the most."

That is my advice.

[TheBellhop]

Yes, I have had a member of my family screw their life up because of a ******* boyfriend. I hope to God your cousin doesn't end up marrying this guy you're describing. She needs you now more than ever, so intervene before things get serious.

It really shows something of you to care for someone so deeply like this. Good luck with it all, I hope things turn around for the better.

[MuNkY]

I'm sorry this is happening to you, honestly, I am. As you mentioned, it hits hard as you're an only child, your cousins are your closest thing (blood related that is) to a sibling. To see them do such things.. But I think you should try to support her though, it may be difficult, but you should try to talk her into turning her life around in a positive way, I'm sure she knows she's made quite a few bad turns in life. And don't you hate it when someone continuously shoves your errors in your face? It's not fun. I know it's not easy to face people when you lose their respect, but she's family and you care for her, so you should try to help her fix things up.
Just curious, did she share why she broke up with him? Even if he does have a future, it doesn't mean there wasn't any problems.

My uncle has dissapointed me, though I don't say anything about it. He used to live in NY, LA, Hollywood... working for Sony and the lighting for one of those famous late night talk shows. But a few years ago, he came back home. What did he do with his life? He worked at a radio station, living in his sisters basement. He's come up quite a bit over the years, living on his own and getting better jobs. But the main line is, he's single, still working for a radio station, and at almost fourty, still living in an apartment.
I just want to know....what's so bad about working at a radio station? Heck Howard Stern is making millions working for a radio station. I know several people pulling in good money working for radio stations. I plan to go into radio as my career. :confused3

[Babyjustrun]

I just want to know....what's so bad about working at a radio station? Heck Howard Stern is making millions working for a radio station. I know several people pulling in good money working for radio stations. I plan to go into radio as my career. :confused3

Oh well, he wasn't doing it for to get somewhere, it was just something to make money. And he wasn't making good money. It's just like him resigning and saying 'Okay, I've got a job. No more goals. Life sure was great.'
I don't think radio is a bad career, it's actually something I may look into, but I don't think I'd start my career in radio around here. The hours are long, the pay is awful.
Anyways, best wishes to your family, I hope your cousin makes a good decision.

[MuNkY]

Oh well, he wasn't doing it for to get somewhere, it was just something to make money. And he wasn't making good money. It's just like him resigning and saying 'Okay, I've got a job. No more goals. Life sure was great.'
I don't think radio is a bad career, it's actually something I may look into, but I don't think I'd start my career in radio around here. The hours are long, the pay is awful.
Anyways, best wishes to your family, I hope your cousin makes a good decision.
Pfft that's the way Radio is everywhere when you first start. You have to really want to do it to break into the field.

[Babyjustrun]

My point was, he wasn't trying to break in. He was just doing it, saying he couldn't do any better.
And I'm not saying anymore than that now.

[PatriotsRule]

Pfft that's the way Radio is everywhere when you first start. You have to really want to do it to break into the field.

The same goes for film and theatre as well. You've got to sweat a lot for a little in the beginning. Hopefully you get past that stage eventually.

I really hope your cousin turns around. Hopefully she'll see that there are people who love her and want her to be happy, and become the same person who got into a good school and looked to the future.

[U Just Got PUNKD]

Aww, I'm sooooo sorry. =[
Really I am. I know how it feels. Well, in a kinda sorta different way.

[VolleyballQt07]

So, have you ever been disappointed in a loved one messing up?


yes. and his punishment was serious and permanet.

my uncle, the lunatic he is, was at a friends house and had gotten really drunk. he loves NASCAR and loves driving really really fast. well, my aunt called him to see when he was coming home and she knew he was drunk. she said to stay there and shed get him the next morning. well, he decided to be all cool, and head home, by himself, drunk. he was driving down a country road, really really fast, and assumed no one was on the road since it was 11:00pm. well, he was wrong. there was a pickup, with flashing lights, parked on the side. he swirved, overcorrected, flew out the passenger side window, landed in a ditch, with his car, on top of him. now you can probally tell what happened next. the guy in the pickup called 911, 911 got to the scene, and my uncle, at age 33, was pronouced...dead. this was 3 years ago and we are still, painfully, mourning his death. :sad1: :sad1: :sad1: :sad1: :sad1:

[DisneyGirl1994]

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[AllyGirlie]

yes. and his punishment was serious and permanet.

my uncle, the lunatic he is, was at a friends house and had gotten really drunk. he loves NASCAR and loves driving really really fast. well, my aunt called him to see when he was coming home and she knew he was drunk. she said to stay there and shed get him the next morning. well, he decided to be all cool, and head home, by himself, drunk. he was driving down a country road, really really fast, and assumed no one was on the road since it was 11:00pm. well, he was wrong. there was a pickup, with flashing lights, parked on the side. he swirved, overcorrected, flew out the passenger side window, landed in a ditch, with his car, on top of him. now you can probally tell what happened next. the guy in the pickup called 911, 911 got to the scene, and my uncle, at age 33, was pronouced...dead. this was 3 years ago and we are still, painfully, mourning his death. :sad1: :sad1: :sad1: :sad1: :sad1:

What else can I say, but wow and I'm sorry..

Well, I've never been that close with my cousins but they aren't any cup of tea either.Where should I start? My cousin Alicia, got pregnant a little before graduating high school. She doesn't know who the father is and it seems that her life career will be working at a local grocery store as a cashier. She has no driver's liscense, car, insurance or place of her own. She's living on welfare and is relying on her parents to take care of her child.

My other cousin, Pat, was arrested not to long ago. Basically he had a girlfriend for a while and they broke up. He got pissed off, broke into her house and held her hostage for about 3 hours. We had to read about it in the newspaper. Now they say that his girlfriend is a psycho and invited him in and set him up, but who knows.

Honestly there's more to it than that but that's just the basic jist of what's going on with them..

We won't even go into "the acquaintance" (aka my dad's brother) because there's no where to even start with that..