Sad and angry

[Zoemakes5]

Hi all! Without linking to the other thread, as I believe it's against board policy, I'm saddened and angry about a response to a post I made and I wanted to come here to comisserate.
I posted in one of the other forums looking for some guidance on strollers for older/bigger children for my 4 y.o. DD. Another Dis'er, a veteran dis'er, even, without bothering to respond to my question, jumps in out of nowhere and asks me "why do you put your children's problems/illnesses in your signature" "are you trying to get different treatment" though he's "not trying to pick a fight".
Overall, I thought I made a reasonable response, but I was so mad. First of all, unless it's graphic and totally inappropriate for a "family board", it's not up to someone else to criticize a sigy! And to do it because I share about my kids! GRRRR! :furious:

[sweetspicy]

:grouphug: That other person's response was totally uncalled for. It was people like that who made me kind of hesitant to join the boards. But I realized that there are many more people on here who are NOT like that, and that's why I joined. Anyway, don't let them ruin your day and keep your signature the way you want it! :thumbsup2

[Cheshire Figment]

Please check your Private Messages

[gardendame]

Don't let people like that bother you. ***hugs*** You have to do what is best for your situation and for your family. Some people are just blind to the world around them, although their vision may be perfectly fine!

[Michigan]

You should have asked him why he has all his hotel stays listed is it so people that stay in the value resorts will think he has money?

[Tissa]

I've been on the board for a few years and every time I come across a post from that person I just have to roll my eyes because he is always rude and confrontational, he's loves to start stuff. I thought you handled yourself very well. Don't let the jerks get you down.

[Selket]

I think I've seen posts by that particular poster who is causing the problem. That person is a problem and unfortunately there are LOTS of those on the boards. I tend not to even read the other boards anymore unless I've got a trip getting close enough to do serious planning (and I'm not going until next July). I think the moderators on those boards (not here) let things go on TOO LONG. Posts like his should just be taken off. They have absolutely nothing to do with the original topic, they drive new people off the boards, and they are simply annoying - people trying to pick fights. Those type of posts used to be moved to the DEBATE board back when that was part of the Disboards. But the Debate board was removed because it was rather hostile. Unfortunately it didn't remove the hostile, off topic, posts which are now just posted on regular threads and for some reason are tolerated to a ridiculous extent in my opinion. :sad2:

I would report the post and hope a moderator over there will step in and remove those posts so you can get some legit answers to your questions.

I thought I'd add that we bought a Maclaren stroller for around $100 I think (off some discount internet site a couple of years ago - maybe a previous year's model or something). My son William who is 4 yrs old and weighs 50+ (and is tall) can still fit pretty well in it. It is an awesome umbrella stye stroller with a sun shade and it reclines for the little ones (we never use that feature now). I've had it for awhile now - at least 4 trips it has made to WDW and it still looks new and works perfectly. I use it a fair amount.

William has hypotonia and didn't stand until he was almost 2 yrs old (and walked around age 2). He is much much better now with that but still will tire out on any long walking trips. He was also dx'd with type 1 diabetes - about the time he started walking! No correlation there though! ;)

[CPT Tripss]

Stirring the pot is one thing, but I agree - you were attacked.
Just rest assured that he is ___. Geez, he doesn't even know that quattro is italian for four and that Audi lifted it (along with Schick and Borland/Corel) for a "sexy" brand name.
Guess he ain't as hi falutin' as he thinks.
Be well, have fun on your trip!

[michelle9343]

It is sad , but I have to say I have seen it happen way to many times. I have met many wonderful people on the Dis but I have been hurt many times .I always say just think were it is coming from and let it go. Has a parent of a special needs little girl I am proud of her and the work I do has her Mom . I think your sig is fine and if you happy with it you should leave it.

Have you ever looked at the baby jogger company? They have fantastic jogger strollers that go up to adult size. They are expensive but worth it.I bought on for my DD and it will hold her up to 100lbs. We bought it when she was on 40 lbs but her legs were to long for a reg. stroller. She loves it.

[Haley Whippet]

:grouphug: Some people are just not happy and they seem to want everyone else they come across to be unhappy too... :grouphug:
Deb

[rhonhod]

:grouphug: :grouphug:

[jemiaule]

You should have asked him why he has all his hotel stays listed is it so people that stay in the value resorts will think he has money?


Ok, you are my new hero. That is a brilliant response!

And to the OP - don't like goobers like this get you down. I think it is good to have little tidbits in siggies! Personally I have made a number of friends over the years on various boards because something in their siggie caught my eye and made me think "hey....me too" and prompted me to reach out and talk to them about something we had in common.

[HappyLawyer]

Hi all! Without linking to the other thread, as I believe it's against board policy, I'm saddened and angry about a response to a post I made and I wanted to come here to comisserate.
I posted in one of the other forums looking for some guidance on strollers for older/bigger children for my 4 y.o. DD. Another Dis'er, a veteran dis'er, even, without bothering to respond to my question, jumps in out of nowhere and asks me "why do you put your children's problems/illnesses in your signature" "are you trying to get different treatment" though he's "not trying to pick a fight".
Overall, I thought I made a reasonable response, but I was so mad. First of all, unless it's graphic and totally inappropriate for a "family board", it's not up to someone else to criticize a sigy! And to do it because I share about my kids! GRRRR! :furious:


Hey, keep your head up and don't let the ignorant remarks of someone else upset you. :love: :love: :love: :love:

[HappyLawyer]

Now given those who know me know that i may be direct in some things i respond to and yes they may be mean responses, but i am expressing myself, there are people on here who post things just to make people angry which is a shame.

[shovan]

I'm shocked & disgusted by that guy's responses! :sad2: What nerve! What does he know about your life, kid's, etc., etc..
I'm also a little ticked off at the moderator's threat to lock the thread. I feel you handled it very well & not ugly at all. I feel if someone comes at you like that, you should be able to defend yourself, if it's handled properly. I think you dealt with it better than would be expected! Don't let him get under your skin one more minute! He definitely isn't worth it. :grouphug:

[Cheshire Figment]

I am the one who reported that thread to the moderators of TPA&S.

It appears the threat by one of them to lock the thread was not in response to the person who is being talked about but to the fact that several people were attacking him for his unacceptable comments. Those comments are being handled privately.

We think zoemakes5 handled the situation well and we are doing the job we are (un)paid to do. Can we now allow this thread to die a quiet death?

[shovan]

CF,
I am very sorry if I have offended you. So, as to let this thread die, I will pm this to you.

[Cheshire Figment]

CF,
I am very sorry if I have offended you. So, as to let this thread die, I will pm this to you.
I have not been offended.

The point I was making is that some of these comments are effectively personal attacks on a person. On DisBoards we allow attacks of an idea not but of a person, even if we agree with the attacks.

One of the moderators of TPA&S has been giving similar warnings on the original thread.

We have actions which can be taken against an individual who consistently or outrageously violates the published policies.

[MommytoMJM]

Ok, you are my new hero. That is a brilliant response!

And to the OP - don't like goobers like this get you down. I think it is good to have little tidbits in siggies! Personally I have made a number of friends over the years on various boards because something in their siggie caught my eye and made me think "hey....me too" and prompted me to reach out and talk to them about something we had in common.

Ditto...including me Jemi ;)

To the OP, hugs, we've all been there I think...

[Anne MN]

my DD has a stroller that she will be able to use for a looong time. weight limit is up to 150 lbs.
it is a dreamer design SN stroller. insurance paid for it. (we capped out our deductable yet again that year!) got a Rx from ped and found a durable med place that carried it, they ordered it for us and it is great! comes in different colors and sizes. it gives her "space" and limits her walking. she is 11 and a twin, people think that her 6 yr old sister is her twin. she is 42 lbs.

as far as that thread- i will just say that there are many things i read that I will not post on, will get in trouble for what I say!

[SueM in MN]

I think the discussion about the discussion on the other thread should be put to rest.

Any other stroller suggestions are welcome though.

[jemiaule]

Ditto...including me Jemi ;)


:thumbsup2 There ya go, a perfect example! A siggie is how I met MommytoMJM, found her site, have talked to her in IM, etc!


:wave: MommytoMJM !

[Karalynn]

I would first think about how often/much you will use the stroller after your trip. If the answer is alot, then invest in a better one, either a special needs (like the maclaren major) or even a jogging type stroller (just be sure to get one where the front wheel swivels!)
If the answer is not much then I would just look for an umbrella type stroller at Target or some other department store. Be sure to check the weight limit and even try your child in it in the store if possible. Babies are us have all their strollers on display, I did this w/ dd last year. Maybe go for a mid-value one, as the cheap ones are hard to turn and push with a heavier kid.

OK, that being said.... :hug: for you!!!
You will always be loved here on this board!

[JohnnySharp2]

I would consider an over-size stroller personally, you could find in the long run you would get more use out of it, even if it is more expensive.
Especially as it is likely to be more comfortable for the child too.

We have found with our son, he is autistic, that a MacLaren over-size stroller has been so useful over the years, especially when touring the theme parks in Florida - Joshua although physically mobile, cannot walk long distances.

[lovethattink]

Any other stroller suggestions are welcome though.


My son has severe asthma and it goes wacky in the winter months. We had a combi that we used through 1st grade for him. My parents had a Century oversized umbrella stroller that they used for him. We found the century one to be more bulky, but it pushed alot easier. Seemed the larger wheels handled the extra weight of his body better, and was easier to steer.

[Zoemakes5]

Thanks all! I really appreciate everyone's support and good wishes. I was looking for some TLC and some suitable outrage and I certainly received it here! Thanks so much!
Also, I appreciate everyone's suggestions for a stroller! I had surgery on my hand last year and as a result really can't carry Zoe (our 4 y.o.). She's just not yet at a point where she can go and go. And, she's a wanderer. AND, while she's not one of my special needs kids, she does have noticiable "aspie tendencies", and one of them is her hyper focus on how she's feeling. If she's hot, that's her focus, if she's tired or hungry or itchy, gotta fix it. And, it has a domino effect on my special needs kids!
We rented when we went to DL last November, when she was 3 and it worked out great in large part. However, we only got a stroller for one day, as we were only there for one full day and a half day. The cost ends up getting up there a bit when we're looking at 3 full days. And, we ended up taking turns carrying her back to the hotel. It would be nice to have a stroller of some sort for the trip (not expecting to really need it outside of that, we typically use the wagon at home when we need it, we can take it everywhere with us at home), that we can use at the airport for our red eye trips, at Sea World and then to and from DL hotels when we're there for the 3 days instead of two.
Thanks again for all the suggestions, I'll start shopping around!

[SueM in MN]

here's a good site for special needs strollers:
Adaptivemall.com (http://www.adaptivemall.com/allstrolpus.html)