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smartestnumber5
04-21-2006, 07:45 PM
My girlfriend and I are going in August. We live in a pretty liberal college town and are out to everyone around us, so we don't really think much about censoring any affection--I mean things like holding hands, putting arms around each other, pecks on the cheek, hands on knees. In fact, going on trips or visiting family requires a lot of conscious effort on our parts to be less affectionate.

So I was wondering--how affectionate are you all (that is, people in same-sex relationships) while you're in Disney? I'm not concerned about what other people think, but more about our own comfort levels (i.e. not having to see others' dirty looks and such).

ECurto
04-22-2006, 05:13 AM
We have definitely been on the receiving end of some nasty looks, pointing, and even laughing. (During holding hands for a firework show, or walking down main street hand in hand) Nothing ever got out of hand, or where we feard for our safety. Just your normal ignorant people. We have only been brave enough to kiss on HM if I recall. We pretty much stopped showing all outward signs of affection at Disney unless we were "hidden". We try to act as if this makes it more specail... but inside we know the truth. Ahhh one day. :love:

lillielil
04-22-2006, 09:29 AM
things like holding hands, putting arms around each other, pecks on the cheek, hands on knees.


That's pretty much what we did at Disney. Or at least what I did... my fiancee isn't as much into the PDAs as I am. We only had one bad experience because of it - posted in the thread I started about bad experiences. Most people are too polite to say anything nasty, but there's always the chance that you'll be the lucky one who gets a dirty look or something.

Luv4Mickey
04-24-2006, 02:35 PM
I would like to comment on all PDA's, whether they be same-sex or not. I think your basic holding of hands, or quick peck kiss (whether cheek or lips) shouldn't be a problem for anyone. HOWEVER...I get totally disgusted when I see a couple (once again, straight or not) open mouth, tongue, rubbing, etc. I just think that is inappropriate for public viewing. It causes people to stare, stop and even make comments (not that I would make comments, but you can't help but find yourself gawking.)
So, that is my opinion since you asked!! :)

lillielil
04-24-2006, 03:20 PM
HOWEVER...I get totally disgusted when I see a couple (once again, straight or not) open mouth, tongue, rubbing, etc.


Ok, that's just gross!! If I saw anyone doing that I would make gagging noises at them for sure.

I really hate everyone's PDAs except my own. Eew.

wallyb
04-24-2006, 03:25 PM
I so agree with Luv4Mickey.
"Over the top" PDA are gross... no matter who's doing it.
And frankly WDW is not the place for it.
Get a room!

Ava
05-02-2006, 03:44 PM
My girlfriend and I were at Disney last week. *sigh* We did pretty much what we do at home, as far as PDA - hand holding, peck-type kisses, etc - and didn't notice any staring or dirty looks. Maybe we're just oblivious, or maybe we really didn't get stared at, I don't know. The only time we were conscious about any PDA was on the bus to Epcot. We'd started talking to a family while we were in line for the bus, and when we got on their about 8-year-old daughter sat next to us and was talking to us. We just didn't want to "impose" any confusion or questions on her or her family, so we made sure to be platonic. Normally we don't care what random people think, but this little girl had taken to talking to us, so we were careful.

FairlyOddFairy
05-06-2006, 04:45 PM
My Partner and I are usually pretty good about PDA we live in the metro and still get looks even at the mall. So family oriented places like WDW are no place for affection. Thats why you upgrade to the jaccuzi suite. We totally respect the fact that most parents are either too uninformed or to confused what to tell the kids about alternitive lifestyles that we tone it down.

TinyLolitaBunny
05-09-2006, 11:38 AM
I would like to comment on all PDA's, whether they be same-sex or not. I think your basic holding of hands, or quick peck kiss (whether cheek or lips) shouldn't be a problem for anyone. HOWEVER...I get totally disgusted when I see a couple (once again, straight or not) open mouth, tongue, rubbing, etc. I just think that is inappropriate for public viewing. It causes people to stare, stop and even make comments (not that I would make comments, but you can't help but find yourself gawking.)
So, that is my opinion since you asked!! :)
I agree with that... I dont think it makes a difference who it is, holding hands and a quick kiss is ok but anything more than that is inappropriate.

TinyLolitaBunny
05-09-2006, 11:39 AM
I would like to comment on all PDA's, whether they be same-sex or not. I think your basic holding of hands, or quick peck kiss (whether cheek or lips) shouldn't be a problem for anyone. HOWEVER...I get totally disgusted when I see a couple (once again, straight or not) open mouth, tongue, rubbing, etc. I just think that is inappropriate for public viewing. It causes people to stare, stop and even make comments (not that I would make comments, but you can't help but find yourself gawking.)
So, that is my opinion since you asked!! :)
I agree with that... I dont think it makes a difference who it is, holding hands and a quick kiss is ok but anything more than that is inappropriate. Except that I probably would make a comment. I would tell them to please stop because it is a family-friendly environment!

Hollybh
05-19-2006, 09:56 PM
I want to thank all of you who are responsible adults and who respect those who dont share the same alternative lifestyles. I am straight and a mother of two and honestly I am not ready to explain certain lifestyles to them since they are young and wouldnt understand, other than the basic terms. I am going to Disney after gay days but if i were going during that time, i would be very worried about any inappropriate actions, from straight or gay couples. Even straight couples with bad judgement on PDAs make me cringe in front of my children. So, thank you for realizing that many people while open minded about your lifestyle, are uncomfortable with how to handle explaining it to children esp. at WDW where really isnt a place for PDA of any type of couple. :thumbsup2

LukenDC
05-19-2006, 10:43 PM
I want to thank all of you who are responsible adults and who respect those who dont share the same alternative lifestyles. I am straight and a mother of two and honestly I am not ready to explain certain lifestyles to them since they are young and wouldnt understand, other than the basic terms. I am going to Disney after gay days but if i were going during that time, i would be very worried about any inappropriate actions, from straight or gay couples. Even straight couples with bad judgement on PDAs make me cringe in front of my children. So, thank you for realizing that many people while open minded about your lifestyle, are uncomfortable with how to handle explaining it to children esp. at WDW where really isnt a place for PDA of any type of couple. :thumbsup2

I suspect that you will see over-the-top PDAs any time of the year at WDW. People like to say that teenagers are the main culprits, but I saw adult couples touching inappropriately when I was at WDW in Sept. It's not a constant nuisance, but it does happen often enough. Unless something is completely outreaegous, your young children are unlikely to notice.

While I get very offended by over-the-top PDAs (groping, deep kissing, suggestive chatter, etc.), I do think it is sweet when I see couples---straight and gay---showing their affection with a kiss on the cheek, holding hands, a hug, etc. Disney can be romantic and we need to acknowledge that too.

gabbygrennell
06-06-2006, 02:54 PM
Disney for us will be no different than any other time or place......

We hold hands, sit close, love pecks etc....
We have 3 kids and I do understand that other parents are not ready or capable of explaining our relationship to their young children. Therefore, we never act rediculously gross! I agree with many of the other posters, that wether gay or straight, some things are just not to be done in public!

However, should a magical moment happen, and I need to hug or kiss her, the fact that we are in public wether disney or not, is not going to stop me.
And anyone can feel free to give me all the dirty looks they want, go ahead and make your comments.... I just dont care! And I would not stoop to their level by responding either!
Just my honest opinion!

MrVisible
06-06-2006, 03:14 PM
I want to thank all of you who are responsible adults and who respect those who dont share the same alternative lifestyles.
As a responsible adult who believes that PDAs aren't appropriate, you're very welcome. And thank you for the thought.

I'd like to make a polite request, if I may. Please consider possibly discontinuing the use of the term 'alternative lifestyle' to describe gay peoples' lives. I understand that you mean no harm by doing so, but I do feel that it's somewhat degrading.

If you'd use the term 'orientation' to describe being gay in the future, it would please me mightily, and I'd consider it a personal favor.

Thank you for taking this into consideration.

DVC~OKW~96
06-06-2006, 09:30 PM
PDA. I have seen any number of opposite gendered couples behaving in a manner that made me believe they should leave the park and find a private bedroom somewhere. I've only seen a couple of very young same gendered couples showing blatant affection (by very young I mean early twenties).

I don't mind hand holding, arm around a waist, or shoulders, hugs, quick affectionate kisses... between anyone. I often take my partner's arm, but that is more for my comfort than to display affection! :rolleyes:

I've seen some pretty dreadful t-shirts on people in the parks over the past couple of years too. I guess WDW must not censor the messages on them anymore?

I've heard some comments as my partner and I have passed by some people. We had a group of four or so men behind us last year at Gay Days and the youngest (early twenties) was rambling on and on about Lesbians. The other men kept shushing him and one finally said, "Will you just shut up?!" He wasn't being offensive as much as he was being stupid. Meh. Who cares?

So, are we affectionate? Yeah, sorta but we really do contain our displays to our home. Ingrained safety mode. :confused3

OrlandoMike
06-07-2006, 05:43 AM
I went to the MK this past Saturday (Gay Days) after work with three female relatives, all straight. It was nice to see all of the couples watching the fireworks holding each other without fear of being stared at. But my 15 year old niece was appalled! Appalled at the fact that guys and gals who are in love with each other would hold each other during wishes? NOPE! Appalled at some of the very hot couples that were here age, that apparently she had no chance of dating! She just kept saying "It's not fair, those guys are both so hot!" Sorry girlfriend! I think this next generation will be much more accepting towards tactful PDA's in the future.

halld6479
06-07-2006, 07:05 AM
as grandparents of teenage grand kids we knew we were coming down during this time frame and really wasn't sure of what to expect and did tell the kids this was the time frame we would be there and I must admit I often don't have an open mind on things but I want to express how proud I was of your gathering. I never saw anything that I was ashamed of my grand kids seeing or witnessing. In fact I would rather be in the parks during this time then spring break time. thanks

OrlandoMike
06-07-2006, 07:45 AM
Despite what some say about gay days, most of us just want to go to the parks with friends and family and enjoy the Disney experience, just like you.

Glad you had a great time.........planning for next year yet?

halld6479
06-07-2006, 07:08 PM
you bet both grandkids and myself are making plans lol

OrlandoMike
06-08-2006, 05:46 AM
Well you will need red T-Shirts for next year so you will fit in.....perhaps they could say.....

"We're not gay, but we sure enjoy spending time at the Magic Kingdom with them!" :rotfl:

Glad you had a great time!

Twingle
06-20-2006, 05:21 PM
Just found this thread, and can I just say how sad it makes me that you even have to be concerned with this?

I was at Epcot on June 10th, and there was a lovely couple at the water fountains that were taking pictures of each other. It was evident that they really wanted a picture together by the fountains, and since my girls were sleeping in the stroller, I offered to take one of them. I was so surprised when one asked, "Do you mind if we kiss?". My response was "Only if he doesn't want you to kiss him!"

I would think nothing of giving my DH a peck while at Disney or anywhere else, and I'm so sorry that society as it is right now makes you think twice about being affectionate with your partner. I only hope that my generation teaches their children to be much more understanding of one another.

To paraphrase the late great Albus Dumbledore, there is nothing wrong with having more love in the world.

MrVisible
06-21-2006, 01:03 AM
Just found this thread, and can I just say how sad it makes me that you even have to be concerned with this?

I was at Epcot on June 10th, and there was a lovely couple at the water fountains that were taking pictures of each other. It was evident that they really wanted a picture together by the fountains, and since my girls were sleeping in the stroller, I offered to take one of them. I was so surprised when one asked, "Do you mind if we kiss?". My response was "Only if he doesn't want you to kiss him!"
Okay, you've just gone on my 'People who give me faith in humanity' list, right near the top.

To paraphrase the late great Albus Dumbledore, there is nothing wrong with having more love in the world.
I very rarely use this particular expression, but... word.

Marseeya
06-22-2006, 09:02 AM
I'm normally so disgusted by posters who say, "How will I explain it to my kids???" when referring to what may happen during Gay Days, and I just give it a :rolleyes:

However, on our last trip, we went smack dab in the middle of Gay Days, and we took a friend for my DD. DD's friend is 9 years old and her family is very conservative Christian, so for the first time I found myself asking the question, "How will I explain it to this child?" :lmao: I've already explained it to my own kids, but what do you say to someone else's kid when their views aren't nearly as liberal as your own???

We happened to be at 'Ohana during a rather large gathering, where numerous men were dressed up in flamboyant red hats and they were having a total blast. They were SO cute, and they were just so open and having a good time -- I saw plenty of PDAs (nothing that wouldn't disgust me anymore than if a straight couple were doing it, know what I mean?), and let me tell you what. The girls both took it in stride and didn't notice a thing.

In other words, they weren't unduly traumatized. :rolleyes:

Oh, and for the record, I decided that, if the subject came up with DD's friend, I was just going to give her an overly simplistic explanation of "sometimes boys like boys, and sometimes girls like girls" and tell her to go to her mother for more details.

Twingle
06-22-2006, 09:20 AM
Okay, you've just gone on my 'People who give me faith in humanity' list, right near the top.


I very rarely use this particular expression, but... word.


:hug: Well, you just made my day. Glad that I could give you some faith from the hetro front. I promise, not all of us are trying to force you into a "traditional" arrangement.

GotFids
06-22-2006, 04:10 PM
Wow. I'm blown away. I'm sorry that this is even an issue. I'm in my own little world, worrying about bills, car repair, getting my teen aged son to take his grades seriously. I never thought that sharing a sweet, loving gesture for some couples would be something to question. Being a mom I do appreciate the thoughtfulness you all seem to give to others and their ability to handle situations that may make them uncomfortable. And as a parent of a very bright and curious 10 year old...it's a subject that came up years ago and not at Disney. When my daughter was 7, she was invited to a birthday party of a little girl from her gymnastics class. I didn't know the parents other than waiting for the girls to finish gym class. So when I called to get more info on the party and to get to know them I realized they were a 2 Mommy household (hope this is an appropriate term?). I knew it was time to have a talk, before she got to the party and put her foot in her mouth..(gets that from me). So I told her that her friend has 2 mommies. She wanted to know how, and why...of course! So very matter of factly I said, "God makes all of us just the way He wants us. God doesn't make mistakes, so if you love a man or a woman when you grow up, that's what you're supposed to do, just be a good person." her reply..."Oh, okay. That's cool! Two mommies!"

What a relief...no traumatic experience, I think I was holding my breath the whole time!!! So if she sees any pda's anywhere between same sex couples...it's all love.

She's almost 11 now, and the other day, her best friend's mom told them they can't hold hands any longer....isn't that just sad???!!! Made me so angry. Two lovely little girls that adore each other just learned shame for being themselves by a parent. Such a sad world when cruelty is considered cool, but signs of affection are frowned upon.

Please accept my apologies. I wish straight people were as considerate of others. Oh and my kids need to see others that can be openly affectionate since their parents have been married for over 20 years now...not too much kissing and cuddling any more going on here!! Life can just get in the way. I'm just too darn tired :faint:

Julie

hamlet35_2000
06-26-2006, 05:41 AM
Please accept my apologies. I wish straight people were as considerate of others. Oh and my kids need to see others that can be openly affectionate since their parents have been married for over 20 years now...not too much kissing and cuddling any more going on here!! Life can just get in the way. I'm just too darn tired :faint:

Julie

Thanks for the support. Parents like you are why gay marriage is not going to be an issue for the next generation of America. (I just wish we could get through this generation with a little less hate)

mickeyfan2
06-26-2006, 06:19 AM
DH an I were at WDW during gay days 2006 and we saw the casual stuff that the OP described by all types of people. We found nothing bother some about any of it. Our only complain is the people who wore shirts with implications that younger kids can read and then question. We find them funny in a group of all adults but so very wrong in a place like WDW. Everybody please leave them home when you visit WDW.

PghLybrt
06-26-2006, 05:30 PM
I live my life the way I live my life and that means in my home, in my city and yes even Walt Disney World. I am not changing and hiding who I am to accommodate anybody, regardless of age. Sorry if what I do or wear offends you . Actually I am not sorry, there is a need for dialogue in this country and it thatís what starts it then so be it.

After reading that I see that I come off a little harsh, but I purposely do not try to wear things or act in a way that are offensive to people. I just act and wear things that reflect me as a person.

mickeyfan2
06-26-2006, 06:31 PM
I just act and wear things that reflect me as a person.
The shirt that I was refering to was about a man's private parts. This does not belong at WDW.I don't think that is what you were refering to.

PghLybrt
06-27-2006, 05:26 PM
The shirt that I was refering to was about a man's private parts. This does not belong at WDW.I don't think that is what you were refering to.

i see tons of those johnson tshirts on young boys and (straight) guys who find them funny ( not to mention all the abercrombie tshirts)...i find them distasteful.......but i am sure there is objections to some of my choices too.

MagneticxBoy
06-29-2006, 10:33 PM
LOL.. I rember when I was about 6 years old we went to Disney during gay days and I clearly rember waiting in line to get on the monorail and wondering why all these guys were holding hands and acting friendly to eachother.. Right on the spot my dad explained it to me and I rember saying really loud "EWWW THATS REALLY GROSS".. haha :rotfl2:

But on a serious note, I really can't understand why you feel uncomofortable explaining it to your kids.. I don't understand the conflict in that really :confused3

Marseeya
06-29-2006, 11:06 PM
But on a serious note, I really can't understand why you feel uncomofortable explaining it to your kids.. I don't understand the conflict in that really :confused3

I had no problems explaining it to my kids, but it was so different wondering what I'd say to someone else's child! I know my views are far more liberal than any of my friends.

lillielil
06-30-2006, 07:14 AM
I had no problems explaining it to my kids, but it was so different wondering what I'd say to someone else's child! I know my views are far more liberal than any of my friends.


I have no problem with making other people's kids better people, but I know that's just me.

DawnM
06-30-2006, 08:06 AM
I really commend you for that.

My kids are too young to have a lesson about the birds and the bees yet and I don't want actions in public of insensitive people (gay or strait) to force me into having to explain it too early! (unless some of you who have the attitude of "I do whatever I want when I want and I don't care about you people would like to explain it to my kids!)



Thank you!,

Dawn

I have no problem with making other people's kids better people, but I know that's just me.

Marseeya
06-30-2006, 08:14 AM
I have no problem with making other people's kids better people, but I know that's just me.

"Better" is too subjective. It's not my place to impose my views on someone else's young child. A teenager, I wouldn't have a problem having that kind of talk with, but not one who's so young.

I know this is kind of comparing apples and oranges, but I wouldn't appreciate another parent trying to make my kids "better" by converting them to Christianity, so I don't feel the right to impose my views on their kids either. :)

RockNGirl26
07-02-2006, 02:36 AM
I've seen some pretty dreadful t-shirts on people in the parks over the past couple of years too. I guess WDW must not censor the messages on them anymore?


i also noticed this when i was there last week. i forget exactly what the shirt stated but i remember finding it offensive - not directly toward me but i just felt it was inappropriate for the atmosphere. i was nervous about wearing short shorts to the park, and here was this man in a beat up, offensive shirt! i feel like disney is so innocent and there are so many young kids around i want to set an example of sorts, and of course i dont want to offend parents! this may not be pda but i also noticed a LOT of rude, dirty comments being made toward me and my best friend. men didnt even try to disguise their remarks, even right in front of children! i couldnt believe this, i was shocked. :sad2: