Help... DH doesnt want to go

[Fourfun]

Hi All... I need help... I have planned and payed for a trip to WDW in Aug
staying for 8 nights at the POR... Now I need help convincing my DH..
He said we could go... but now he keeps making tons of excuses... He first said He would go but only if we flew...absoulty NO WAY was he driving to Disney.. It is 19 hours... So I searched and searched and found a good deal on Delta.. I booked and paid them in full.. Then he said the food would be to expensive ... So I told him to look at the menus on Allears and we would decide if we wanted to add the Dining... well.. he looked at all of 3 menus..
I am so frustrated.. I'll I hear is .. I dont want to go.. it will be too hot.. too crowded.. I keep trying to explain.. Yes it is going to be HOT .. but there is a ton of stuff in the ac ... and we can take breaks back at the hotel in the pool... (thats one of the reasons I booked a 9 day trip) he doesnt want to waste 6 vacation days on someplace he doesnt want to go anyway
(he gets 5 weeks) six days barley puts a dent in it..... We live in OH he says if you want to go to a park.. we will just stay at Cedar Point or Kings Island... He doesnt understand how Cool Disney is... he nor the kids have ever been there.... He would rather sit on the beach for 7 days...(did that the last 2 years in a row)......
Sorry for going on and on .. but just wandered if anyone else has had this problem???? And What the Heck do you do About IT ???
(I said he could stay home.... but I Really dont want him to miss the experience either)
Sorry .. I am just SOOOO FRUSTRATED ....

[laura001]

Yeah, leave him home and take the kids yourself if that is an option.

Seriously though, it sounds like he really doesn't want to go, although I guess it doesn't matter to him that you want to go. Somewhere there has to be a compromise, like you did his kind of vacation the past few years.

If it is not too hot for him to sit on a beach somewhere else, what is up with doing it at WDW? My DH is no where near into WDW as I am, but he does respect the fact that I am....he does think I am crazy sometimes. I could guarantee you though that if we could afford for me to go more often, we would, that is a fact! I have taken my kids a few times by myself over the years because he was really not into going, BUT our last trip I tried to center it around things that he would like to do.........like the ESPN club, The Boardwalk area, some golf etc. and he had a fabulous time, so much so that we are making our 25th a WDW one. On that one we will do some of the tours and of course take advantage of the Illuminations Cruise, dinner at V & A etc.

I don't know what your DH is into, but perhaps you could find something that he would be interested in, maybe that would help.

[First-timer]

wow......... i almost thought my hubby was leading a double life... :rotfl2: he was the same way!!! it took me 2 years to talk him into it!!!! then in jan. he finnaly gave in just to shut me up!!! i booked in jan. we went 2 weeks ago!!! it was great we had a blast!!! but he said he probably wont ever go back again......sooooooooo i am taking my kids back myself....... i felt very secure and my kids are 15 and 9 both girls so i know i can do it. :thumbsup2 ...... and i am from ohio and i am missing disney(since it has been 2 weeks since i left there) so if you need someone to take your hubbys place i guess i can sacrifice a 9 day vacation back to the mouse... :rotfl2: so let me know when i should pack my bags.... no but seriously once you get him there he will have a blast!!!! vicki

[DLBDS]

We're going at the end of the year. The only way I could get DH to go was to pay for it myself. :rolleyes: DH's aren't such DH's. At least mine isn't MOST of the time. I'm having issues with mine at the moment.... :headache: :mad:

[maddhatir]

I also love Disney more than DH- however, in sept- it will be our 11th trip. he usually goes with the flow......i would love to go every year- but he says he is "disney-ed out"

so- what i did- i doubled our vacation budget just so that we can afford to take 2 vacations a year- one for him and one for me! but if we happen not to take 2 in a year- there is more money for the next!

this way we dont have to say-- "well we did what YOU wanted to do last year-- its MY turn to pick the vacation!" :rotfl: it is MY warped sence of compromise! :rotfl2:

[byoung]

My DW doesn't have that problem with me.

[ozarkmom]

My DH is always unhappy on vacation, no matter where we go. I really wish he'd just stay home. It really dawned on me reading that post that the kids and I could probably have a better time without him. The thing is if I suggested that he'd be mad and probably hurt.

[swillis]

My DH is staying home. He doesn't want to do Disney. It's not his kind of vacation at all. So he told me to take the kids and bring a friend. That's exactly what we are doing in May!! :cool1:

[Unregistered]

Do just like me and leave him at home. I am taking my best friend, my mother, and my 2 sons. Planning on having a WONDERFUL time!!!!

[Fourfun]

Thanks.. Maybe your right.... Maybe I will just leave him at home and take my brother or MIL ... Since the trip is already paid for except food I am sure it wont be hard to find someone to go.....I just dont understand how someone wouldnt want to go ... At least once... (next time he isnt invited :teeth: )
My DS is 17 and he is so excited... and the other DS is 10. Every 10 year old wants to go.......

Thanks Again ... I know we will have a great time ... Even if DH decides to stay home.... (I just want him to go once)

[bowlesx3]

My DH HATES going. A couple days he stayed at the hotel while DS and I went to MK. Actually one morning they both stayed and I went by myself, rode Space Mtn (DS is too little) and I looked in all the shops I never get to go into. I had a blast!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know what you are feeling.

[eblack0409]

I would leave him at home....take your kids and enjoy it!

[AJKMOM]

Unfortunately, when you check out the DIS, you think everyone must love Disney. But, in the "real world" there are a lot who don't want to ever go "too expensive, too crowded, too hot". No matter when you went, they would have an excuse not to go.

We are a Disney family, so that's not the issue, however, I have taken the kids plenty of times to other places DH didn't want to go, and it was fine. We are still married :rotfl: , still going to Disney, and going without him to places he isn't interested in.

[sajetto]

I say leave him at home. You and the kids will have a great time and you'd probably just hear him complaining the whole time if he went

[disgram]

I got tired of pleading with DH to go with me. No dice. Finally he paid for me to go with my DD and DGDs. (Think that he was getting tired of hearing me!) We had a great time!!! Now this trip he is paying for and I am going with my DGD and her friend and her family...Not going to miss him at all!!!! Shoot, if he would pay, I would go by myself!!! I am really into Disney and, sadly, he is not. He would rather stay at home and work. Maybe in a couple years he will go with me again but until then, I am going to go and I am going to enjoy the Magic. This Gramma loves Disney!!!!! pixiedust:

[Disneynutbsv]

Your dh must be my dh's secret twin. I usually go to DW w/o him. Last time he went was 2003. We are all going this August. I had to be sneaky...I booked it during out anniversary and if he wants to be with me he better go (cause I'll go w/o if he puts up a fuss), but its our 15th and he knows this will be an anniversary to always remember so he's humoring me and I think in a way, looking forward to it...once he gets there, he has a great time!! So, I'm not going to get too nervous about it. If its $$ and food he's worried about, maybe you should do the dining plan. That is what I'm doing so that everything will be paid for. The less dh has to pull out his wallet...the better.

[kesha]

My DH isn't a big Disney World Fan either but I have got him there twice. His friends made fun of him going. But after we came back I over heard him telling them that it was nothing like he expected. He really had a good time. Of course he would rather be out west on a hunting trip of some kind. So i go with whoever I can talk in to going (usually my SIL). Hopefully if your DH goes he doesn't ruin the trip for everyone else. I think he will enjoy it if he gives it a chance.

I live in Ohio also, a few hours from Cedar Point. I try to explain to friends that Cedar Point and Disney World are nothing alike. Cedar Point is an amusement park, Disney World is a theme park. I like Cedar Point but I Love Disney World. Thats just my opinion. My daughters would be different.
(She's 27) She hasn't been bitten by the Disney bug yet.

I hope everything works out for you and you have a Great Trip! If your DH keeps giving you a hard time about the trip, go without him. He'll be the one missing out.

[momrek06]

I would make sure that DH went along, as in the end you know you really want him there BUT give him some options....do a day at the POOL, if that is what he wants. Do you really want to go all that way for that length of time without him. Think about that! I mean you already have the plane tickets, unlikely you will be able to get a refund on that ticket.

Also there is Blizzard Beach as well as Typhoon Lagoon to consider. How about an evening at DTD to see Cirque Du Soliel, surely he will LOVE that as that is an OUTSTANDING show.

The character breakfasts are so unique, book one of those and he will certainly love that :jumping1: It does not matter what your age is, those characters bring the kid out in ALL of us!!!

The MAGIC you feel as soon as you walk into the KINGDOM is the GREATEST feeling in the WORLD....yup, in DISNEY'S WORLD!!! :thumbsup2

[pepe of ohio]

My DW doesn't have that problem with me.

No problem in our household, we look for excuses to go, we're both crazy over how much there is to see and do in WDW, and still after 30 some trips and 30 some years. Its even gotten better now that the kids are gone and grown, cheaper because now we multiply by 2 instead of 4 but our daughter and son in law usually go to or meet us there.

DW always wanted to go to Vegas, we don't gamble and I have no inkling to go there, rather have my relaxation at Disney, so I told her to go with her sisters and I'll go to Disney, well, thats not happened yet. We tried the ocean thing, its fun for 2 days, then staring at the water is boring and its in the care looking for something to do. At WDW, everything is there and no car is needed and after you buy tickets you rarely reach in to you wallet for anything besides food.

[Fourfun]

Thanks again for all the ideas... (mostly going on our own) I told him today if he goes today ... I wont ask again ... next times the kids and I will be going it alone... Maybe take a friend.... Thanks again

Only 147 days to go.....

[mapny90]

The fact that you have paid for the trip already doesn't sway him to go????

Anyway, DH doesn't like Disney either, although we are DVC members. DS and I go off to the parks without DH. DH hangs around the pool, goes to DTD or goes off-site (we always rent a car). The first visit was the hardest, but our compromise is that he doesn't have to go the parks all the time. He'll usually go to EPCOT World Showcase and AKL.

If the money doesn't sway him, I agree with the other posters - go yourself and have a fantastic time!!!

[Fourfun]

The fact that you have paid for the trip already doesn't sway him to go????

Anyway, DH doesn't like Disney either, although we are DVC members. DS and I go off to the parks without DH. DH hangs around the pool, goes to DTD or goes off-site (we always rent a car). The first visit was the hardest, but our compromise is that he doesn't have to go the parks all the time. He'll usually go to EPCOT World Showcase and AKL.

If the money doesn't sway him, I agree with the other posters - go yourself and have a fantastic time!!!


Nope.. He doesnt care. he just doesnt want to go. I know wants he gets there he is going to have fun. Who wouldnt. He loves the water.. that is one of the reasons I picked the POR. If he isnt having fun at the parks he can just sit back and enjoy the hotel "ALONE" I feel so mean saying that

[Harvest02]

Sounds like your DH is like mine! He doesn't enjoy Disney either! He is very anti-Disney(says it costs too much money). Our family of 4 is going in June, and hopefully that will include my husband. He is trying to think of all kinds of excuses for not going! Every time I talk about it, he tells me and the kids to have fun!!!! I hate his attitude, but like others on this board say, Disney is not for everyone. He has been working hard at work(13 hour days), so hopefully when the time comes up 77 days from now, he will be excited to go with us. If not, I plan to take my two kids, ages 9 and 5, anyway. My mom and dad used to take us on all kinds of vacations when I was younger, and that is the fun of childhood in my opinion! Those are the things I remember and cherish! I want my kids to experience the same feelings also, so I am sticking to my plan of leaving on June 9th. I have a feeling my mom would go instead of my husband won't go, but I am still holding out hope that my husband will be gung-ho about going!!!! We sure could use some family time together! Sorry this was long, but I feel your pain! Good luck!!!!!

[Brad&Kryssi]

First off...hi everyone! Just found this forum and will probably be adding it to my list of internet addictions, lol!

I have to admit...I went to Disney in January for my first time and I'm almost 40! Never wanted to go although my daughters went twice with the grandparents.

What happened? I LOVED IT! What started out to be a 3 day became an 8 day. We came home to NJ for a week and a half and...WE WENT BACK for another 2 weeks! (I love that my fiance's work is seasonal)

I wish you could just get him down there and then give him the space and time he needs to get acquainted with it all. This is what I needed and now I'm a freak. Planning our wedding down there and soon to be DVC members.

Just get him down there!!!! Good luck!

[Tiffer]

I now go w/ my Dm 65, DD 9 & DS 12 b/c my DH was such a pain in the a**. He always ruined it for me. BUT if you MUST take him, don't let him do more than 3 1/2 hrs ina park at any one time. take a break, together or apart inthe middle of the day to hang at the pool. Book a water craft or fishing, if he's into that. He can slo go play 18 holes while you guys enjoy the park.

:figment:

[3mickeys&me]

My Dh likes Disney, Just NOT as much as me and our kids. He doesn't mind going once in awhile but not every year like I would like to. LOL I did however get him to do the 7 Day land and Sea Disney Cruise last May. He liked the land portion and had fun on the cruise portion but does NOT wish to cruise again LOL. I don't know why we had a BLAST and there was 18 of us in all. Way cool vacation.

If he doesn't want to go, I say go with out him. Its a shame because he most likely would have fun and make many lasting memories with you and the kids. I wouldn't let it stop me though. Can you get a friend to go with ya??

[Disneydreaming6]

Luckily I don't have this problem. My df loves to go to disney. Butttt, my sister's dh hates it. well not hate it but it's not his type of vacation. She told him one year she was going to book the dis vacation and he said see ya have fun. So she did. she filled the fridge, made sure he had clean underwear, packed up her son and off she went. My bro and family met her down there and she had a great time. The next year she told her dh I'm booking a dis vacation his reply was when do I have to take the week off?
I hope he changes his mind for your sake. Sometimes you just have to do things that aren't your cup of tea to make the other person happy. And if I had to suffer thru a vacation, there is no better place to have to suffer then at disney.

[Ghost]

Fourfun,

I'll go with you :) you just have to ask :thumbsup2

I am a guy and a Disney addict! could go again and again...

[DVCDebb]

Your right go with out them or leave them sit in room. Did this the first year and once he decided we weren't coming back he met us in Magic Kingdom and the rest is history. Now he is big fan and telling everyone it was not what he expected. Even loves Typhoon Lagoon which we make a day out of every year now. Did Cirque De Solel and he liked it too. So Far I have managed to corrupt 5 families and 4 have joined DVC rather quickly. Have found that most people have no real idea what they are getting into until they go. But if they don't go without them and Enjoy.

[CinRell]

Well, I went in sept with my ex... and he complained about way too many things... I still had fun but he did make parts of my trip absolutely miserable. It did somewhat ruin the experience.

[HappyLawyer]

well, leave him at home and have fun

[Danestress]

Well, since he said you could and you have already paid for it, it's probably too late to just say "okay, let's stay home then." Personally, I wouldn't enjoy dragging my husband on a trip he didn't want to go on, nor would I feel right about spending that kind of money to go alone with the kids (unless DH really wanted me to and it wouldn't become a sore spot later).

How about keeping the flight but changing your Disney reservations to just 3 nights, and working in some time hanging out on a beach nearby, if that's more his speed?

[Lovemy3babes]

My husband is the same way! So....he's staying home while my mom, sister and nephew go with the kids and I. :)

[katied]

There's always hope. My DH went for the first time with me this past April. Before that, I went every year with my mother or with girlfriends. He loved it. I was back in December (work convention at BC) and he couldn't wait to fly down and join me. We stayed an extra weekend. We've already planned our trip for September. He's not happy about the heat, but it's the best time for us to go this year. So, the point is that there's hope. My DH waited until he was 38 to decide DW was for him (he even spent a day at Universal on our last trip, and agrees DW is best). Ask your DH to just give it a chance.

[Joann]

you know what? My hubby never takes time of work ( family bussiness) but he will take a week in the winter to go to the carribean. A few years ago went to cancun without the kids and he felt bad they never went away, so when we got home he said go book a trip to take the kids on, I was like wooowhooo ok 2 trips within a few mnths omg I am on it! I booked disney hubby had never been, not even as a kid! This guy is a person who is like , if I go away I want a beach kinda guy.... well after our trip to disney ( his first time there) This is now the only place he wants to go! He never wanted to go there but had no choice as he left the kids trip up to me.... I even lost out on the vote last year I wanted mexico and he out voted me on the family vote for disney! He loved it and even will take 11 days off to go there now every year! I think if you can get him there your DH will like it, mine did and I never would have thought he would. My DH loves rides tho so that helped aswell

[Kewz1]

My Dh was not a Disney person when we met. He had his preconceived ideas of what Disney was all about -- rides for little kids and lots of little kids. He was pleasantly surprised and has grown to really love the place. Last time we were there he looked at me in the MK and thanked me for introducing him to Disney.

I didn't read all the posts so I don't if this was suggested but have you considered ordering the planning video? Maybe this would help. Also, does he like to golf? WDW has some great courses.

I hope you get this all worked out!

Kristen

[themudd4]

My DH did the same thing before I "MADE" him go the first time. Now he is the one that decided we would go back this year instead of the cruise I was already planning. I created a Mouseoholic. Just make sure he knows you reallllllly want him to go, and trick and black mail him if possible. Tell him if he really wants to go sit in the sand...they have beaches at WDW too, or only about an hours drive to a "real" beach!
I love Kings Island too, but nothing beats WDW!

[Fourfun]

Thanks SO much for all your great stories and ideas.. Glad to hear my DH isnt the only insane person on the planet.... By the way.. I havent really been talking about it.. But last night I did get him to watch the disney Imagineers special that I recorded a week or so ago... He kept asking ..
Is that there??? Are we going to do that ?? That looks really cool !!! :cool1:
Yeh !!! :banana: :banana: :banana: Maybe he will have a good time........ Thanks again...

[Brad&Kryssi]

^^^So glad to hear that!!!

Trust me...as a recently converted Mouseaholic, he'll learn (like I did) that there is PLENTY of adult style magic to be had.

Enjoy!
Kryssi

[Disney Girlie-Wirlie]

I only just got married almost a year ago and my DH and I don't have kids yet. We went to WDW for the 1st part of our honeymoon after my persistent begging. I think he agreed to it b/c it was our honeymoon and ya just can't upset the bride like that-not if you wanna stay married to her! Plus, I said we HAVE to go, we got engaged there!
I hope when we do have a family that we will be a Disney Family! I'm a Disney Girl and I'm working on him, even though he just doesn't get it. He likes it there and we have fun when we go, but he wouldn't exactly be in tears if he never went back ever again. He would go, but he wouldn't be the one to say "So honey, you wanna go to WDW"?

I've come to realize that I am always going to be the one to ask that question.
Last October, my twin sister and I went by ourselves and left the guys at home-we had such a good time! I can't wait to do that again! And my husband would have no objection to that at all. I think I have several Disney trips with my sister in the future.

[momrek06]

Thanks SO much for all your great stories and ideas.. Glad to hear my DH isnt the only insane person on the planet.... By the way.. I havent really been talking about it.. But last night I did get him to watch the disney Imagineers special that I recorded a week or so ago... He kept asking ..
Is that there??? Are we going to do that ?? That looks really cool !!! :cool1:
Yeh !!! :banana: :banana: :banana: Maybe he will have a good time........ Thanks again...


AWESOME, FOURFUN: He sounds like slowly but surely he is starting to come around....YIPPEE SKIPPEE!!!! Take all this very slowly...baby steps...or maybe "mouse" steps....!!!
Keep those Travel Channel and Discovery Channel SPECIALS going. Actually, go on Travel Channel.com and check their schedule for the different specials regarding WDW. They have been having quite a few lately. Tape them and save them for special times to view!!!! :thumbsup2

[Grumpy23]

I guess my husband must be rare. He is a major Disney fan, and he is 53. :yay: When we got engaged in 2003, it was his suggestion to go to Disney World for our honeymoon. I had never been there before and was thinking more of a tropical type honeymoon. When he suggested WDW I was pleasantly surprised that he would enjoy something like that and immediately said yes for that being our honeymoon location.

We have gone back every year since. It's 31 days and counting till our next visit. Every year when we go, we already start talking about returning the next year. It's just assumed among us that we will return. My DS will be 15 and this will be his 3rd year in a row going too. We are all excited, as usual :banana:

I truly hope your DH enjoys himself if he decides to go.

[princesssonny]

The first time my DH and I went was May 2004 with our 2 1/2 year old DS along with my mom, sister, stepdad, and grandma. I thougt he would hate it although he did agree to go for our son's sake. First let me tell you about my DH, he is kind of a roughneck, lots of tattoos, earrings, and into motorcycles things like that. Not exactly a Disney type of person. After we went the first time he was in love with it. We went again in October of 2005 (just the three of us) and have our third trip planned this October. I have attached some photos below on just how goofy he gets and how much fun we all have (he doesn't care about the money anymore because he loves it so much). If I ever went without him he would probably divorce me lol. Hopefully, you can talk your DH into it because I think he will enjoy it he just doesn't know it.

http://i78.photobucket.com/albums/j109/PrincessSonny/DSC02168.jpg

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[momrek06]

I guess my husband must be rare. He is a major Disney fan, and he is 53. :yay: When we got engaged in 2003, it was his suggestion to go to Disney World for our honeymoon. I had never been there before and was thinking more of a tropical type honeymoon. When he suggested WDW I was pleasantly surprised that he would enjoy something like that and immediately said yes for that being our honeymoon location.

We have gone back every year since. It's 31 days and counting till our next visit. Every year when we go, we already start talking about returning the next year. It's just assumed among us that we will return. My DS will be 15 and this will be his 3rd year in a row going too. We are all excited, as usual :banana:

I truly hope your DH enjoys himself if he decides to go.

I am proud to say ME TOO, GRUMPY! I actually was a serious sun ADDICT and as we were planning our Honeymoon, DH was GAGGING at the thought of a tropical island as DH is blonde blonde hair, and pale, fish-belly white skin and to him laying on a beach for 2 weeks was NOT happening. DH then says "I know, dear how you can get YOUR SUN and I can get MY FUN"..... "WHERE?" I said and DH shouts DISNEYWORLD....okay I say, even though I was 25y.o. and had NEVER been there...OFF TO WDW we go, it was 1980 and only ONE PARK, MK and we stayed at the CR and the MAGIC officially BEGAN!!! pixiedust: pixiedust:

[mikymouse]

My DH did not want to go and waste the vacation time and money. He finally agreeed to make the kids and me happy. I planed to make everyone have at least one good part each day, but it turned out to be more. For DH... It helped to make dinning plans to feed the king (1 sit down meal a day), schedule lots of pool time and took a laid back approach to our days, and scheduled a Parent's night out. He is already planning the next trip himself... the joy it brought the kids was priceless. Mission Accomplished... he loved it! ;)