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wilma-bride
02-22-2006, 04:52 PM
After reading a couple of the posts on the DIS London Meet thread, it got me thinking that, although I am excited, I am quite nervous about the DIS meet on 12th March. I find it quite difficult to meet/make new friends and tend to over-compensate by being quite gobby when I first meet people :blush: I have also been told that I can come across as quite 'hard', which isn't me at all.

So, do you worry about what people think of you? How do you cope with meeting new people? Is anyone else 'worried' about the DIS meet? Am I just being daft?

mandymouse
02-22-2006, 04:56 PM
Don't worry Joh, you'll be fine, I'm quite gobby too so we should keep the conversation going for most of the day :lmao: :lmao: I also get very nervous before meeting people, so we're going to be a right pair together. I'm really looking forward to meeting everyone in the 'flesh' too. It should be a great day

Mandy :)

jen_uk
02-22-2006, 04:59 PM
You two sound great as I can be really quiet when I first meet people so you can do all the talking!!

wilma-bride
02-22-2006, 05:01 PM
Don't worry Joh, you'll be fine, I'm quite gobby too so we should keep the conversation going for most of the day :lmao: :lmao: I also get very nervous before meeting people, so we're going to be a right pair together. I'm really looking forward to meeting everyone in the 'flesh' too. It should be a great day

Mandy :)

Mandy, as I'm going to the Swindon meet and you're going to the Northern one, if we can hear each other then that is proof positive that we're both really loud :rotfl2:

I'm kind of wishing I was going to the Northern meet now - you might make me seem quiet in comparison ;)

So, I'm the only one who worries what people think then :scratchin

mandymouse
02-22-2006, 05:11 PM
Mandy, as I'm going to the Swindon meet and you're going to the Northern one, if we can hear each other then that is proof positive that we're both really loud :rotfl2:

I'm kind of wishing I was going to the Northern meet now - you might make me seem quiet in comparison ;)

So, I'm the only one who worries what people think then :scratchin

:rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:

There you go, I'll add stupid to my gobby and nervous :rotfl:

jns
02-22-2006, 05:13 PM
Just be yourselves princess:
and enjoy the met

wish i could go pixiedust:

Netty
02-22-2006, 05:21 PM
I am not really nervous about going to the north dis meet :eek: just think that as i'm going on my own i might end up on my lonesome! does this make sense :confused3 :scared:

UKDEB
02-22-2006, 05:27 PM
Is it too late to back out? I was OK until I read about all you gobby people! ;)

I'm in a business development role and I have to meet new people all the time. I still get apprehensive, but I just reassure myself with the knowledge that most people are down to earth and that I invariably leave an appointment wondering what I was worrying about.

alisonbestford
02-22-2006, 05:33 PM
I'll be going to the Sheffield DIS meet on my own - as far as I know :rolleyes:

I have a very convenient 'work head' that I put on when I'm nervous - just call me Worzel Gummidge :rotfl:

......might make me a bit 'gobby' too I guess :scratchin

carolfoy
02-23-2006, 04:45 AM
Do I worry what people think of me?
I couldn't care less!!
Unfortunately being blessed with an ego the size of Texas EVERYONE loves me :love: :love: :love:

:rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:
Hee Hee :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:

Minniespal
02-23-2006, 04:54 AM
I'm sure you will all be just fine.

Working as a counsellor I meet new people all the time. I still get nervous when I meet someone for the first time and sometimes I tell them that I am nervous, usually they are too. I find being myself works best.

I bet you will all have a fantastic time :goodvibes

Funniebunny
02-23-2006, 05:35 AM
I get really nervous when I meet new people too. I will probably change my outfit 5 times and then want to go home whilst on the way there. I'm just the same though, I end up chatting like an idiot but that's not like me at all.
We'll just look out for people who look like a nervous wreck when we get there, at least then we'll know who we are meeting :teeth:

wils
02-23-2006, 05:37 AM
Do I worry what people think of me?
I couldn't care less!!

Great attitude Carol.

I worry constantly and often read too much into it when people are just unorganised or thoughtless

Wish I could come to Swindon (Almost the only time I've thought that!) I'll aim to next year as DS will be older then and we'll either all come or DH can take the kids to visit his sister who lives locally

Joh - don't worry you come across lovely :goodvibes (do as I say not as I do!)

fizz13
02-23-2006, 05:39 AM
Hi Joh,
I was fine until I read Mandymouse might be there and then my heart started reacing a little :teeth: That would be like meeting DIS royalty. However, it was a misunderstanding all round. :hyper:
I think I'll be fine until I pull into the pub car park and then I will freak out. However bringing DD is my secret weapon because I will have to be normal for her sake. Don't worry Joh, we'll all be fine together, and of course we know we all have one major interest in common.

See you soon hun,
Claire xx :grouphug:

ely3857
02-23-2006, 06:23 AM
I do worry to an extent what people think, everyone wants to be liked :teeth:

When I meet new new people (ones I havnt seen or spoken to or DISed with ever) I do get the 'hard' bit, once me & the stanger know each other better they often refer to me as a bit 'standoffish' when we first met.

I am worried about the Northern Meet, but I am sure once the 'formal' introductions are out of they way we will be fine :goodvibes

:sunny:

Jodie

BONZO
02-23-2006, 06:29 AM
Be afraid...very afraid! - LOL


:scared:


Just bring a sense a humour and beer money and you'll be just fine! :hyper:


Serously though, I've been to over a dozen or so meets up and down the country and rest assured you'll be fine - it's always interesting matching peoples "board persona" to real life.

natalielongstaff
02-23-2006, 06:32 AM
i used to really worry about other peoples perseption of me but the older i get the less i seem to care :rotfl2:

i will be at the northern meet on my own as well :)

alisonbestford
02-23-2006, 06:39 AM
I'll probably have to catch you all up at Nando's as I'll have to drop DH and DD off at her party on the way :sunny:

So, whilst everyone else has done the groundbreaking 'getting to know you' bit, I'll be the 'Newbie' :eek:

florida sun
02-23-2006, 08:10 AM
Do I worry what people think of me?
I couldn't care less!!
Unfortunately being blessed with an ego the size of Texas EVERYONE loves me :love: :love: :love:

:rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2: :rotfl2:
Hee Hee :lmao: :lmao: :lmao:


:thumbsup2 :thumbsup2 :thumbsup2

Laurafoster
02-23-2006, 08:29 AM
Im terrible with meeting new people! I have that a lot in my job, my problem is as im so much younger than most of my collegues (Only 21 in March!) i always feel a bit intimidated!

Tink78
02-23-2006, 08:35 AM
I get nervous before I meet people, but it depends what mood I'm in really.

I am thinking about going to the London meet in May if I can make it, and will be going on my own....eek!
Will be nervous until I get there.

Kevin Stringer
02-23-2006, 01:02 PM
I suppose everyone gets a little nervous when going into an unknown situation for the first time.
But,like I said on the other thread, DIS meets are somewhat different. We all have one thing in common and that subject alone could fill up a couple of months at least!

I've never been to a meet yet where everyone wasn't chatting merrily away within a few minutes of arriving.

Fret not ladies all will be well. I take it you all know about the first rule of DIS meets? Always buy Kevin Stringer a beer. I believe it's hidden deep down in the DIS guidelines somewhere.

There is one thing to be concerned about - if you are going to the London meet, watch out for Shaun's (Bonzo) shirt. That truly will be frightening! ;)

Kev

Queenie
02-23-2006, 02:32 PM
I always get very nervous before meeting new people and will most likely be on the verge of throwing up in the car coming down :( I'll be at the Northern meet on my own too. I know what you mean about being called "standoffish", I get that too but it couldn't be further from the truth!!

mushumadness
02-23-2006, 03:44 PM
I do worry

I will be at the meet on the 12th, and I have come to the point where I am as I am take me or leave me, too many other things in life to go through.

I am generally quiet, and may take a while to say anything

UKDEB
02-23-2006, 03:49 PM
I am generally quiet, and may take a while to say anything
You'd better get over that, Anna. With all these gobby people about, you may not get a word in edgeways! ;)

Englands Disney Gang
02-23-2006, 04:27 PM
Im fat....I am so nervous that people just look at me and think that by looking at me that they can judge my lifestyle. DH is always complaining that I 'put myself down' but I just cant help it and think that by the way I look people sometimes speak to me as they wish!!
This then makes me nervous and gives me low self esteem.....but I will be going to the Sheffield meet as I am pretty sure I wont be judged on how I look!!

Netty
02-24-2006, 05:53 AM
Im fat....I am so nervous that people just look at me and think that by looking at me that they can judge my lifestyle. DH is always complaining that I 'put myself down' but I just cant help it and think that by the way I look people sometimes speak to me as they wish!!
This then makes me nervous and gives me low self esteem.....but I will be going to the Sheffield meet as I am pretty sure I wont be judged on how I look!!
I used to feel just the same about myself, i know how you feel.
my dh said that i always put my self down and couldnt take compliments either because i didnt believe they were true. Once you start taking a look at all your good points you will feel better about yourself! just remember no ones perfect and even those supermodels find fault in themselves.
Jeanette :hug:

carolfoy
02-24-2006, 05:56 AM
Im fat....I am so nervous that people just look at me and think that by looking at me that they can judge my lifestyle. DH is always complaining that I 'put myself down' but I just cant help it and think that by the way I look people sometimes speak to me as they wish!!
This then makes me nervous and gives me low self esteem.....but I will be going to the Sheffield meet as I am pretty sure I wont be judged on how I look!!


If its any consolation, I'm fat too!! But I figure theres too many people in the world with real personality problems - I'm not two faced, I'm not dishonest, I'm neither prefudiced nor disloyal, If people don't like me '*** I could do with losing three stone then that's their problem not mine!!

disneyholic family
02-24-2006, 08:01 AM
After reading a couple of the posts on the DIS London Meet thread, it got me thinking that, although I am excited, I am quite nervous about the DIS meet on 12th March. I find it quite difficult to meet/make new friends and tend to over-compensate by being quite gobby when I first meet people :blush: I have also been told that I can come across as quite 'hard', which isn't me at all.

So, do you worry about what people think of you? How do you cope with meeting new people? Is anyone else 'worried' about the DIS meet? Am I just being daft?


It's one of the great things about getting older. You care less and less about what other people think. At the ripe old age of 50, I couldn't care less about what others think. It's their problem not mine.

As for coping with meeting new people. I'm kind of your typical chatty American....you know the kind...we chit chat with every stranger we meet. So it's really not a problem for me when meeting new people. And for some reason i've never had problems with things like interviews and high pressure situations like that. I'm not sure why that is, but it's always been true of me.

Regarding whether you're daft or not. No you're not. It's actually quite natural to be nervous about meeting new people. The only thing bad about it would be if you let it stop you from doing something. But since you're going ahead with the meet, clearly, you're not letting your nervousness stop you from living. So that's good.

I'm sure you'll have fun meeting the disers!