If I hear "You're having a THIRD? Are you CRAZY??" again I am gonna SCREAM!!

[Grendalynn]

What a week it has been! DH and I recently found out that we are expecting Dear Child#3 in October. Being cautious and doing the whole "dont tell anyone tile the 3rd month thing". we have waited til about 8 wks before telling our friends, Family and co-workers. :thumbsup2 But Honestly - If I hear one more, "Oh My God! You are having a 3rd Child!!?? :eek: Are you Crazy?" again, I am going to scream!! Or Punch someone in the nose! LOL Most say Congratulations and mean it, but others say it 'cause their supposed to and look at me like I have 3 heads!!

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? All children were/are planned I might add - And whose business is it to tell me what is socially acceptable and whats not? I am beside myself !! :headache: With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!! pixiedust:

[huey duey & luey]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have 3 and I think it is wonderful :goodvibes

[lulugirl]

I would love to have a third child!
I think anyone who asks "are you crazy"....is really quite rude.

[mantysk8coach]

I think three kids is perfectly normal, especially that spread out! We are planning on having three also, and if things go according to plan, about the same age span.

People just don't think before they speak sometimes. Or they think they are trying to be funny...

Congratulations!

[DisneyMomx7]

You think that's bad - try having seven! A third child will be a wonderful addition to your family. I had four children and thought I was done. I had cancer and a year of chemo and the doctor told me I wouldn't have any more children - surprise!!! I was 39 when I found out I was pregnant with my fifth and there were 12 years between number 4 and number 5. People definitely thought I was crazy. They thought I was even more crazy when we had number 6 and 7 but we didn't want our dd to feel like an only child with such a large age spread between #4 and her. We can't imagine our lives without the last three and people definitely thought we were crazy.

[MOMOFMNM]

we have three...

and want to have a 4th one day!!!!

we love kids!! I can not believe some people!!

seriously, sometimes the third seems to be a lot because we have a "spare" KWIM???

That is why we may add on :hug: who knows!!

congrats on the third baby!!

I do not know why people have an aversion to larger families these days... but we LOVE ours and would not change it for the world :grouphug:

[Becky2005]

Congratulations!!

Wait until you get to baby #4. LOL! Not too many even blink an eye about #3 around here but once you hit #4 you get the occasional comment (which I'm sure are the same ones you have gotten for having #3 - having 1 boy & 1 girl - made having #3 also an *occasional* comment but not too bad around here.)

[LauraAnn630]

Its really none of there business! I know people that have 6 or more kids. Its a personal choice. A baby is always a blessing! I think we need to worry more about the millions of abortions! Pray for the unborn!



I think what people are really trying to saying is...

Thats A LOT of...


proms

graduation parties

weddings and receptions

college tuitions

and work in general!!!

We all know how much money it takes to raise children! We chose not to have anymore children because we wanted to make sure we could give to 2 children we have the best of everything.

[hopesmommy]

I only have one child and am exhausted watching her. I admire anyone that can handle more than one. I am happy for you! I thought I wanted more. Sometimes I still do. If we do, we will adopt.

[pigget74]

Congratulations-----We were shocked when we found out about number 3 but, I cannot imagine my life without him. People did out right ask us if he was planned because of the age span--11, 8, and now 5mths. Our friends laughed and asked if he was our souvie from Disney---that would have been great, but no. Every person has what they invision as the perfect number for their family-and then can't believe other people would want more or less-we are even considering having number 4 just because of the age difference. If you are happy then don't let it get to you.

[marcyinPA]

What a week it has been! DH and I recently found out that we are expecting Dear Child#3 in October. Being cautious and doing the whole "dont tell anyone tile the 3rd month thing". we have waited til about 8 wks before telling our friends, Family and co-workers. :thumbsup2 But Honestly - If I hear one more, "Oh My God! You are having a 3rd Child!!?? :eek: Are you Crazy?" again, I am going to scream!! Or Punch someone in the nose! LOL Most say Congratulations and mean it, but others say it 'cause their supposed to and look at me like I have 3 heads!!

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? All children were/are planned I might add - And whose business is it to tell me what is socially acceptable and whats not? I am beside myself !! :headache: With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!! pixiedust:


We've actually been talking about going for #3. My two are quite a bit older though: I have two DS's ages 11 (in May) and 7 (in May).

That "What are you thinking" response is one of the things that scares me. My family doesn't hold back on their opinions, and they thought I was crazy for having 2. :confused3

I'd go for it anyway, but I'm very nervous about my age (38 in June) and finances (always finances!) :sad2:

I wish you the best of luck!! Happy and healthy 9 months!! :hug:

[princessjv]

Congrats! It seems that 'everyone' is having 3 lately! I keep hearing "3 is the new 2"! We, too are planning for 3, but not for a few years (we are going for a similar spacing of ages to yours).

Maybe next time you tell someone that you are prego, with #3, make a statement like, "We are so excited! We are pregnant with #3. And NO we are not crazy, we just have a lot more room in our lives to love another beautiful child!"

Good Luck and congrats!

[jennafo3]

I get the same comments all the time and I'm pregnant with our 4th!!! Our children (all girls) are 6,4, and 2 and the question I get most (after, wow, you're crazy) is "wow, gotta try for that boy, huh?? as if my family wouldn't be complete without a boy (don't get me wrong, boys are great, but i would love having 4 little girls)

[pigget74]

Just thought that I would add---all of my friends laughed when they found out when the baby was due---September----my oldes son is September, my daughter is September, and now the little man is September. I got a lot of comments on how much we enjoy the month of December--even from his mother :eek:

[DisneyPhD]

Congrats! It seems that 'everyone' is having 3 lately! I keep hearing "3 is the new 2"! We, too are planning for 3, but not for a few years (we are going for a similar spacing of ages to yours).

Maybe next time you tell someone that you are prego, with #3, make a statement like, "We are so excited! We are pregnant with #3. And NO we are not crazy, we just have a lot more room in our lives to love another beautiful child!"

Good Luck and congrats!

I hope that is true. I am so sick of how everything is made for families of 4 now a days. I have 3 older brothers and now as a mother of 2 girls myself I think my mom was a little nuts, but I am sure glad she didn't stop at 2! :rotfl:

I really don't know if we will have more, but I can see myself having another child a few years down the line. The thing is just because some other people don't feel they can handel more then 2 children doesn't mean you can't! Honeslty most families that I know with 3 or more kids are the nicest families in the world with the best kids. The families really work together, the kids are responible, well behaved ands smart. Mostly because they HAVE to be. They learn to help others and work together. I think if we had more famlies with 3 or more kids society would be better off. It is too easy to spoil just one or 2 kids! (belive me I know.)

I really noticed a difference between being pregnant with my 1st and 2nd. With my second people (family and friends) were much less excited. People rather felt I should know what is coming. Who cares?

jennafo3, I feel the same way with 3 girls, if I had another child (or more) a boy would be fine, but I would be equaly thrilled with another girl! princess:

Every baby is a wonderful joyful event! (even if pregnancy does bite, at least for me :( ) Congradulations! How wonderful for you and your family. :cheer2: :cheer2: :grouphug: :woohoo:

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I think what people are really trying to saying is...

Thats A LOT of...


proms

graduation parties

weddings and receptions

college tuitions

and work in general!!!

We all know how much money it takes to raise children! We chose not to have anymore children because we wanted to make sure we could give to 2 children we have the best of everything.

It makes sense but doesn't make the statement any more funny or any less rude.

We practice NFP--and I can't wait until we are planning #3 and possibly #4...and how much I will hear "I guess it didn't work then". :rolleyes: I already have my reply ready--"I can show you the charts to show you that it did indeed work." :hyper:

[SanDiegoDayTripper]

Another mother of three here! The last one, my ds almost 3, was my idea, and the whole extended family thought I was nuts after my middle son was born 10 weeks premature. This is it for us, but I can't imagine my family any differently.

My husband always jokes that we are now on a zone defense instead of a man-to-man.

[Lives4Disney]

Congratulations!!!! :grouphug: People say dumb things - that's just a fact. Either they are jealous or just clueless or just plain insensitive. ;)

I have 3 kids and would have more, but my husband doesn't feel the same. I had my third when my son was 9 and my youngest was 3 1/2. The age spread has worked out wonderfully. They each got my full attention when they were babies/toddlers. I had a ball with each of them. Now I have a high schooler and two little girls and in grade school.

People would say to me that I was nuts because here I was 33 yrs old and pregnant and would be sitting by the kiddie pool until I was almost 40! So what!!!?? To each her own. I wouldn't go back for the world. My youngest is such a joy and adds such a sparkle to our lives. :sunny:

Enjoy!! Live you life as YOU want and don't let others' thoughtless comments bring you down. :goodvibes

Lives4Disney :sunny:

[Beca]

Well....from someone who had a very difficult time just getting one "blessing from God"....let me add to the Congratulations!!!

I always have to think that people who say things like that have never struggled to bring babies into this world. I ADORE the one I have, and thank God for her every night, but I do hope to have at least one more someday. We have been trying (off and on) for 4 years...but, God has not seen to bless us again. He knows best, but I still pray for one more.

Enjoy your 3rd blessing!!!

:wave:

Beca

[Grendalynn]

I get the same comments all the time and I'm pregnant with our 4th!!! Our children (all girls) are 6,4, and 2 and the question I get most (after, wow, you're crazy) is "wow, gotta try for that boy, huh?? as if my family wouldn't be complete without a boy (don't get me wrong, boys are great, but i would love having 4 little girls)

Jenna - I know all about that "trying for that XX, eh?" thing. I have 2 boys now and thats what I keep getting asked! But as long as its healthy is all that matters to us! I am 4 of 5 girls in my family! The things my poor parents must have heard, "Trying for that boy ah?" or What you dont have a TV?" or maybe, "4 kids ?? What are you - Crazy?" Then When my Little Sister came along, "5 kids you must be nuts - and all girls??" and lastly, "Good luck when they get in Junior High!" LOL princess:

:coffee: To each his own - I didnt want to wake up when I was 47 and say - "Oh crap! Why didnt we go for tht third baby when we were younger and had discussed it!" And being 1 of 5 - I cant imagine my life only have 1 sibling !!! And believe me we took many many vacation and was completely doable - Thansk the lord for babysitters, Nannys and Aunts!

But its all whats familiar to everyone and who can handle what. pixiedust: No matter how many children I decide to have, I hope and plan to give them the best I/we can and the most important thing is to provide a happy healthy family... With a trip to Disney every other year or so of course! Its the first 18 months thats the hardest, after age 2 its a breeze! ((Remind me that I said that)) :crowded:

[mantysk8coach]

People would say to me that I was nuts because here I was 33 yrs old and pregnant and would be sitting by the kiddie pool until I was almost 40! So what!!!?? To each her own. I wouldn't go back for the world. My youngest is such a joy and adds such a sparkle to our lives. :sunny:

Enjoy!! Live you life as YOU want and don't let others' thoughtless comments bring you down. :goodvibes

Lives4Disney :sunny:

Oh please...33? These days many women don't start having kids until that age or later! I can't believe people think 33 is too old to be having babies. How sad for people who are so closed minded that they think that way.

Save a seat for me by the kiddie pool, because I'll be right there with you! I'm only 28 right now, but by the time we have #3 I'll be well over 30.

Everyone needs to do what feels right for them, and others should respect them for that.

[Grendalynn]

We've actually been talking about going for #3. My two are quite a bit older though: I have two DS's ages 11 (in May) and 7 (in May).

That "What are you thinking" response is one of the things that scares me. My family doesn't hold back on their opinions, and they thought I was crazy for having 2. :confused3

I'd go for it anyway, but I'm very nervous about my age (38 in June) and finances (always finances!) :sad2:

I wish you the best of luck!! Happy and healthy 9 months!! :hug:

Our way of thinking is - "If you wait to afford kids, you will never have kids..." We always seem to make due and afford what we need to afford. More so now than when we were first married with DS#1.
I know what you mean about the close minded people as well and what they might say. Not just with people in general, but my in-laws as well. We havent even told them yet be cause we know they will give us grief. My dear MIL only had 2 kids, so of course everyone else should only have 2 kids... Wrong! They will find out in time, but we want to enjoy the newness of it as much as possible without anyone (else) raining on our parade!! :umbrella: I will have a great comback line for my dear MIL when the time is right - tactful yet to the point! But until then - I am going to enjoy this part of my life!! :woohoo:

And BTW - 38 is not too old! My Mother was prego with babies from the time she was 22 in 1968 right up through being 37 in 1981 when she had my little sister - and that was for 5 kids - not 3!! You are only as young as you feel/act!! :thumbsup2 Trying is always fun anyway

[zachnlucy]

Well, we have 5, ages 9, 9, 11, 18 and 21. Raised the first couple and started on the second set. Can't imagine life without a single one of them. :crowded:

[Snow Brite]

As the mother of four, all less than 6 years apart I got this a lot as well.

If someone asked me if I was crazy...I would reply with..."Obviously, the pregnancy hormones are the only ones that keep me sane!". :crazy2:

If they asked me ..."Don't you know when to quit?!?!" I would say, "When my family feel full thank you". :hug:

And my personal favorite "Don't you know whats causing that?!?!" was ALWAYS answered with a blank look and the reply..."No...can't seem to figure it out...Do you know?" :confused3

Don't feel bad about being rude to people that are being rude to you. Laugh at them and walk away. :rotfl:

I can't imagine my life without all of my children. They might not have as many "things" as they would have if there had been one or two, but they have learned the value of work and working towards something your really want, they are good sharers, and best of all they are best friends with each other. To me, that is much more valuable.

Congratulations on your new baby. Enjoy it!

[runwad]

I have 3 kids all 2 years apart and I have to be honest I never got those comments from anyone when I was expecting the 3rd. I too come from a family of 5 and all my siblings have 3 kids. We had 2 girls then got our boy last, and honestly we always said we wanted 3 or 4 and I probably would've went for 4 if DS wasn't such a handful. He's five now and I'm still waiting for him to calm down a little, boys are so different from girls, but I love my little guy to death and can't dream of life without him!! Don't pay attention to people just enjoy your family, we have a great family life, I'm so blessed with my wonderful husband and great kids, that's all that matters :thumbsup2

[bscs]

Congrats! I only have 2 we wanted 3 but due to health problems had to have a hysterectomy. Three of my closest friends have 5 each :grouphug: 3 is not a lot around here. pixiedust: :wizard:

[DisneyPhD]

Oh please...33? These days many women don't start having kids until that age or later! I can't believe people think 33 is too old to be having babies. How sad for people who are so closed minded that they think that way.

Save a seat for me by the kiddie pool, because I'll be right there with you! I'm only 28 right now, but by the time we have #3 I'll be well over 30.

Everyone needs to do what feels right for them, and others should respect them for that.

I was 30 when my 1st was born, and that is not uncommon around here. I was 33 with my 2nd and if I ever have a 3rd or more I will be 36 or older.

My my mother turned 41 the week after I was born. Not uncommon at all now a days, it was back then, (it was her 4th child, but still.)

I don't mind sitting by the kiddy pool at all. :goodvibes Heck most days you will find me in it too. ;)

[sb4k]

We have 4. And yes we heard all the remarks. But not from our friends that have 8 and 6. Whenever they get pregnant, I get jealous. Just take every gift from God that you can get. Thankfully we're from an area where more is the norm. My mom was one of 7 and dad was one of 6. My 4 seems like nothing.

[llp479]

I too got "the look" when we told people we were expecting number 3. Could be because we had twin dds who were 2 at the time. Got the "trying for a boy", as well. Can't even imagine life without dd number 3. Even on the days when she's driving me crazy.

We didn't really plan on having 3, but after starting out with 2 we figured we could handle anything! My sister has two from her first marriage and one from her second, and people don't think twice about that.

[peigirl]

Congratulations :thumbsup2

I just had our third on July 4th, 2005. I was 41. Our dds are 13 and 10. A lot of people told us we were crazy. We told them we did not need anything from them, that we always took care of our own so don't worry about it. And they are shocked that he was planned.

I have one BIL who in particular was very hard on us as my husband is 63 and BIL comment was that DH will never see the baby in college. Well, he could have gotten hit by a car after I had the first but that did not happen. We weighed the pros and cons and couldn't have made a better decision.

Our little boy is the part of the family that we did not know was missing until he came along. His sisters both love him and his 35 year old brother from DH first marriage just dotes on him. And I seem to have more patience with him than I did when i was younger :banana:

Enjoy your pregnancy and your little one. Time will go too fast.

Paula

[cdrn1]

I know of a family that just had #12...could be thirteen, I've lost count.

Three is small potatoes!
Enjoy them for the blessings they are and just ask the idiots who make derogatory comments why in the world they would say something like that.
Congratulations from this mom of three.

[nliedel]

CONGRATULATIONS!

I have four! All boys. I would have more but I am afraid my OB/Gyn would kill my husband (long story, preemies here, lots of bedrest, me not nice).

You know how going from one to two was like jumping the Grand Canyon? Well going from two to three is a cakewalk. Seriously! You have it all under control now and are experienced and the older one will help. OK you may have to bribe for help but they will.

You will hear all kinds of stupid things:
Birth control is over there
Don't you know what causes that yet?
When are you going to stop?
Did you plan this one?

Why is any of that anyone's business? Seriously?

Sigh.. Just smile and say that you are planning on 5 more. That shuts em up.

Have fun. The third one is just pure joy! You are not paranoid anymore. I really enjoy my babies now in a way I did not the first two.

[Desnik]

Congrats!!!
My kids are 8yo DD, and almost 3yo DS. We want to have a 3rd and all of our family and friends think we are crazy! They say you have a perfect family, 2 kids, boy and girl, why add another? I think they are the ones who are crazy! I love my kids and think they are a joy even when things are crazy. Kids are the best and DH and I always wanted a big family. Around where we live most people have 3-4 kids so we'd fit right in!LOL
We're thinking of trying in the summer. I like the 4-5 year age span. It works great for my sanity and surprisingly, DD and DS get along and play really well together.

[taximomfor4]

And my personal favorite "Don't you know whats causing that?!?!" was ALWAYS answered with a blank look and the reply..."No...can't seem to figure it out...Do you know?" :confused3




I have 4 also... When I was pregnant with the 4th, I had an 8yo, 3 yo, and 2 yo already.

For the comment quoted above...knowing what causes this...my response went from polite laughter, to ignoring, to being rude right back. When a stranger on an airlplane made THAT comment to me, I replied, "Yes, I know what causes it, obviously...what I DON'T know is what causes strangers to make rude, ignorant comments."

She left me alone after that. HA. Should have put it on a tshirt (maternity, of course).

Beth

[3PRINCESSMOM]

Next time someone makes a comment like that to you, tell them something really crazy in response. Like "My husband and I were done, but I thought I'd pro-create, at least one, with my twenty-something boy-toy." :eek: or "Since I can not figure out how this happened, I am wondering if I was fertilized by aliens." :crazy2:

After they lift their jaws off the ground, tell them their comments were no less ridiculous or offensive than what you said.

Congratulations. As a mom with a recent addition, baby #4 came in April 05, I can totally relate. In our case it was somewhat of a surprise, but everyone thinks we were making a last gasp effort for a boy...as it turns out I am no longer a 3PRINCESSMOM, we did get a little prince.

[pirateofthecarolinas]

Congrats..........I love my DS3. He is my snuggle bunny!

I got a lot of comments too. Just ignore them.

Lori

[Chris]

With that being said - Have any Mothers or Fathers out there also experienced this type of thing? I am exasperated!! Sorry for the ranting and raving, but HELP!! pixiedust:


First of all CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup2 That is wonderful news!
Secondly, I have 5 children and I know exactly what you mean!!
One of my favorite lines is can't you find a hobby to which I replied, obviously we've found one we like! :)

Don't let them rain on your parade!! Have a wonderful, smooth 9 months!

[Disney_1derland]

Just wanted to offer :hug: and say I feel your pain! When I told my boss at work that I was pg her only words were "Wow, you're crazy. How's this gonna affect me???" Most everyone in my office thinks I'm nuts. We are overjoyed about it. We never planned a third but it has been a great surprise and now when people say "are you crazy". I just smile and nod.

Good Luck with your pregnancy! We'd love to see you over at the "Moms to be" thread on the community board :teeth:

[Tinker*Shell*Bell]

Congtats on your pregnancy, I wish you a happy healthy baby! pixiedust:
I have 4 children 3 boys:12, 11 and 5 and a 1yo baby girl.
The little girl was a "Surprise" baby but she is one of the best surprises of my life. I tell almost no one that she was not 100% planned.
Like most have said I think we've heard it all.

4?!? :eek: Then stunned silence.
They know how to prevent that now! (from my former Biology teacher)
Was this one (4th) on purpose? (how rude!)
Are you Catholic? (are Catholics the only one that love children?)
Well, You're not having MORE are you? (no, but not because I think it would be too many)
Did you get your tubes tied now that you have your girl? (none of anyone's business)
my LEAST favorite was from my mom: "Michelle, what were you thinking?!?" (told her the surprise part and that shut her up!)

We have a small house and are :crowded: but I love all my children and can't imagine my life without them. I now try to answer the question "How many do you have?" with a trite "4, they keep me busy but I wouldn't change a thing." Most of the time no more is said.

More pixie-dust pixiedust: for your healthy baby and ignore the verbal diarrhea that affects most people when it comes to things that are simply none of their business.

[stahshee]

SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST RUDE! I have 4 princess: And If I hear from anyone are you done Im going to screem. People are rude and what do they care if you have 10 :crazy2:

[loveysbydesign]

We want to have a 3rd and all of our family and friends think we are crazy! They say you have a perfect family, 2 kids, boy and girl, why add another?

I hear this all the time when I talk about having a 3rd....even from my dh :( My ds will be 7 in May and my dd just turned 3 1/2. I'm 31 and I'd love to have another 1 when my youngest is around 5 y.o. I come from a family of 6 kids and my dh only has a brother so I think 3 is a nice compromise for us...... my friends that have 3 or more always tease me that dh's really don't have a choice as the power is in our hand's-LOL! Congrats!

[antsss]

We have three: DS is 6, other DS is 4 and DD is 2. We love them all so much...three is definitely a great number for us!!

[LisaNJ25]

Wait until you have #4 :eek: You will get asked if you have cable :confused3

[lovesdumbo]

I have DD(6), DS(5), DD(3). After I had my son one of my coworkers told me I had a "millionare's family". Thankfully she was no longer employed there when I got pregnant with baby #3 at age 41. But everyone else thought I was crazy. We were married nearly 15 years before we had our 1st so we got some rude comments about finally figuring out how to do it. I am the youngest of 6, DH youngest of 3. I can't imagine having just 1 sibling.

I honestly can't think of a single family in my neighborhood that doesn't have at least 3.

Congratulations! Enjoy!!!

[Sinderelli]

I can't believe the rude comments people have made- I can't imagine thinking any of those things, much less actually saying them out loud! Last year I had 2 students who were both from families of five. These were two of the most laid back, helpful students! When I met their parents, I understood why. So were they! I've seen some parents, unfortunately, who do not want to bother with the one they have. It is refreshing to see people dedicate their lives to their children.

[Brooknwdw]

Oh goodness...some people will just say anything, it is really rude. It's not like you said, "I'm having baby # 15!" Now that may warrant alittle reaction! :rotfl2:

I have two boys..my husband & I decided to just have two, & we are sticking with it. Mostly just due to what we feel we can handle & be comfortable with. I am 32 now & the boys are 7 & 9. However I LOVE babies & could keep having them if I let my emotions rule me! :love:

I am one of three myself though. My mom had each of us almost exactly five years apart..when one went to school she had another. :goodvibes

My little sister is 21..she's been married for about 6months now, & she has already said she wants three. I guess because that is what Mom did & she is comfortable with that.

I think ALOT of people are concerned about birth order, etc...like having three would make your baby now, the "middle child". Like being the middle child is a bad thing?? I don't get that myself.

I personally can't wait till my sister starts her family..another baby in the family! :hug:

[disneymom225]

I don't think it matters how many you have-people are always going to have some comment on it. DH and I decided to have only 1 child and people always say negative/nasty/ inappropriate things to us (the best are from people who can't control/ afford their own children!) So, I wouldn't worry about it. It's your family and your choice of how big you'd like it to be. Enjoy and good luck!

[Princessbaby]

We have 3 and we heard it all the time "are you crazy!?". No, we love our kids and couldn't wait to add on! We had 2 boys, so of course, we always heard "going for the girl now?" so many times I wanted to scream. Then, we found out we were having a girl and people started asking if we are done after this. We have really thought about a 4th, but my daughter (she'll be 2 March 23rd) had a lot of medical problems last year and we almost lost her a couple of times and I really am scared of all that! We had a lot of hospital stays and surgeries! All 3 of our kids have had a heart condition of some sort (my second son is the only one who has a life-long condition). I am a nurse and was actually asked by a co-worker ( a physician's asistant, if my DH and I ever had genetic counseling.) What!!? People look at us like we're nuts for having 3 kids. Frankly, I can't believe people ask such personal questions and it's none of their business-they're not paying for my kids! We love 3 and wouldn't change it for the world! :grouphug:

[Princessbaby]

CONGRATULATIONS!

I have four! All boys. I would have more but I am afraid my OB/Gyn would kill my husband (long story, preemies here, lots of bedrest, me not nice).

You know how going from one to two was like jumping the Grand Canyon? Well going from two to three is a cakewalk. Seriously! You have it all under control now and are experienced and the older one will help. OK you may have to bribe for help but they will.

You will hear all kinds of stupid things:
Birth control is over there
Don't you know what causes that yet?
When are you going to stop?
Did you plan this one?

Why is any of that anyone's business? Seriously?

Sigh.. Just smile and say that you are planning on 5 more. That shuts em up.

Have fun. The third one is just pure joy! You are not paranoid anymore. I really enjoy my babies now in a way I did not the first two.
We got the "was this one planned?" a lot! People can ask the strangest, most personal questions sometimes! :headache:

[Princessbaby]

We have three: DS is 6, other DS is 4 and DD is 2. We love them all so much...three is definitely a great number for us!!
Same as my kids! :) 2 boys and 1 girl. (7 in March, 4, and 2 in March)!

[aterriq]

Boy my families reaction was different. I don't have three kids but I do have twin DDs. When my extended family saw them, they said "We have beautiful children and should have more."

My DW preganancy was not easy and it was the last thing she wanted to do. I was afraid we would have triplets the next time.

We have two and may adopt in a few years.

[dismom9761]

There were alot of RUDE comments when we told people about #3 but it was crazy when I was pregnant with #4.My DS8 thought the reason we were having a baby was because we didn't have a tv in the bedroom.Heard that joke a million times. :rolleyes:

[Beca]

I don't think it matters how many you have-people are always going to have some comment on it. DH and I decided to have only 1 child and people always say negative/nasty/ inappropriate things to us (the best are from people who can't control/ afford their own children!) So, I wouldn't worry about it. It's your family and your choice of how big you'd like it to be. Enjoy and good luck!

This is SOOO true. My mom (she's mid-sixties) is always declaring, "Would you just look at how many pregnant women there are....what? is EVERYONE having babies??!!!"

I have to remind her, that my grandmother was one of 13....and, that was NORMAL for the community where she grew up. Then I say, "How many families of 13 do you know? Oh, there was that one on PBS that they did a show on because they were such an anomaly." That usually shuts her up!!!

:wave:

Beca

[1of6]

Ignore the comments and enjoy your family. Around here the norm is either 2 or 3. Everyone I know with only 1 hears all about it. :eek: I didn't start hearing things until I was PG with #4. Some people! :badpc: Let it roll off and live your life for you and your family. :)

[sara74]

We're expecting #3 in August and have had the same reaction from many, but the one that has really floored me was the receptionist at the OB's office! I checked in for my first appt with the 2 kids in the stroller (DD3 is very cooperative and will ride if I tell her to). She peered out at the kids and said "You're not pregnant, are you?" My response was "Well, I peed on a stick that says I am!" Next visit and the nurse asks me if this is going to be my last pregnancy. Isn't that a strange question to ask a woman who is 7 weeks along? What if something were to happen? Same visit and she commented that this one must have been an accident. I told her that DH and I are both dentists and by nature are obsessive compulsive planners and that this child was on schedule right with the last two! She told me that she wanted to give me birth control options. Was her thinking that I obviously wasn't using it right to have 3 this close together? Since our kids all have about a 2 year gap is she thinking that they are too close? Is it any of her business?

Then don't even get me started with the neighbor who insists that I will quit my job when #3 comes...(I am so stubborn that even if it occurred to me I wouldn't just to spite her :lmao:)

Our best friends have 3 (4, 2 and 7 months). We joke that she has kids on the odd years and I have them on the evens. However she will have to carry on without me. They want 6 and we think that this will be it for me.

I think that 3 is great. Unless you are like my sister who knew she wanted one and has just the family that she wants, then 2 seems like the minimum to me. #3 is our bonus baby. It is the "we love the first two so much and we have the resources, so what the heck" baby. I just don't think we will have the resources (time/money) for #4 or more.

[Samantha/NC]

I love having 3, it is kinda unique!!! We heard lots of comments also, but just let them roll off of our backs!! I was shocked and upset at first as I was not planning for anymore-my hubby would love for us to have several more!
Anyway after 2 boys, my little angel is the light of my heart!! But so are her brothers!!!!

[mimif1]

Yep, I'm a mom of 3 girls DD10, DD7 and DD2. I get the "Are you going to keep trying for a boy?" one all the time. We weren't "trying" for a boy and I wouldn't trade any of my DDs for anything. The one I hate the most is, "Your poor husband!" Are they kidding? Daddy is king and his princesses think he's the best! As he says, "What more could any man want?" My husband would be the first to pipe up that he actually was hoping for a 3rd girl and he just got lucky! Ignore them and enjoy! Congrats!

[pearlieq]

It happens on all fronts--whether you choose not to have kids, choose to only have one kid, choose to end a pregnancy, or choose to have 8 kids. People don't seem to be shy about judging others and offering an opinon. :rolleyes:

[Disbug]

Honestly - If I hear one more, "Oh My God! You are having a 3rd Child!!?? :eek: Are you Crazy?" again, I am going to scream!! Or Punch someone in the nose! LOL Most say Congratulations and mean it, but others say it 'cause their supposed to and look at me like I have 3 heads!!


Grendalynn, Don't scream just give them a big smile and say, "I KNOW! Can you believe how lucky we are?" :thumbsup2

We have 3 also...17, 11, and 5. They are all a joy. I wish I had them closer together so they would have more in common, but it seems to have worked out just fine this way!

[michygoomy]

I think the root of it is the "It takes a villiage..." thing. It not only takes a villiage to raise a child, it takes one to make 'em. :rotfl:

Seriously, people just have a natural curiousity about children. Mothers of babies--how often do you take your babies out and have complete strangers come up to you and talk to the baby or make comments? If you are alone that doesn't happen, right? I think humans just have a inborn natural curiousity about children, especially babies, and that causes them to interject in ways that aren't really any of their business.

I admit, I used to be one of those people. "Don't let them outnumber 'ya" I'd say. Of course, I only said this to people I knew REALLY well who would know I'm joking. In my mind--3 kids, 2 parents=10 dentist appointments a year. What a PITA. ;)

I always got the comment, "You should have more" when I had two kids. That used to P me off. Then I got pregnant. Someone actually said that to me while I was pregnant but still not telling anyone. So I answered, "OK, I'll get right on that. Honey, are you ready?" :teeth:

When I got pregnant with my third, most conversations went like this:

"Congratulations! Is this your first?"
"No, it's my third."
"Wow, how old are your other kids?"
"11 and 8"
"Oooooooooooooooooh"

My mother had me when she was 39. My brothers were 14 and 16 at the time. My conversation with her went about like this:

"Mom, I'm pregnant"
"Oh, was this a surprise?"
"Yep"
"Yeah, you were too."

That was the first I knew I was an OOOPS! I thought they had tried for years to have me! Oh, well. :rotfl:

I should add, having this baby (she's one now) is the MOST FREAKIN' FUN I'VE HAD IN MY LIFE. :goodvibes :sunny: :banana: And my big kids (now 12 and 9) ADORE their little sis.

ETA: CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :Pinkbounc

[rt2dz]

Just another congratulations and more support here.

We have 3 also--DS5, DS2, DS5months. Planning in #4 too, start trying at the end of this year. I actually found out closer in age is easier on me. Around here about 1/2 have 3, but as a pp said people start making the "nuts" type comments at the thought of 4.

What really drove me insane, were all the people who think it is because we're trying for a girl. What a lousy reason to have a baby. If you are going to have a child, you'd better do so because you want a child and not because you are hoping for a gender (which there is a good chance you won't get). Besides, I LOVE having all boys and would be just fine without a DD, not that a girl wouldn't be as wanted & loved, but you get the idea.

You just need to ignore those idiots. You just need to do what you do well.

[Christy93]

We have 3 boys-2, 4 and 6. We heard all sorts of comments when we announced out third .:rotfl: We can afford them, so who cares what other people think??? We wouldn't have it any other way. Our boys get along with each other well and we really are one big happy family! :thumbsup2


Congrats!

[Kath2003]

I'm one of three. I was 4 and a half when my littlest sister was born; my other sister was two. Three kids under five...my Mum's a brave lady :eek:

When my Mum rang my Aunt to tell her that she'd had the baby and it was also a girl, she said, "Oh, never mind, I'm sure she'll be lovely" as if my mother wanted a boy! Mum didn't care what she had, so long as the baby was healthy.

My poor youngest sister had hand-me-downs which had been through both me and my other sister! :rotfl: She accumulated three times as many toys, though :thumbsup2

Having three is only a pain a few times a year because yes, everything is centered around families of four. We always had to have a rollaway in hotels when we were younger and there's no way we can cope in confined spaces these days!

My Mum still cries when both me and my sister leave for University - her as a first year, me as a finalist. She says the house feels so empty without us there - just my parents and my youngest sister. :(

[Selket]

I have just 2 kids and we decided that was enough but I'm the 3rd of my parents' 3 children! What's wrong with three anyway? I was apparently a surprise for my parents too! My brothers were teenagers when I was born (I'm an October birthday too!).

When I had just one kid I thought one was fine - then two seemed good....I think it is totally your personal business. And congrats! :thumbsup2

[kerry34]

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!

Anyway, enough about me....Congrats to you OP!

[DisneyPhD]

Congtats on your pregnancy, I wish you a happy healthy baby! pixiedust:
I have 4 children 3 boys:12, 11 and 5 and a 1yo baby girl.
The little girl was a "Surprise" baby but she is one of the best surprises of my life. I tell almost no one that she was not 100% planned.
Like most have said I think we've heard it all.


That was my family growing up. I was the suprize baby girl at the end. pixiedust:
My brothers were 10, 8, 6 years older then me. (my mom turned 41 the week before I was born.) I was actaully surprized when my 1st child was a daugther, then really surprized when my 2nd was too. I fully expected to have to go through a few boys until I got a girl (given my family history.) :goodvibes

As the youngest child and only girl I had quite a life growing up. I was either picked on and picked apart, or very protected (from others, not my brothers.) However as an adult my brothers are some of my best friends now. :hug: Actually one of my brothers has 3 children and is a widdower so I often has his 3 kids along with mine. I tend to get that kind of comments about knowing what causes it and so forth, but so far only 2 of them are techically mine! (I still need a mini van though, the older kids make great baby sitters and are great help!)

I always feel a special conection with someone with 3 boys and a baby girl! :cutie:

[PaulaSue]

Join the club! I heard it all the time. :confused3

Great Club by the way. :thumbsup2

Conograts!!!!

[HappyLawyer]

well i would say are you crazy but since you don't want to hear that i will say CONGRATS, i have 5 4 of which are foster kids, and people tell me i am crazy right before they tell me i am going to heaven, anyway, hey, how about twins for you? That would be cool, yes i am crazy good luck

[rt2dz]

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!

Anyway, enough about me....Congrats to you OP!


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[pigletof4]

We are acutally expecting number 3 (not planned) and people asked if I was nuts. I actually can't wait for the baby to come. My other two will be 5 & 7 when this one is born in July, but I don't think I am going for #4.

[OceanAnnie]

I've heard, "3 is the new 2. " also. :) I'd love to have 3. :sunny:

[Kath2003]

I've heard, "3 is the new 2. " also. :) I'd love to have 3. :sunny:

In the UK, 1 is the new 2. The trend has fallen from 2.4 children per couple to 1.8 per couple in the past twenty years...I don't babysit for any families with more than two children, whereas many of my friends are one of three, four or even five!

[OceanAnnie]

In the UK, 1 is the new 2. The trend has fallen from 2.4 children per couple to 1.8 per couple in the past twenty years...I don't babysit for any families with more than two children, whereas many of my friends are one of three, four or even five!

1 is the new 2 in the UK?! I didn't know that. I wonder why the trend has fallen.

[Kath2003]

1 is the new 2 in the UK?! I didn't know that. I wonder why the trend has fallen.

Yeah. I'm a geographer. We know these things :confused3 People don't want to have loads of kids - it's hard work! When I was born, only 20 years ago, many parents gave up work so either Mum or Dad was at home to bring up baby. Certainly when I was at school, most people had a parent who didn't work but looked after the children. Now many people want to continue with their careers after having a child - childcare is expensive, so they tend to have fewer children. All bar one of the families I sit for have both parents working...which kinda makes me think I should charge more than £10 an evening :scratchin :rotfl:

[PrincessasMommy]

Another supporter here!

Mom to 3 perfectly planned girls!

People thought I was crazy for different reasons, our oldest is legally blind due to a genetic condition that we have a 1 in 4 chance of passing on. We waited 7 years to ensure we could finacially provide for anothr special needs child, just in case. When #2 was healthy we decided to get pregnant again right away because we didn't want another huge gap; they are 17 months apart and the littlest one is also perfectly healthy.

People often make rude comments to me, even my own family thinks I am insane. 2 is the normal number around here.

This is my take - I am glad they have just 1 or 2 children because I wouldn't want them to be so rude and have the responsibility of role-modeling for too many children!

I am soo bad I know but really, on such a personal subject as your children and your sex life, how dare people feel that they can comment!

People often ask if we are trying for that boy - I sometimes tell them "I am going home right now to work on it!" ;) Sure shuts them up! LOL!

[triplefigs]

Congratulations! We are the proud parents to three children (2 boys/1 girl), and it is wonderful. :thumbsup2 But talk about comments when you have three ALL AT ONCE !!!!!!!! :rotfl:

[Jennasmomma]

first of all....congratulations to all of you on all of your babies! :)

I get comments because I have one. Keep in mind Im a single parent! I get asked when Im having another one. When I say Im not, I get comments about how cruel it is to make my dd to be an only child. No one to play with, and when Im gone (how morbid) she wont have anyone.

I shut them up with comments like "oh yeah..I'll run out and have enough so she has a playmate. Or...I could have 10 kids...doesnt mean she'd get along with them all later in life. Shuts them up :p

I always said I wanted one and was told I could have any! My dd had other plans ehehe

[grlpwrd]

Congrats to all you expectant moms! :goodvibes

We have 5 kids and because dh works out of state I take the kids with me on errands and we sometimes hear the typical comments..."Are they all your's? You do know what causes that, right? You finally got your boy!" etc. ack! :headache:

I don't really mind "you really have your hands full" because that is not as rude to me.

[java]

Proud mom of 4 here. And get ready for the Are they ALL yours? comments. Although I think at 3 you are pretty safe..The 4th put us into the BIG family patrol. Even DH noticed that we have other BIG families talking to us and in our lives we joked that it is like we walked into some secret club- :rotfl2: not exactly walked.....
Congratualtions on your 3rd and good luck! It will be fine.

[pirateofthecarolinas]

We are acutally expecting number 3 (not planned) and people asked if I was nuts. I actually can't wait for the baby to come. My other two will be 5 & 7 when this one is born in July, but I don't think I am going for #4.


Our children are exactly the same years apart. Our 3rd was a huge surprise.

My DS3's preschool teacher said at his conference that she can certainly tell he has older siblings. He will "not" play with preschool toys. He loves Stars Wars, G.I. Joes and Jurassic Park dinosaurs. (Hand me downs from brother)

Lori

[jamzots]

Congratulations!! A baby is always a blessing!! When we found out we were pregnant with #3, I have to admit I freaked a little, and we got the "are you nuts?" comment from everyone. I think because of the age span, my kids are 14, 9, and the baby is almost 9 months. But what a joy he is, the best baby, he is so good. I am almost 40 now, and I didn't envision I would have another child, but I have to agree with another poster that said 3 is quite average these days, seems everyone I run into has 3. Good Luck!!

[Bethminor]

I also have three children all boys. I really get the comments because our children are all adopted, its like "YOU CHOSE 3 BOYS!" and two of them we got around the same time (biological brothers). Our boys are 6, 3 and 3 months, the two youngest are brothers. I would love to have more if I had a little help (maybe a part time nanny). Hubby says when we get rich we'll hire some nannies and have 10 kids. I definately want a girl at some point and so does my oldest...he wants a sister. He'd gladly trade in the 3 yr old for a girl, lol.

-Beth :)

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[Our 2 Princesses]

I don't think you're crazy!! :) I want 3 dc very badly!! When I was pregnant with my 3rd last Fall (I ended up having a miscarriage) a few people asked me if I was crazy because my girls will be 7 and 11. They said "You want to start all over again?" Yes, I DO!!! :goodvibes

[tazleiten12]

Congratulations!! I think 3 is great, of course i have 3. Ages 10, 8, 5. :teeth:

[nliedel]

I also have three children all boys. I really get the comments because our children are all adopted, its like "YOU CHOSE 3 BOYS!"

Two of ours are adopted and we get comments, in front of them, "Where did they come from?", or "Are they yours?" "Do they know they are adopted?" Umm no lady they don't, thanks for telling them. (They both have always known so that was a joke). They are both Hispanic so they do not look like my husband at all. I have dark hair (unless I dye it) and once a lady came up to us in a mall to inform my husband our baby at the time (the 8 year old) was not his. I was so upset that she would do that, obviously trying to point out that I had cheated I wanted to whap her (I actually was not party to the discussion, so was kept from a battery charge), my husband told me you cannot educate people so why try? Good point but I would have been really yelling up a storm had I heard it.

[Mouse House Mama]

I can totally feel your aggravation. We have 3 kids- 3years old, 2 years old and 4 months. They are 20 months apart and were well planned. We feel very lucky to have them and wanted them so much. BUT..... if one more person asled me if the baby was planned before they congratulated me I was going to punch them out!!! First off- that is rude!!! Second off- does it matter? Will you not be happy for me if we didn't plan it? Third off- IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!!! If we are happy then you should be happy for us. Just wait until you are out at the store and people say things like "Oh you poor thing!" Are they kidding? What is so terrible about having 3 healthy happy kids? I love my children with all my heart and soul. They are everything to me. And yes... I would like to have more! So I will congratulate you!!! :cool1: :hug: :banana: :cheer2: :Pinkbounc :yay: :woohoo: :dancer:

[SqueakyMouse]

We have 3, and I have to admit that 3 is a whole lot more work!! Dc #3 was not planned, but we cannot imagine life without her!! She keeps us smiling alll the time.

[Feelslikeadream]

I am a Mom of 4!!!!!!! All I have to say to the so called know-it-alls, is you are not the ones who have four sets of arms around your neck at night kissing you and hugging you, :hug: I would consider ourselves pretty darn lucky'!!!! So who the heck are they to judge!!! Maybe they know they wouldn't personally be able to handle it.... God gives us only what we can handle!!!!!! :tink:

Good luck and God BLESS you and your beautiful family!!!!!! pixiedust:


:jester: Tyler 9 :jester: Austin 9 pirate: Brady 4 princess: Jenna 2

party: There is never a dull moment!!!!!!


Nov 1-9 Celebrating the twins 10th and my 35th at the WORLD!!!!! :bday:

[jennifer293]

People did this to us when I found out I was PREGGO with DD#2. Especially DH's mom, (then she had the nerve to ask me what DH thought about it) :mad: HMMMMMMMM I don't know...He was thinking pretty good thoughts at conception..LET ME TELL YA!!! :love: I mean COME ON who asks that??? Some people talk before they think about what they really want to say. Don't let them bring you down. I am sure your hormones are in OVERDRIVE right now so try not to let it upset you too much!!!

Oh and CONGRATS on the baby!!!!

[DisneyPhD]

Ok, after thinking about it more I realized that I do tend to make small talk with other, espcailly families. I most admit I have made comments to familes with a many kids myself. However they are mostly of the nature of :worship: :worship: :worship: and how impresed I am at how well behaved all their kids are (most of the time they are, more so then just one kid out with 2 parents.) I hope I have not offened anyone. I know people make comments, some rude some nice. I remember when my 1st daughter was born and a few weeks old a stranger was admireing her. She asked if she was my only child (she was at the time) the lady said "oh honey, you have to have more, you and your husband do good work.:" It made me feel good. :goodvibes

I was at the zoo with a friend and her 2 kids (I only had one at this time) and as we struggled with the 3 kids between the 2 of us a women with 4 little ones all under 6 came by. She had a double stroller, a baby carrier and one walker and was doing much better then we were. My friend almost died and wanted to know her secert. She thought she was the bravest women alive. (now you have to realize my friend was just adjusting to having 2 herself.)

Anyway my point is I think when people make rude comments it is more about their own inadquatices (sp?) then your situation!

[Fainfamily5]

I know the feeling. WE have 3 also and people think I am the old lady that lived in the shoe. He was not planned but he is the most wonderful thing to happen to our family. He is so full of life, he constantly keeps us laughing. We have DS#1 10, DD 6 and DS#2 5. So you are not crazy, you are blessed. I figured that if God wanted him here despite our trying not to have any more then who am I to argue with him!!!!!

[welovedis]

OP-Congratulations! Sounds like you've got a great family and I wish you luck with your pregnancy. :goodvibes

Whether it is one child, 3 or more, people are just far too rude and openly sarcastic these days. I have one child (not by choice) and here all the comments. Finally one day I broke down and said to someone "I'd love to have another, can you donate some of your husband's sperm or your egg?" Shut her up for good. What families choose as far as family size is their business & no one else's, IMO.

Honeslty most families that I know with 3 or more kids are the nicest families in the world with the best kids. The families really work together, the kids are responible, well behaved ands smart. Mostly because they HAVE to be. They learn to help others and work together. I think if we had more famlies with 3 or more kids society would be better off. It is too easy to spoil just one or 2 kids! (belive me I know.)
DisneyPhD-Just wondering why you feel that families with 3 or more kids would make society better off? :confused3 Isn't that sort of reverse discrimination? I cannot have more children, but that doesn't make my child less well-behaved or more spoiled than anyone else's. Just thought that was a strange comment. :scratchin

Some people make me laugh. I dont know why it is a big deal really. I got my share of comments in the past. Once I was in walmart with my five. At the time my twins were 4 months old, other kids, 7, 5,4. A woman looked at me with a look of disgust and said "better you than me", and she wasnt nice about it. I looked at her and said "Yeah god must have thought the same thing". It wasnt like my kids were misbehaving or anything, they were just standing next to me at the checkout. Go figure!
kerry34-awesome comeback! :thumbsup2

[DisneyPhD]

DisneyPhD-Just wondering why you feel that families with 3 or more kids would make society better off? :confused3 Isn't that sort of reverse discrimination? I cannot have more children, but that doesn't make my child less well-behaved or more spoiled than anyone else's. Just thought that was a strange comment. :scratchin

The point of this thread was not to make comments on people abilties to have kids (or not have kids or in your case more kids) but that people often look at families today with more then the average 2 children as well odd, when truth be told they are often GREAT families that work well together as unit, helping each other and kids learning responibilites. (no of course we can't say this is the case with all larger familes, just like it isn't with all very small families.) ;) As many of the people here with more then 2 kids have pointed out many of them did not come to be part of their family by biologcal conentions, so the ability to have more really isn't the point.

[vanreg]

I think that a lot of people just think that it's hardest to go from 2 to 3 kids because you're outnumbered. Personally, I thought #2 was a lot harder than #3. We have 3 girls, 3, 6 & 9.....now we just have people asking when we are having number 4! It seems that they think we should keep trying for a boy.

[nliedel]

My in-laws keep asking us how we can afford all these kids? I get tired of that. We are not exactly talking about hundreds here. In for a penny in for a pound I say.

[admepo]

I completely understand! I am due with our 4th child - our 4th little boy in April and I get the same all of the time! :)
Congrats on your new addition and best of luck!

[Debbie7452]

I am currently full term with #4 and going in tomorrow for induction. I have gotten many comments but have found it easiest to just laugh when they mention how crazy it is... I tell them with a smile and a chuckle that they are probably right! Even if they meant it in kind of a rude way this turns it around and we all are happy.

Just an idea...because the comments are not going to stop and this helps you keep your stress down. For what it's worth...I found adding number three to be a breeze. It was much harder going from one to two for me. Best of Luck...I ADORE my large family (but this is it, really, I'm stopping at four!)

[Grendalynn]

Well, I have to thank you all for the great info, advice, for sharing your experiences, and above all sending the support my way. As sad as it is to say - I am glad that I am not the only one having these experiences. :thumbsup2 I am soo impressed!

There has been a thread posted about just the opposite as this one. I also want to say that I do not resent anyone for only having one or two children... "To each his/her own." Frankly, when I had just had DS#1 I was only 22. When he was going through the whole "Terrible Two" stage I vowed I would never have any more children, and same last year when DS#2 was in the smae stage... Funny how those things happen. :confused3 All families are different...

:rolleyes: But as I grew older and matured, focused more on my family and children and less on my social life and being 20-something, I came to realize there was still something missing. ((I also stopped worring about what Dear MIL and FIL would think. I knew my family would be happy and supportive))Then when we took our first family vacation to Disney and on a Disney Cruise as just the 4 of us, no extra friends or family members, it became very clear as to just how important our family was and put things into perspective. We needed an addition! And at this point - its doesnt matter if its a boy or a girl, just as long as its healthy. I used to think I have to have a girl, I want a girl so badly. :idea: But Boys are so familiar to me now I think it would be a great fit and an automatic adjustment for DS#3! pirate: But we wouldn;t love a DD any less... princess:

:cheer2: So, in closing, Thank You again for all of your hugs, Congrats, support, kind words, and most of all "words of wisdom". I never thought I would get so many responses!!! :grouphug: I keep checking in to see what additions have been made to this thread. And by any and all means, please keep posting! Boy, I never realized what a great support system The DIS Boards can be! We arent even planning on going to Disney til after this baby is born (possibly March of '07) and I still find my self spending so much time here! :surfweb: Thanks so much!! I guess now I will start researching the whole Disney Vacation Club idea!! :banana:

[Disneyenthusiast]

We have 3 now-grown children. Our 3rd was a bit of a surprise. We already had a boy and a girl. It was so nice not even thinking about the sex of the baby and just thinking about having a healthy baby. After you practice on the first two, the third is hardly work at all. You finally know what you are doing and feel comfortable with your decisions. It is true that they want to grow up faster than the older siblings! Enjoy your children and don't let anyone else rain on your parade!

[Princessbaby]

I think that a lot of people just think that it's hardest to go from 2 to 3 kids because you're outnumbered. Personally, I thought #2 was a lot harder than #3. We have 3 girls, 3, 6 & 9.....now we just have people asking when we are having number 4! It seems that they think we should keep trying for a boy.
I agree! #2 was so hard because I had to adjust my schedule to fit in everything. With one it was easy because it was just the 1 child and could do things at his pace. #3 was easy because I was already used to juggling and I think her brothers helped me relax about the little things. I can easily sit back and laugh (because sometimes you just have to!) where as before I would stress about the little things!

[Princessbaby]

I am currently full term with #4 and going in tomorrow for induction. I have gotten many comments but have found it easiest to just laugh when they mention how crazy it is... I tell them with a smile and a chuckle that they are probably right! Even if they meant it in kind of a rude way this turns it around and we all are happy.

Just an idea...because the comments are not going to stop and this helps you keep your stress down. For what it's worth...I found adding number three to be a breeze. It was much harder going from one to two for me. Best of Luck...I ADORE my large family (but this is it, really, I'm stopping at four!)
Good Luck with your induction! Hope all goes well!! :cloud9:

[mama4]

This is a great post! DH and I are expecting our 4th child on July 4th. Most of our family and friends were thrilled although since we have 3 boys I do hear a lot of "trying for a girl huh?". I try to let it roll off my back as well. We are a very happy healthy family. I'm a SAHM so I'm with DS-3 and DS-2 all day. DS-14 gets home from school at 3:30. All three kids have added so much to our family. Boy or girl, I know the 4th will be a wonderful blessing as well. If people's comments are meant to express their shock, annoyance or whatever (unless the comment is glaringly rude) I never even let them know that I notice- because I DON"T CARE what they think. We visited my in laws in Ft Lauderdale over the weekend and my husbands 87 yo grandmother (amazing woman) blurted out in a loud but joking tone ( Am I EVER gonna see you with a FLAT stomach again!!) I didn't blink an eye. I just smiled and said "After four kids?! I seriously doubt it!" My Dear MIL and DH seemed upset at what Grandma had said but after I let it roll of my back, the tension evaporated for everyone. Congrats on all you large familes and soon to be larger families out there! BTW, my sis has 4 kids as well so we look like a daycare center out for a field trip when we take our kids (to Disney) together! :earsgirl: :jumping1: :earsgirl:

[Becky2005]

Our children are exactly the same years apart. Our 3rd was a huge surprise.

My DS3's preschool teacher said at his conference that she can certainly tell he has older siblings. He will "not" play with preschool toys. He loves Stars Wars, G.I. Joes and Jurassic Park dinosaurs. (Hand me downs from brother)

Lori

I just had to :rotfl: at that comment - I often think about that for baby #4, poor kid just doesn't stand a chance with watching preschool shows - I try but having older siblings he gets to watch the older stuff too. I noticed it slightly with #3 but since his older brother was only 3 when he was born it wasn't too bad but forget about it for #4 - He does get some preschool stuff in there but he is content to play with the big kids stuff. I can only imagine when he gets ready to go off to preschool add onto that he will be an older kid in the school. YIKES. At least he loves Mickey Mouse (he could say "Mickey" before he said "momma/mommy" - hmmm..... Of course now he just calls Mickey "Mouse" - He sees Cinderella's Castle and says "Mouse" ).

[Grammyof2]

Congratulations!!!!!

We have 4. My baby just turned 23 :rotfl: :rotfl: He was a surpirse. I was 6 months when we found out he was coming. You would have thought I would have had a hint, but NOPE.

Every child is a blessing, and I am sure he or she will fill your life with joy.

I didn't read the whole thread, just wanted to congratulate you and wish you the best. pixiedust:

[Carrie Ellis]

Oh! I know how you feel!!! I have 2 sets of twins. They are 9 and 5 years old. I am trying to squash the urge to try again. I do want more children! The reason I would choose not to would be probably from what others would think of me/us. All of our parents would think that we have lost our mind and I believe my mom would be just down right mad. :confused3 Sad to make a life decision based on others views..huh!

Comments that I get:

Gee you have your hands full.

I am glad it is you and not me.

The Boy/Girl...Are they identical?

I bet you are done.

etc....

[dznygurl]

We got the SAME responses when we were expecting #3.

...WHY???

...ARE YOU CRAZY???

...YOU ALREADY HAVE A BOY AND A GIRL!!!

Towards the end of my last pregnancy, I was at my DD dance recital. I was so proud of my rather large tummy and was minding my own business just standing there waiting for my daughter. A woman whom I hadn't seen in a couple of years walked up to me, smiled, pointed at my tummy, and said "That's really stupid. Don't you have 2 already?" I was stunned :eek: and couldn't speak. My hormones had me crying for a while when I left. :sad: But now I wish I would have told her something! I don't think I will EVER forget that one!!!

But we wouldn't change a thing. We love having three. Of course, they do outnumber us on occasion. I would have 3 more if DH would let me!

Enjoy your pregnancy and don't let anyone get to you!

[OceanAnnie]

Wow, dznygurl. That was a doozy. That was just so hurtful and out of the blue. I think I'd be reeling on that one too.

Some of the comments I've read on this thread are so outrageous! :sad2:

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

Oh! I know how you feel!!! I have 2 sets of twins. They are 9 and 5 years old. I am trying to squash the urge to try again. I do want more children! The reason I would choose not to would be probably from what others would think of me/us. All of our parents would think that we have lost our mind and I believe my mom would be just down right mad. :confused3 Sad to make a life decision based on others views..huh!

Comments that I get:

Gee you have your hands full.

I am glad it is you and not me.

The Boy/Girl...Are they identical?

I bet you are done.

etc....

Oh, I say, GO FOR IT!! If that is what you and your DH want. Don't give a HOOT to what people say!! It's not up to them.

I have a friend with 5 children, one with 7, one with 8.....and I am not kidding you...........they are the NICEST KIDS! Not perfect, but so well behaved and kind, taking care of their little siblings.....it's great to see.

I wish I could have more, but I guess God decided three was good. I've lost three to miscarriages, so I did try to have more! :) And now, DS is 6 and I can't imagine going back to diapers again.(Plus, we started late because DH was in law school. He's 45 and I'm 41) Our family has just started to gain some "independence" if you know what I mean. :thumbsup2 We are enjoying this part of life even though I want DS to revert back to a baby when I see his baby pictures! :teeth: (So cuddly!! :cloud9: )

Don't let anyone outside of you and your DH make the decision for you. YOu will regret it because you weren't true to what your heart really wanted. :)

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

We got the SAME responses when we were expecting #3.

...WHY???

...ARE YOU CRAZY???

...YOU ALREADY HAVE A BOY AND A GIRL!!!

Towards the end of my last pregnancy, I was at my DD dance recital. I was so proud of my rather large tummy and was minding my own business just standing there waiting for my daughter. A woman whom I hadn't seen in a couple of years walked up to me, smiled, pointed at my tummy, and said "That's really stupid. Don't you have 2 already?" I was stunned :eek: and couldn't speak. My hormones had me crying for a while when I left. :sad: But now I wish I would have told her something! I don't think I will EVER forget that one!!!



That is INCREDIBLE! The NERVE!! :mad:

Well, I would have said, "yes, but I thought the world needed more POLITE PEOPLE in it!!" Ha! :tongue:

Whatever. :rolleyes:

[WDWfor5]

This is such a great thread. We have 3 - DD 6 1/2, DS 4 1/4 and DS 2 1/2 - people act like we're crazy. From my best friend saying she was "sorry" when I told her I was expecting my youngest DS to the crazy woman at my DD's preschool who kep saying how sorry she felt for me whith 3 kids 4 and under. :headache:

Having three so close together was tough for a little while and is still hectic but i wouldn't change it for the world. My DS 4 and DS 2 are the best of friends :love: and we love our little family 9it doesn't seem big to DH or I as we are both 1 of 3)

The most annoying comment I've heard lately was my DMIL (who I love dearly and is usually normal) who when I commented last night that if I wasn't so high risk I would love to have a 4th actually said "well, you'd have to check with the babysitter's on that one :faint: Then my DFIL say's something similar and I wanted to smack them - are DH & I supposed to consult them before deciding to have a child? I can imagine that would be an awkward ocnversation :eek: :lmao:

Anyway, good luck to the OP and don't expect the comments to go away - I personally hate being told I have my hands full but I hear it everytime I take them out. I've learned to laugh it off most of the time and when it gets really annoying I vent to friends with 3 or more children.

[Lil' Grumpy]

:thumbsup2 . i believe those that must put others down to feel better about
themselves. everyone knows the lord works in mysterious ways. well i believe
this is one of his best. this happened to us long after we decided no more...
won't go in the details except to offer support, by my wife sense of humor.
we had a spiff and she informed me that she was taking the 3 of them and
leaving. i said wait a minute..leave the dog here. she replied you don't get
it! i did then. we had 2 boys and debated for trying for an elusive girl. in the
end we decided no way because of many factors. that was 5 years prior.
both of my parents have been long gone and my mother was a flaming red
haired. my wife has coal black hair. we feel so blessed when our daughter
came into our lives. [well maybe our second son wasn't to thrill giving up
the "baby" position he held for over 10 years-but who could blame him?] and though her name isn't ariel, she is a prefext match. she is more "like" me and even "plays" like i used to. anyway good luck and congrats on your real pixiedust:. p.s.our boys decorated the whole house -inside & out when we
brought her home. and at that year christmas party alot of the family wasn't
even aware...but when they saw her they knew we were blessed. and funny, without her, we wouldn't made all dcl cruises. you should be on :cloud9: and :goodvibes. after all, isn't this what life about? :thumbsup2

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

Oh, Lil Grumpy........this is just too priceless!! :lmao: I'm LOVIN' it!! :teeth: We really get put in our places sometimes, don't we?? :rotfl:

Something like that happened to my SIL and BIL. They had three boys (all dark hair) and they "were done". ;) Then, what do you know......she got pregnant (DEFINATELY NOT planned). You got it! Blonde haired, blue eyed beauty of a girl..........they just think it was God's little joke on them......what a blessing she is to our family.

[nliedel]

Oh! I know how you feel!!! I have 2 sets of twins. They are 9 and 5 years old. I am trying to squash the urge to try again. I do want more children! The reason I would choose not to would be probably from what others would think of me/us. All of our parents would think that we have lost our mind and I believe my mom would be just down right mad. :confused3 Sad to make a life decision based on others views..huh!

....

Yes it is and you should NOT let the world bully you like that! There are plenty of people who do not want children (and they should be lectured no more than I should be about my four, thank you very much. Not everyone is cut out for this job) so you will not be "burdening the universe". If you would like to have another then please don't let anyone talk you out of it (well as long as your other half agrees :) ) it's not the woman in the Target checkout lines decision! It's yours! Anyone who has four and wants more is probably a pretty good mother. Being a good Mom is something that takes a lot of work and dedication. If you want it and are good at it (note I did not say perfect, no one is) then please make this descision for yourself. Of course finances are a consideration but as another poster said, if you wait till you can afford them.. Well I would be way past menopause myself.

[welovedis]

The point of this thread was not to make comments on people abilties to have kids (or not have kids or in your case more kids) but that people often look at families today with more then the average 2 children as well odd, when truth be told they are often GREAT families that work well together as unit, helping each other and kids learning responibilites. (no of course we can't say this is the case with all larger familes, just like it isn't with all very small families.) ;) As many of the people here with more then 2 kids have pointed out many of them did not come to be part of their family by biologcal conentions, so the ability to have more really isn't the point.

Yes, I do understand the point of the thread and cannot believe the comments that people make sometimes, ITA about that.

I just found the original comment of the fact that the world would be better off with more families of 3 or more kids to be sort of odd in a different way. I happen to be a proud mom of an only child who thinks he is a great kid (of course) and that together we are a positive family unit. That would be the same even if my family was just me & DH as a couple or us with 3-4 kids (as we originally hoped for). Guess that was the point I was trying to make about what you posted.

Talk about timing--my neighbor from around the block just told me she was pregnant with #2 & #3 twins, her DS is in my son's 3rd grade class & I said "THAT"S FANTASTIC!" about a million times to her when I found out. She said everyone else said things like "Are you out of your mind?" "Why did you wait so long?" "Are you sure that you aren't too old? (she's 31!)". I told her about this thread & sent her the link this morning. Unbelieveable what people will say!

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

Yes, I do understand the point of the thread and cannot believe the comments that people make sometimes, ITA about that.

I just found the original comment of the fact that the world would be better off with more families of 3 or more kids to be sort of odd in a different way. I happen to be a proud mom of an only child who thinks he is a great kid (of course) and that together we are a positive family unit. That would be the same even if my family was just me & DH as a couple or us with 3-4 kids (as we originally hoped for). Guess that was the point I was trying to make about what you posted.

Talk about timing--my neighbor from around the block just told me she was pregnant with #2 & #3 twins, her DS is in my son's 3rd grade class & I said "THAT"S FANTASTIC!" about a million times to her when I found out. She said everyone else said things like "Are you out of your mind?" "Why did you wait so long?" "Are you sure that you aren't too old? (she's 31!)". I told her about this thread & sent her the link this morning. Unbelieveable what people will say!

Tell your neighbor I'm JEALOUS!! :teeth: Since I AM a twin, I prayed for twins with each pregnancy.....no go. Oh, well,........... :)

[welovedis]

Tell your neighbor I'm JEALOUS!! :teeth: Since I AM a twin, I prayed for twins with each pregnancy.....no go. Oh, well,........... :)
Pamela-LOL! I will tell her that! :teeth: She is so excited.....I'm thrilled for her and her family. Her & her DH got married young when they found they were expecting their DS, and many family members (on both sides) turned against them and felt they were making a mistake. They have a really great DS and they are a wonderful couple, I'm so glad to have them as friends. Her DH returned home last fall from a tour of duty in Iraq and this is just the best news for them. Can you tell I'm happy for them? LOL! :teeth:

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

Pamela-LOL! I will tell her that! :teeth: She is so excited.....I'm thrilled for her and her family. Her & her DH got married young when they found they were expecting their DS, and many family members (on both sides) turned against them and felt they were making a mistake. They have a really great DS and they are a wonderful couple, I'm so glad to have them as friends. Her DH returned home last fall from a tour of duty in Iraq and this is just the best news for them. Can you tell I'm happy for them? LOL! :teeth:

Hey, I just noticed you're from Rochester. Howdie, neighbor! (I'm in Corning).

They're a military family?? Oh, now I'm REALLY glad they got twice blessed! :) That's neat.

And I'm so glad to hear that after a rough start (with family), that this couple has made it work. That is fantastic! (what's wrong with families sometimes..........just when a girl needs them, they turn on her......don't get it)

[amytx5]

:grouphug: But for me..my last pregnancy did me in (twins) ,,..
Children are a blessing...and a gift .. Congrats ~
Amy ..Mommy to ds15, dd13, ds9, ds6, ds6

[DisneyPhD]

Yes, I do understand the point of the thread and cannot believe the comments that people make sometimes, ITA about that.

I just found the original comment of the fact that the world would be better off with more families of 3 or more kids to be sort of odd in a different way. I happen to be a proud mom of an only child who thinks he is a great kid (of course) and that together we are a positive family unit. That would be the same even if my family was just me & DH as a couple or us with 3-4 kids (as we originally hoped for). Guess that was the point I was trying to make about what you posted.

O.K. I will try to explain that comment more. I guess it just goes to show that no matter what you say, someone somewhere is going to get offended. :)

Comments like "we only had 2 because we want to give them the best of everything..............." and things like that really bug me. Because $$$ is not the best of everything, even attention is not the best of everything. Teaching your children values, respect, self esteem (in a postitive way, not just being snotty!) cooperation, learning to share, care for others etc....... This is all more important then "the best things in money can buy." If family was the important factor, not oh my kids might have to share a room, we might only be able to take 1 vacation a year instead of 2 ect.... that would be better for kids and families in general. You know the whole with 2 kids we can aforrd to stay at a deluxe resort, with 3 we are going to have to stay in 2 value rooms, agruement (my DH has come up with that one, when it comes down to it, that is a small price to pay for another member of your family.)

In cases like yours where (for whatever reason) your life and family is compelete the way it currenlty is, that is just fine. :teeth: I am sure you have a lovely child who you should be proud of and are a wonderful parent. I am sorry your dream of having more hasn't happened. Please don't take offence so easily.

My point is perfect family and american dream isn't just 4 people, a mom, dad, 2 kids (boy and a girl) It comes in all shapes and sizes, sometimes as small as 2 people, and as big as 12! If there wasn't this mind set and everything set up for a "family of 4" I think that things would be better. Also all the spoild rotten kids today (and everyone has seen them) it is much harder to spoil a child in a large family, they just don't get that kind of indulgance. Yes, it is possible not to spoil a single child, or 2, but it becomes less of an issue the more kids you have. :)

I am currenlty guilty of the "family of 4 syndrome" We may or may not ever have more, DH and I are not currenlty a place where we can say "we are done" or let's try for another. But coming from a family of 6 I say large familes are specail in ways that people who say "more then 1 or 2 kids are just too much work" (or things along those lines) will never understand. :goodvibes

[vhoffman]

Congratulations on Number 3! If I could have more, I certainly would.

There are all sorts of rude people out there and there seems to be a mindset that you can say anything you want to people. Don't stand there and take it! Next time someone says something rude about your pregnancy (or anything, for that matter), just look at them and say "That's certainly a rude remark". Let them figure out how to take their foot out of their mouth, not you. They're the one who put it there! You're under no obligation to be polite to someone who's blantantly rude to you. Or, as my mother used to say, "..........sometimes you have to fight ignornance with ignornance".

[3littleHalls]

Congratulations on #3! I used to get the same thing when I was pg..."Is this your first?" "Oh, your 3RD!!" "WOW, you are nuts!" Now I just hear about how full my hands are. I learned a valuable phrase from a friend who was pg with her 6th. When someone says something she would say,"Yes, we are very blessed" There just isn't a bad come back for that.

[krismom]

With 4 kids (one set of twins) we constantly get questions and comments. A few favorites:
~ Are you a blended family?
~ Are they all yours?
~ Are you babysitting?
and my personal favorite, asked at the mall last month:
~Don't you have a TV?

Can you believe some people?! Whenever people say, "better you than me!" I always say, "I guess you're right!"
We don't strain the economy and the world will be a better place for having our children in it!

To the OP:
Congratulations and Good luck! :grouphug:

[Twingle]

To the OP, congrats to you and your family!

I'm another poster with an older "singleton" and a set of twins. I had countless people comment on how we were going to have three children when I was pregnant with my twins, how sad, we wouldn't have any time, money, energy or sanity, etc., until I was about ready to snap. I decided I didn't have to be nice to the people making snide comments to me anymore.

So, once I was at Wal*Mart when I was still pregnant, and this lady is commenting on how big I am (my son was with me at the time). I told her I was expecting twins. She went on the normal tangent of how we couldn't afford it, what were we thinking, those IVF drugs are horrible because people have "litters", on and on and on. So, I told her that although my twins were naturally conceived, once we found out they were twins it would've been too uncomfortable for my husband to send one of them back!

Another time at Wal*Mart, after I had my twins, again, Wal*Mart must be THE place for rude comments, another person was talking about how I had three children, how big my family was, yadda, yadda, yadda. My girls were just little, not even two months old, and I told her we were only keeping both of them until we decided which one we liked better, and then we were going to auction off her sister to the highest bidder.

In any event, some people will always have rude comments to say, whether you have no children, one child, three children or ten. What you do for your family is the best for YOUR family.

Take care and enjoy your little ones!

[lost*in*cyberspace]

These people are very likely not being rude intentionally. Why not just ignore them?

I would like to add as a parent of 2, one of whom recently graduated from college and another who is a college junior, I am very glad that we are almost done paying for college tuition! At least undergraduate tuition.

[djm99]

Three is no big deal IMO, - but I have a friend that just had her 6th last week(yeah you read correctly - 6th child). I feel so sorry for her - her husband claims to want more - that is just insane IMO - so be proud - you might luck up and get a girl - think about the name JOY - :hyper: :lmao:

Signed Afraid to be pregnant again - mother of one!!!

[welovedis]

O.K. I will try to explain that comment more. I guess it just goes to show that no matter what you say, someone somewhere is going to get offended. :)

Comments like "we only had 2 because we want to give them the best of everything..............." and things like that really bug me. Because $$$ is not the best of everything, even attention is not the best of everything. Teaching your children values, respect, self esteem (in a postitive way, not just being snotty!) cooperation, learning to share, care for others etc....... This is all more important then "the best things in money can buy." If family was the important factor, not oh my kids might have to share a room, we might only be able to take 1 vacation a year instead of 2 ect.... that would be better for kids and families in general. You know the whole with 2 kids we can aforrd to stay at a deluxe resort, with 3 we are going to have to stay in 2 value rooms, agruement (my DH has come up with that one, when it comes down to it, that is a small price to pay for another member of your family.)

In cases like yours where (for whatever reason) your life and family is compelete the way it currenlty is, that is just fine. :teeth: I am sure you have a lovely child who you should be proud of and are a wonderful parent. I am sorry your dream of having more hasn't happened. Please don't take offence so easily.

My point is perfect family and american dream isn't just 4 people, a mom, dad, 2 kids (boy and a girl) It comes in all shapes and sizes, sometimes as small as 2 people, and as big as 12! If there wasn't this mind set and everything set up for a "family of 4" I think that things would be better. Also all the spoild rotten kids today (and everyone has seen them) it is much harder to spoil a child in a large family, they just don't get that kind of indulgance. Yes, it is possible not to spoil a single child, or 2, but it becomes less of an issue the more kids you have. :)

I am currenlty guilty of the "family of 4 syndrome" We may or may not ever have more, DH and I are not currenlty a place where we can say "we are done" or let's try for another. But coming from a family of 6 I say large familes are specail in ways that people who say "more then 1 or 2 kids are just too much work" (or things along those lines) will never understand. :goodvibes

Not at all offended and I am happy with that we have. I guess I took it differently that you intended, it is very difficult to read the written word and know exactly what the person was thinking behind writing it.

And I agree that people who think that way (large families are too much work to paraphrase) just don't get "it". From my POV it just seemed like "the world would be better with more families of 3 or more" would be saying the opposite (in a negative way) about smaller families than what the OP was experiencing. Diversity is a great thing in the world. :)

Again, not offended, not trying to debate, just explaining why I questioned what was posted. :goodvibes

Twingle-OMG, I almost wet my pants when I got the auction part of your post--I agree WalMart is the haven for bad comments. I was there recently with my daycare for a treat (we can walk there from my daycare and they all get a little spending $$ once a month from me). I have a daycare "bus" (http://www.daycaremall.com/images/ang/buggy_canopy.JPG) and someone thought they were all my kids because she kept making comments like "She must have to shop here, just look at all those kids.." "She's probably gonna use ______ (food stamps, public assistance, fill in the blank) to pay for that food", "Look at the woman she must be one of the religious nuts.." and it goes on and on.

djm99-Just curious why 3 is ok but 6 is not? Playing devil's advocate and wondering where the cut-off is your mind? I say if they can afford to provide for children then it is their business. :)

[Mom of Sleepy, Bashful and BabyDoc]

Three is no big deal IMO, - but I have a friend that just had her 6th last week(yeah you read correctly - 6th child). I feel so sorry for her - her husband claims to want more - that is just insane IMO - so be proud - you might luck up and get a girl - think about the name JOY - :hyper: :lmao:

Signed Afraid to be pregnant again - mother of one!!!

Do you mean you are sorry for her because she doesn't want anymore children? Or is she wanting more children?

[SnowWitch]

We heard similiar things from family when we discovered we were having a third. Our boys were 14 and 12 at the time but most of our friends and coworkers were wonderful. I pretty much ignored the rude family. Long story short we now have a beautiful princess: who is almost 10 months old. Our boys who are now 16 and 13, who were less than pleased with the news now want us to have another whereas the little one won't be bored with her geratric parents when shes older.

Congrats!!!! Ignore the rude people!!!!

A comment to the discussion of the right number. If you can afford them and my tax dollars aren't paying for them....have as many as you want. We have an aquiantance who has 12 children...11 boys and 1 girl. God bless them.

[nliedel]

You know why can't people leave people alone? We were going throug HORRIBLE infertility treatments (turns out all it took for me were 2 cosmopolatins and signing up for a marathon, who knew) and our family would pester us about when we were going to have children? We didn't announce to the extended family we were having problems concieving. We didn't want to hear it (Oh cousin _________ ahd that problem and all she did was ______________). Then we adopted and my father, MY FATHER actually asked me if I was ever going to have a "real" baby. Not only is that an insult to my wonderful children but *I* am adopted. Guess I am not as real as I thought.

Then people rant on about large families in our hearing. Usually when everyone is overtired and the big boys are fighting in the checkout line at the grocery store (they always are the most "themselves" in the grocery store checkout line).

My sister in law just had a baby last summer, now everyone is asking her when she is going to have another one. Honestly I am not sure she is. No announcements have been made but you never know. She just might have one.

People can be VERY insensative about it. They are not trying to be, I know that, still sticks in the old craw, if you know what I mean.

[welovedis]

You know why can't people leave people alone? We were going throug HORRIBLE infertility treatments (turns out all it took for me were 2 cosmopolatins and signing up for a marathon, who knew) and our family would pester us about when we were going to have children? We didn't announce to the extended family we were having problems concieving. We didn't want to hear it (Oh cousin _________ ahd that problem and all she did was ______________). Then we adopted and my father, MY FATHER actually asked me if I was ever going to have a "real" baby. Not only is that an insult to my wonderful children but *I* am adopted. Guess I am not as real as I thought.

Then people rant on about large families in our hearing. Usually when everyone is overtired and the big boys are fighting in the checkout line at the grocery store (they always are the most "themselves" in the grocery store checkout line).

My sister in law just had a baby last summer, now everyone is asking her when she is going to have another one. Honestly I am not sure she is. No announcements have been made but you never know. She just might have one.

People can be VERY insensative about it. They are not trying to be, I know that, still sticks in the old craw, if you know what I mean.


ITA, people need to mind their own business, period. Whether it is because a family has one child or 5 (or more!) it is none of anyone's business to comment about it.

[Grendalynn]

These people are very likely not being rude intentionally. Why not just ignore them?

I would like to add as a parent of 2, one of whom recently graduated from college and another who is a college junior, I am very glad that we are almost done paying for college tuition! At least undergraduate tuition.

I understand that they may not realize that they are being rude - just not sure why they think what they say should matter. Derr - the damage is done - you arent gong to persuade me now - I am pregnant! :rotfl2: As my Mom always said, "if you dont have anything nice to say, than dont say anything at all." But you know what they also say, "Opinions are like... everybodys got one." :eek: I guess it could just be my hormones.... :confused3

Thats great about almost having tuition payed off, congratulations! I am sure you will party the day you pay that last few dollars!! I hope to do the same or similar for our children. For as much as I would have liked for our college careers to have been taken care of, I am proud to say that 4 out of the 5 children in my family all put ourselves through college. I am seccond youngest of 5 girls in my family. We were strongly urged to keep up our grades through out highschool and eventually college, got scholarships and grants, Worked every summer from 9th grade on and added that to our college savings accounts, had almost full time jobs while in college, trusts (not big by any means) were set up from deceased grandparents and 20 +/- % was paid by our parents. This taught us all to work hard for what we got, dont party to hard and appreciate the value of a dollar. I respect my parents to the enth degree for teaching us this and value hard work and perceverance for all that we accomplished everyday. :thumbsup2

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Just discussed with hubby on trying for a third and said "how about this time frame"?

He says "With me, right?" :lmao:

No honey--I was thinking the milk man.


(understand he is away right now :hyper: )

[djm99]

djm99-Just curious why 3 is ok but 6 is not? Playing devil's advocate and wondering where the cut-off is your mind? I say if they can afford to provide for children then it is their business. :)

Agreed - it is her business - none of mine - but because I know her personally and I know right before she found out she was pregnant she talked about how happy she was that all of her children were now school age and she had her first job in 9 years (besides baby sitting for others) and she applied for schools - and just how free and happy she was feeling. This particular person has a husband that is financially able to take care of them all - but she was happy with her "freedom" sort of speak. They both sacrifice a lot for having such a big family. And in 2006 - 6 children is considered a lot. Well above the 2 and a half US average. Which is truly IMHO a beautiful thing - but it’s just not me.

Me personally I am a chicken about being pregnant - I'll admit it. I am so afraid of being pregnant again - I couldn't breath for 6 months (my sinuses shut down - all the weird stuff happened to me when I was pregnant - but not one day of morning sickness. And - my memory of my 3 days in labor w/o drugs is so vivid (6 years later) that every time my DH wants to talk about having a baby I start having an anxiety attack. But its coming – just my luck if/when I do decide to have another baby – it will be twins – Twins run in my husbands family.

Don't be offended about the 'feel sorry' statement - I'm talking about that particular person - thats all.

[DisneyPhD]

Agreed - it is her business - none of mine - but because I know her personally and I know right before she found out she was pregnant she talked about how happy she was that all of her children were now school age and she had her first job in 9 years (besides baby sitting for others) and she applied for schools - and just how free and happy she was feeling. This particular person has a husband that is financially able to take care of them all - but she was happy with her "freedom" sort of speak. They both sacrifice a lot for having such a big family. And in 2006 - 6 children is considered a lot. Well above the 2 and a half US average. Which is truly IMHO a beautiful thing - but it’s just not me.

Me personally I am a chicken about being pregnant - I'll admit it. I am so afraid of being pregnant again - I couldn't breath for 6 months (my sinuses shut down - all the weird stuff happened to me when I was pregnant - but not one day of morning sickness. And - my memory of my 3 days in labor w/o drugs is so vivid (6 years later) that every time my DH wants to talk about having a baby I start having an anxiety attack. But its coming – just my luck if/when I do decide to have another baby – it will be twins – Twins run in my husbands family.

Don't be offended about the 'feel sorry' statement - I'm talking about that particular person - thats all.


From someone who doesn't do pregnancy so well I can understand feeling sorry for a women who has been pregnant 6 times. Now some women feel great while pregnant and it really suits them. I would not feel bad for them. I am not one of them (nor are most of my friends.) I don't feel sorry for a women with six kids, but I do feel in awe of her. :worship: :worship:

Anyone who is a parent knows it is a tough and rewarding job. :teeth: Being pregnant for 79 weeks of my life was a challenge for me, but worth it. (on the same hand adoption is a lot of effort, emotional and otherwise and money also). If we don't have another it won't be because I can't bear to be pregnant again, because I know it is tempary and I can make it though it, (I did before at least.) My personal health or that of the baby was never at risk, I just felt horrible most of the time. I may feel differenlty if I was risking my own health and risking leaving the children I have with out a mother.

However being pregnant for 240 days of my life, wow that is a lot. :blush: I can understand how you feel though. Everyone has different life experinces that leads to to where they are and how they think and feel. :) Labor is often easier the 2nd time though. ;) You DD really is a cutie :cutie: you and DH do good work. ;)

[Carrie Ellis]

Agreed - it is her business - none of mine - but because I know her personally and I know right before she found out she was pregnant she talked about how happy she was that all of her children were now school age and she had her first job in 9 years (besides baby sitting for others) and she applied for schools - and just how free and happy she was feeling. This particular person has a husband that is financially able to take care of them all - but she was happy with her "freedom" sort of speak. They both sacrifice a lot for having such a big family. And in 2006 - 6 children is considered a lot. Well above the 2 and a half US average. Which is truly IMHO a beautiful thing - but it’s just not me.

Me personally I am a chicken about being pregnant - I'll admit it. I am so afraid of being pregnant again - I couldn't breath for 6 months (my sinuses shut down - all the weird stuff happened to me when I was pregnant - but not one day of morning sickness. And - my memory of my 3 days in labor w/o drugs is so vivid (6 years later) that every time my DH wants to talk about having a baby I start having an anxiety attack. But its coming – just my luck if/when I do decide to have another baby – it will be twins – Twins run in my husbands family.

Don't be offended about the 'feel sorry' statement - I'm talking about that particular person - thats all.


djm99,

I hope you have twins too! It is fun but alot of work. I considered the 1st year very similar to boot camp!!! After the first year, I thought, it was easier than having a singleton. They sleep better because they have eachother (but not the first year), play together and always have a buddy.

But, twins have nothing to do with your husband or his side! Fraternal twins runs on your maternal side. It is the gene (or something) that cause you to drop more than one egg. My great-grandmother had two sets of twins like me. Identical twins is when your egg splits and seems to be just a freak of nature. I am sure there might be argument there but it is when for some reason your egg decides to split.

My husband was bragging about his twin making ability and I had to bring reality to him....he had nothing to do with it anymore than creating one child. One million sperm is one million sperm!
:rotfl2:

[Twingle]

djm99,

I hope you have twins too! It is fun but alot of work. I considered the 1st year very similar to boot camp!!! After the first year, I thought, it was easier than having a singleton. They sleep better because they have eachother (but not the first year), play together and always have a buddy.

But, twins have nothing to do with your husband or his side! Fraternal twins runs on your maternal side. It is the gene (or something) that cause you to drop more than one egg. My great-grandmother had two sets of twins like me. Identical twins is when your egg splits and seems to be just a freak of nature. I am sure there might be argument there but it is when for some reason your egg decides to split.

My husband was bragging about his twin making ability and I had to bring reality to him....he had nothing to do with it anymore than creating one child. One million sperm is one million sperm!
:rotfl2:

THIS CRACKED ME UP! When we found out we were expecting our (fraternal) twins, my husband did the same thing! Our doctor, who is a very good family friend as well as my OB/GYN, asked him how he managed to get his sperm to convince one more egg to drop! :rotfl:

[djm99]

djm99,

But, twins have nothing to do with your husband or his side! Fraternal twins runs on your maternal side. It is the gene (or something) that cause you to drop more than one egg. My great-grandmother had two sets of twins like me. Identical twins is when your egg splits and seems to be just a freak of nature. I am sure there might be argument there but it is when for some reason your egg decides to split.

Okay - I have friend whose mother is a twin. Her brothers wife just found out they were having twins. This will be the first set of twins on her side of the family. And - the twins in my DH runs from his mother's mother (Granny) who had two sets of twins. I also have 2 cousins (they are sisters) their mother and my grandmother were sisters (my 2nd cousin) anyway - 2 of the sisters had twins (one two boys - the other boy/girl). No one else in our family has twins but them - so we have to assume that twins run of the fathers side of the family (whom they didn't know very well - he died when they were young). I'm not making this stuff up pixiedust:

BTW, I not trying to wish up on twins - two babies inside of me :worried:- oh my goodness, the thought - I'm loosing oxygen - breath in - breath out! :scared1:

[mom2my3kids]

Congrats.. My third child completed my family and then I made sure to have a tubal. I love having three children, mine are spaced my daughter is 12, my middle son is 8 and my last son is 2. The baby will fit right into your family and you will never know how you managed before.. :grouphug:

[Grendalynn]

:goodvibes One last THANK YOU for all of the great posts, input, opinions and kind words! I recieved far more posts than I was expecting and wish you all well! All the great information has helped me adjust to being a new mom again and to see the greatness in our future life with 3 children, as you all have experienced ! ((Remind me I said this when I am up with feedings and diapers in October :lmao: )) Enjoy your families as I/we will be sure to enjoy ours and our new addition come October! :hug:

Happy Posting!! See you on the DIS.... :cool1:

[Mouse House Mama]

Oh I almost forgot another "great" thing that people fell compelled to ask- "That's it right? You're not having any more are you?" Hmmm...since when did these people become population control? We will have as many as suits us thank you very much!

[mom2four1]

Congrats on your pregnancy! My 3rd pregnancy turned out to be twins so you can imagine the comments I got and still get having 4 kids. People can be quite rude and I have found sometimes family/friends are the worst! I hope you have a healthy and problem free pregnancy and come October a healthy new bundle of joy!!
Tracy

[Carrie Ellis]

Oh I almost forgot another "great" thing that people fell compelled to ask- "That's it right? You're not having any more are you?" Hmmm...since when did these people become population control? We will have as many as suits us thank you very much!



:worship: :worship: :worship:

So so true!

Good luck Grendalynn! It seems like a lifetime that first year but then "poof" it is over!! I truely believe that "family" is what life is about. Everything else will not even be remembered after we are gone.....I sure don't want them standing at my gravesite saying "gee she sure could clean", "I am so glad she went to work to work everyday", "remember mom..she had a nice car" etc... I want them to say "mom loved us so much and gave us the best life!!"

So don't worry and enjoy your wonderful family!!

[jim and meesie]

DS#1 is 7 in April and DS#2 is 3 next week - Those are pretty spread out and managable!! Is it that absurd to have 3 children in this day and age?? :

Congratulations, 3 is a magic number!!! When I found out I was having my third I was totally in shock and it has turned out amazing. My kids are about the same age spread DS (18) was almost 8 when 3rd was born, DD (13) was just 3 when 3rd was born and DS (10). There is alot of juggling because each is at a different stage so with 3 kids they do outnumber us but it definitely keeps us younger longer!! We were 35 (and the youngest parents in the class when our oldest started 1st grade), and 43 when our youngest started (and definitely on the older end for parents). Looking back, we couldn't have planned it any better!!!!! :cool1:

[Lil' Grumpy]

oh that's was so nice in taking the time to repond. :cool: no culture/no society can exist without the family unit. nobody loves you like your mother.
even in a zillion years, the development from newborn to sucessful adulthood
will depends on family values. forget about fancy cars, clothing or big houses,
what really :cool2: is a reachin parenthood and being part of a :grouphug: . what i know was passed on...a parent has two major objectives--to educate & to protect. the insights from carrie were prefect. and yes there are things not to like--sure glad when we no longer had to buy diapers. so~after every
darn fool in egypt likes to eat eggs [ the jig for labor] ,you'll have a :angel:.
just wanted to mentioned...to the person wanting twins....older women increase their chances by nature. and to the "mom of sleepy,doc and bashful"
pixiedust: that blond princess: sure is lucky. families need strong supporters and i got to say your attitude is :thumbsup2 , :sunny: , and
pixiedust: . as for the op, i think this destiny meant for you . and you
will meet every challenge with tender loving care. and great for you for
standing up!

[MommyPoppins]

Congrats! :woohoo:

We have 4, ages 5, 4, 3, and 1. All boys. You should see the looks I get when I tell people, "Yes, they are all mine, and we want at least 2 more!" :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: It's priceless.

[myboysnme]

I only have two right now, but am looking forward to having number three in the future. My oldest is 5, youngest almost six months, so mine will be pretty spaced out as well. I am getting the opposite. "So are you planning number 3 yet? However, I do get the shocked looks when I say I am actually considering it!

Congratulations! Children are such a blessing and I would love to have more than three! I don't understand why people feel the need to act as though they are such a burden. If you are happy, and your children are well cared for and happy, what difference does it make to anyone else?!

Again, Congratulations on your new little blessing.

[SanDiegoDayTripper]

Been reading this thread for days -- just talked to a dear friend with one DS, age 13...She had the greatest line for nosy people in the check out line when asked when she was having another one:

"We spent $10,000 on in vitro procedures for this one, we're currently raising money for a second, would you like to contribute?" :lmao:

I also have two set of friends who both had lovely only children, and both couples (separately, they don't know each other) went on 10th anniversary trips to Hawaii and came back with a surprise souvenir!! :tongue:

[Alice28]

Congratulations from another mom of 3.

My favorite was, "I sure hope you get a girl this time." (I had two boys); since when did boys become second best? I also got lots of comments like, "Oh wow....I can't believe you are having three....are ya nuts? Are you sure?" Our third was quite carefully planned out to the "T" thank you very much! And SHE is an absolute joy- can't imagine our family without her.

Like you, our children are spaced evenly by about 3.5 years. It makes things quite easy in my opinion. The boys are pretty independent now, but oh, they love their sister so much!

Many congratulations to you and your family! :cool1:

[KristiKelly]

Congratulations!!! I got alot of comments like that when we were expecting #3 as well. I still get people asking, "How many more are you planning on having?" I had my tubes tied so this is it.

[BuzzNutt]

Congradulations are your happy addition. We planned on having at least three but were only blessed with one. If others don't want three or four than so be it. Do what is right for you and enjoy the adventure.

[DisneyPhD]

Congratulations from another mom of 3.

My favorite was, "I sure hope you get a girl this time." (I had two boys); since when did boys become second best? I also got lots of comments like, "Oh wow....I can't believe you are having three....are ya nuts? Are you sure?" Our third was quite carefully planned out to the "T" thank you very much! And SHE is an absolute joy- can't imagine our family without her.

Like you, our children are spaced evenly by about 3.5 years. It makes things quite easy in my opinion. The boys are pretty independent now, but oh, they love their sister so much!

Many congratulations to you and your family! :cool1:


I think that when you have 2 girls, people hope your 3rd is a boy.
2 boys, hope you have a girl
Just natrual really.
But the truth is most of the time if you have 2 girls, you think they are great and would love a 3rd, but then again a boy would be nice too. :teeth:
Same goes for boys and girls.
However my mom really did want a girl. She had 3 boys before she had me.

If you have a boy and a girl they wonder why you are having a 3rd at all. :rotfl:

I must admit my college roomate has 2 little very active and fun boys. She is pregnant with her 3rd and as a mom of girls, I was thrilled for her to hear it was a girl. I am sure she would of been thrilled either way. :goodvibes

[paigevz]

Huh..........I don't bat an eyelash until they're pregnant with number 5..........and then only in private!

I am considering another, too, it will be the third. Mine are very spread out also. I don't understand what they are so shocked about? :confused3

[Bea]

:goodvibes Congratulations. :thumbsup2 I have 2 older daughters (now 12 and 8) and a 7 month old son :goodvibes . Because I am in my late 30's, and there is a huge age difference between the baby and the other kids, I had even strangers ask if he was planned. There is nothing more rude than that :mad: . Even though he wasn't exactly planned I can't imagine life without him. Iam so glad things worked out the way they did. He is lucky, he has 3 moms (me and my 2 daughters). It has really bonded our family. :banana:

I have lots of friends who have 3 or 4 kids and I to be honest, I used to think they were crazy (I would NEVER express that to them though), but now that I have my 3rd, I totally understand. :goodvibes

[Befferk]

I haven't read through all the comments, but 1st of all - congratulations! :Pinkbounc

I am sure you have gotten a lot of comments from the great people here. Sometimes I think the rude people just think they NEED to say something witty. They don't realize how dumb they really sound. Just have your witty comebacks ready.

Please remember though that when people say/post things like "I didn't want my child to be an only" or "I didn't want my child to feel like an only child" that hurts just as much as the rude people you are putting down for commenting on your larger family. :blush:

We have an only child, partly by choice and partly because of health reasons. I get the rude comments too. I always tell them "We did it right the 1st time". They don't need to know our reasons for only having one.

:hug:

:wizard: Beth

[Motherofboys]

Congratulations on your third! Our third child added such an interesting dynamic to our family, and then the fourth made it complete! I just laugh at the people who come up to me and marvel at our "big" family (I come from a family of 7 kids). My husband grew up with one sister and he's always been envious of the "big family" bond my siblings and I share. I think most people today just don't understand that some people view their children as assets and not liabilities. I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy.

[checkwriter]

Congratulations! It reminds me of when my wife was having our fifth. She has a small frame, and he was a big baby, and when she was in the latter stages of her pregnancy, someone came up to one of our close friends and asked "Is she having twins and doesn't know it?"

Our friend gave what I consider to be the only appropriate answer: "Well if she doesn't know, then I sure don't know!"

[zookeeper]

We've got 5 kids, the first 4 were born in 4 1/2 years and the last one came 3 years later. I think people assumed we would stop after #3 because she was a girl after having 2 boys, but I always wanted a big family. As for the comments when I'm out with them I always say:

when we had 3 people would say "Oh, you must be a busy mom!"

when we had 4 people would say "Are they all yours? Wow!"

when I'm out with all 5 they don't say anything they just stare at us in horror like we're a circus sideshow!!! :rotfl2:

BEST OF LUCK!!! :wave:

[Lil' Grumpy]

...just wanted to add. to princessbaby. God bless. you are very brave as you
are special. a r n, huh? i worked with some over the years allowing me to observed their life saving/changing dedication. in fact, some 10 years ago
i wrote some poetry to honor how much they gave "my" life...without them, i would not be here today. your comments about your children were very touching. talk about unconditional love! i think how much you love your children make them very special indeed!! and it carries the potential to overcome any odds. look at me...writing this...overcoming a few obstacles
[life threatening]..many,many years ago. just because i had a mother who
refused to give up [ on me] and nurses like yourself. there is no credit i can
express to you [and all mothers] & dedicated rns'. way back then, it wasn't
make a wish but cripple children. nurses made it worked. as for having
a third, well i wanted to be an only one but after the ninth,tenth- that
sorta vanished. now we are all over the country... with children and even grandchildren. together we have given each other a wonderful life. don't let
no one limit their future. for the challenges they face today may give them the insights to do great things tomorrow. nor does it has to be big for it
to be special. in my case it happened when we had our firstborn, the first
grandson...the year before we lost our father. to our family, this was a major
event. being one of seven brothers, i was the least likely. sometimes i feel the most important meanings for life are the things planned for us...but we had nothing to do with. our third child wasn't the charm but full of it...i wouldn't trade her for anything! it always makes me feel good watching disney caring for children with special needs...after all i was one of them many years ago. thus, i believe iam paying walt back by taking my
children to wdw and dcl cruises. as long as disney remains walt's inspiration, it will always belong to children. boy [girl], this thread should been done on mother's day...thanks,again.

[tigger0215]

My Best Friend's Mother just had her 8th child... AND GET THIS!! HER MOM IS OVER 50!!!.... She Also HOMESCHOOLS THE OLDER ONES.. The oldest is in collage and the youngest is turning 1 on easter sunday!!

I appreciate her love of children!

[idreamofdisney24/7]

OUr #4 is due May 1. It's the last for us! Our others are 11, 8, and 2! I remember my mother in law silent on the other end of the phone. Speechless!! Everyone else was and is excited.. My friends are excited because they can continue having babies through me..most have 1 or 2 kids..and don't want more either!

Congratulations!!

[sara74]

If you have a boy and a girl they wonder why you are having a 3rd at all. :rotfl:

Get that one all the time! My answer is "Because we can!" and "We need a tie-breaker!"

Going to the OB in a few hours actually. And lately I've been thinking that 4 would be nice (Haven't said a word of that to DH!)

[Motherofboys]

In my unbiased opinion :), four is nice. Our boys tend to pair up and it's much nicer to have two pairs than one pair and one kid feeling left out. To us it feels like a big family, but not unmanageable.

[DisneyPhD]

Get that one all the time! My answer is "Because we can!" and "We need a tie-breaker!"

Going to the OB in a few hours actually. And lately I've been thinking that 4 would be nice (Haven't said a word of that to DH!)

Haha. Best of luck. If you have 3, you need ot even the odds out then! :goodvibes What ever feels right for your family. Lately I find myself thinking about a 3rd child, but in like 3 years from now when I miss babies too much and when I can't remember how much I hate pregnancy. :teeth:

[buttons]

My DH and I just had our second child and we are planning (as we always have) to have at least one more, hopefully two more. I have to say I am somewhat suprised at the number of people who have one or even two and are completely sure they don't want any others. I say, the more, the merrier! My dad is the oldest of 10 children and I adored growing up with so many aunts, uncles, and cousins.