This Is Why We Need Disney World......

[Lives4Disney]

I found out last week that my 9 yr old daughter (blondie in my signature pics) was the victim of some nasty bullying for the past month.

Last week I took her to the doctor because she woke up the previous week limping, her foot was so mysteriously sore she couldn't put weight on it. She is a tap dancer, so I thought maybe that - except she hadn't tapped in the prior 5 days :confused3 ....Well....After we saw the dr. who recommended I take her for Xrays (which we did), that night she put her head on the table and cried and told me two kids - that she had been friends with at the beginning of the school year - had been STOMPING on her feet and KICKING her in the shins in the bus line for over a month. She felt too embarrassed and humiliated to tell. :guilty:

The most heartbreaking thing is that she is visually impaired - has very limited peripheral vision and blind spots in her central vision - they were taking advantage of this so she couldn't see them doing it and couldn't move out of the way or defend herself. I wanted some heads to roll. The school handled it quickly and it is OVER.

Now, since her Xrays came back normal, we have to go see an orthopedic doctor for more tests. :guilty:

I just am so happy that we have our spring break Disney World trip to look forward to. Hopefully that foot will be all better by then. Kids need that Disney magic in their lives. (parents, too! :blush: )

Just had to vent a little. Sorry.

Lives4Disney :sunny:

[java]

Oh How horrible. I have an 8 year old daughter and this just breaks my heart. What is wrong with those girls? I am glad the school stepped in and that she was brave enough to tell you. Tell her she has a cyber buddy thinking about her and hoping that those girls leave her alone!(and my dd is a tae kwon do girl so if they need some kicking.......ok not really but.) I hope their parents have been notified and that they make them formally apologize to her. She has an older brother that had to defend her once when she was in 2nd grade. All it took was a threat and the boy backed down. Bullies are just big chickens. Your daughter is so cute. Please give her a hug from us. princess:

[hearingaidmom]

Iam so sorry this happened to your precious daughter. Your post has brought tears to my eyes. My DS is hearing impaired. The thought that other kids would take advantage/abuse him because of it makes me ill. All the best to you and both of your beautiful daughters. :grouphug:

[grimley1968]

I'm so sorry to hear this. That's awful. I'm hoping she gets to feeling better soon and before your vacation. I worry about my daughter being bullied someday (she's very thin, clumsy and very sensitive - all traits that are like magnets to bullies), so I can certainly sympathize with your situation. I'm glad your school system straightened the problem out. Not all of them do much for those situations. I hope her self-esteem hasn't been shaken too much. Anyway, here's hoping for a bully-less future for your DD. :grouphug:

[Tink215]

Oh I read your post and Started to cry for you, Lots of Pixe Dust, I hate Bullies........I have two Girls, 5 and almost 2 I dread that because I was bullied at school and it was horrible.....My Hubby Is a Police Officer at two elementary schools and Bullying is not tolerated and he and the Staff are all real strict on that.....I hope this does not have any negative lasting effects on your DD........I hope you guys have an absolute wonderful time. I hope its extra special for her, she deserves it........ princess:

[momrek06]

OMG, that is horrible....I have seen shows i.e. Dr. Phil, Oprah on kids and bullying and it is something that is getting out of control today and the poor kids that are getting bullied all seemed to be too afraid to tell anyone as in the meantime (in the OP's case) her duaghter continues to get bullied....HORRIBLE, that is all I can say. I will say a prayer that THIS STOPS for her and sooner than later.

AND A GOOD DECISION TO GO TO THE MAGIC KINGDOM AND FORGET ALL YOUR WOOS FOR A WHILE ANYWAY!!!!! HAVE THE BEST TIME EVER!!! COUNTING THE DAYS I AM SURE!!! She is a PRINCESS princess: !!!!

[grimley1968]

Iam so sorry this happened to your precious daughter. Your post has brought tears to my eyes. My DS is hearing impaired. The thought that other kids would take advantage/abuse him because of it makes me ill. All the best to you and both of your beautiful daughters. :grouphug:

I grew up with hearing problems, and certainly still have them, although 2 elective surgeries helped me out a bit. There certainly was a lot of nasty teasing growing up (you know - the sarcastic fake sign language or "Are you deaf?!?"), but you do sort of get thick-skinned about it over time. Finally, I learned when someone hatefully asked "Are you deaf?" in the middle of a crowd, to simply say "Yes, 95% in one ear and 45% in the other". 99% of the time the public shame shuts up the bully at that point. For the other 1% that wouldn't stop there and chose to make it physical, well, let's just say they learned I didn't need to hear very well to bloody their noses with a quicker than expected jab. :rotfl:

[Chad&Janet]

That is perhaps one of the most sick and infuriating things I have heard in a long time. As an eye doctor, I had a heartfelt reaction to your post. It really does not paint a very good picture of humanity. :furious:

Please enjoy your upcoming trip and let your daughter know it's ok to take up for herself! We support her!! :banana:

[sajetto]

OMG!! :furious: I am so sorry to hear this and I am sickend at how cruel her classmates are being. If I were her mother I'd want heads to roll too. Hang in there and have a wonderful disney trip :grouphug:

[ErinSLP]

AAAAAHHHHHHH!!! these stories upset me so much!!!! My daughter is only 1, and I get so upset at the thought of something like this happening to her. I get even more upset at the thought of her doing this to someone else!!!!! Enjoy your trip to Disney, hopefully it will be magical for all of you. pixiedust:

[Pixiedust34]

:grouphug: I am so sorry your dd had to endure this! My ds has a speech disorder and has been picked on by a bully now and then. It is horrible to see something like that happen to your child.

You keep focusing on that Disney trip, where every little girl feels like a princess.

[wilma-bride]

I don't normally post here but just wanted to add my heartfelt sympathies with you and your daughter. It is such a shame that she has had to endure this. Bullying is a real problem here in the UK as well. I hope that the girls who bullied your daughter get their comeuppance and that you have a wonderful spring break trip to Disney. Your daughter sounds like a wonderfully brave girl, to have kept all that to herself for such a long time. I hope she realises that not everyone in this world is so mean.

[babytrees]

I wanted to tell you that I can empathize with you!! My daughter(13 now) went through bullying when she was your daughter's age and I wanted to throttle the kids doing it but she wouldn't tell us who was doing it. :guilty: . This school loving girl did not want to go to school anymore. :sad2: .

Tell your lovely daughter that it will get better!!

Cassidy now has the best self esteem of any teen I know and even when her "friends" comment on her...she comes back with I like the way I look and I know what I like.

We will keep you in our prayers.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel!!

[DisneyMomx7]

So sorry you and your dd had to go through this. I think bullying is one of the most infuriating, disgusting and cruel things anyone can do. Hope your trip to Disney helps.

[Lives4Disney]

Thanks so much for all your kind words. :grouphug: It picked me up. :)

My daughter is such an awesome, inspiring kid. She is gradually losing her sight due to a retinal disease (RP) and over the past 3 years has gone to now using a white cane, getting mobility training, and learning Braille (impressively fast), and learning how to do so many other things with reduced vision. Whenever I think of how she was made to feel, degraded and humiliated by these two kids I feel like I want to bawl!! :guilty: She is the LAST person I would have thought to be picked on because she really has such a high self esteem, she knows she is just a God given blessing to us. Kids can just be so cruel, though.

:furious: to all the bullies out there and hugs and love to the victims.

She told me she didn't want to tell me because she knew it would upset me (well....YA!!) She said she thought all they could do was bruise her up a bit and she could handle that. :sad2:

The school has been more than great. Many people there have a soft spot for her in their hearts and the situation was dealt with immediately once she told. They are even having her meet with the social worker weekly to discuss any problems she may be having and teach her how to assert herself a bit more and learn some strategies she is comfortable with for handling any of these nasty situations. :grouphug: I really love her school.

THANKS again, everyone for standing up for us!! Really really really looking forward to our Disney escape! :wizard:

Lives4Disney :sunny:

[princessjv]

I am in total shock... This behavior is not acceptable and especially cannot be tollerated in our schools! I hope the children who are bullying are tought an awakening lesson by the school and their parents that this sort of behavior is not tolerated, and is punishable! The next time they start in our your DD, make sure she is armed with some words of wisdom for them, that hopefully someday will impact the bullys lives ("Do onto others as you want done to yourself", "what comes around goes around", etc...)

Good Luck to her! May the magic of Disney help heal...

[hearingaidmom]

I grew up with hearing problems, and certainly still have them, although 2 elective surgeries helped me out a bit. There certainly was a lot of nasty teasing growing up (you know - the sarcastic fake sign language or "Are you deaf?!?"), but you do sort of get thick-skinned about it over time. Finally, I learned when someone hatefully asked "Are you deaf?" in the middle of a crowd, to simply say "Yes, 95% in one ear and 45% in the other". 99% of the time the public shame shuts up the bully at that point. For the other 1% that wouldn't stop there and chose to make it physical, well, let's just say they learned I didn't need to hear very well to bloody their noses with a quicker than expected jab. :rotfl:

Grimley, Thanks for your perspective. My DS is 6 years old and has the most wonderful outgoing personality. :love: He wears bilateral hearing aids and is so positive about them. Anytime another kid makes any comments about his aids (positive or negative) he proceeds to explain what the aids are for and why he needs them. So far we haven't faced anything physical though. Maybe, my DH needs to teach him how to box! :rotfl2: However, sometimes words can hurt as much or more as something physical.

[beckmrk04]

I don't have children yet, but I can only imagine your heartache. Rest assured that your daughter will learn to be a more tolerant wonderful human being because of this! I was also bullied in junior high when we moved to a new very small town, and looking back I realize that the bullies were picking on me to fulfill their own insecurities (now many of them are divorced, unhappy, and unsuccessful- so picking on me didn't help much). Let your daughter know that bullies pick on people often because they feel bad about themselves, and that DOES NOT mean that there is anything "wrong" with her! She is darling and I hope you all have a wonderful Disney trip! :love:

[DVC Sadie]

:sad2: No one has mentioned the possibility of calling the police for assault. If this had been my child we would not only have called the school but called the police. I am so sorry this happened to your precious child. :furious:

[cindermomma]

What is wrong with these kids? This is just so awful. Your daughter is a beautiful, strong little girl. I always believe what goes around comes around! Best wishes for a wonderful next Disney trip - the place where nothing matters except fun! Have a magical time! :wizard: :wizard:

[Stacerita]

My daughter is such an awesome, inspiring kid. She is gradually losing her sight due to a retinal disease (RP) and over the past 3 years has gone to now using a white cane, getting mobility training, and learning Braille (impressively fast), and learning how to do so many other things with reduced vision. Whenever I think of how she was made to feel, degraded and humiliated by these two kids I feel like I want to bawl!! :guilty: She is the LAST person I would have thought to be picked on because she really has such a high self esteem, she knows she is just a God given blessing to us. Kids can just be so cruel, though.

:furious: to all the bullies out there and hugs and love to the victims.

She told me she didn't want to tell me because she knew it would upset me (well....YA!!) She said she thought all they could do was bruise her up a bit and she could handle that. :sad2:


You DD is an amazing kid. In spite of what those kids were putting her through she still was worried about you. And after reading how she has taken to braille and been dealing with her reduced vision issues just is inspiring. I am sure to be retelling this story to the sweetpea. Shes not a bully, and she doesn't get bullied, but it will make her more aware of how important it is to stand up for others.

[Hannathy]

I'm glad your school is helping your daughter but just a for warning GIRLS are nasty don't be surprised if these brats don't start with the verbal nastiness.
even if your sweetie didn't have vision difficulties many girls are picked on by other girls sometimes in very subtle but still mean ways. My DD was picked on in kindergarten yes kindergarten 'cause she had on a Minnie sweatshirt, they told her it was for babies. Good luck and have fun on your trip ! Maybe she could "accidently" start wapping them with her cane!!

[LegoMom3]

I just read your post and then saw your picture, and this has brought tears to my eyes....It makes me mad and sad and outraged all at the same time. I have kids, and my 9 yr. old DS has experienced bullying (though not to this extent) so my heart goes out to you. I am glad, however, that the school did something about it. I pray your family has a truly magical time at WDW this spring! Enjoy the World and enjoy each other, and give your kids an extra big hug!!!!

[Beth E. (NJ)]

How awful for your daughter. I'm so glad the school handled it. I hope your daughter has nothing but bright skys ahead.

[donaldbuzz&minnie]

I hate, hate, hate the whole bullying thing. Kids have to go to school - we adults tell them they have no choice, so we adults need to make sure that they are safe. I'm tearing up thinking of your daughter, and am glad that your school is taking this seriously enough to make sure it stops.

IMO making sure kids aren't bullied should be at the top of the list for every school. For too many kids, by the time they get to high school, their lives are like Lord of the Flies. Stop it in elementary school, and make sure it stays stopped!!!

[Soccerpooh]

My heart goes out to you and your daughter. I know exactly how you feel. My oldest DS is MIMH after suffering brain damage from contracting Viral Encephalytis at 4 mos. I worry so much when he is at school. The teachers are so great to him, and there are the kids who really help him and look out for him, but then there are those few who like to tease and take advantage of him. He is finally telling us when something happens. Like you, I love Disney because it is an escape, and there are no bullies at Disney! I am so glad your daughter has a great self esteem, that will really carry her thru a lot in the coming years. Keep up the great parenting!! Pixie Dust for all of you! pixiedust: pixiedust: pixiedust:

[Nancyg56]

My heart is breaking for you and your DD. I am so glad that your DD's school did not drop the ball on this one. My DS was the victim of bullying back when schools pretended that it did not happen, and it is heartwrenching. My DS also tried to protect me and I found out because the bus driver was a friend of my sister.

:grouphug: to you and your precious daughter.

[2tinkersmom]

Your daughters are both such beautiful girls! I am so sorry that she had to go through this whole thing and like others have said as a mom I feel so badly for you as well.

Keep telling her how wonderful, beautiful and strong she is. I try to encourage my two girls every day here at home because they do face such awful stuff at school sometimes.

It is a shame that bullying has become such an issue. And I think our kids don't always recognize it as a wrong behavior. They know going with a stranger is wrong, they know to respect teachers, they know to look when crossing a street..........but I don't think our schools make them aware enough of how terribly their words and actions can be so very harmful to another person.

My oldest is recently wanting to be on the computer and is talking about having her own email address. I keep saying not yet because I am so worried about all the things we're hearing about cyber bullying with teens through email and websites.

And unfortunately a lot of school bullying and now bullying on the computer happens because parents aren't paying attention to how their kids are treating other people. I hope we can all become more aware of this.

Have a wonderful, magical time in Disney. I hope both your girls feel like true princesses while you are there!!

[grimley1968]

Grimley, Thanks for your perspective. My DS is 6 years old and has the most wonderful outgoing personality. :love: He wears bilateral hearing aids and is so positive about them. Anytime another kid makes any comments about his aids (positive or negative) he proceeds to explain what the aids are for and why he needs them. So far we haven't faced anything physical though. Maybe, my DH needs to teach him how to box! :rotfl2: However, sometimes words can hurt as much or more as something physical.

Your DS will be fine, although there probably will always be some ignorant people who will make fun mostly because they are ignorant about the situation. Many of those types of people, once they learn about the entire situation, have become friends of mine over the years, even though they were once bullies. But then there are some bullies, like the OP's situation who sound absolutely hateful despite probably knowing the full situation. Thick glasses and a small stick should make it obvious to anyone that her DD has vision problems. It honestly makes one nearly sick to the stomach to think anyone, even a kid, would take advantage of that. I'm glad to hear her school was so supportive of her. I didn't realize her DD actually carried a stick around until one of her later posts, so the original post just became all the more disturbing when I found that out, knowing how obvious a symbol of weakened vision that is. However, she sounds like an amazing and strong little girl who will probably become stronger from this experience. But it had to be tough at that time. :(

Maybe I was also bullied because at one time I looked not totally unlike my "Ed Grimley" photo on the left? ;) A couple of decades and a lot of weight changed all that though.

One thing that made things easier for me, and tougher in some ways, was that my ears are surgically repairable (to an extent) and I never really needed hearing aids, and they wouldn't have helped me much anyway. My problem was more getting sound to travel beyond my middle ear, which hearing aids can't really address much. I didn't need amplification so much as a "redirection" of sound around some badly formed middle ear parts, which surgery helps with somewhat. The surgery was revolutionary when I was your DS's age and required a week-long stay at a Memphis hospital. Now it's outpatient surgery that can be done in most regional hospitals. So I didn't have visible hearing aids for people to see and understand; they just noticed I didn't respond to them right away sometimes. So most of the teasing I got was based on my different "personality", which was a little bit different than one who can hear things correctly the first, 2nd and 3rd time it's said.

[missymagic]

I also an very sorry to hear how these girls were being horrible to your daughter. Your daughter gained courage by eventually telling you I pray she keeps that courage and she can come to you again should anything ever happen.

The pixie dust won't cure the cruelty of children but helps them to forget temporarily. I know I try to tell my girls to help other that are in situations like that or at least tell another adult these things are happening. May you have a wonderful trip to Disney an dyour board family is always here for you to vent or get advice!!

[Lives4Disney]

You all are so kind! :)

I told my daughter everybody sends her hugs and also thinks it was just awful how she was treated and made to feel. (she was embarrassed that I posted, but I can't even really tell my friends because I know they will be so sad & she will be embarrassed if they know! I needed to vent - hope nobody from our town sees this!!!! ;) )

My daughter is so wonderful. She didn't want the kids to get in "Hot soup" (as she put it) but wanted their behavior stopped. She feels good that it is over and done. She feels validated that the school took her seriously and she feels safe because it really seems to have ended. There are so many great people that work at her school and look out for her (nice kids look out for her, too). This was just an awful flukey thing. Bored kids standing in bus line, with nothing better to do, and not enough supervision it seems. I thought the kids were evil little monsters, too. But now that I have cooled down, I just think they were stupid bored brats. :rolleyes: Even though my daughter carries a cane, she is pretty much fully functioning as far as everything a normal kid would do, so maybe these kids just honestly didn't realize how their actions would be perceived. ???

To the poster that mentioned hitting them with her cane - YES!!! I asked her the same thing!!!! She is just a nonviolent little girl and wouldn't want to hurt anybody. If she did hurt someone, she would hurt inside. That is how she is.

Disney is our favorite vacation and it is a great escape from life's harshness. It is the place where happiness lives, afterall!! :wizard: I just hope she can walk by then!!

Anybody have any foot experience/knowledge??? Since the Xrays came back normal, what next??? We see an orthopedic Dr. tomorrow morning, but I am getting nervous as to why her foot is still so sore and she limps & can't put weight on it. Something isn't right.

Thanks to all for your replies. It feels good to be able to vent and be heard and stood up for!!

Lives4Disney :sunny:

[pirateofthecarolinas]

:grouphug: for you and your family. :wave2:

Lori

[Mom2R&D]

Your daughter is truly a gem. :goodvibes

My oldest DS(10) has PE with a young man that bears the brunt of many, many jokes from the other fourth grade boys. He's come home more than once telling me what he's seen and how he doesn't really understand why they want to treat him so badly when he hasn't done anything wrong other than being a little different. After a little explaining he got the jist of it and I honestly believes he tries to make a point to be kind and considerate to this young man and NOT join in with the other weak-minded-follow-the-pack morons. ;)

I wish her the best of luck. She'll soar, you just watch. (But you already knew that anyway. :goodvibes )

[Hannathy]

two things I wouldn't believe the xrays until the orthopedic Dr. reads them Hands and feet can be hard to read for a GP or ER doc and sometimes they miss little things. and Some deep bruises or sprains and strains hurt more and heal slower than fractures. I'm glad you are going to a specialist. your Daughter sounds really sweet just remind her that sometimes bees have to sting! and there is nothing wrong with defending herself. Good Luck.

[shasess]

You know I really hate hearing stories like this.... I hope these girls were fully punished for the way they treated your daughter. Being that it happened at the bus stop it should still be classified as school property and these girls should have at least been suspended. I'm glad you were able to find out what was going on with your daughter before things got out of hand...I hope your sweetie has a wonderful time at Disney and you may want to sign her up for Karate when you return (LOL)

[Chris]

Oh I'm so sorry for you and your daughter. How horrible. I'm glad the school acted quickly and I'm like you, I'd have wanted there heads on a platter.

I hope you have a wonderful vacation and both your girls are beautiful.

[mom23boys]

I am really sorry your DD is going through this. She sounds like a wonderful little girl.

I cannot believe children can be so mean and it breaks my heart that she was betrayed by a friend. :sad1:

I hope your family has a great vacation. Hugs to all. :grouphug:

[PrincessasMommy]

I had to post just to tell you that I know how you feel and my heart goes out to you. My daughter just turned 10 and she is legally blind and has Albinism (albino), she was bullied and tormented so bad that I was forced to transfer her school as she was terrified to be outside at recess. She has recovered and is happy but these situations have just become a part of her life, sadly. We try to keep her real close, very involved in after school activities (legally blind but she is a figure skater - if you believe it - it's an individual sport so she took to it), and we always remain positive and what you model is what she becomes, right? You sound like a fabulous Mom and that she has a fabulous school and support system is the best you can ask for. She's beautiful!

[Tinkerbellmom33]

:grouphug:
These stories break my heart! I'm glad to hear that her school stood up for her. Your daughter is a beautiful girl inside and out and I hope she always remembers that and doesn't let anyone break her spirit. :angel:
Enjoy your vacation and I hope her foot's healed up in time :goodvibes

[mickeymousemom]

:grouphug: from my house to yours. We have been thru the bullying thing so much over the years, its ridiculous. Sadly enough, our school system just doesn't take things like this seriously. My DD's have been told to ignore it, etc. We are now in the process of moving my middle DD to another school(and possibly paying tuition if we don't sell our house) because of the attitude we've gotten from them over the years. You are very blessed to be a part of a school that has been so good to your daughter. Bullying is one of those things that make me so angry I can't talk at times. Many schools don't take it seriously enough, and many parents ignore the fact that their kids are bullies. I have taught my girls from the beginning that I wont tolerate them making fun of or bullying anyone. This kind of thing makes me SO angry I could go on for days, so i need to stop here. I sincerely hope the Ortho doctor has good news for you, and give your DD plenty of hugs from us. She has no reason to be embarrassed. As a matter of fact, most of us have probably been thru some amount of bullying at some point in our lives. God Bless!

[Lives4Disney]

Hi, everyone!

We went to the Orthopaedic Dr. this morning and he said it is either a contusion or a stress fracture that just is not showing up on the xrays. My daughter is now wearing one of those shoe/boot things and we go back in a week and a half to see how it's going. I am just glad it is on it's way to healing. I asked if it could have been caused by tap, and he said not likely. I have to agree. She has been tapping since kgarden and never a problem before. She is on the road to recovery! :) Her teacher and school is behind her 100% and that is such a comfort to me. :sunny:

To all of you whose kids have experienced bullying, my heart absolutely goes out to you. It is so painful to hear how your kid is being mistreated. :mad: Just kills me. :sad: Unfortunately it seems fairly common. :sad: :sad: :sad:

I am VERY lucky that the school acted so promptly and has the no tolerance attitude. I feel so awful for those of you, like Mickeymousemom, that don't have that support. Good luck to you, Mickeymousemom. What a horrible, frustrating situation. I will keep your DDs in my heart - especially your poor middle one that may have to have her life uprooted due to this garbage. Ugh.

It is so tough to be a kid these days. :worried:

Thanks for all your kind supportive words! We can get thru this!!! :grouphug:

Lives4Disney pixiedust:

[ConnieC]

I'm terribly sorry to hear the story, as a mother of 6,4 and 2.
Have a wonderful trip (or you went alreay?).

[agnes!]

You might want to share the Orthopedic Dr's diagnosis with the school. I know that they handled the situation well, but it might be a good thing to let them know how serious & lasting the consequences of the physical assault is going to be.

agnes!

[kikakeko]

I understand your anger/frustration and hurt.Hugs to everyones little ones who have went through this...
We moved to a different school district because of bullies and my oldest dd. she is 8 but she is already devolping secondary sex characteristics. she is also only in the 3rd grade this was a HUGE problem for her at the previous school. she would come home in tears daily. I went to the school and that only made it worse. Her grades we suffering as well as her self esteem. I even went as far as to call the parents of the other kids, needless to say that did not go so well. SO we moved... smaller school district still same area. I realize though that this is not a option to everyone. but it is what worked for us. she is doing great now socially no more tears. and we have been working on self esteem.
Bullying has become such a wide spread problem in our schools it really makes you wonder sometimes does it not...

[Lives4Disney]

You might want to share the Orthopedic Dr's diagnosis with the school. I know that they handled the situation well, but it might be a good thing to let them know how serious & lasting the consequences of the physical assault is going to be.

agnes!


Thanks, Agnes! I just wrote the teacher a note this morning to let them know. My daughter told her grandparents on the phone last night and she is OK about it (from her tone and the way it sounds she has pretty much put it behind her) but I am still miffed. I need to get past it, but when the Dr. did tell me that is was not caused by tap dancing, but by the stomping it just confirmed what I thought all along and made me mad all over again. And, believe me, when I had to explain to my mom about it :worried: - that just dug up all the feelings. :headache: Grandparents are crazy about their grandkids. I should have left it to them to see these brats were punished!! They wouldn't have walked away in one piece. ;)

Thanks for the advice. I agree the school should know. :guilty:

Lives4Disney :sunny:

[michelle9343]

I am so sorry that your family had to go through this. It sounds like your DD is truely a princess: . As Moms these things are really hard to get over. My DS has been Bullied for years because he is over weight. It has gotten so bad that I will be home schooling him next year. It is amazing to me how many kids are bullied and how many schools just look the other way. I hope your family has a wounderful trip.

[MayMom]

I teach a special needs classroom for severely emotionally disturbed children. I have a STRICT no - bullying policy as does our school. The problem with bullying is that many kids don't tell an adult when it is happening. This makes us feel so bad after it happens because sometimes kids put up with it for weeks, just as your sweet daughter did! I would encourage parents to have a heart-to-heart with their children, so they are prepared and know to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY. Good luck to your family...have a magical trip at WDW... :goodvibes

[39CINDERELLA]

Lives4Disney

pixiedust: to your little girl.

I too have RP so does my dd15, we are very aware of the cruelty of others, but not to the physical abuse level your dd has endured.
Humans are cruel to things they don't understand or are afraid of.
I come from a family history of RP so have always been around it and just think of it as a normal part of life. To bad others can't. princess:

[Feelslikeadream]

My heart is breaking for you and your Princess!!!! :worried: I am a Mom that can unfortunatly relate to your pain and frustration!!!! We have identical twin 9 yr boys, Austin had a horrible time in school last year was constantly picked on and bullied by three of his peers on the bus and in the classroom.(He is slightly over weight) I am a parent who feels sorry for the BULLY, because I believe it is not the child, it's the parent!!!! A child learns what they live. Austin came home from school numerous times and went to his room ,curled in fetal postition and sobbed like a baby. :sad: His self esteem was 0%!!!!! I went right to the problem and attacked!!!!!! We also discussed this with his Karate sensi',he helped .Together I beleive we have Austin back to himself, almost !!!! :woohoo: This took such a major turm in his life, and I still see the repercautions.Why must we live in a world of sooo much judgement and opion!! I was also Austin growing up, so I relived my childhood through him. I never showed him my pain.

I am so glad that they you and your daughter will be at THE WORLD soon ,she will be able to ecscape from reality for a while !!!!!! GOD BLESS with your healing. pixiedust: pixiedust: pixiedust:

[DebIreland]

A big hug for you :hug: and for your beautiful daughter :hug:

We also went through the bullying thing with my son, who is now 9, but was just 5 at the time. Even now, three years on, thinking about it, my heart starts racing and I fill up with anger, not to mention heartache. He came home from school many times bruised, scratched, crying, with his lunch box smashed up etc. He was always a very shy child. Unfortunately instead of trying to help us, his teacher not only did nothing to help but had a bit of a sick side (in my opinion) and enjoyed yelling at DS and, in retrospect, I now see that she was a bully herself and many of her pupils just mimicked her. We did everything we could, complained to our school's board of management (not sure what they're called in the U.S.) and higher than that too but ultimately decided to pull him out of the school and his older brother too who wasn't bullied but I didn't want him in such an ineffectual, poor school either.

They are both thriving now and have just started their third year in their 'new' school. It's a great school, multi-denominational and multi-everything! Mixed gender, many races and creeds. Fabulous assortment of languages and beliefs mixing together in harmony like a mini United Nations. :teeth: We love it and the boys love it and my daughter will go there too when the time comes.

Sorry, I got carried away there with my own story....... I'm so pleased that your daughter's school has dealt with this properly and you've handled this really well yourself, you sound like a great Mom. Your daughter sounds like a treasure. She's beautiful. I'm sure you'll have a blast in Disney World :woohoo: - ENJOY! And tell your daughter I think she's terrific. :)

A sweet quote for you: "A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts." [Washington Irving] :)

[cindermomma]

A sweet quote for you: "A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts." [Washington Irving]

This is one of the best quotes I have ever read DebIreland! I hope my DS5 grows to know how very true this is! :sunny: