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Iggipolka
01-15-2006, 10:08 PM
Do you hold hands with your partner when you are out in public and/or at Disney? We live in the SF Bay Area (very liberal) and even so, there are times when I feel nervous about holding my partner's hand.
We call each other "honey" and "sweetie" more often than we use each other's real names (ya I know..we're so mushy, even after 5 years :) ) and sometimes I've slipped in public and called her "hon". We get some strange looks on occasion.
We did hold hands and show affection on our last vacation to Disney, but I was always very aware that we were most certainly in the minority.

LJC1861
01-16-2006, 05:59 AM
Lisa and I hold hands alot. When we lived in NYC..in the West Village...we held hands everywhere. In other parts of the city we did use a bit of caution. Here in Asheville it is a bit different in that we don't walk everywhere. When there is nobody else around we do hold hands, and there are times when we just don't care, but if we feel that we are getting looks, or that it just isn't safe at that particular time we don't.

At WDW it is pretty much the same. We do hold hands, but if we feel that we are being stared at we don't.

As for names.....at my job in NYC, nobody knew Lisa's real name. Everybody called her "Sweetie" because that is what I usually call her. We tend to only use our real names when it is an emergency or we are fussin' at one another.

Linda

RickinNYC
01-17-2006, 09:33 AM
Neither of us are big hand holders but sure, we do but rarely. And we do so with full knowledge and awareness of where we are. But, regardless of where we are, I still have a tendency of doing the hand on the back or on the shoulder thing.

polarboi
01-19-2006, 10:04 AM
Oh, I so love that you started this topic.

A previous boyfriend and I had some lonnng conversations about this one. I wanted to take him to my favorite place on earth, and he'd never been. And during the course of those discussions, he asked if I would hold his hand while we walked around the parks.

To be honest, hand-holding in public has never been a big thing for me in the first place. Even if I were straight, I doubt I would do it. I relate to what Rick said about a hand on the back or shoulder; I'm much more likely to show physical affection in public in those sorts of ways rather than holding hands.

When it comes to Disney... well... it feels even weirder to me. My job involves dealing with conservative Christian sentiments about gay issues, so I'm painfully aware of how strong some people's anti-gay bias is. Now, I don't feel that I need to apologize for myself or my relationships, and I think their bias does need to be confronted - that's what I do for a living. But I don't really feel like a Disney vacation is the right place, and I want even the homophobes and bigots to be able to enjoy their vacations with their kids, you know? So I wasn't really comfortable holding hands while walking through the parks, although my boyfriend at the time was.

We ended up breaking up before the trip, though, and just went as friends. So it wasn't an issue. :earboy2:

On my most recent trip, though, I noticed a gay couple holding hands, and it made me smile. :) I was glad they were doing it... it just wasn't for me.

-p.b.

Elevationist
01-20-2006, 02:52 AM
On my our last trip to the World about a year ago, my girlfriend (now fiance!) really pressured me for physical affection while we were out and about. I was really uptight about hand-holding the first day, because as a few said above, it just felt strange being in such a minority.

That first night, though, on the busses back to the All-Stars... There was a young lesbian couple sitting on the bench across from us. We didn't talk much, but I noticed them holding hands, and one girl cuddled up to her partner sleepily after the long day at Magic Kingdom. It made me so very happy, and reminded me to be proud. So my lady and I stayed finger-locked for the rest of the trip! LOL :love2:

iankh
01-20-2006, 05:36 AM
We've never been much for holding hands, so its not something we really do anywhere. We've never been very big on showing public affection, be that in a mixed venue or a gay venue. This past New Year's Eve we went down to WDW and after dinner we went to the Boardwalk area to hang out. We did have our arms around each other and kissed at midnight. But for us, that was a rare display.

Viki
01-20-2006, 07:55 AM
We're spontaneously physcially affectionate and I always call her hon, but we're not so big on hand holding. On the other hand, I might give her a spontaneous peck, even on the lips. Like some others have said, however, I love it when I see (mostly) young girl/girl couples treat the whole situation much more naturally.

That said, however (how many hands do I have?), I do recall that when we were at Dorney Park's Wildwater Kingdom last year, there was one young lesbian couple that was laying right on top of each other. Yuck. I don't need that from anyone. It was very interesting, however, to watch the faces of everyone around them when they figured it out. Young boys, in the adolescent range of 9-12, seemed to get the biggest kick of it, responding with peek a boos and giggles.

PlutoEpcot
01-20-2006, 11:43 AM
Even thought I have no experience with this topic I strongy suggest that u do hold hands with your partner. If u feel so strongy about your partner than hold hands. People now a days are a lot more accecpting of gay and lesbian couples and I put them equal to straight people. Also now a days more and more people are bisexual or gay and I am totally fine with that. A lot of other people are fine with that too. I hope u have the courage to hold hands more often in public. :) ~Teddy~

Elevationist
01-20-2006, 12:27 PM
I do recall that when we were at Dorney Park's Wildwater Kingdom last year, there was one young lesbian couple that was laying right on top of each other. Yuck. I don't need that from anyone.

I kind of had to explain this to my girlfriend on the previously mentioned trip. When we were in the swimming pool at night, she kept wanting to wrap her arms around me and give me long lingering kisses on the lips. Once at the Living Seas, she pounced on me and started to practically make-out with me (which was kinda weird, since at home and in our normal lives, my girlfriend isn't over-affectionate at all... I guess she was just that happy and in love!), and I jumped back and said, "WHOA! Okay, no!" so fast that she really got her feelings hurt. I was flattered by the show of affection, but felt horrible for pulling away like that.

I explained to her that it had nothing to do with her personally, or even with us being lesbians... Just that I know if I was trying to enjoy the Living Seas or the resort swimming pool and saw a couple all over each other, gay or straight, I would be kinda grossed out and really put-off by it. Once I explained it, she totally understood. After talking, apparently she had been hoping for more romance during the trip but instead we were mostly just having crazy fun.

So I've promised her that our upcoming Valentine's trip, we will try to incorporate more romance and sweetness into our short little trip. :)

Wolfen-Sensei
01-20-2006, 02:45 PM
If you and your partner love each other. It shouldn't matter what other people think. If you want to hold hands, hold hands. As long as it won't put you in any sort of dangerous situation. The homophobes will just have to deal with it. You shouldn't show any less affection towards your partner just to please them.

-Wolfen

aunts2topher
01-20-2006, 03:24 PM
Not big on holding hands, we're much more likely to touch each other's back or shoulder -- no matter where we are. That's just us. We do "honey" a lot though ("Honey, did you see this?") and while it has resulted in a few double-takes (that I've noticed) I don't worry about it. If anyone has a problem with who I'm with, that is THEIR problem -- that is the way I live my life.

We were at WDW for Valentine's Day last year -- have a great time!!!

Ali

Elevationist
01-20-2006, 03:47 PM
We were at WDW for Valentine's Day last year -- have a great time!!!

Ali

Oh, really?! How was it? I usually try to go the first week of January (which is wonderful!), so I'm not quite sure what to expect regarding mid-February. I hate that it's the week leading up to President's Day, but that was when my partner scheduled her vacation from work so that we could go for Valentine's, obviously. I guess what I'm trying to ask is... How are the crowds? I know that Pres. Day weekend if the beginning of Peak season for the resorts, and I'm accustomed to going when it's really slow. We've only got 4 days, so we're trying to cram as much in as we possibly can! LOL

icebrat001
01-20-2006, 10:45 PM
We are big hand holders but we don't hold hands often in our city or surrounding cities, as both of us teach and we don't want to be "outed" to the parents or the kids.

We will hold hand in other cities or area's where we feel safe. We don't hold hands at Disneyland or Marine World or Great America though, SO feels that some families may not have explained same sex relationships to their children and doesn't think she should have to learn it because they saw us holding hands.

T&KHayes
01-28-2006, 01:42 AM
I wouldn't say that we are attached at the hands, or any other body part....but I am definately very affectionate. Our youngest is very affectionate too, so a lot of the time that we were at WDW we were holding his hands. But we did kiss (peck, not make out) and rub backs while walking in lines or just browsing. I am not self concious about who I am or we are and could really care less. I am more the type of person where if someone is staring at me, I stare back :bitelip: . I also feel that the more comfortable you are in your skin, the more comfortable others will be around you. Plus life is too short to worry about what others think about you, if they want you to know I am sure they will tell you! :teeth:

nordkin
01-28-2006, 09:41 AM
We do not tend to hold hands anywhere. We are more the gentle touch on the back types. We do use endearing terms when we talk to each other and have never noticed any unapproving looks, but then I really haven't tried to notice. We know our feelings for one another and do not feel we have to announce it to the world through public displays of affection. Neither of us likes to see public displays whether it be straight or gay.

mickeysaver
01-28-2006, 11:07 AM
Gabby and I do hold hands on occasion at WDW. We call each other lots of things other than our names while we are in public, "hon" "sweetie" "babe" "sugar" to list a few. We don't generally live closeted lives. We occasionally share a quick peck kiss, even on the lips, at WDW, but it is done discreetly. We have manners about it.

Gabby is more out than I am. I work in a very successful pediatric medical office in the northern burbs of Atlanta. While all of my coworkers know that I am a lesbian, I am not always open with out patient's parents about it. Most people can look at me and know that I am a lesbian. I don't do frilly girly. lol I am who I am. If I developed a pretty good idea of who I need to avoid discussing personal details with because, this is still the south and there are lots of conservatives down here. I don't want to do anything in my work place that might cause any problems for any of the families that bring their kids into our office. Let's face it, no one wants to have to explain such matters to their kids until they feel the time is right. I don't want to force that issue. However, outside of the office, I am out. If I run into families that come to our office outside of the office, Gabby does her best to find a way to avoid them....not for my sake, but for her's. Gabby hates running into my patients. lol Maggie

Etoile
02-02-2006, 11:40 AM
Great topic. My wife used to be very nervous about holding hands in public around home, but she has gotten better about it as the years have passed. She doesn't usually mind it on vacation because we don't know anybody there, unless we are somewhere that seems distinctly unfriendly. More often than not lately we just take each other's arms rather than actually holding hands, and I don't think that's quite as much a tipoff. But I sure do love it when we do!

She has gotten LOTS more comfortable with me calling her "babe" in public. She used to get nervous when I said it, but now she just answers! I don't think close friends call each other babe much, so maybe that's a hint to others but I don't know.

jaredbeauvais
08-05-2014, 02:59 AM
:)

QueenBeeMB
08-07-2014, 02:50 PM
Do you hold hands with your partner when you are out in public and/or at Disney? We live in the SF Bay Area (very liberal) and even so, there are times when I feel nervous about holding my partner's hand.
We call each other "honey" and "sweetie" more often than we use each other's real names (ya I know..we're so mushy, even after 5 years :) ) and sometimes I've slipped in public and called her "hon". We get some strange looks on occasion.
We did hold hands and show affection on our last vacation to Disney, but I was always very aware that we were most certainly in the minority.

I am from SF Bay Area originally, and she is from down here. We visit DL and DCA almost weekly and we hold hands, call each other our pet names, put an arm around one another during shows, fire works etc. Even a peck here and there. I don't censor myself any more than I would normally. I keep in mind we are around children and watch my mouth (language) just as much as I watch my interaction with my partner.(i believe all adults should be doing this IMHO) I have never, at DLR nor anywhere else ever had someone say anything to me or her about our 'gay behavior being inappropriate' or otherwise. Maybe I'm lucky, don't know.

LadyD
08-16-2014, 06:54 PM
My partner and I live in southern California and do hold hands in public and don't feel a need to hide who we are. That being said, that is about the extent of PDA we are comfortable with displaying in public (and really seeing from others). We recognize it may make some people uncomfortable, but it makes us uncomfortable to hide our relationship for other's comfort. Sometimes we are nervous about it when we are around families, particularly with young kids and it creating a scene, but we do it anyway.

One of our favorite memories is actually from our engagement trip at Disney World a few years ago. We were at dinner one night and were seated right next to a family with two young girls (old enough to read). Both my partner and I were decked out in Just Engaged buttons and t-shirts we made in Downtown Disney proclaiming our engagement as well. Seeing the family and two young girls, we were both instantly nervous that the parents may disapprove, make a scene, or react in some negative/awkward manner about us. Well, we were pleasantly shocked!!

When we sat down, the kids saw our shirts and our buttons and instantly were excited and offering their congratulations. The family insisted on taking a picture of my partner and I for us and was extremely kind and supportive. It absolutely blew our minds and was such a wonderful, amazing surprise and was definitely not an interaction we were expecting to have with fellow guests on that trip, particularly from a family with young children. Sometimes people really can surprise you in such a positive way :thumbsup2.

Kilted_Yank
08-24-2014, 07:28 AM
Just a thought from a straight guy. We are currently on our annual summer trip to Disney, and over the past week we have seen quite a few gay couples holding hands. As near as I can tell, no one cares.... except people like me who think: "how can they be so hand-holdy when it is so stinkin' hot?"

OKW Lover
08-24-2014, 07:52 AM
As a "Dad" my wife's (grown) Lesbian daughter, I'm dismayed at how much my wife & I take for granted that is denied to her. My wife & I (both senior citizens) constantly hold hands, even after 17 years of marriage, everywhere. Our daughter, when she was in a committed relationship, couldn't do that with her partner. Something that was so ingrained with them that even in an accepting place as P-Town they were reluctant to hold hands in public.

I agree with Kilted_yank that I'm seeing a lot more gay couples holding hands in WDW these days. Thanks to Monika for starting this thread so many years ago. Things are progressing!

SusanMatt
08-25-2014, 01:33 AM
If you're a couple who might hold hands in any other place, then I hope you will hold hands at the parks, too. The more people see couples being as appropriately affectionate as they would accept from any straight couple, the better for everyone. The more people see it, the less shocked/surprised/amused/whatever-messed-up-reaction they will be. By holding hands, you're helping every LGBTQ couple that comes after you. :)

I hope to see plenty of all of that during Gay Days at Disneyland when we go in October. :yay:

karen1987
08-26-2014, 10:29 AM
We don't tend to hold hands, either in public or when we've visited WDW. We just don't feel comfortable, and we're always conscious somebody will say something negative to us. However, on the occasions we have, its been in a safe space, such as a Pride event, where we know that if anything was said to us, we're surrounded by allies who have our back! We will call each other pet names in public though, and I always say "babe" or "baby", I can't remember the last time I called her by her first name!

I often feel frustrated with myself for not having the confidence to hold my DFi's hand in public, as its certainly a privilege hetreosexual couples take for granted, and I'm some what jealous of their PDA's without the fear of stigmatisation from others.

Even though we live in the UK, which has recently legalised same-sex marriage, I still feel that same-sex relationships and same-sex PDA's are not completely accepted, even in seemingly 'gay friendly' cities such as London.

alltwelve
08-29-2014, 05:59 PM
I often feel frustrated with myself for not having the confidence to hold my DFi's hand in public, as its certainly a privilege hetreosexual couples take for granted, and I'm some what jealous of their PDA's without the fear of stigmatisation from others.

I feel the exact same way and I wish I didn't. My DBF always wants to hold hands and tried to with me the last time we were at WDW. I can't describe the uncomfortable feeling it gave me, other than I just felt like every eye was glaring at us. After a few minutes of it, I told him I just couldn't do it.:guilty: I'm sure it's just a perception and all in my head, but I still can't get over it. I don't want my vacation ruined by some homophobic idiot, and though I shouldn't let someone's ignorance affect me that way, I totally would.:worried: Even when I see other couples in the park hold hands who are gay, it still strikes me as something I don't see everyday. It seems to me that even though we hear that it's getting better for LGBT every day, you only need to go on social media for 5 minutes or read comments on LGBT articles to discover that there's still a lot of hateful people out there.

We are going on the Disney cruise in a month and my biggest fear is being sat with homophobic people at dinner. I'm hopeful that's not the case!:lovestruc

On a side note, I totally agree with the comment about it being too hot to hold hands!

LadyD
08-29-2014, 06:49 PM
I never even thought of the cruise issue. I know my partner really wants to do a cruise in the not too distant future. I hope your cruise goes well and that you have wonderful table mates!

karen1987
08-30-2014, 12:22 PM
To alltwelve:

Totally get what you said! If we do hold hands I end up feeling uncomfortable after a few minutes and feel like everyone is staring at us, even though I'm sure they're not at all! Plus, like you said, I'd be devastated if some ignorant idiot said something homophobic to us. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it would ruin our trip!

As for the cruise line, if you do encounter a homophobic couple on your table, it would be unpleasant, but you can ask to be moved. My parents have done cruises and have observed other people who have asked to move tables because they didn't get on with their table mates!

alltwelve
08-30-2014, 01:07 PM
To alltwelve:

Totally get what you said! If we do hold hands I end up feeling uncomfortable after a few minutes and feel like everyone is staring at us, even though I'm sure they're not at all! Plus, like you said, I'd be devastated if some ignorant idiot said something homophobic to us. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it would ruin our trip!

As for the cruise line, if you do encounter a homophobic couple on your table, it would be unpleasant, but you can ask to be moved. My parents have done cruises and have observed other people who have asked to move tables because they didn't get on with their table mates!

So glad someone understands! I really want the two of us to have a great time and want to do what I can to prevent an potentially bad situation. I've even wondered about pictures on the ship- how will they pose us? It's fine with Photopass in the parks because we're usually standing with a character or just standing next to each other, but not posed like the cruise line pictures are. Maybe I'm over-thinking it, but I've only cruised in the past with friends and family members, and I really don't have anything else to compare it to. Will we just skip the photo parts of the cruise?:confused3

We are booked at Palo the last night of the cruise. I initally thought about requesting the two of us be sat at our own table on the other MDR nights (its a 3-night cruise), but I believe part of the fun of cruising is meeting new people at dinner and I would hate to miss out on that due to my paranoia. I also think it would be even more awkward to have the two of us sitting there alone at a table, while everyone else has more than 2 at a table. My DBF has never been on a cruise before and I would like for him to get the whole experience and I think dining with other parties is part of that. As far as other aspects of the cruise, I do love the fact that we have a large verandah on the back of the ship and I look forward to sitting out there and enjoying the ocean with each other alone, as cheesy as that sounds. We are even participating in a fish extender group, and I don't think either of us realized how creative and crafty we are when we put our minds together! :good vibes

I suppose I could request we be sat at a different table if we do encounter an unpleasant experience with our table mates, but if the other party did the same thing and requested not to be sat with us because we're a gay couple, that would just ruin the whole trip for me, I'm embarrassed to admit. I guess my issue is also that I'm turning 40 in a few months and I just wonder when will it all be comfortable? When will the day come that I'm not so worried about what other people think? I guess I should be grateful to have found someone like DBF who puts up with this kind of paranoia!:thumbsup2

For now, I'm putting it in the hands of fate and Disney and am not going to try to worry about it. It should be a stress-free experience and whatever happens, happens. To those of you who are in a relationship, no matter who you are, and feel completely free to express your love in subtle ways like holding hands or stealing a quick hug or kiss, I wish I could be more like you and hope one day to experience that freedom for myself!!! :blush:

RubyWish
08-31-2014, 05:20 PM
I've always been a bit more of a PDA person than some, and have been in relationships with both men and women. I think because of this, I'm a bit more unencumbered by concerns than some of my past SO. Also because I grew up in Alabama, and since then have lived in LA and Seattle.

Because of that, I never worry about showing affection, unless I've become aware of a possible situation (rural areas, someone pay excess attention to us).

However, I've never been to Disney with a same-sex SO. We'll be going for the first time in November. I don't foresee any issues, and will not curb our PDA any more than I normally would around family (we'll be there with my sister), but I'll be sure to report my observations.

alexxturnerr
08-31-2014, 05:51 PM
I've never been to the parks with a SO yet but if I did then I definitely would, I don't really care what people think!

Teresa Pitman
09-01-2014, 07:18 AM
So glad someone understands! I really want the two of us to have a great time and want to do what I can to prevent an potentially bad situation. I've even wondered about pictures on the ship- how will they pose us? It's fine with Photopass in the parks because we're usually standing with a character or just standing next to each other, but not posed like the cruise line pictures are. Maybe I'm over-thinking it, but I've only cruised in the past with friends and family members, and I really don't have anything else to compare it to. Will we just skip the photo parts of the cruise?:confused3

We are booked at Palo the last night of the cruise. I initally thought about requesting the two of us be sat at our own table on the other MDR nights (its a 3-night cruise), but I believe part of the fun of cruising is meeting new people at dinner and I would hate to miss out on that due to my paranoia. I also think it would be even more awkward to have the two of us sitting there alone at a table, while everyone else has more than 2 at a table. My DBF has never been on a cruise before and I would like for him to get the whole experience and I think dining with other parties is part of that. As far as other aspects of the cruise, I do love the fact that we have a large verandah on the back of the ship and I look forward to sitting out there and enjoying the ocean with each other alone, as cheesy as that sounds. We are even participating in a fish extender group, and I don't think either of us realized how creative and crafty we are when we put our minds together! :good vibes

I suppose I could request we be sat at a different table if we do encounter an unpleasant experience with our table mates, but if the other party did the same thing and requested not to be sat with us because we're a gay couple, that would just ruin the whole trip for me, I'm embarrassed to admit. I guess my issue is also that I'm turning 40 in a few months and I just wonder when will it all be comfortable? When will the day come that I'm not so worried about what other people think? I guess I should be grateful to have found someone like DBF who puts up with this kind of paranoia!:thumbsup2

For now, I'm putting it in the hands of fate and Disney and am not going to try to worry about it. It should be a stress-free experience and whatever happens, happens. To those of you who are in a relationship, no matter who you are, and feel completely free to express your love in subtle ways like holding hands or stealing a quick hug or kiss, I wish I could be more like you and hope one day to experience that freedom for myself!!! :blush:

The cruise ships do have tables for two, so it's possible you may be seated at those.

I'm straight, but went on a cruise last year with my best friend (who is also straight - married with five kids!). We are quite affectionate with each other (though not sexual, obviously) and we will sometimes walk along holding hands or with our arms linked or with an arm around each other. We didn't get any comments or reaction from anyone that I can recall.

I also will hold hands or link arms with my adult kids sometimes. In some other cultures, it's not at all unusual for two men or two women who are friends to hold hands.

So I think you should do what you feel like doing and enjoy your cruise!

TP

alltwelve
09-01-2014, 09:47 AM
In some other cultures, it's not at all unusual for two men or two women who are friends to hold hands.


I've been living in China for the past 2 1/2 years and I'm surprised at how many women I see holding hands! Men sometimes have their arms around each other too! It's so interesting to see; I kinda wish it was that way in the states (maybe someday).

I didn't know they had tables for two in the MDR's; good to know! I think I'm still gonna take my chances. Can't wait for the cruise; thanks Teresa :)

amberg93
09-01-2014, 12:13 PM
I hold hands with my wife all the time in public and Disney is not an exception. Also, I tend to call her love or wife or sweetie instead of her name and we never get odd looks. Or, if we do, I ignore them.

We haven't cruised Disney together, but we cruised Princess in July and sat at a table of much older people, had afternoon tea with other couples, etc. and we never had a bad experience with that either. I've found people are more and more accepting or if they aren't, they simply keep quiet.

CurtisB
09-01-2014, 02:13 PM
My DH and I have been to WDW several times and even had our wedding ceremony at Epcot. We've also been on several Disney cruises. We have never had an a negative experience, actually the opposite! Once as we were walking around World Showcase a straight girl came up to us and thanked us for being so brave about holding hands in the park. The day after our wedding, DH and I were walking through Animal Kingdom with our Happily Ever After pins on and decided to get our picture with Mickey and Minnie. When it's our turn to get our picture taken, Mickey see's our pins and motions to ask if it was us two. We said yes and that it had just been the day before. Oh lord he got excited, lol. He had us stand in back and lean in and give each other a little kiss while he and Minnie where in front of us on their knees giving each other a little kiss. It was soooo cute! I'll see if It can post the picture.
After our wedding, we took a Disney cruise (actually did back to back cruises) for our honeymoon and had awesome table mates on that cruise including another gay couple. We still keep in touch with just about everyone we've been seated with on all of our cruises, gay and straight. We can't imagine not being seated with people we don't know, it's so much fun meeting new people.
Also on our honeymoon cruise, we were decided to watch the "Match Your Mate" game that's kind of like the Newly Wed Game. Well we were the mostly newly married and my DH wanted to go up on stage, but I'm not one to be in the spotlight so I told the host to pick another couple. I think the crowd was disappointed we didn't do it. When we were sitting at the airport after the cruise, someone walked by and asked if we were the guys who had just gotten married and congratulated us!
One thing we love about Disney is that everyone is welcome to feel comfortable about being themselves.

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karen1987
09-01-2014, 02:39 PM
So lovely reading lots of positive stories and experiences, both at WDW and elsewhere.

Curtis, your story and photos are adorable and so heartwarming! Congratulations on your marriage.

OnePrinceOnePrincess
09-01-2014, 04:02 PM
First of all, CurtisB those pictures are PERFECTION! Congratulations on your marriage - and your couples photos with Mickey & Minnie! What great souvenirs! :)

Secondly, as a straight woman - well, really, just as a human being - hold hands, squeeze butts, kiss, whatever! Do what you want to do, be who you are! Isn't Disney the "happiest place on earth" if you can't be happy and loving there - then we have real problems!
I don't know about any of the people who might give dirty looks or pass judgement, but what are they judging really? Someone's happiness? I'm just trying to raise my kids in a world where love is love. :love:

alltwelve
09-02-2014, 06:04 AM
My DH and I have been to WDW several times and even had our wedding ceremony at Epcot. We've also been on several Disney cruises. We have never had an a negative experience, actually the opposite! Once as we were walking around World Showcase a straight girl came up to us and thanked us for being so brave about holding hands in the park. The day after our wedding, DH and I were walking through Animal Kingdom with our Happily Ever After pins on and decided to get our picture with Mickey and Minnie. When it's our turn to get our picture taken, Mickey see's our pins and motions to ask if it was us two. We said yes and that it had just been the day before. Oh lord he got excited, lol. He had us stand in back and lean in and give each other a little kiss while he and Minnie where in front of us on their knees giving each other a little kiss. It was soooo cute! I'll see if It can post the picture.
After our wedding, we took a Disney cruise (actually did back to back cruises) for our honeymoon and had awesome table mates on that cruise including another gay couple. We still keep in touch with just about everyone we've been seated with on all of our cruises, gay and straight. We can't imagine not being seated with people we don't know, it's so much fun meeting new people.
Also on our honeymoon cruise, we were decided to watch the "Match Your Mate" game that's kind of like the Newly Wed Game. Well we were the mostly newly married and my DH wanted to go up on stage, but I'm not one to be in the spotlight so I told the host to pick another couple. I think the crowd was disappointed we didn't do it. When we were sitting at the airport after the cruise, someone walked by and asked if we were the guys who had just gotten married and congratulated us!
One thing we love about Disney is that everyone is welcome to feel comfortable about being themselves.


After reading this wonderful post and seeing these pics, I realize I've been way too cautious about something that shouldn't be that big of a deal. Thank you all for being so positive and supportive and helping me to understand this. And congratulations to you two guys on your Disney wedding!!!:)

karen1987
09-02-2014, 10:06 AM
^ This!

Next time at WDW I hope we have a bit more confidence to hold hands and not be so scared of people's reaction.

These positive stories have been really inspiring, thank you!

SirMickey
09-28-2014, 05:51 PM
My partner and I tend not to hold hands anywhere. We hail from a part of the country that is rural with a small-town mentality about LGBTs. We've just refrained from showing affection publicly for our safety. Might be overly cautious, but I'd rather not take chances. This behavior tends to translate to most other public places including Disney mainly out of habit.